Post anything that relates to trying to better your situation: Questions you might have, pieces of advice you have for others, personal experiences, anything.
>finished school with an A in my class for the semester
>due for a promotion at work
>trying not to drink so much
Why do I still feel bad inside though
I'll ask a pretty basic question, what's a good trade for robots to get into? I've been thinking about welding myself, but i'd like to hear some other recommendations.
>>38748835
Perhaps you're not satisfied with your current path, or your neglecting some other part of your life right now? Can your express how you feel bad inside, specifically?
>>38748925
I just think I'm a shitty person who deserves to be miserable. No matter how much good I try to do in the world it's still marred by my bad deeds. I've heard that caring about being a good person counts for something but idk how true that is.
Stopped going to this board, surrounded myself with normies and I've been absorbed, fuck I don't even greentext anymore. It's been 2 years since I've stopped going here, and I'm happier more than I've ever been
>>38748963
>No matter how much good I try to do in the world it's still marred by my bad deeds
What are they, and how bad could those deeds be? I doubt you're beyond redemption
>>38748996
I don't know I'm just an unintentional jerk a lot when I really am just trying to be funny. I usually have a good sense of humor but there's always that minority of the time when people don't get it.
Other than that just general selfishness, drug abuse, I never stole money to support my habits though. I just want to be a nice guy, is that too much to ask? I'm not after sex or anything, I just want to project something positive on the world.
>t, drunk ranting
>>38749027
>Unintentional jerk.
At least you can recognize how your humor can seem cruel to some, which is a good thing. Try easing off from directing your specific brand of humor at those you're speaking to.
>general selfishness
You see it, which means you can change it. I was in your position once too on this.
>drug abuse
If you haven't already, you can try to quit or at least ease off from usage.
>>38748987
This is a pretty common consensus, from what I read. Maybe this thread is an oxymoron, in that regard.
>>38748925
If you can go to university Engineering for sure
>>38749139
I can do those things. I just want to be good, that must count for something.
Just find something you're truly passionate about. It'll give you motivation to live a better life and it'll especially help if it's something you can realistically make into a career
>>38748987
I didn't touched /r9k/ for a year, and my mood didn't improve (in fact I regret it, the board culture was more comfy).
It's not a magical solution.
The only way out is self improvement. Fulfilled goals give you confidence, and confidence is everything.
>>38748792
I built a home gym and started doing barbell squats every day. My right knee has started to hurt when I squat though. Should I push through the pain or wait for it to feel right? How long should I wait?
It's not a sharp pain, just a dull ache.
>>38749194
The desire is admirable, but the execution is what you want above all else.
>>38749213
This isn't something that can apply to me, unfortunately. I was wholeheartedly passionate about joining the army, but due to my medical history this will never happen.It was the only thing I wanted to do with my life, and I spent years working towards it.
>>38749230
Don't squat everyday, it does hurt your knees. Also, make absolutely sure that your form is correct.
>>38749230
Wait for it to stop hurting. I think you wouldn't want to develop an injury.
>>38749262
Thanks, I'll go every other day. Squats are my favourite exercise so far, I was using them as a reward.
>>38749265
I'm new at this. Not sure what qualifies as an injury and what qualifies as weakness.
>>38749224
>The only way out is self improvement. Fulfilled goals give you confidence, and confidence is everything.
You need people that you know will support you too, we're all here for a reason and we get along but r9k isn't exactly the best support group, find people you trust and know will support you so you can eventually stand as your own person
>tfw overcoming my erp addiction
>>38749262
Ever looked into becoming a police officer or fire fighter?
>>38749331
Yes. I doubt the police will accept me for the medical history, and my health might be failing me even further (COPD, despite never having smoked anything in my life) so Fireman might be out of the question.
>>38749326
>overcoming my erp addiction
Nice. Any tips for this stuff? I'm trying to get over my gross fetish.
I'm doing theory test for my driver license tomorrow mates, wish me luck.
Usually the length of going from signing up to driving school (mandatory) to getting the license is 12 months but I've dragged it on for 2 years already.
There's around 500 practice questions, I've done all of them.
>>38749367
Where I live, getting a driver's license takes three years, which i'm on year two of. I'm going for my first road test next month.
>>38749381
Best of luck, don't be like me, it's already almost 2:00 eastern time and I've to get to the test center by an hour of bicycle by 9:30.
>>38749347
Are you of average or above average intelligence?
>>38749381
Finland sucks arsch
>>38749381
Jesus in America it's easy as fuck I got mine a month after I turned 16
>>38749466
it's for the best of road users
>>38749476
because america cares less about human lives than other developed countries, lil shits on the road are both a danger to themselves and other road users
>>38749451
Yes, but only in subjects relatively useless in this day and age; English, Polisci, History, etc. English is my strongest suit, though. With other topics, like Mathematics, i'm borderline retarded.
>>38749466
I'm Canadian, actually.
>>38749476
That's because America hasn't embraced the Nanny State as we have yet.
>>38749527
Write a book, study history, do something. Don't write those things off as useless just because jobs in those fields are often lower income. You can definitely find something
>>38748792
How do you guys deal with that odd sense of loneliness after you get off the computer and open a book?
>>38748792
Boy is this my thread
My basic story is that I've gone from upper-level robot, barely sub cyborg, to just below Chad in the past year.
I got a shit job at a pizza place, and because I ate so much pizza, I gained enough weight that I finally realized that I could be doing better. I went from 225 to 235, and something just clicked. I stopped drinking sugary drinks, I stopped eating shit all the time.
I met a roastie at work and broke out of orbit, so to speak. She began orbiting me, and later I got the courage to drop her despite the fact that she was a high-school 9/10 at least. I dropped her because she was a bad person, and I was able to see past the looks. I refused sex multiple times with this girl!
Also, because of that shitty job, I learned how to talk to people. I was great at manning the register, and I had to learn to talk to people without shitting my pants. I regained my outgoing attitude that I had when I was a kid, the attitude I had before middle school when I was treated like shit.
I'm becoming built now. I went from 235 to now 175, and I'm gaining muscle.
I used to have a 90 day streak of not jerking off. Now I'm at 2 days, it's hard to stop again once you've started, but I'm getting there.
This is going to sound shitty, but I had to take honest stock of my situation, and deal with it. It's easy in life to feel like there's no point in trying. Everyone's built something only to have it destroyed, and then given up. Even though you could rebuild it, you don't. It's the same with getting more in shape. Too many people, myself included, make a mistake and fall off the wagon and then stay off the wagon. Convince yourself not to.
I'm learning Russian and I'm going to be joining the Navy. Hopefully I can become a translator or a diplomat, or maybe even, an ambassador.
If I don't fuck this up, I have a decent future ahead of me. It's a great feeling.
>>38749600
By contemplating the futility of existence, and our hopeless struggle to find a meaning other than the nature's own programming, our most primal, instinct, and spontaneous desire.
>>38749500
Statistically America isn't even that dangerous to drive in compared to most countries
>>38749600
I ignore it, and if that fails I go for a walk around my area until I get exhausted. the latter isn't all that safe, based on where I live, but I haven't gotten anything worse than a broken nose yet.
>>38749648
I'm genuinely glad to read this.
>>38749648
I relate to this, used to play vidya and fap all day. Now working on engineering degree and in a fraternity. looking forward to the future
>>38749649
Yeah the dread has been fun for a while. However I am getting a bit tired of it. What meaning could there be aside from what I make? Then the only thing left is to analyze what I want. The test then becomes whether or not I can be comfortable with my own decisions and values, if I can live with myself, and it also doesn't help when you don't have many interests to begin with.
Meaning also comes with apprehension due to newfound responsibility to the arbiter that is yourself and the ability to fail. I'm pessimistic but I see the courage in optimism. You have further to fall
>>38749674
Thanks, anon. I was really fucked up from middle school. Kids are assholes. And I think I really realized this recently. I found a page from when I was reviewed for an advanced school program that I eventually went into, and it described me. I was eager to talk to people, and outgoing. I am now, sort of, but I'm a little awkward. And I know now that it was because of the turds in middle school. Elementary, too, but it gets bad in Middle School.
Luckily I left public school and became homeschooled. I was able to temper my humor, but I was still very very shy. Outgoing when I got to know people more, but extremely shy at first.
And I gained weight, too. I'd always been a little chubby, but it got bad when I left public school.
Anyways, I genuinely hope most of the people on this board find peace like I have.
Also, speaking of that roastie and not fucking things up, I'd be fucked if I had sex with her. She's pregnant.
OP here, I'm off to bed for the night. I'll check back tomorrow morning to see if the thread is still up by then.
>>38749650
>developed countries
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_traffic-related_death_rate
For example, for last year, US has 10.6 fatalities per 100000 inhabitants whereas Canada has 6, it may not look like a lot but it definitely adds up when you scale it to the whole population, and that's some unnecessary deaths & medical spending that can be reduced just by having more strict qualification process.
>>38749743
You're welcome for solving overpopulation
I've stopped drinking sugar water, feels good man.
>>38749716
I'm slacking off most of the time too. But I look forward to become more functional again.
>>38749674
Thanks anon. I guess the initial hit fades when you start to get into an activity too, but I also need to deal with the tension between not wanting my happiness to depend on other people, but not seeong myself both completely alone and happy. However that desperation for people makes me feel like an attention whore.
Also good job avoiding crabs in a bucket.
>>38749648
Yeah I make that mistake too. If I failed I would just be like fuck it. It's not whether or not you fall off the wagon, it's how fast you can recover and get back on
>>38749757
I wish that I can solve improper spelling too.
>>38749743
>US has 10.6 fatalities per 100000 inhabitants whereas Canada has 6
If you account for the illegals, niggers, etc. the US has a much LOWER death rate.
So it seems your nanny state sucks and u're just a cuck as usual
>>38748792
Flunked out of uni, spent about a month in neetland, hated it, couldn't stand it. Finally finished my driver's license, got a job which lots of customers like me and helped me get over my autism about talking to people irl, stopped being a whore online, found a partner, and thinking about going back to school in the spring or fall, depending on how work goes, since I keep getting moved up.
>>38749766
Same. Wasted today. However I plan on reading more of starting strength tomorrow and going through my old first aid book. I also need to spend more time with philosophy. It's been an interest of mine for years but I'm not knowledgeable on it. I get mad jealous of anons here discussing Deleuze when I've only read books here and there which didn't mean anything because I didn't seriously engage with it or start in a sensible order.
>>38749773
For sure, especially with fitness.
I'm gonna make some sweet gainz.
>>38749787
Why did you flunk? How are you going to prevent that from happening again? Anyone have advice to someone looking to go back to school after dropping out?
Today's my 24th birthday. Midnight will mark the beginning of my 6th day without any nicotine. I've kept a little tally on the back of my hand, and that first diagonal mark was my birthday present to myself.
I think I'm addicted to sugar now. I already had a problem with drinking too much soda, and I've had a lollipop in my mouth pretty much constantly the past few days. I'm gonna try to drop the soda once I'm in the clear and not spoiling myself to fight nicotine cravings, but I think the lollipop is gonna turn into a character tic.
>>38749852
smoking is cool, diabetus ain't
>>38749815
Got any personal goals? I still want to do 200 one armed push ups because of watching naruto when I was a stupid shit
kid.
I just need to make sure not to injure myself with high repetition so ill have to look into starting stretch
>>38749782
I didn't spell anything wrong though
>>38748792
Got a job at a pizza place. Making like 400-500 a week delivering pizzas.
I'll be able to afford to get back into the stock market. I've made 3000 dollars in a month before. I feel like I can make 250k by the time I'm 20, I'm 18.
Starting to get on a good diet. I weigh 250 and I want to get really strong. I am starting boxing or mma soon.
Starting to meditate again, making good progress. I am actually starting to live by bhuddism and starting to feel better.
In two or three months I am going to live at a monestary in new york for a few weeks and meditate intensely with experienced monks to become happier.
I'd say by December when I start community college for IT support (I plan on doing well in the stock market but this is just fallback plan) I'll be in a great place.
I'm also in the process of buying websites with established user bases and making consistent income on top of stocks and dividends. Eventually I will start running businesses and at one point.. MY OWN GYM. With amazing facilities for martial arts, rock climbing, a spa, a meditation center, yoga classes. It will be a massive complex that will be my kingdom.
I'll have a nice body, a quiet peaceful mind, lot of money and an awesome baseline to start adult life. I'm pleased with myself. Although not looking forward to cutting weight especially since I recently gained 20 pounds.
All in all I am really excited about my future.
>>38749900
Also plans for a gf is just get a nice body and just go on dating websites. Six pack on tinder or match.com is basically easy lays with some actually hot bitches.
>172 cm manlet
should i even bother
Been to go the gym again but I need to step up my cardio. I'm going to get back into martial arts, one of the dudes I was hanging out with overreacted and shoved me on my ass. Probably would have gotten my ass kicked if I had escalated things. Felt kind of like a bitch though.
Also trying to get another hobby. Still a virgin tho.
>>38749837
I flunked because I didn't give a shit and didn't do work, same story in high school. Honestly, the best advice is just to make you can motivate and discipline yourself enough to do the work, since if you don't understand something or need help, there's lots of people you can talk to, but the biggest thing is just sitting down and studying and doing the course work. I'd also personally recommend community college or a smaller school over a large university, as it's a better learning environment due to smaller class size where you actually get regular interaction with the professor and your fellow classmates, rather than sitting in an auditorium of 300 other random people while some guy fifty feet away mumbles at a chalkboard. Plus, universities costs are highly inflated because they use tuition to cover their operating costs, which makes it really expensive.
>>38749879
I want to meet the requirements to be in the Navy so boot camp isn't a bitch.
The cardio is going to be the most difficult part, but I bike to work every day, so when I work on that, I'll be prepared.
Also, I suck at swimming. Maybe it's because it's been a long time, maybe it's because I've lost body fat percentage, maybe it's both. All I know is I look like a dying antelope when I try to swim.
>>38749900
That's really good to hear, man.
>>38749783
Except, without even bordering on how valid your speculation, the group you mentioned are also american inhabitants like it or not, as those groups exist for Canada as well, the comparison is valid, the US definitely has higher motor vehicle related death per year as well as lower requirement to obtain a driver's license.
If you want to talk about how Canada has less of those undesirable people, then it's time to think about the competence of your non-nanny state and maybe consider emigration.
>>38749871
Beetus isn't cool. Neither is cancer, though. Or heart attacks. or stroke. Or emphysema. Or any kind of COPD. Or lung infections. Or smelling like absolute trash. Or aging prematurely. Or erectile dysfunction. Or sperm damage. Or kidney failure. Or poisoning the people around you because you're a fucking junkie.
As long as I'm gonna worry about my health AT ALL, I'm quitting smoking. If the lollipops work, hey, far out.
I'm really fucking happy about this, actually.
>>38749938
Just become a trap it'd be fun
>>38749944
Yeah I need to treat it more like a job. Maybe go to a library so I'm not as distracted. Thanks for the help anon
>>38749953
et2 here, 4th year in.
you can backstroke for the swimming, make sure you run plenty, cardio is a big deal in boot camp
>>38749938
Fack off cunt I'm 5'4"
>>38749953
Good luck anon. Yeah cardio is a bitch, probably my weakest attribute, had problems with running out of gas way back when I wrestled.
>>38749965
> the group you mentioned are also american inhabitants like it or not
yes and?
>, as those groups exist for Canada as well
not really
> the comparison is valid
except it isn't, as the data is not homogeneous
>he US definitely has higher motor vehicle related death per year as well as lower requirement to obtain a driver's license.
Nobody denied that brainlet
Also don't let me even mention population density as factor, I don't like kicking people while down
>>38749812
I wish you the best of luck in carrying out your goals for tomorrow and future. It's an uneasy feeling going to bed realizing how the unrecoverable time was spent on indulging in malignant escapism.
I also have an interest in philosophy, I think it might help of the anxiety that I feel at the thought of the final cessation of my consciousness but as of now, I'm trying to learn a bit of programming and discrete math on my own to better prepare myself for my oncoming studies. My standard is bare, I want a non-laborious job with enough salary to support me and my family.
>>38750003
For sure. I've got powerful legs, probably from being so fat for so long, but I get winded really easily. As far as swimming goes, I've just gotta go in a pool a few times and make sure that I can do it relatively proficiently. Last time I tried I couldn't swim very well.
Now that I think of it, the lake was freezing cold, and it shocked my system when I went in, to the point where I could barely talk while in the water. That might be part of the reason why.
>>38750028
It sucks, it really does. I'll get over that hill eventually.
Also, great thing about being a "manlet" (5'8") is that I can go into the Naval Air Force if I'd like.
Also, I could become an astronaut because I'm learning Russian.
>>38749230
don't squat every day nigga what are you doing and follow a beginner program (GSLP, SL 5x5, SS 5x5) and read the sticky, faggot
Alright, goodnight folks.
Just remember what I'm about to say. And this is something that I recently had to learn.
Just because it seems hopeless right now, doesn't mean it is. If you're a fat fuck and weak, make a regular effort to not be, and you won't be. Eat less shit, eat less food, cut out sugar. Then start lifting weights. Doesn't have to be a lot in one day. And don't do a lot in one day and go "Well, that's me for the week". It's better to do a little bit every day than to do a lot in one day.
Even if you have a day where you're exhausted, just pick up that dumbell and lift a few times. Make it a habit. It's stupid, it sounds dumb, but it works.
>>38749230
You need to have a trainer teach you. Get like a dozen lessons so you can learn basic form and how to get stronger. Probably cost you a few hundred but it's garuanted gains
>>38750147
the real redpill is maybe God intended for us to live horrible lives, because deep down we're horrible people
>>38750040
And you can't count them off the american inhabitants, therefore the comparison is valid, US has a road fatality rate of 10.6/100000 inhabitants while Canada has 6/100000. You argue that black people and illegal immigrants are responsible for the higher fatality rate, which you provide no evidence for, and it doesn't refute my point on how US' lax process to obtain a driver's license is at fault for he higher fatality rate.
At this point, you are just trolling. Have a good life, be careful on the road.
how do i become a skeleton ill do the most silly diet please i have a good face ruined by mantits and belly
>>38750127
Yeah, you really don't have to do much when you're a beginner like me.
Currently, I do 3 sets (or try to do 3 sets) of the following:
45 jumping jacks (only once, at the beginning to warm myself up)
15 overhead dumbbell presses on each arm (20 pounds)
15 push ups
15 curls (20 pounds again)
30 second plank
15 Butterflies (10 pounds)
20 sit ups (probably too many, but fuck it)
I'll adjust it as I learn more, and as I expand what I have to work with (currently only a dumbbell kit), but for now it works.
If it hurts, stop using it.
>>38750164
God didn't intend for us to live horrible lives, but he certainly didn't intend for us to live wonderful lives where we want for nothing. That creates assholes. Humans are weird, we only learn when things suck for us. We can't learn in a way where we aren't struggling.
Life's a struggle and it's meant to be. I would be a shitty human being if I never struggled.
>>38749648
My main issue is money, honestly. I'm at the halfway mark of getting my bachelors in computer science, I finished all my basics at community college and tranferred to the engineering school at a decent university, yet money to pay for shit like my campus apartment and my car is a bitch. I think I might have to take out student loans for the next 2 years to make this work out. Been considering starting in the uber driving business to make more cash when I'm not doing shit at school or not working my regular full time job. also another small thing I'm going through is losing weight, weighed myself this morning and happily found out I was 246 pounds, which isn't too bad because I used to weigh at 250 pound like 2 weeks ago. Since I've been working a lot I've started to eat less and the pounds really do start to come off when I'm active at my job and not thinking about food. All in all though, really just wish I had a family that was supportive with money, really would make my life as a student a 100X easier.
>>38750193
You should lift heavier if you want to get heavier. Also make sure you're eating 120-150 grams of protien a day.
Do 45lb over head presses 5x5 and increase the weight more and more. Like every two weeks. Just keep increasing reps on push-ups. Or just increase reps on all your workouts until you hit a high number then keep increasing weight.
>>38750217
>God didn't intend for us to live horrible lives, but he certainly didn't intend for us to live wonderful lives where we want for nothing.
God tested tons of people and even Saints if you look it up. Many lead horrible miserable lives and were victim of demonic attacks etc.
>I would be a shitty human being if I never struggled.
First of all you continuosly use the "I therefore all" fallacy.
And secondly it's not really much to ask to have something even remotely resembling the average life of a man living just 50 years ago.
IE: a honest average wife, a honest average job .. that's it
>>38748792
>tried to do nofap
>failed about 30 minutes ago
>tried to practice and improve upon a skill
>haven't done shit with it today, doubt anything worthwhile will come from it
>tried to stay away from 4chan
>you can see how well that worked out
How do I stop being a fuckup when literally nothing sounds interesting?
>>38750068
Good luck to you too anon. My goals are more of a confliction between the mundane and idealistic. I'll have to make peace with that somehow. I think ill have to pick up math soon too if I decide to go back to school. That'll be fun lol. If you google plato complete works in google you can find the cooper pdf easily. Same with Aristotle's Organon. As far as wasted time I'm not too worried about the past as I am the mistakes I can make in the future. That's what having a goal is like versus nebulously floating though your existence I suppose. I guess if I stop and think about the time I spend on here and youtube, I won't think yeah that's what I'll regret not having done more of in my life. So there's a motivation in that
2 things I want to fix:
I have crooked and yellow teeth. I brush like every other day, obviously I need to fix this but don't have the motivation. Pic very related, looks eerily similar to my teeth.
I also drink a shitload of soda. I also drink a ton of water, I need to cut down soda completely but it's fucking difficult. Help?
>>38750316
Zero calorie sweetners. Make it a habit to brush your teeth.
I actually read a book that talked about the reward system associated with brushing your teeth and the neurological aspect.
Just set an alarm to brush your teeth and do it no matter what.
I'm gonna learn butterfly knife tricks to try to pick up girls
>>38750217
Good night anon. Get to sleep lol
>>38750269
Do you think you could have fallen for propaganda? I can't imagine the past being that much better. I believe people should have more freedom. I do sympathise with your wanting a grill though. However i don't think the simple love you desire is as rare as you think, and that instead you are seeing through an internet warped view.
>>38748792
https://youtu.be/yGkyhaMdpto
I don't know why but this motivates me a lot
>>38750316
Drink diet soda and use a straw
>>38750316
>motivation
you have the motivation, its called having gross fucked up teeth
what you lack is discipline
I want to go to the free school therapist, but I've been putting off going for months. Every time I think of calling to set up an appointment I freak out and do literally anything else except call.
Anyone else have this experience or experience with a therapist?
>>38750366
Fuck off get this mkultra shit out of here. My ears are ringing just from the first 5 seconds.
>>38750316
I drink a lot of carbonated water, it helped me cut down on soda. It's not amazing for your teeth either, the CO2 changes the ph of the water, but it's the lesser of two evils.
Start brushing twice a day, and flossing. I was in the same position as you, I haven't been to the dentist since my insurance ran out 9 years ago, and I'm paying the price now. Not taking care of my teeth is one of my biggest regrets in life. Just start brushing after breakfast, and once before bed, and go to the dentist twice a year for a proper cleaning.
Dentists are assholes, they're going to give you shit for not taking care of your teeth and it's going to hurt to hear, but your teeth are fucking important.
>>38750393
I know the exact same feeling. I put it off too long and graduated without ever seeing them. Don't be me, make the call.
>>38750357
>Do you think you could have fallen for propaganda?
> I believe people should have more freedom.
like pottery
>>38750299
Wish I had a definitive answer, so take my suggestions with salt, for I'm in a similair boat and not on elfhelm with that journey completed.
Do you think your lack of interests stems from anything? What happened to your previous interests if you had any? Is there nothing you admire? Look back at your time on this place amd what do you gain from it? I doubt anyone is gonna be on their deathbed wishing they browsed more 4chan. I feel like my lack of interests came from an existential fueled depression. I had an interest in philosophy before but I feel like it can help with that now as well even if I barely read anything before. I also don't know how to deal with pain, and used to love working out. Now I don't feel that same passion and it really kills me. However I do have more experience, amd have set a goal I'll work too. I always second guess myself and am a horribly conflicted person. I rarely have strong feelings on a subject. As shitty as this is it reminds me that we have no choice but to make choices and that hopefully I'll be more forgiving and open minded in the future. As for working out I'll take the opposite approach. I'll let it be one thing I don't fight myself over, and instead pour myself into.
Apologies if the post was a bit too narccisticly rambly
>>38750299
Try drawing nudes when you want to fap.
>>38748792
I'm going in for an interview tomorrow. It's a small convenience store called Daiso and they sell a whole bunch of Japanese shit, from the food and snacks to office supplies and other stuff. It's not much, but it's better than being unemployed, right?
I'm just really nervous, but I think this is for the best.
I've started this anime hajime no ippo. It's about boxing, for those of you who don't know. I don't even care about the sport. But I feel incredibly motivated rn. I'm hardly a runner but I'm trying my best from the past two days
>>38750316
Last thing, as far as the soda goes, I just stopped drinking cold turkey. I drank a shitload of water every day, and still do. Usually at least half a gallon, but now it's more like a gallon especially on days that I work.
Diet soda is a good replacement, but I would recommend to try to not drink any at all. I drink soda now on occasion, but it's not nearly as bad as it used to be. Technically it was powerade, but same fucking thing if we're being honest.
>>38750453
You got a point you want to elaborate on there or are you just going to quote me?
>>38750316
Mmouthwash brush floss BEFORE you lay down. I'll often fall asleep before I do and it's a bad habit
>>38750476
Job or no job as long as you try hard what else is there? You are only responsible for yourself and it takes two to tango. All you own is your effort
>>38750477
Make sure to do it safely. Fuck injuries.
>>38750335
>>38750378
>diet soda
>Zero calorie sweetners
These taste so bad, but I'll try. Hopefully the terrible taste stops me.
>set an alarm to brush your teeth
So train myself like a dog? Sounds good but will it whiten my teeth or do I need a specific toothpaste? Online help tells me to use salt or baking soda but that sounds wrong.
>>38750387
Discipline is hard.
>>38750428
>start brushing
Maybe I should remind myself by making a thread here since I'm always here.
>>38750477
Strangely enough, I have a friend who joined a boxing gym after he started watching Ippo. Having a coach and a "support group" of regulars at the gym really helps him stay motivated. Good luck, anon.
>>38750529
I've forgotten what trying hard feels like... I just remember I like it most of the time.
That being said, I'm too nervous to sleep at the moment.
>>38750629
Relax and just make sure you tentatively listen to instruction. Strive to not to need ask questions, become independent at the job as soon as possible. It's easy, just find the most productive things you can do during the day.
>>38750477
That anime made me start boxing, I got a lot more confidence because of it!
>>38750629
It's just a comforting thought for me. Kind of,like this old thing. Best of luck tomorrow anon. Even if you fail, is the want to succeed not more important? That's sort of how I feel. If I know I can rely on myself to push for something I don't concern myself too much with the immediate. Feelings come and go in the short term too vs goals
This positivity is uncharacteristic of me and I feel an apprehension to not be too normie like yeah believe in yourself power of friendship. We are choosing to move though. Don't work yourselves to death, but don't let yourselves down. Make peace with yourselves no?
Gonna take some laundry out and brush my teeth. Night m8s
downhill
>got dumped by toxic gf
>felt pretty shitty till I got laid by a different ex
>overall felt like I wasn't manly enough
>life seemed pretty dull still
>skinny and strong but I lacked the mass due to not eating enough
Uphill
>got a job
>bought a shit moped to get around
>use work money to pay for food
>starting lifting again
>cut out negative people
Now the only thing that stresses me is money because I want to buy some fresh clothes, some weed to smoke, and some liq to drink on the weekends
>inb4 thats life
sometimes I get these intrusive gay thoughts but the idea of same sex stuff just isn't me and it sucks. I think this happened when I started smoking weed more I just got really anxious around some people. What do I do?
>>38750647
Right... I think I can learn fast. I hope.
>>38750738
Thank you, m80. That's some top-tier advice.
Have a wonderful night.
>>38750193
Not this anon>>38750236 but to add to what he was saying, you can do harder variations of bodyweight exercises once they become too easy(you can do 3x10)
for example, push ups can become decline push ups, then diamond push ups, then decline diamond push ups, etc. If you're doing push ups for the armed forces then doing more and more of normal push ups is fine.
>>38750764
Just don't invest into the gay thoughts. Just realize you can't control everything you think and trying to suppress the thought will just make it worse. Just don't give a fuck about it man, you're not gay.
>>38748792
Got long hair, want short hair
give me suggestions that are easy maintenance
>>38750463
>Do you think your lack of interests stems from anything?
I don't know of any specific root to my lack of interest. I'm pretty depressed these days, it feels like I've never achieved anything in my life through my own merit.
>What happened to your previous interests if you had any?
I liked to go camping, play vidya, and... shit that might be it. I've fallen out of camping since college has taken up much of my time and sitting around studying every day has basically eliminated any concept of fitness that could be applied to my body. Additionally I've never organized a camp out or hike on my own before, so even if I was able to go out on a hike I wouldn't plan it very well. Vidya has just gotten really dull and is pretty much just a distraction from my issues that I just don't enjoy these days.
>Is there nothing you admire?
Like what? Concepts in others like strength and courage or things like art and trees? I guess I admire the ability to self motivate, something I've never really had.
>Look back at your time on this place amd what do you gain from it?
I can usually gain some enjoyment from shitposting or discussing various topics, but it is all fleeting and meaningless. It's just something I do to take up time so I don't wallow in self pity.
>>38750475
I'm really bad at drawing and I honestly don't fap very much.
>>38750793
Yeah basically you can do three things:
1. Increase reps
2. Increase weight
3. Increase difficultly of the exercise through different variations
Just make sure you progressively and consistently increase difficultly of the exercise so your body adapts and gets stronger.
>>38750826
I'm sure you can find a way to squeeze in lifting 3x a week. As far as the camping one I,can kinda see that. I used to be in scouts. Think you'll need to build up a friend group to go on a camping trip, unless there's some nature club or some shit you can find. You could still go for walks no? Would you be willing to turn the time you spend here into something more productive?
Wish I could help you more with the self motivation and depression, but then again here I am on r9k. Anything you could google dealing with people who have gone through similar? Anyone you wouldnt mind talking to? Look through an archive or make a thread on /adv/?
>>38750569
>>38750529
Thanks bros. I hope I keep going
>>38750696
That's cool anon. It's nice that you're doing well
Whats a comfy hobby for a guy who lives alone?
>>38751038
Cooking is a necessity, but it's also a great hobby.
Also grow some plants. I've been growing carrots and tomatoes and they're pretty good. Flowers are nice too look at too.
Woke up unexpectedly early for a NEET (just before 10am) and my happy hour gym membership is 11-15:30 so I'll have something to eat, maybe prepare stuff for the washing machine and go to the gym.
I'd be afraid to post this on /fit/ but here goes today's routine:
>Treadmill 60kcal
>Bench 3x10 @ 20, 30, 50 kg
>tricep press 55 55 60
>DB shoulder press 10 10 12
>tricep extension 12 15 15
and 2x12 lower back exercise the name of which I forgot
Benching good form 50 is my current goal, I used to be able to do 55 but then lapsed. 70kg bodyweight, around 15% fat. I've both reduced that number in the last weeks by eating almost only salads and I've grown a little more comfortable with my current appearance until it improves. We're all gonna make it.
>>38749900
>In two or three months I am going to live at a monestary in new york for a few weeks and meditate intensely with experienced monks to become happier.
made me lol
>>38751038
I play a shit ton of piano.
I've never played for anyone, and no one has ever heard me play before, but god do I love learning some flashy rachmaninoff piece.
If you have a piano or keyboard, you should give it a try. After learning music notation, you can easily learn and improve your piano skills through common sense. It keeps me entertained for hours and is indeed very comfy.
>>38751380
>not even benching one plate
you fucking embarassment, lightweight pussy. you don't deserve to touch the barbell you scum
>>38751489
Gotta start somewhere. My big hope is to get to 70 before it gets cold this year.
>>38749938
I'm 166 cm 50 kg
To be honest I kind of enjoy being smaller. When you're in a group people will generally look towards the taller/more mature looking person for conversation and shit, so it is easier to be a fly on the wall.
>>38751504
just trying to motivate you buddy, self-hatred is what keeps me lifting week in and week out.
Got back into skating and stopped watching porn. I gotta say I feel a whole lot better nowadays. Sure, I dont fap as much as I used to (I can go a few days without feeling much of an urge), but that might be the combination because more exercise/physical activities, as well as the no-porno rule.
>>38751508
>tfw 165cm at 50kg
At least I'm used to it, but I very much like to socialize and make frens. At least I hangout with people that insist I join in on the conversations, or initiate new conversations with me if I dont understand and cant contribute when we are all in a group.
>>38751504
what exercises do you do for chest?
>>38751522
Been there! I started working out a couple of years back solely on the guiding principle of
>if i'm going to be feeling pain all the time, may as well put on some muscle doing it
Started out doing pushups every evening to L&O. Lapsed a bunch of times, eventually turned into this. I really want to push up my own bodyweight.
>>38751669
I thought bench is chest?
lookism dot net
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EFnJMPQow7A
the rabbit hole runs deep
>>38750164
Jesus looked to the skies and said, "Father forgive them". God at that moment, omnipotent and ever present as he is, must have said no. The holy trinity all one but still separate how does it work
I just cracked 5km in under 25 minutes, I vividly remember the day I first started jogging and I stopped puffed out after 60 seconds.
>dieting to lose weight (have 10kg to go, lost 30 so far)
>got my blackbelt and developing my skills as an instructor to better help my Sabum-Nim
>restarted gym after my injury
>taking an online course in bookkeeping and HR
>self teaching Portuguese and Korean
I wish I had NEETbux, wageslaving for 4 days a weeks really sets a limit on what I can achieve
I've been visiting the gym, I've been correcting my posture and working on looking confident, I got contacts, and I'm trying to leave the house every other day. But my life isn't changing. I'm so frustrated that my social life is still unchanged since I started this almost half a year ago. I'm starting to lose hope. I want to make friends but it just isn't happening and that burst of confidence is fading quickly. Someone please help me.
>>38750933
My friend wants to go camping but I'm pretty sure he's just asking so he and his gf can get a ride to the site. They don't drive (or even own equipment fuck my friends are useless)
>>38751690
you only do bench for chest?
>>38750933
I'm sure you aren't here anymore, but as far as turning shitposting time into productive time I don't even know what I would do. I'll see if I can think of something to google or find something on /adv/. I'd rather not admit that I'm a failure to those I know, so talking to someone is out of the question.
Anyone have tips for getting out of bed in the morning?
>>38752625
Swing your feet out over the bed and let gravity do the work.
>>38752640
whoops. I obviously meant you should swing your feet out off the bed so gravity can do the work.
>>38752646
Not sure if you're making a joke but I think that's good idea, I'll just focus on getting my feet out before thinking of anything else. Thanks.
>>38752682
I was being completely serious. Once gravity grabs your legs (if they didn't immediately sag of course) all it takes is a simple push and BAM! you're standing.
Some advice from a 26 yo that almost died from alcohol poisoning, was bullied at school and whole life, and managed to decome decent :
>never drink soda, ever, or any sugary drink.
>limit your alcohol consumption, or better, stop it. If 'youre socially awkward and you need to drink to feel fine, you'll end up making a fool of yourself because of the overconfidence.
>Girls and sex are both overrated. Intimacy is the real deal.
>Try running, even once a week, even for 10 minutes. You'll feel instantly better.
>Stop playing video games, or at least limit yourself. Don't make it your main hobby.
>Read books. Not novels, but real books about people who started successful businesses, people who overcame your situation. You're far from the first suffering from loneliness and chronic depression.
>Delete everything that doesn't make your life better.
>Throw away everything that's a burden in your life and doesn't make your quality of life better.
>Eat more fruit & vegetables
>Eat less fats
>Learn something new every day
>Find a confortable and suitable sleep pattern that makes you wake up fully recovered.
>Stop watching porn.
>No, really, stop watching porn and fapping so much. You're fucking your energy away for no-gain.
>>38752713
>no-gain.
What if I recycle my cum?
>>38752713
How long did it take you to do all that?
>>38752197
Well I guess I can go fuck myself then.
>>38752863
6 years. My parents never tried to push me for the better, so I had to start from the literal gutter (sleeping on the streets or with some skank from my classes at 19-20) and improved myself little by little over time.
Nobody is going to save you and you're not important. If I had not done this to myself, I would still be the fucking ugly skeleton that drank himself to coma every day until death and blaming the world for my problems, when the only common denominator was me, and only me.
I'm not saying that everybody's not suffering from some injustices. I'm having my own and they are difficult to bear with (lovely gf dying of cancer is the biggest one I currently have), but in most of the cases, your liffe suck because you suck, not the world.
>>38752901
Sorry to hear about your gf anon.
>>38748792
I was a near shut in, ksv, born heavily autistic, tried to commit suicide yearly for up to my 19th birthday.
Now I just come here out of habbit, I left my original country and went to the other side of the world for college. I was decided to start my life anew. And frankly? Being on my own solved everything.
>Having to pay for my meals meant that I am way less tempted to eat all the time
>Too this opportunity to start going to gym, went from 105kg to 85, 27% body fat to 17% and counting
>Feeling stronger gave me confidence to talk to people and even girls
>Being from abroad gives you a reason to talk to people, I turned my self loathing into fun self-mockery. They also like my bantz now. After a while I found friends who can handle it.
>Local friends still think my place is disgusting, but I am making every effort to keep it clean, unlike my room back home
>Everyone gets surprised when I tell them I am autistic
>Started drinking with friends a lot, playing vidya with some of them, going on trips and such, leading to meeting new people, I'm having fun times and making valuable memories
>Confidence translated very well into my studies, 4.0 GPA
>Speaking multiple languages almost garantees me a good job here
>Girls that ignored me back in high-school like my new borderline-chad looks and want my dick now
Was at the gym and managed to bench good form 10 reps of 50kg. Time to celebrate with some whey
>>38752311
Recommend me something, chest and gut are probably the two most important for aesthetics so I'm sure I'll be happier if I focus on them more.
>>38753031
>went to the other side of the world for college
What's your home country and where are you (((studying)))? I'm curious because I'm from burger and I've traveled a fair amount with "First World" countries, but never outside that. I feel like I'm uninformed for that reason.
>>38753190
France -> Japan
Yes I know I get called a weeb very often
>>38748792
How do I stop drink driving
At my current age of 26, after years of wasted time/procrastination and being overwhelemed with being unorganised, it took me years to discover what the solution was to free yourself from the habits that we enslave ourselves with.
The problem is we're hoping for something greater that will "save" us from our old ways, be it a gf or a friend that pops up and dissolves these issues. The reality is, this isn't ever going to happen.
Nothing will change until your change your mind. You need to rewire your neurons a little in order to give yourself the boost to finally do it. There's a chance that you will never reach this stage. There's also a chance that you'll have to reach rock bottom once too many times before you do it (if you don't kill yourself by then). But there's also a chance that you might just fucking do it, if you understand that it's the only way.
The solution is not what you want to hear, and you'll still be dragging your feet along the way, and you'll frequently have to be aware of how your mind works like a CPU with limited resources - when there's too much going on at once it clogs up and can't even deal with many tasks which are very quick and easy to accomplish
Here it is:
>make a to-do list (it must be very specific) of all things you feel need to do, starting with the smallest and highest priority things
>become minimalistic by selling/throwing out everything you don't need
>if you're a computer guy, organise all files and your desktop beautifully and delete all junk
>open the to-do list every day
>if the task at the top feels too overwhelming, it's very likely because you didn't break it down simple enough and your brain's "CPU" throws it off
>remind yourself daily that working through the to-do list will free you from the chains that bind you
>as the list gets smaller, you will be able to create new, conscious habits that replace the old time-sinking ones
There's no other way.
>pic related; my to-do list
I'm a 25 years old NEET diagnosed with simple schizophrenia, panic disorder and OCPD. I'm not saying this to get some sympathy but I think it's important to get the context.
I've been a NEET since the past 4 years and a half: I was doing the assistant manager apprenticeship my parents signed me up for when I had my first psychotic episode. I was so frightened that I pretty much dropped out of society.
Don't get me wrong, I don't hate the NEET life, I didn't spend my time jacking off and watching TV. I exercise 5 times a week, I'm bilingual (although I don't have a degree to prove it) and I've become a pretty good baker/gardener/living encyclopedia for all sort of historical trivia.
I'll spare you the details as to what made me want to change (I wouldn't mind telling the story though if anyone is curious) but I need to change somehow, I'm being controlled by fear and it's becoming ridiculous: just the other day, I made a phone call and I was so anxious that I got the runs.
On paper, turning my life around sounds easy: I need my driver's license, a car and a job. However, how am I supposed to do that shit when my body is paralyzed by fear and anxiety? Moreover, I'm plagued with anhedonia and I care little for money so I don't even know what kind of job I should pursue.
>>38748792
why wrap his hands for running? lol
>>38754453
Psychotic episode certainly doesn't necessarily mean schizophrenia. I had a one-off one last year. It was fucking crazy but everything normalised a few weeks/months after.
5'5 ugly balding Black manlet here. I've been watching alot of Jordan Peterson's YouTube material. Whether being a good person, not watching porn, changing yourself to find a romantic partner, and that MGTOW is a cowardly movement are objectively true is still up for debate for me. I can only change so much physically and mentally to be accepted socially, it's hard, but I'll keep trying.
>>38754453
>>38754525 here
Get yourself on the The Recipe For Living Without Disease diet. Mental illness is often caused by diet and dysfunctional thought patterns (try CBT for the thoughts).
Anyone else undiagnosed but legitimately think they're at least mildly autistic or have some kind of social retardation or developmental issue?
I have this social retardation irl and 0 Friends online. Always playing alone, even in multiplayer games, not talking to anyone and doing the "lone wolf" shit. It is hell.
>>38754525
It's my shrink's diagnosis though, not mine.
>>38754541
Also wanted to add: Why are there so many White robots? Don't you guys realize how much Asian pussy you can get just because of the color of your skin? Don't you see the power and opportunities your skin color affords you?
>>38754555
I have diagnosed autism and I do this. I don't really play multiplayer games anymore, the last time I really enjoyed one was ARMA 3 where I could just take orders instead of having to be good at socializing.
>>38754385
this, dont wait to be saved and save yourself. i only recently started but iuts something, im just on a diet as well as cutting out soda and drinking atleast 1l of water a day. start with SOMETHING dont try to do everything from the get go or itll fuck you. do what above says and break shit down.
anyone else just lost their sex drive? i'm 23 and did a lot of fucking about 15-17 but the past 5 years i've just lost that "edge" i'm not even that bothered but i know it's not normal, think weed might have something to do with it.. i'm more interested in connecting with someone as opposed to just fucking them, any other cunt experience this? it's as if i just don't give a shit anymore and I don't know why haha
>>38754631
>dont try to do everything from the get go or itll fuck you
That's something I forgot to add. If you try to start more than a few habits at once (more than 1 or 2), you WILL WILL WILL burn out, and the effort will be worth nothing. Try it out for yourself and you'll see. This is why it's important to get the small things out the way first without juggling too many balls - that way you actually make real progress, and free up brain-CPU resources to eventually juggle more balls in a better routine, far easier
>>38754592
Exactly, if anyone should be robots, it's us Pajeets.
Do morning walks guys, as in brisk walk, dont walk like youre a snail. If you want an easy way to give yourself a better mood at the start of the day then definitely do morning walks. Have a piece of fruit go for your walk then come back for breakfast.
If you dont wake up in mornings then do it right after youre awake.
From experience
Morning walks > day walk > (gap) > night walk
Night walks arent that good desu but they're definitely better than nothing to say the least.
Do it robots youll thank me later. Most of you are just failed normies anyway
>>38754768
when i'm not working i'm trying to get drunk and/or high and play vidya listen to music, don't feel like bettering myself but know i should, what do?
>>38748792
>Self-taught A-levels after failing college in the hopes of going to a university (I'm not picky about which, so long as I can get on the course that I desire). Awaiting results.
>Got a part-time jobs a couple months back, gotten far better at customer service and are finding it far easier to talk to people, even if I'm far too apathetic to randomly strike up conversations.
>Listening to around two new artists a day, finally going to try Elliott Smith and Led Zeppelin after almost three years of putting them off, not particularly excited though it will be interesting nonetheless to see what I've missed out on for all that time, coming from someone who frequents /mu/ though I already have a fair idea of what I'm going in to.
>Watching one film a day, not quite sure what to watch today as I do not torrent out of paranoia and I am rapidly running out of films. Could watch Fight Club or Sicario - though neither of them particularly appeal to me, want to watch a lot of foreign films at risk of coming off as pretentious given the warm reception of say L'Avventura and every Tarkovsky film.
>Reading Stoner by John Williams, read about 20 pages at the start of each hour before spending the remaining 40 minutes of each studying my chosen subjects.
>Exercising constantly even though my body is heavily fatigued and having strained numerous muscles, got shin splints at the moment though so I'm focusing on upper-body exercise.
>Going to take my practical driving test in a month.
>>38754555
I stay away from the self-diagnosing path. I've gradually fell out of communication from my friends and are quite loaded due to my schedule though every once in a while a friend will tell me that they miss having me around and I feel a mixture of gratitude and self-loathing. Honestly this website serves as something of a "friend" in the sense that with anonymity I can say and do anything that would otherwise make me the object of endless back-chat and contempt.
>>38751038
I draw, learnt it from /a/ and /ic/. Also trying to get into sculpting using chinese and japanese video tutorials.
OP this isa great thread for aspiring SKEETs
>Skill
>Knowledge
>Education
>Expertise
>Training
We're all gonna make it
>>38754385
Best post itt.
For a to-do list, you can also use the free version of Todoist
>>38755125
I'm thinking of starting one of these a week, because I used to see these around here fairly often yet haven't for a few months now.
I have a to do list for each day plastered on my wall. Each day is mostly the same, but may include; donate $10 to charity, volunteer, call old friend, etc. A goal journal also. Being autistic as fuck, it can help. Example below. Using timers also helps me.
8am
Wake up
Take vitamins
Drink glass of Water
Shower
Breakfast
Jog
Etc
9am so on
I think most folks in here lack a reason to get out of bed. Motivation is one thinf ,but one cannot sustain themselves on self-improvement as the only goal, humans as social animasl need acceptance and response to our efforts to be told we are progressing.
to achieve the state of denial of self and immprove at the same time is a feat of monk-like dedication that most neets cannot truly commit themselves to, nor they need to. What they want is return to humanity and that is all they need - find a reason to live beyond yourself and beyond your 4 walls - it will be much easier that way.
>>38755934
>I think most folks in here lack a reason to get out of bed. Motivation is one thinf ,but one cannot sustain themselves on self-improvement as the only goal, humans as social animasl need acceptance and response to our efforts to be told we are progressing.
> to achieve the state of denial of self and immprove at the same time is a feat of monk-like dedication that mos
YES
Yes it's so hard to get out of bed when you have no reason to...
>>38754072
You still there, fellow weebfrog ?
What are you studying in Japan ?
You just graduated from high school and went there ?
Is it easy to do ?
>>38755934
I lack a reason to get out of bed myself, and I just do it for the sake of routine at this point. And if I didn't, I'd absolutely never find a reason.
>>38755745
>drinking water
already engaging in flouride I see
>>38749648
>I stopped jerking off and got a job at a pizza place
>I'm basically a Chad now
>also I'm going to run for a president
>>38756547
C'mon man, he's on his path to making something of himself.
>>38756208
what do you drink instead?
>>38748792
Appreciate the way you look in the mirror everyday but tell yourself the small areas you can improve on.
>>38748792
But if suicide is an improvement how are we going to be able to post about it
i cant keep doing anything self improvement related consistently
im half assing going to the gym (once every 4 days or so) and i've dropped drawing and programming completely
im such a piece of fucking shit
>went through middle and high school as a hopeless loser
>was the sort of kid who'd get slammed into lockers and called a 'geek' and 'nerd' back when 'geek' and 'nerd' were bad words
>would pick up my lunch and go eat in the restroom or hallway if a girl came and sat within several seats of me
>never held hands with a girl - let alone had a girlfriend, a first kiss, or even just a date - until after I graduated
>once intentionally missed the bus and walked ten miles home after I found out that Dustin was going to punch me in the face for standing up to his constant bullying
Today:
>slept with between 30-40 women
>had two long-term relationships, one of which was actually fulfilling
>small circle of close friends
>traveled to ~35 countries since 2013
>do normie shit like ride a motorcycle and own a car
>bosses and coworkers at my last job respected me and my opinion
>had a reputation at work for being great with words
This shitpost brought to you from a village in rural Tanzania.
I still have a lot to work on - I'm graduating from university several years late on account of traveling, but I'll have both my degrees by the time 2018 comes to a close.
Once I get back home in January, I'll be taking classes, enrolling at a boxing academy, and learning to dance salsa and bachata, since I still haven't figured out how to feel the music.
Traveling really helped me break out of my shell. I worked a lot to save for my first trip in 2013. Once I got out of the country, I had to do things which used to be scary for me - going to restaurants alone, communicating with strangers in languages I couldn't speak, hitchhiking, and making friends from other places.
I still have some self-esteem problems, but I feel like my life is on the right track for the first time since I turned a double-digit age.
>>38750316
I went through years of braces and my teeth came out just as crooked (similar but a little worse than that picture), so dont buy into the straight white teeth meme, as thats pretty unnatural.