need female advice robots
>be me
>dating girl from tinder for 4 months
>she's great but has really bad depression and anxiety
>struggles to be affectionate and is a virgin
>i've been with a few girls and i'm desperate to fuck her
>been 4 months and we've tried a few times but every time she just gets too nervous
>had a talk today and she said she doesn't really have a sex drive
>said she doesn't know if she's interested in sex
>we're meeting again next week and getting drunk and maybe doing some coke
do you think there's any hope for this? I really like the girl and she's fun to be around but I can't cope with the lack of affection and sexual stuff, the best I can get from her is kissing
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bompety bomp
psst hey kid
>advice threads and camwhoring/hookup/"rate me" threads should go on /adv/ - Advice and /soc/ - Cams & Meetups respectively.
>female
>has depression
>>38769433
>girl from tinder
>virgin
Pick one
Don't tell me you actually believe her
>>38769862
yeah sorry, i've posted it on there now
nothing to see here i guess
>gf
>coke
>been with a few girls
Anyways coke dick is real. Same with whiskey dick. I imagine both together will give you ED
>>38769433
>>struggles to be affectionate and is a virgin
>>i've been with a few girls and i'm desperate to fuck her
Why don't you just hire a prostitue if the only thing you want is to get your dick wet?
>>38769930
yeah I've only taken coke once desu and wasn't that big of a fan
i've got some kinda herbal viagras anyway as back up just incase
>>38769949
it's not that at all
I really like the girl, probably more than she likes me
but she just doesn't really give off any affection and can be really cold sometimes but she's quite fragile and likes talking to me
but the lack of affection, you know just cute compliments and sexual activity really does take a toll on you
>>38769985
>has bad depression and anxiety
>struggles with affection and probably has intimacy issues
>gets too nervous
>has no sex drive
>is a fragile virgin
At the same time, though, she's great, fun to be around and likes talking to you despite having problems.
Meanwhile you've "been with a few girls" and refuse to accept her flaws and be patient even though you say you like her more than she does you, because of
>muh dick
And next your planning on getting her drunk and unable to think straight just so that you can get laid with this great virgin lady... How is it not that at all? What are you doing here?
>>38769433
OP, you're falling for the classic mistake of hoping someone will change for you.
It won't happen. If you like affection, physicality, sex, etc. and that's not her type, cut your losses. You're trying to start a fire by dousing logs with water. Don't waste your time; look for someone who is compatible with what you want out of a relationship.
>>38769433
>we're meeting again next week and getting drunk and maybe doing some coke
>struggles to be affectionate and is a virgin
clealry she's just using you as long as she can before she is forced to fuck you.
>we're meeting again next week and getting drunk and maybe doing some coke
You're gonna fuck and then she's gonna freak out about you both having an "understanding" that she didn't want fucc, and then your fucking her while she was under the influence.
It's gonna be real shitty.
>>38770144
yeah I realise it's not coming across as great, but she's told me she does want to try it but every time we do she's literally shaking from her anxiety so I was just wondering what I could actually do to help her get over this.
I really want to be in a relationship with this girl but I feel like this'll cause so many problems down the line
>>38770191
I'm starting to think this way as well, do you think there's no hope at all? like I don't want to pressure her into anything and anytime she's been to scared it's been fine, but maybe you're right with affection and stuff, it really does affect me cause I'm pretty sensitive and definitely a bit of a softie when it comes to that
>>38770229
well that sounds scary, I plan on getting absolutely fucked myself though
Bad anxiety
>Nothing a little coke won't fix.
>>38769433
Fuck off, don't ruin her you bastard.
What if I told you her sex drive is probably normal and you too just aren't compatible enough for her to want to fuck you?
each time a normalfaggot comes here and makes a thread over his non-problems, i get a little less racist. because clearly you don't have to be black to be a full on giga fucking nigger
> dis next bich i'm tryin' to fuk actin' all emo-shi-nul like her brain broke o' sum shiet
> i just wanna turn another clingy "virgin" into another rootless slut 'n' den delete her numba my niggaz but i need coke to get dis bich open
The answer is foreplay.
If you can kiss her,and she kisses back,you can awaken her passions with a few simple tricks. When you are making out heavily,pull away suddenly and let her lips chase you. When she wonders what's wrong,smile at her and say,"Look at you,so horney!",then kiss her more,letting your mouth wander down her chin to her nevk,and maybe tease her some more by reaching for a tit but not quite going all the way. Get her hot and bothered in this way,and soon getting naked with you won't sound so alien to her.