At my current age of 26, after years of wasted time/procrastination and being overwhelmed with being unorganised, causing more wasted time, procrastination and dissapointment in a vicious cycle, it took me years to discover the sufficient combination of the solution to free myself from the habits that we enslave ourselves with. Here's the no-bullshit guide to organising and taking on tasks and problems and freeing your mind up from the prison you've put around it. It will feel overwhelming reading this, but take it one step at a time - it won't be as hard as seeing the whole mess in one piece; the process is a journey, but one that is simple and effective. Even if you have little reason to get out of bed and want to kill yourself, this is likely do-able and beneficial.
The problem is that you have no clear direction and you're hoping for something greater that will save you from your ways, be it a gf or a friend that pops up and dissolves these issues. The reality is, this isn't ever going to happen. Sometimes, life is much harsher than both your expectations and imagination.
Nothing will change until you change your mind. Depending on how fucked up you are, you may need to rewire your neurons a little in order to give yourself reason to activate the boost needed to finally do this and do it successfully:
A) There's a chance that you will never reach this stage. If you're passive and """"just going with the flow""" and don't intend to change that, thinking things might just sort themselves out one day, it will never fucking happen, my man. And whatever zest you have for life will slowly sizzle out (probably for the rest of your life) over the years as you drain your problems even deeper into your subconscious that's weighing you down but you never take a second look at. Like all those fucking bookmarks you saved and abandoned
B) There's also a chance that you'll have to reach rock bottom one too many times before you realise there's no alternative but to do it (if you don't kill yourself by then).
C) There's also a chance that you might just fucking do it, if you can appreciate that it's the only way
Whichever you do, attempting this will teach you a lesson that the easiest way isn't always easy, but is possible.
The solution is mostly not what you want to hear, and you'll still be dragging your feet along the way whilst you'll frequently need to be aware of how your mind works like a CPU with limited resources -- when there's too much going on at once it clogs up and can't even deal with the tasks which should be very quick and easy to accomplish.
VERY IMPORTANT: It won't be easy. That's one of the two things to keep in mind in order to know that you're going in the right direction: it WON'T WON'T WON'T WON'T WON'T be easy beginning each task, but it will be possible, and when you begin each task with a clear direction, there will be moments where that individual task does feel easy and you wonder how you never started it. If it doesn't feel possible, you either haven't broken down the task into a simple enough form, or you're starting off with too big a task when your resources are already tied up. How does a computer handle a big task when the CPU is at low-capacity? Like shit. If you think the priority is the highest AND it's a big task and you're not doing it, then it's not that high priority, because you'd prioritise wasting away over doing it, yet you would rather do tasks that seem possible over wasting away, wouldn't you?
VERY IMPORTANT (2): Rather than "See doc to fix my dick", write "Find number for local dick doctor (internet), phone and book appointment". If even that seems too hard, go full retard and write "Open chrome, google 'doctors near me', find number, retrieve phone, phone number to book appointment". That way your neurons operate on a series of smooth logic gates ("if this, then that"; rather than "how the fuck do I do that")... really gets those neurons firing. This way, if necessary you can follow it like a mindless zombie even while you want to put a bullet through your head - just know that the task is worthwhile. If you don't simplify the task enough, due to low brain-CPU (excess resources) you don't give your mind the chance to quickly imagine that it's possible, since you distract yourself away from it due to the feeling of being overwhelmed. If you can't easily imagine doing something, you can't easily do it.
All that's really required for task management is a very basic notepad tool, and an effective awareness of writing and tackling tasks (see: fuckin this). Separate tasks with a line-space and a "- " as a sort of bullet point. Sub-tasks can be joined to tasks with a line-space and 3 spaces (or a tab) followed by a "~ " and the task itself. As the list gets smaller, you will be able to create new, conscious habits in life that replace the old time-sinking ones and work towards your "direction" list (below). You will begin to have a clear, accessible direction in life.
Here it is:
>1) make a simple but powerful "direction" list (in the described format) of what you want to be doing in life (mine is things like buddhism/taoism, mindfulness/meditation, web design, write/read books)
This is the ultimate direction you'll be heading towards once you've sorted your shit out. It might not look the best to start with, but come back to this ocassionally to change and hopefully simplify it until it's golden. It will be easier as you progress.
>2) make a to-do list (it must be very SPECIFIC) and frequently update it with all things you feel you need to do (including in order to become organised), starting with the smallest and highest priority things *
Limit it to about 10 tasks at a time so it doesn't look overly intimidating and use up more of those brain-CPU resources
>3) become tidy and minimalistic (write this as individual tasks) by selling/throwing out everything you don't need (e.g. "put up old laptop on ebay"/"throw out old clothes i don't like"), including most possessions of two or more of basically the same thing. Make it a habit to keep things this way by unironically "just fucking doing it bro".
>4) if you're a computer guy (course you fuckin are), organise all files and your desktop beautifully and delete all junk
I'm talking EVERYTHING. Get everything into neat-ass folders, delete/uninstall old shit (including those gay ass old songs, screenshots and images, movies you don't intend to watch again, games you rarely play, etc - know STRONGLY what you "need" to keep, and kill the rest), make your desktop as minimalistic as your regular most vital needs are. Even organise your downloads folder(s). Also organise your bookmarks, but keep this as low priority as it's a big monotonous single task. Using and closing browser tabs is also important, but keep this quite low priority because such habits rebuild themselves quickly without good organisation and a clear direction. Also make this a habit to keep things this way by unironically "just fucking doing it bro".
>5) open the to-do list every day (have it on your desktop)
>6) remind yourself daily as you look at the list that working through the to-do list is what will free you from the chains you've bound yourself with (shit, write it at the top of the list: "Tackling these tasks one-by-one is the only thing that will free me from the chains of which I've bound myself.")
* If the task at the top feels too overwhelming, it's because you didn't break it down simple enough or you prioritised it wrongly (see a few paragraphs above for these) and your brain's "CPU" thus throws it off.
As someone nicely put in a related thread: "don't try to do everything from the get-go or it'll fuck you."
If you try to start several tasks and/or task-related new habits at once (more than 1 or 2), you WILL WILL WILL WILL burn out, and the effort will be worth less than nothing, because the lost motivation will make you think this whole thing isn't possible. You can try it for yourself and find out a few weeks later that I'm right, but by then you'll probably have forgotten you ever read any of this. This is why it's important to take it step by step and get the small things out the way first without juggling too many balls - that way you actually make real progress and free up brain-CPU to eventually juggle more balls in a better routine in a significantly easier way.
If a small task is one that keeps repeating and getting pushed to the top, either restructure the way you deal with it so it repeats less often, or keep it off the list and add it as a repeating cycle on an app life Life Reminders. Otherwise, it will slow you down and potentially even burn you out. There are many little ways to burn out when you're chronically low on brain-CPU. If you go with the app for such repeating tasks, there's a chance it won't be effective because every time you ignore a reminder (which will happen increasingly often until you really sort all this shit out), you care less for it and eventually ignore it and the app can lose its power. In such a case, fuck it off for a while (delete it) until you get a significant amount of brain resources free, in order to retain motivation and avoid burn-out.
You can still do all your regular browsing and shitposting along the way, as long as you open up the to-do list and work towards at least one thing every day. The time-scale here is quite lengthy, but you will feel good and hopeful about it along the way, and it will help massively in setting the course of your life. It will free you. There's no other way besides abandoning your life and becoming a monk who lives in regret. If you think something easier will pop up, good luck with your delusions. How many years have you gone without ever finding a viable solution until now?
Everytime that I have free day I would sit at pc to 5am lurking and doing nothing. Every day I have great plans about learning new shit but then its 11pm and I am too tired to do stuff and too awake to sleep.
Once I discovered that If I wake up at 6 or 7am and then I force myself to work/study for 5h I am extremely efficient.
sadly, I do not have willpower to do this everyday.
ty anon originally answered
>>38776325
Procrastination is a meme. There are always unresolved psychological conflicts that prevent you from action
>>38777953
>There are always unresolved psychological conflicts that prevent you from action
Such as? Sometimes you can't resolve things like not having friends.
>>38778037
About being friendless: a common one among robots is that they were brought up in a deficient parent-child relationship.
They learn to socialize and connect in a very wrong way. It's not even a connection, more like a set of rules they have to observe.
This type of (defective) human relatedness they learn from a young age is how they view friendship later in life
>>38776325
Good post, but I don't feel like doing this. I have tried similar stuff 3 or 4 times before already, and it didn't work. I do a few of the tasks but eventually I garner such an aversion for the text file with them that I stop checking it.
>>38778360
You are likely "category B" then. Good luck.