Sit down and tell us whats up, anon. Feely feels, good feels,

>>38984603
I feel the same but I'm also afraid of dying and never becoming anything.

>>38984604
OP here

Yeah thats pretry much sums it up.

Alot of friends feel depressed and I can't wrap my head around it. I am starting to feel bad about how stupid I must be to live in some kind of not chosen ignorance-is-blizz bubble.

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>>38984606
Enjoy it man. I have been on a steady incline for about 2 plus years.

this week:
>broke my only pair of tennis shoes, used them to lift in so had to miss a workout
>fucked up really bad on a project at work
>girlfriend broke up with me
>came down with a shitty cold on top of increasing allergies due to not taking my medication
>I really miss my dog

>>38984603
Broke, fiancee cheated, and pretty angry a lot. However, my lifts are becoming really consistent. Had sex the other day, but had a hard time keeping it up because was thinking about ex. Am going to have sex again in a few days here, but worried about limp dick.

>>38984603
Imagine being that giant and having to jack off, you could potentially kill hundreds of people in a single burst

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>the contracted oneitis
fuck

>>38984611
>autocorrected tfw to the
thanks phone

>>38984603
I have a boner again but I don't want to jerk off again
It happens every night and I can't sleep when hard as diamonds

Went on a few dates with this girl I'm really into but I don't think she was feeling it. She seemed like she really liked me but has been blowing off/making excuses for hanging out since our last date.

Kinda sucks. She was one of the few outlets I had. Now I'm kinda just bored all the time or I'm lifting.

My gf of 7 months just moved away for school and im just devestated. Had to go to the bathroom at the gym today because I almost cried.

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>>38984603
"What you need most will be found where you least want to look."

Do the things you know you should be doing. Stop doing the things you know you shouldn't be doing. It may seem pointless, but take these simple steps and see how much better you'll feel about yourself and your life.

I can't make any connection with other people even though i really wan to.

I go out and am within a circle of people but i cannot make a connection with another person even if we have things in common, it is not that im awkward, i cant hold conversation. But it always feel like the other party requires more from me that is missing.

I can feel it but i can't point to it..
anyone relate?

>>38984617

Yeah I can relate. Even to my friends I feel like they could disappear or die and I wouldn't really care much. I go weeks without talking to them and just really don't care whats going on in their lives.

It's a weird feeling to have towards people you're supposed to care about. I've never really felt connected to anyone. I'm not autistic/awkward either, I'm pretty normal I think. I just find it hard to care a lot.

>>38984606
People sometimes say they are depressed when they feel sad to get attention. They thrive off the sympathy even though their problems aren't serious enough to cause depression

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Why does this give me such anxiety? I am only 20 but mortality has been on my mind since 12 and of course has only gotten worse with time. Does anyone else feel this way and if so how are we supposed to deal with it...

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At the beach right now. It's nice, and a pale ass mofo like me could use a tan.

Not really able to work out or eat good for 8 days though, so I'm (irrarionally) worried about losing gains/ getting fat.

In other news, my band broke up and I met a cool girl. We both have the same sense of humor, and music taste.

Finding a girl interested in my music is rare, so this is pretty big to me. Problem is, she's not really interested in working out. As a result, she's really out of shape.

This puts me between a rock and a hard place, because I do want a lady who cares about me and my music, but lifting is an equally big part of my life, and I don't want a fat gainsgoblin to fuck it up.


im a shallow piece of shit, help me

>>38984619
I understand what you are saying and I mostly agree. However i think casring judgement that someones problems arent serious enough is pretty subjective. Again i mostly agree like if someone is like,"I have bad grades and failed that test so now I am depressed" that seems like attention grabbing but overall its hard to judge someone elses woes.

>>38984620
Life in general in the ever expanding scale of the universe doesn't matter much, anon. The best way to look at it though is that for this one blip in the timeline of the universe you exist right now, and whether you know it or not you influence the world around you. You know the whole butterfly flaps its wings in Beijing and it changes the weather somewhere in America yada yada thing. It's got truth to it. You right now are influencing things in your surrounding physical world all the time, and you can if you try be a king of the existence around you.

You may be forgotten, and you may not achieve everything you wanted. But if you stay true to yourself and aspire to better things you will not be displeased with the mark you left on the small fragment of time you've been here.

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>>38984621
Try it out but make it clear that you jave pride in your physical well being

>>38984616
Thanks, I'll go to the gym now.

>>38984622
Well yeah, it's true that you can't really cast judgment over someone's problems that easily and plenty of "happy" people are actually secretly depressed and put up a front, but the vast amount of times when people say they are depressed they're just going through a temporary shitty period of their lives.

>>38984626
Again. I agree. I just rather try to see from thier point of view.

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I looked in the mirror today and actually thought in my mind "you are ugly as fuck, you will never find someone that loves you" and walked over to my gun safe, opened it up, and loaded my mosin. I just say there thinking about blowing my brains out because of how much I hate myself. Please tell me I'm not as ugly as I think I am.

>>38984617
>>38984618
Man I completely understand. For me, it's more than just other people. I can't even connect with my family.
My dad, mom, brother, I feel like they might aswell just be strangers to me.

I have 1 friend, whom I've been friends with for like 10 years, that I speak to a few times a week, and hang out maybe once a month.

I just don't care enough to make connections, I feel way more relaxed alone.
My brother has always been an outgoing person, that kinda charismatic guy who gets along with everyone, and I'm so jealous,because I wish I wanted to be like that, but I just don't.

When I go out with my friends, every single time I just keep thinking that it's pointless, it's so much more fun to be alone at home watching movies, reading manga, or whatever.

>>38984628
I'm an attractive guy, and I can tell you it ain't all that.
You never know if people like you for who you are, or because of the way you were born.
Or rather.. You're 99% sure to get someone who likes you for how you look.

I've grown a hatred for this lookism society, which may sound dumb, but I mean, good looking people do get treated better, has an easier life and so on, but that's not all..
It's the same with animals, cats, dogs, bunnies, people like them because they're cute, right?
How about cows and pigs? They're not cute enough even though they're just as smart, so we fatten them up and eat them.

Now I'm not a vegan, I eat meat, what I'm trying to say is I wouldn't care if I was eating cow, pig, dog, cat, whatever, but when I tell people that, they look at me like I'm a monster, when really the world's norms are just retarded.

>>38984628
You're totally fucking normal, and you keep posting, thinking this is a meme.

Grow a beard if you can. Cut your hair too.

>>38984621
not shallow to go for what you want bro, it would only be shallow if you tried to force your ideals on others knowing they don't believe in the same thing. Good luck man, also know that one day you WILL find a grill that fits the picture

>>38984628
Is this a meme?

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>>38984621
Even if she isn't fit but emotionally you click it is worth it. Just remember to let her know up front that you take that part of your life seriously if she really is cool then you will know. Pic related

>>38984628
this must be bait

>>38984635
I'm dead serious. Help me. How do I lose more weight? Should I eat even less? Have been <500 cal/day for 2 weeks now, only lost 7 pounds. Should I just stop eating all together? Fast for a month?

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cElu1JcNqfg

>>38984628
You're fine dude. Just keep lifting, get a better haircut, trim up the stomach pubes, and you'll be on ez mode

>>38984636
7 pounds in 2 weeks is a lot. Find out your bmr and do a 500 cal defecit. It will take more time but your body will thank you.

>>38984628
just fucking lift

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Going to move to live on my own finally for the first time in a week. Life feels good.

Need to figure out how to get a lot of food and protein at poverty mode though.

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>have girl best friend
>like each other a lot
>turn into friends with benefits
>start to fall for her

what do, bros?

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>>38984628
I'm on a similar boat to you, anon.
I've had girls hit on me at clubs, parties and school (no 10/10 queens, but solid 6 and 7s), yet I feel I'm not cute.
Sometimes I look at the mirror and feel like a goblin. Some others I feel like fucking bruce lee. I've been thinking I either have low self esteem, or some kind of autism.
Would post a picture of myself but I feel shitty at the moment desu

I got laid off from a job I hated anyway. The only thing I wanna do is workout and go to Thailand and fuck hookers in disgusting ways.

>>38984641
Abuse coupons anon. I'm not precisely rich but I get by quite well stacking 10% offs.
[spoiler]also this may be bad advice but cut on whey if you consider it fine. at least in my country it's almost 2 weeks of groceries for me[/spoiler]

>got patellar tendinitis
>took two days off
>have some mild pain occasionally but should be 100% soon
>tried hugging a pillow while falling asleep
>discovered it's comfy as fuck
Overall pretty decent

>>38984646
Me left ball's been feeling weird lately but I'm giving it until friday before I go to the doc

>>38984641
Don't be afraid to take advantage of a local food bank if you're barely getting by. That's what they're for.

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>>38984607
Life's been life.

Depression sucks, but it is what it is

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I missed out on life.
Never had a gf or many friends.
Now im almost 30 and its all downhill from here soon
Whats the point of lifting to get a good body if i cant fix my brain
And I cant even do that because of shit genetics

>>38984628
You dont look bad anon. Also you are a christfag, right? Stop relying on God and start relying on yourself. Nothing is stronger than human willpower.

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>>38984603
I finally worked up the courage to do 1pl8 squats at an actual squat rack after so many years of using leg press/extension machines. Kept thinking I was going to guillotine myself in front of everyone at the gym and die of humiliation.

I keep having this nagging feeling that I'm known as "that guy" no matter which fitness center I go to. I feel as if I'm doing all of my lifts wrong and everyone is watching in disgust even though I've reviewed my form lots of times.

I'm pissed at my sister cuZ i was gonna have this girl im trying to hook up with over but my sis told my parents who r on vacation and they said id be grounded if i have people over true story bros

im also pissed cuz when i had a party on sunday my ball date stayed late to clean up even though she wasnt staying over and we never did anything even though my friend str8 up said "go for it she obviosuly wants to fuck" i could have lost my virginity but i just took my drunk ass to bed instead dammnit

>>38984603
this shit is so depressing its starting to make me feel bad why the fuck am i still on this site I fucking eclipsed this shit, do the same faggots

>>38984603
I just want to cease existing.

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I feel like I'm so terrified of failing or not doing a good job that I don't put myself out there job-wise.
im going into my last year of my chem eng degree and i have no job lined up and now im afraid for the future. College was such a fun time and i don't feel ready to leave it. I wanna keep partying, fucking sluts and seeing friends on the daily.

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>>38984603
I feel truly lost..... I'm 26 in a laborers Union.. Making 22-25 an hour. Not what I want to do for the rest of my life tho.... I'm becoming numb with women.... I still fuck them but once you truly notice how they are, it's just bs....

>Broke down to a female from my past yesterday about how I felt
>she laughed at me
>asked her what it was about me that she didn't like, that I'd leave her alone after she'd tell me
>she wouldn't tell me
>tells me to leave her alone
>I did
>BETA
>fucked a female with a big ass later that night to release some stress

I don't even know how I feel about it, she wasn't anything special, I was chasing the feeling of happiness of back in the day I felt, not her exactly.

>>38984637
shitty vocals killed the song

im also pissed cuz theres this girl ive liked for months (and every1 knows I like her) and never did shit until when I finally got her snapchat on sunday at my party but shes going off to college next wednesday and i wanna go on at least one date what do I do help me out, this girl is literally my oneitis I know it's bad, but fuck I can't help it

I wanna ask her out on snapchat but it's so risky (she'll prob ignore me) but itll make my month if she says yes what do I do guys help

p.s. im friends with her friends and they are semi encouraging it if that helps

>>38984603
Been in Afghanistan last 8 months... Goin home soon to wife...put on thirty pounds of muscle, fucking jacked as fuck...can't wait to see dogs, wife and family. Ordered a squat rack already, gonna spend about 1000$ on beefing up home gym... Feels good man

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>>38984660
When I was in these situations, I'd just say straight up how I felt, they'd try to friendzone me, and then I'd immediately move on and never talk to them again. Now I hate everybody and I'm essentially numb. Good luck kid

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>work for a company that is in the process of moving locations
>the other day a co-worker and I were tasked with dismantling and transporting a metal stationary shelf
>take it apart, end up with eight metal panels
>split them 4 and 4
>co-worker has to make two trips to get the panels to the moving truck outside
>i was able to move all 4 of my panels in one go

not gonna lie, this had me feeling good the rest of the day. my co-worker isn't a big guy but i know this time last year i wouldn't have been able to lift all 4 panels

>>38984660
you sound like you're 16
basically stop being a pussy

don't ask her out on snapchat, that shit is lame
do it in person. Just be normal and chill and see if she wants to hang out with you
she's leaving for college soon so don't sperg out and ask her on a date or to be your gf or whatever, just do something fun together

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Improving consistently in cardio, cutting my time down basically every other day. My main limit is overheating so I can't wait to see how much faster I can go when the cold weather comes around.

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>>38984661
>deployed
>has faithful wife

Pick only 1

Why did you do this to yourself

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>>38984604
>dying and never becoming anything
We all become part of something else.
The water in your blood probably ran though a dinosaur at one point.
Circle of life and all that.
Have some tits.

>>38984608
Hang in there buddy. It's cool to cry. Remember to be honest with yourself and others, and forgive yourself. Hold on.

>>38984616
This is good advice, I wish I could follow it.

Been living with this woman for already 3 years, with a 3-month breakup in the middle

She has very good character, wife material: faithful, likes sex, we like most of the same things, she is not bothered by the things I like and she doesn't, very accepting and so on.

2 things keep bothering me, though:
1. she could be prettier, but fuck she is lazy and doesn't diet properly. She is not fat at all, but I wish she was skinny, not just average.

2. her accepting nature sometimes rubs me the wrong way. I feel like the fact that she is willing to accept so much means she will never be a decent source of motivation to improve.

>>38984628
Yeah, you are average at best

Stop being a whiny bitch and look around: how many averages have someone who loves them? A lot.

Stop being an attention whore. For every average looking guy out there there is an average looking girl thinking the same way

Find her.

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>>38984603
>Right shoulder blade unnaturally sticks out when moving in certain ways or lifting, causing pain
>Really driven to lift and get in shape but all motivation is killed when actually beginning anything because of shoulder
>Asked anatomy teacher and doctor, have no idea how to fix it

Also today my card got declined when i tried to buy a milkshake because i spent all remaining money on a taylor swift CD. Not important, but an excuse for posting a pic.

HOW TO GIVE YOUR LIFE PURPOSE

1. Establish a specific gym goal to complete within the next 3 months (eg. Increase bench by 15kg)
2. Get a gf within the next 3 months
3. Read 5 books within the next 3 months, preferably some non-fiction and philosophy to learn about what you want in life

>>38984664
good advice m8, I doubt I can salvage this one with all my times that I was a pussy around her, I dont know what it is but with every other girl im able to act like a fucking man, honestly whatever

My boss is a weak beta who constantly hangs the threat of firing me over my head. I wish I could just tell him off but I need the job so bad. I hate his fucking guts and I cannot wait till I can finally tell him something. Only thing keeping me there is his boss, my supervisor who loves me and appreciates me. Never late , never call in, he even put me down for raises that people working there for years haven't had. I love him like a brother but unfortunately my actual boss who i deal with daily is a complete douche.

Is it true that fat girls are easier to get in bed? 20yo virgin here.

>>38984628
Kek

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I remember when we were together, she would text me from morning to night, every single day. Even on the day that we broke up she was the one who started the conversation and kept it going. After that, I didn't hear anything from her for 2 weeks. I've worked a lot on my body, it's much better than it was before. I worked on my personality too, but It's by far a lot harder to fix that. I texted her.
>seen
I had never expected this in a thousand years, especially not from her. I can't understand her no matter how hard I try. I have a feeling that she will constantly be thinking about me for the next few days now.

If only she had given me a chance. Maybe it's not all over, maybe I can still get her back to be mine. But that thought will only last a few more days, then it will wither away. Unless by some miracle a chance does open up. At any rate, I'm not going to be desperate and pathetic with this. By all means it's over.

Last few days have been very strange. I feel very little. Then I start thinking how tomorrow there will be no "Good morning!!!!" text. How there is not a single person, at times not even I myself, who is glad that my heart is still beating. I come close to tearing up, but then stop because I'm not supposed to be like that. I'm feeling broken.

>>38984614

Focus on improving yourself, don't give a fuck what other people think. Were you actually dating or just hanging out? Did you do couply things?

>>38984618
>>38984617
>>38984629

You're just all introverts. Just take things at face value with other people and don't overthink it/get existential over it.

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>>38984608
Sending love x

My last relationship lasted about 3 years. I don't miss her anymore, but I do miss a lot being with someone you love. Watching movies at the sofa, taking a trip, having fun etc.

I met plenty of girls since I broke up with her, but I can't forget about that feeling. That thing called "love".

It hurts, not everyday though. But that void always comes back.

Only thing that loves me back are dumbbells.

>>38984682

At least you have a hobby that you're passionate about and improves you.

>>38984682
This is it precisely.

I don't miss her specifically, I miss the feeling of having someone to love and who loves you back.

I also have had many dates and have fugged a few times, but I move at like a million miles an hour. Women who say they want commitment actually freak out the moment you offer it to them.

I have an interview at 9am and it's 5 and I can't sleep. Worried as shit. I just want a regular-hours job that makes moderately more than minimum wage and some benefits. A slow start is better than stagnating at the grocerycuck job I have.

I also may have destroyed my chance with a girl who I fell for when I got irrevocably frustrated with her and articulated what I think is wrong with her in a scary, angry tone. She's very small and shy and I'm large and gregarious. She's cute af though

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I went to the gym today but I didn't eat anything, I couldn't do leg press at my normal weight than I cut down 50 lbs and I still struggled.

All the squat racks were taken and I didn't wanna fucking wait 30 minutes so I went and did chest press, tricep machine and something for my back I don't the machine after that I worked on my abs.

I'm angry I didn't get to do all my lifts, I have to work on my arms more can you guys give me a good program aka spoonfeed me.

Tomorrow I want to work on my arms or chest >:(

>go outside and meet people
>beeing myself
>constantly getting rejected by the people I like

I don't know man, I just turned 27 and still can't seem to figure this shit out. How do these things come naturally to some people and are like alien language to others. I don't think there is anything deal breakingly wrong with me, but I can't narrow down what is. I've been called depressingly realistic in the past and some have even said that I give out a scary vibe, but I don't know whats that all about.

At least I cycled like a mad man for the whole summer and am starting going back to gym again. My right shoulder however seems to be tired and is aching when doing certain things, but despite all that I'm currently in the best shape of my life, but the bar was never that high in the first place.

I'm not bitter or too depressed about all of this, because I can't tell what the future holds, but every once in a while the thought of me still being alone at 30 as my peers get married and having families creeps up on me.

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GF of 4 years broke up with me in may, now dating a 8/10 QT and we had a nice week together, pretty intimate as well.

She's on holiday in Denmark now, don't know if I miss her and if I want a relationship at all after getting my heart crushed.

Lifts are consistent, fueled by hate for my ex.

Football season is coming, that's what I'm really waiting for.

>>38984688
same, 4 y GF left me for another Dude, started becoming masive cardio king, meet a qt but unsure if im ready for another relationshit

>>38984628
your looks are okay, but you're a manlet so it doesnt matter anyway.

>gf dumped me a month ago, miss her even though I know we weren't that we'll matched
>Unsatisfied with my career, no real specialty or skill-set, even though I'm earning well above my age-average and get to travel internationally quite a bit
>In the best shape of my life, but still a bit of a sperg with girls. Trying in this front, asked a girl out on the weekend, meeting her tonight...don't think I'm that attracted to her though

Feel like I have no direction or ambitions lads

>>38984678
That's how it is, I know it is hard but don't feel bad about the breakup.In the end you lost someone who didn't love you but she lost someone who did. So chinup anon, she lost in the long run.
T. Broke with a girl I wanted to marry last september and slowly getting better.

Been fat most of my life, finally got weight somewhat under control and decided to replace 3 of my 5 cardio workouts with lifting instead. I quickly realized I can't move my legs with proper form on dead lifts and squats. My knees go outward the further down I get until I look like a frog in the bottom position.

Anyone know what to do about this? I don't wanna stop doing these exercises but it feels like I'll get injured if I move on to heavier weights.

>>38984692
I know,but for whatever reason I still have hope (if you can call it that I guess) for whatever reason. Im sure that now she must be thinking about me because of that text.

>>38984694
I have great English

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>>38984617
When this situation happens to me I simply keep talking. Some people are happy to stand there and listen and you gotta be entertaining. They may not be interesting people or you do not actually care about them if you are asking the right questions and getting no response. As autistic as it sounds I think I may have worked out a nice normie trick, If it's a week day you simply ask what someone did last weekend and that gives you a good segway to talk about them and their interests. Alternatively you ask people if they have any plans for the coming weekend. This is your chance to either a) invite them to something you would like to do, or b) assert that you are interested in what they are doing.

Unfortunately I don't know how level of attractiveness fits into all the above. I think if your ugly/unattractive your really gonna have to work for it so YMMV. Remember that when chad/anyone comes up to you and asks you about your week you probably would love to tell him about your PR you just hit, remember that other people are similar. It's not always the case and some people are practically NPC's in a vidya game, if you meet women like this you should try and fuck them. Also when chad then asks you if you would like to go to the beach with him on Saturday you might say yes and if you were a girl you would definitely say yes right? hope this helps mate.

Have extreme self doubt that causes depression and severe anxiety and its ruined all my previous relationships. Self medicate to control the craziness which sometimes leads to benders which last days and hit even lower lows. Lifting helps to an extent. Sucks man. Only thing that keeps me going is trying to perfect my body image and an urge to prove to everyone that I'm not a complete fuck up.

Tore my meniscus, can't get surgery at the moment because I have to work to pay for school. Feels real bad.
Also being single for the last couple of years isn't helping with the stress, would be nice to have a female to confide to. Oh well. Hope you bros are making progress and all kinds of gains.

>>38984652
Nobody cares about you, we're all too busy thinking about ourselves. Read "how to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie.

>>38984650
>Never had a gf or many friends.
Get fit>Join sports team>there's your Friends>go out with friends> meet women while out, or through friends of friends

>cant fix my brain
What you really need is well defined goals, with smaller more achievable steps to track your progress. This should be the case for everything. If you wanna lift some heavy ass weight, you need to progress to it with light weight first. If you wanna be a millionaire, you gotta start by making your first hundred thousand. You wanna get a GF, you gotta start by talking to women or building social connections and status.

If your genetics are bad then you just gotta work hard to make up for it.
If your genetics are truly shit,and I'm talking bottom 15% then your focus should be on making money, since it will help you with what I assume are your goals.

A good friend of mine that I've worked through my undergrad career with recently started experiencing a debilitating illness that looks to be the starting signs of schizophrenia.
She's helped get me through my first three and a half years of college with good grades and we both planned on going to grad school together, but it looks like she's not going to be able to do that any more, right near the end of our undergraduate studies.
I'm trying to help her as much as I can but there's only so much I can do and she's quickly falling behind already.
I've been feeling like shit because of this and I went to the gym and set a new deadlift 1RM of 450 thinking about it. Seems like lifting is the only thing that really takes my mind off it.

>>38984693
Just keep doing them while trying to fix your form. It takes a good six months to really nail down proper form on lifts and get the most out of them, which is something most people don't expect.
Focus on maintaining your leg position and flexing the muscles needed for that.
Don't worry about moving up in weight, just worry about getting the form down and getting the most out of the lift you can.

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Some long stories short:

>Mom is heartbroken over recent divorce, which had been in the works for over two years, called me yesterday crying after the notary paperwork got finalized. She lives in SC where she moved to avoid my dad and doesn't really like her new job and I'm worried about her mental health, considering moving closer to her after school to keep tabs on her

>Sister and dad seriously butting heads, sister just defied what my dad wanted and took out a loan with the help of her friend's dad, Dad didn't like the influence college was having on her and some other choices she was making and wanted her to stay, work, make some money, and go to therapy, but this other fuckhead who has money to throw around (bc his CIA wife got blown up) is actively interfering and possibly sending her to financial ruin by helping her cosign this loan. Also sister is suspected coalburner

> I think Dad has been having an emotional affair for the past year or so while he was supposedly trying to do last-ditch therapy with my mom, I think he may have self-sabotaged the whole process - but now recently he's been dressing nicer and cleaning the house up for this weekend, where I think he might be having someone over. I suspect him due to him acting strangely on social media, and I saw he video chatted with this one woman very recently. I'm REALLY hoping he does not move on from my mom so fast, it feels fucked up

As for me, I'm fine.

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>>38984603
>feeling down
>message my ex
>no response
>waking up next to her face every day for 4 years
>tfw haven't seen her in a year, and now that I try to message her she doesn't respond, don't even know if she even uses that number anymore

I guess shes truly faded off somewhere.

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>>38984628
DONT FUCKING USE THE NUGGET TO OFF YOURSELF HOLY SHIT GODDAMNIT YOU'LL ONLY GIVE THE GUN GRABBING COMMIE LIBERALS MORE REASONS TO FUCK US ALL OVER YOU FUCKING GODDAMN IDIOT. HANG YOURSELF OR JUMP OFF THE BUILDING DONT FUCKING USE THE FUCKING NUGGET

>>38984703

Go to your mom Anon. She needs you more than ever. It takes a lot for a parent, moreso a mom, to call their child and cry to them. If you can't move closer to her just yet, just call her regularly and make sure she doesn't feel alone in her misery.

>>38984679

Nah we were just hanging out and went on a few dates to hang out really. We kissed but never fucked or anything like that. Nothing serious. Just a bummer.

>>38984628
You're the dude that posted in /fat/ saying you were fat? I think this might be a meme. If not, chill dude you look fine.

>>38984706
I know anon, we talk regularly, as I do with both my parents. I don't really want to move to South Carolina, just not a fan of the climate, but I'm heavily considering North Carolina just so I'm a only a few hours away. Decent amount of jobs in my field there too

I feel like Im one of the only old-fashioned loyal people out there in a world of debauchery.

All I hear from my friends is, I fucked this Tinder slut, I fucked that bar slut. Meanwhile its been 2 years since I lost my gf of 5 years. In my head I was already settled to be with her for life. In those 5 years I was with her, online/app dating became super popular. And I still have no clue what to do in this generation of 'everybody and everything is easily replaceable'. Females became spoiled and arrogant by the magnitude of attention they receive through those means of dating. I am growing more lonely by the day but I cannot seem to find somebody who shares the same values as me anymore.

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OP here. I really didnt expect anybody to share my feels and join in the convo. Thank you all

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>>38984680
>>38984629
>>38984618
>>38984617

I'm like you guys and i used to think i was an introvert like one anon said, but lately i came to a conclusion that i just don't like people.
95% of people on care about themselves and are really egoistic cunts who whine all the time for the smallest reasons and pretend they're the most fucking important person alive.
It really bothers me because i work as a consultant and i'm gonna quit my job because i got tired of all that bullshit people say.
I have some friends, i think they're friends, they try to keep in contact with me and of course i reply but i rarely write them first because i just don't really like talking about myself.
And it's hard to be like this because i lost so many "acquaintances" that i used to call friends and i'm quite sure that i will soon be alone.
Not that i have too much against it, i like being alone, noone bothers me with their nonsense, i can do what i want without any stress.
It sometimes gets lonely but it's okay, i've been living alone since i was 16, i've had a hard childhood, i don't whine about it i realize i can't change that, i can only change my future and it's hard too because i barely have enough money to make it each month, not even talking about having fun or going out to some fun place.
Anyway i hope things will get better this year, i joined a college, hope i won't quit this time like i did 2 years ago because i was too lazy to study.

And man, i'm getting pretty close to my goal body pic related, just need more shoulders and sadly his are broader but it's okay and it's the only good thing happening at the moment.

Wish you all figuring out what drives you in life, because i can't.

>>38984712

Stop beating yourselves up over it. Some people are just lone wolfs, accept who you are. If anything it sucks more to be dependant on people desu

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I've noticed that over the years /fit/ has gotten more and more depressed.

I'm just wondering why none of you guys have killed yourselves yet? The fact that you're still alive proves that you're somewhat mentally strong, right?

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How long has it been since you got a hug from a girl? (family doesn't count)


Its been almost 3 years for me.

>>38984714
One has to have a pretty important reason to kill themselves. You don't an hero out of boredom of just because you're sad

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>>38984603
>sit down
>not squatting
I thought this was /fit/?

>>38984714
Some have, for sure.

They're just not posting about it, see?

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>>38984603
Last year I had a fling with a girl. Not long, around a month or two, but intense.

She asked to end things and we went no contact.

Today she messaged me, and we chatted for a while. Now I'm seriously considering pursuing again.

Interested in anons thoughts and inputs.

>>38984715
I'm in perpetual snuggles with gf.

>>38984603
Getting /fit/ alone won't give meaning to your life unless you are a professional athlete or aspire to be. To have meaning you need to:

>Support yourself financially
>Have friends and contribute positively to your social circle
>Maintain a good role in your community
>Preferably have a family

These are all very doable but you mainly want to focus first on what it is you want to do professionally and start working towards it.
My $0.02

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>>38984603
My desk chair has been fucking up my back. I did heavier deads than ever yesterday (still pathetic weight) and my back was fine. Get home, sit at desk for an hour, have to ice my back from the pain.

At least I hope it's that. Otherwise I fucked up doing deads or caused sciatica for myself.

OP - I know that feel. Every day, around dusk, I start thinking "whats the point? why even go on". I know why I feel this way, I'm already addressing and getting treatment for my issues. You should too, anon. You don't have to feel this way forever.

>>38984636
That's definitely bait but i'll bite.
1- Healthy weight loss is like 1kg/week, you're losing too much.
2- Why are fuck are you losing weight for, what you need is a HAIRcut not a cut.

>>38984609
>worried about limp dick
Take it slow and really feel her up, wham bam is the number 1 culprit for limp dick

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>>38984611
>contracted oneitis
Me too Bro, doesn't help that her attractive friends toned down for summer and walk around me in short shorts

>>38984604
Death is inevitable and unchangeable, you should not be afraid of it. You may be fearing life itself, as that is possible too.

What, if you truly sit down and think, ails you? Write it down here, and leave a not to yourself, pointing out possible ways to overcome said fear(s).

>>38984608
This too, shall pass, friend. Kisses to your dog.

My son has explosive diarrhea and ruined the carpet, so I'm debating if I want to put hardwood in the living room or put down some nice tile.

Does tile in a living room sound weird? My kitchen is a nice steel-grey tile and I can get more to make my living room match.

>>38984725
I was doing so well for so long, didn't really care about relationships for years because I'm such a sperg and I always just end up feeling like shit, but now out of no where, boom, her. she's so similar to me, and funny and perfect and I hate it so much. I hate feeling like this because I know they don't feel the same way, because I am disgusting. Anyways, good luck with your oneitis anon, don't count yourself out bro.

>>38984728
Hardwood floor in the living room dude. Get that shit in the kitchen too.

>thinking of skipping today
>check /fit/
>see cbt threads
>see ideals threads
>get motivated again
>start working out
I just had to say that, this board is unironically the best on this site

>>38984726
My fear of death begun when I had a dream in which I thought I was going to die and there was no afterlife, just nothingness. I had never been so scared in my life nor ever felt so relieved when waking up. And no I'm not scared of dying as a result of like squatting heavy or something, I'm scared of death itself

>>38984608
read stoic literature
personal recommendation Meditations by Marcus Aurelius

>>38984603
feel insecure about my gains. Cant decide if im good, or just a skinnyfat dyel

>>38984603
i lifted ,i get the mirins...but i still hate my life.been off cytolpram for a yearish now.thinking of getting back on pills cause an overpass sounds good right now.

>Can't workout because of golfer elbow on both arms
>Tried to do some pushup yesterday and now i'm in even more pain
>Hope i heal soon

>>38984603

>tfw I spent my teenage years worried sick about what I'm gonna do with my life.
>tfw, just as I turned 18, I discovered/decided the perfect path for myself.
>tfw my 10/10 crush literally said out loud, in front of multiple people no less, that she's gonna fuck me.
>tfw I'm starting to see life as a grind, but in a good way, because I've learned to worship hard work. Every day my level of fitness reaches amazing new heights.
>tfw, despite everything I've got going for me right now, I'm planning to abandon everything I know and love to join the French Foreign Legion in less than 15 days (ticket to Europe already paid for).
>tfw I'll be gone for a minimum of 5 years, spending my young adulthood as a mistreated soldier half-starving, half-freezing almost 24/7.
>tfw I wouldn't have it any other way, because being treated like dirt will give me the perspective I need.
>tfw /fit/ taught me that life is nothing without something to struggle against.


TL;DR - I'm leaving everything, even the girl of my dreams, to become a Legionnaire (hopefully 2nd REP). I'm disappearing without a trace to finally make something of myself in the hardest way possible. I haven't told my family or my friends, and nor will I.

It was always gonna be like this. I'll be the hero of my story.

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I'm about to enter my 2nd year at Uni, I've got an amazing gf of almost 3 years who I'm probs gonna marry, and I've been lifting for a year and a half and everything seemed like it was going my way but shit still happens. 3 months ago I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. All the work I've been putting towards my healthy lifestyle couldn't save me and now I have to live with this shitty disease.

On top of that my mental health has been declining all summer and I'm afraid I will become my father. I love my dad but he's fucked in the head, always has been. Bi-polar, depression, anxiety, adult ADHD, PTSD, you name it he's got it. Despite all his mental shit he did a pretty good job raising me but I'd be lying if I said it didn't affect me. He rarely hit me as a kid but he did verbally and emotionally abuse me quite a bit. He improved a lot by my mid teens because he finally got on some medication but it was still hard watching my dad barely hold it together.

I want to have a son and a daughter. I want to be strong mentally and physically but I don't want to give my kids the same shit my dad gave me. I just want to be the man my dad wants me to be, the man my dad never was. But I'm afraid history will repeat itself, and that i will end up making my wife and kids lives as miserable as my dad made me and my moms life. I've always struggled with a broken mind and now with my diabetes I'm fighting a broken body. I love my gf and she has stayed with me through so much and if I asked her to marry me today i know she'd say yes without a doubt but 10 or 20 years from now, I'll be just as broken as I am now, probably worse and she derserves a good life with someone who can give her a healthy family and marriage. And that's something I'm afraid I can't give her, or anyone.

>>38984737
you are a total and complete idiot for leaving all of that behind but i wish you luck, I hope you find meaning in this life

>>38984737
Tu vas en chier

>>38984737
Clean your social media and internet footprint before going. The Legion always does background check and will use any available information to destabilize you

>>38984741

Yeah, I've already deactivated all my social media, plus wiped my phone completely (I've heard the horror stories about the Gestapo finding compromising shit on your tech).

>>38984740

If I make it into 2eme REP, it'll be 100x worse than shit. But then again, I'm certain that it's the life for me. I've been training for months, with an emphasis on pull-ups and the Luc Léger test, so I'm confident that I'll at least make it through selection.

>>38984739

Thanks man, it sounds insane but I'm convinced that I need to do this to become the man I know I can be.

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>>38984737
Son of sixty thousand whores

>>38984743

If you want me to make it sound even worse, I can post a cropped picture of the girl I'm leaving behind. But then again I wouldn't put it past /fit/ to overreact, have this thread screen-capped and posted to every autism thread for years to come.

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>>38984733
Just listened to Seneca- Shortness of Life
Starting Meditations this evening

>>38984738
Breh, its just type 1 diabetes, you'll live.

As for your mental health, as long as keep seeking help and taking the prescribed medications you'll be fine.

Godspeed anon.

I will never be mired again like my ex mired me.

I started lifting when I was with her
>Only she knew how fucked up my health was
>Only she knew how much of a struggle it was at the beginning, I fainted a few times, puked multiple times
>Only she saw my full transformation from an unhealthy fat fuck to a fit energetic guy
>Only she kept supporting me and miring my progress every step of the way

Even though she broke up with me in the end, Im eternally grateful for her support. But it pains me to know that, every female from now on will see me "just another gym rat". Without realising how much it took me to get there

>>38984621
Do push-ups (varying stances) and squats whenever you get a moment to yourself, like when you change or before showers. You'll maintain.

And standards are different from being shallow. You deserve what you believe you deserve and there's nothing conceited about it. It's just life.

I'm happy right now. I saw Kendrick Lamar Tuesday, and my research project is making progress. I'm still learning to eat below my calorie limit however.

>>38984617
Nah I understand this, it happens with me too. Like, I think I'm friendly but for some reason, things just don't click.

Work is seriously kicking my ass - I'm busting my balls but there is so much to remember and do. It feels like Sully, where my super is saying "why didnt this happen" acting like the entire time nothing else got done, no other emergencies happened.

Get out of my face with that shit

>>38984737
don't listen to anyone else, you are on your path, take it all the way
ALL THE WAY

>>38984744
do it

>>38984642
Roll with it and don't confess your feelings too early

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I'm sad that I'm injured. Haven't been able to lift properly in two months

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>>38984755
I knew that feeling
and the look people give you when you talk fitness things.

So many negative feels ITT

Last night, I invited this girl I like over for a GoT marathon and we cuddled and made out.

Plus, all my lift are steadily improving and I'm starting to really like what I see in the mirror

We're all gonna make it brahs

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I shirked uni for the navy got a sports injury that ruled me out of ever really joining and it has taken away from me:

-my career
-4 years of my life trying to fix it
-my social life
-my health (am not a fat fuck at 120kg, 5'11)

I am lonely loser who has nothing much really, my one friend is moving away to do his masters at uni (good for him) and after that it's just me. Life is meaningless to me every day is the same charade working towards earning money I don't care about and getting things I care less for. Every day it weighs down on me that I should be in the prime of my life because I will never feel this young again but I am a pathetic underachieving loser who will never change. Feelsbadtbh.jpeg

I don't even know why I am in this board desu I haven't worked out in a month.

>all my friends are ignoring my texts
>asked out my onenitis, went on a grand total of two dates before she left me for some chad
>no job
>parents hate me
Fuck brahs, I was sure I was gonna make it. I was a normalfag for once in my life and now I'm back to where I started. You guys are the only friends I ever had.

>>38984643
It's the outcome that matters. If you're getting what you want, what does it matter what you think you look like?

>>38984603
i'm in a relationship with a major slut.
i'm seeing all the signs but am unable to dump her because i'm betamax.
she even said multiple times that she "wished open relationships would work".
i told her that open relationships are out of the question for me but she still mentioned it a couple times until she stopped and we all know what that means.

she's going to cheat one day or the other maybe even has already.

i tried dumping her twice but got weak and took her back almost instantly.
i'm such a total faggot.My future self will hate me and i know it.
it's all so obvious

my lifts also went to shit

>>38984699
I think we like to pretend that people don't notice us. I certainly notice a lot about other people. I think it's more important to realize that, but still not care.

Knee and ankle joints in my right leg are fucked so I'm taking a break from squats.
My skin looks like shit and I don't think it's going to get better before going back to college.
Might go to the doctor to get hormone levels checked because of fear of low test, but most likely high enough to not be prescribed TRT but still low enough to be an incel.
Cutting isn't going well, partly because of shitty sleep schedule so missing breakfast which makes me eat like shit for the rest of the day.

At what point do you give up hope for things to start turning around?

>>38984684
>Women who say they want commitment actually freak out the moment you offer it to them.

Well the desires of women are extremely provisional when compared with men. Society tells them to 'want commitment' and many of them fall for the spook, so they express the want as if it were their own. But when someone like you or me comes along, a man who gets serious pretty quickly and wants to cultivate something or invest in something, it can be something of an upheaval: do I really want this? etc.

There's also of course that lurking truth behind the facade of modern rmoance--we are all shallow as fuck and only want to commit to someone who fits our high standards. In this area women are also more choosy: men must not just be attractive, they must be charming, funny, successful, have good body language, etc.

But we are all human beings mate, women included. You can find another one to love who will love you back in spades. Just be patient.

>>38984762
I believe people who browse 4chan are more metacognitive than others.
We joke about being autistic when talking to others, but I think we look at our own lives through an outside perspective which causes us to overthink, thus spilling spaghetti.