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Can a man overcome his father? The closer you get to 30, the

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Can a man overcome his father? The closer you get to 30, the more visible he becomes in the mirror.

Age 16 I said: "At least his bad example will help me to never be like him"
A buddy jokingly replied: "More like you'll be exactly like him"
We both shared a laugh and proceeded to grow apart.

Now I'm 29 and I have the exact same issues, problems, fuck-ups. It's like genetic destiny or something.

Remember, a father is like your personal Cthulhu. He looms over all aspects of your life and everytime you think you're outsmarting him it turns out you've been had yet again.
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>>38659171
I dads a successful business man. I can't see myself becoming a successful anything right now.
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>dad had a drinking problem
>dad was a recluse
>dad said very few words, ignored people who spoke directly to him, and was just generally very introverted
>think to myself, as a kid, that I'll never be like that
>especially the talking thing, as a kid I could talk on and on and enjoyed peoples company
>26yo hiki with an alcohol addiction, among others

yeah, i've noticed it myself quite a lot. I especially used to wonder how he could possibly completely ignore me when I asked him a yes or no question, he didn't even verify physically or with words that he heard, didn't stop what he was doing in the slightest - now I do it all the time when the normie flatmates I have try ask me how my day was or something.
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>>38659171
I'll never be like my dad. He managed to lose his virginity
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thank god my dad died when i was 2, haha

although i think not having a father figure all these years is why i like it up the but nowadays :( [/spolier]
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I've managed to get past some of the stuff that my Dad had hang-ups about and have the results to show for it. Basically, he was very risk-averse, but I did see that as something that I didn't want to be, so I just started taking more chances in life.
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>>38659171
My dad has never been married, but has a good job and a small group of close friends. He's an alcoholic (I'm worse desu). He doesn't seem unhappy, but he's never open about his feelings and usually plays off serious conversations with sarcasm or a joke.

I'm 25 and we're pretty much the same, except for having a good job and an illegitimate son. I can see myself being in his situation in 30 years. Not sure how that makes me feel.
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>>38659278
>lol I'm gay teehee~ did you know I'm gay? teehee~ HEY GUYS. I'M GAY teehee~
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Dad is a super Chad who owns a boat and is dating a chink. I'm taller than him but skinner though we both look near identical when I'm shaven. They older I get the more I look like him. Meanwhile my mother is a bisexual whore who is now married to some dumb bitch that fell for her shit and also they do tons of drugs. Ask my why I have the problems I have.
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My father was a violent, abusive, alcoholic adulterer.
I'm a much better person than him.

But he'd had two children by my age (28), while I have not even kissed a girl.
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>>38659605
Why do you have the problems you have?
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>>38659718
Proof again that women are attracted to violence

Chad strikes again
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>>38659171
Not exactly overcome but I'm not like my father. He is very successful especially when you consider where he came from. I'm a total failure. But hey at least I don't have alcohol problems or don't cheat on my pregnant wife (bc I don't have one of course).

I avoided most of his bad examples only to have tons and tons of worse.
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I wish I could even get close to seeing any of him in the mirror.
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>>38659732
Because my mother drugged me and did drugs while I was in her.
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I can't think of any personality flaws my dad has because we were never really close enough for me to learn them I guess
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my father was/is a good man, he tried his best for his children to the best of his understanding .....
spent alooooot of time reading, explaining things to me .... took me to a lot a places ... museums etc ...
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>>38659171
I look like my mom and I'm taking estrogen so that'll never happen to me :3
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>>38660123
Call head or tails on a coin and flip it. If it's not the one you called you're going to kill yourself before the age of fifty.
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>>38659605
You should cuck your dad and take his chick for your own
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My dad was a degenerate drug dealer and whoremonger before roping mom into marriage, and has since become a fat, friendless, aggressive loser who spends his days "working" a job he got through nepotism, sitting on the couch watching normie shit like MTV, and generally commanding everyone else in the house to do banal tasks that he could easily do.

I've taken after him in the sense that I'm a fat, friendless loser, but otherwise I've actively been doing everything I possibly can to avoid becoming him.
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The more I learn about my dad, the more I realize that he's kind of an idiot who doesn't know the first thing about job hunting. And I'm someone who's a borderline NEET who sucks at finding a job. Go figure. I remember when he got laid off his job once and spent fucking forever trying to find another job while I was in high school, before being taken back by the place he's still at. At the time, I thought it was because the job market was shit. I think it's really because he doesn't know the first thing about job hunting. I let him do my resume once and it was fucking awful. He had no real idea what the fuck he was doing. He gave me some shitty bland resume that literally anyone would skip over. What's more, he made it too pages when it easily could've fit onto one page. That's like, one of the first things anyone knows about resumes; keep that shit to one fucking page.

And then he does shit like try to hook me up with jobs that would never hire me in a million years. I think he's really naive.
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>>38659171
My dad was a heroin junkie and went to prison for murdering some woman before I was born. It would be pretty hard for me to fick up that bad.
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>>38659865
Similar feels anon desu xhan
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>>38660194
no worries anon, I'm on the track to happiness and fulfillment
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My dad is extremely shy and I'm a lot more outgoing than he is but it took years. And I'm still fairly shy.

He only met my mom cause it was a small town and it was a different era back then. You wasn't expected to be a Chad to get a gf. If he would have grew up in my era, I fear he would have never got a girl. And on to the fact he doesn't go out and do anything. never vacations/no trips outside town etc; he wouldn't have a chance.

So in some ways I have grew up to be the direct opposite of that. I go out and like to travel occasionally. But my shyness is still bad, but I'm not as bad as him.
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>>38659171
>dad was a handball player, medicine student, politician, literally everything, before the war happened and my family immigrated, and depression hit him, rendering him a shadow of his prime self
I'll be lucky to be a tenth of the man my father was in his best years, but hey at least I have a headstart on the depression.
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>>38659171
>tfw my father is a legitimately great person
>tfw I know I'll never be as kind and genuine as him
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I'm over the 30 mark and I'll tell you it's already happened to me. I'm sure my mom is an diagnosed aspie too but girls are better at flying under radar. That's probably the only reason I exist cause there's no way in hell any normal girl would get with this. I am a clone of my dad and his dad.

I have memories of dads regular attempts to flirt with women when we were out without mom. So much cringe filled hindsight memories of him bumbling around.

It's not alcohol for my dad but he is prone addiction. When I was a kid there were years where he was addicted to PC games. He would come home and play all night. Now that they are retired they've been hitting the casinos. We're fucked if he blows through his life savings...

I had a mental break of some sort around 30 when I looked in the mirror and realized I've passed the youth stage and young adult stage. Now I'm bonafide adult man aged hiki and soon a middle aged man. That means people/strangers by default expect me to be a normal, mature, distinguished man. Women see me as old man. Young women are long forgone history unless I want to be an old creeper.

My gramps is older than the queen and still kicking. He also has the same traits. These genes are strong as fuck but at least they'll die with me.
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My father is a total loser and egomaniac. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I think he genuinely wouldn't care if I died tomorrow. He still lives with my grandmother and I think he views me as some sort of rival for her affection. He can have it because she's a cunt also.
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>be me as kid
>constantly criticised by my dad
>afraid to tell him about stuff I like for fear he might put me down
>afraid to express my opinion
>afraid to make mistakes so he won't tell me how awful I am
>constantly tells me how horrible I am anyway
>refrain from talking to my parents about anything at all
>think I'm a really bad person and shouldn't bother anybody with my presence
I don't blame all my faults on my dad but I don't think I'll be a CEO of anything ever (he is). I am however highly critical, angry, and not very good socially, much like he is.
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Fathers tend to project their worldview onto their sons. Your similar fuckups are mostly environmental not genetic. I advocate for the single mother household, the lesser of two evils.
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>dad is a former chad thundercock football/wrestling guy that is very outgoing and works hard
>I'm a fat fuck that only works enough hours to get by and buy a few comforts. Drink heavily and never speak to anyone
closest person in my family is my uncle who everyone used to warn me I was like. we both pace around when anxious, we're both obscenely lazy and never speak to anyone. Whenever I'd go on family trips though me and him would really bond. Sometimes I wonder if he impregnated my mom behind my fathers back since we're so alike
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>>38660840
>I advocate for the single mother household, the lesser of two evils
I ended up a fag though :\
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My dad is the crazy guy you see at the grocery store walking down with the cane and the clothes from 1970 that looks like methed out ralph pootawn jesus and forcibly preaches at the cashiers about crazy rambling nonsensible shit that doesn't make any fucking sense for an hour past the time his groceries rang up without letting them get a single word in edge wise laughing at his own jokes about aliens and torture camps and cutting people off every time they try to talk until they have to forcibly remove him by physical means. He's the guy that spends 24 hours writing the world's largest wall of text full of senseless mumbo jumbo without any punctuation or continuity just to post it on a video about space being a hoax and transgender test tube babies that nobody is ever going to fucking read because even those batshit insane motherfuckers think he's insane. Wait, you don't know that guy? Because that's my fucking dad. He spends a lot of his time these days listening to preachers that he hates and disagrees with just to talk to himself and yell about how wrong they are at 3AM when I'm trying to sleep. He's been calling in with fake numbers just to "troll" them since they all recognize him immediately by his own distinctive brand of insanity and won't listen to him anymore. He has like a million accounts and thinks it's funny to use them all to "trick people", but every single person on planet earth knows that it's him every time and knows him by name. He sleeps to the same film every single night full of obnoxious screaming and bad acting and I've memorized the lines just by getting up every night to take a piss. I think he's getting Alzheimers he bought some peanut butter two years ago and yelled at me today for eating it all in "one week". He insists that there's no point in washing dishes since they'll just get dirty again and eats with plastic shit he rewashed from the sink.

I mean I'm insane and schizophrenic and talk to myself too but I'm quiet.
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>>38659171
my entire family is well of except me
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>>38659171

My dad has a superhuman [/spoiler]Mexican work ethic and self control. He spent his youth being Chad and getting /fit/.

My being a lazy, worthless beta definitely disappoints and disgusts the poor man.
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