What is /r9k/'s opinion of long distance relationships?

>>38560536
They suck and are a waste of time unless you live relatively close to each other

>>38560536
Girl always fucks around. Girls have a constant supply of sex.

ruined my life
would not recommend

>>38560536
>be me
>autist ace
>tfw no similar autist to ldr and never meet
>shrug.ini

>>38560603
FpBp

Seriously, I had a no LDR rule and the one time I broke it it's hurt my heart

>>38560536
>tfw your only shot at having a normal life is probably with someone over the internet but you dont even care
God save the queen

I had one for about a year and a half. Let me tell you from experience; it's not worth it. It just makes you more depressed.

>>38560536
not a good idea most don't work out

She doesn't care about you, and is either cheating on you, or is a he.

>>38560536
Remove the text from the left side and replace it with Tyrone and the picture will be accurate.

>>38560536
They WILL get bored of you and cheat. The only winning move is to not play. FUCK WOMEN

>>38560536
The same as regular relationships. Pointless. Irrelevant. You might as well do drugs. What a stupid thing to seek validation is others. To not be able to live in your own skin. It's pathetic and you are the lesser for it.

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This picture is worth the 1000 original words of my opinion on long distance """relationships"""

Don't fucking do it. You'll regret.
Find someone near you even if it's scarier.

>>38560536
Complete sham. You're just asking to be cucked if you agree to one.

>>38560536
within 10 or 20 miles yeah totally fine

100s of miles, then definitely no

>>38561632
Pretty much this.
The only reason you are interested in a ldr is becuase you don't have anything going on at home, work on getting something going on at home
Women have most of the power in a relationship these days, so if you aren't getting something back, I.e. Sex on the regular, it's pointless and a time mob before they cheat.

It can work out, but there are even more stumbling blocks than in the normal minefield of relationships.
Meet up asap.

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I broke mine after a week of realizing i hate talking to girls and just want to fuck.
You are basically another orbiter to her but have to put more effort, otherwise whats in it for her. Have fun playing personal pierrot. What a shit deal.

>>38560536
You have 3 months to meet. If you don't do it by then, it's over.

t. have had a dozen and they all follow this for some reason

>>38562447
>You have 3 months to meet.
Or at least on both openly deciding to do so imo.
Don't know about you, but poorfags and oversea flights didn't mix that easily for me.

>>38560817
>Girl always fucks around. Girls have a constant supply of sex.
this
>>38560861
tell us how so you can save others the trouble

>>38562678
im just gonna give the jist so I don't have to relive everything

any girl willing to be in a long-term, long distance relationship (even with the forethought and intention to be together irl eventually) has severe mental issues

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an LDR is my only option where I live so I'm 100% fucked
what a great place to be born in

>>38560817
They only do that if you can't satisfy them

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>only person who you like lives across the country

>>38562879
how are you going to satisfy them in a LTR?

>>38562924
Not him, but it would depend on the persons involved.
I managed to dirty talk her into her first orgasm, she later admitted to never have managed one on her own before. Lots and lots of cybering, there must be more material of me jerking my cock floating around in alphabet agency archives than of the average porn actor.
Reading eachother bedtime stories, falling asleep while hearing one another breath on voicechat.
It is a strange mix of heartrendering cute and utterly pathetic, looking back.
You definitely want to have shitloads of time on your hand even trying this, and both must be equally intensely invested. Normalfags definitely need not apply.

>tfw the girl I like lives 16 hours away
>tfw I can't tell her my feelings because I don't want to put her through a LDR
Kill me, robots

>>38560536
I met my wife on kik six years ago, she lived in California and I lived in Georgia. We wound up going to the same college through collusion and I think things turned out relatively well beyond not having an interesting story as far as how we met. My experience isn't typical so just like any other relationship you both have to genuinely want it.

>>38560536
At best you are an oblivious safety blanket while she's off exploring. At worst you're a completely aware safety blanket while she's off exploring.

>>38562879
You really believe that? Christ.

>>38563353
It's all a lie anon. You'd be amazed at the facade generating ability of a girl in a long distance relationship.

>>38563725
Well we met up 5 times, lived with eachother for around 2 years, and I took her virginity.
We also broke up in rather good terms and still talk like weekly and prop each others life up a bit when shit is bonkers.
If it is a lie, it is a damn good one and I'll swallow another and grin.

>>38563830
I respect that you're able to do that. When I found out mine was a lie it threw me for a real loop. 4 and a half years (college with a bit of difficulty) and I never doubted it all for a second.

>>38560536
Has never worked, both parties gain confidence boost from socializing with other people online in romantic sense
Confidence boost results in the other party becoming cocky and starting to attract low tier partners nearby
Which leads to cheating which lead to heart break which leads to awkward break up or ghosting

TLDR; Doesn't work unless you're both asexual

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You don't want to be Theodore. Relationships are meant to be done in person. They never work out online

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You can't party rock long distance, why bother

>>38563870
>>38563870
>Confidence boost results in the other party becoming cocky and starting to attract low tier partners nearby

Are you saying I should get a practice LDR to boost my confidence so I can get the low tier partner I deserve IRL?

>>38560536
only the most autistic of human beings would be able to pull it off

>>38560536
I got ghosted about 3 days ago. We were in an LDR for almost a year.

It hurts so fucking much. I want to kill myself and I haven't stopped crying for two days straight. I deserve this for being so fucking stupid.

I actually love her so damn much and it's such a shame she didn't just end it nicely instead of taking the easy but extremely evil way out by ghosting me.

>>38560536
a horrible idea that will end in nothing but the man getting hurt

It's useless and will slowly kill you (if that's what you want)

They are a waste of time and only end up in the guy getting cheated on because women are skets

Works until she finds a real dick to sit on

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>>38562892
>only person who you like lives literally in the antipode of your country

>>38560536
Finally meeting an online gf that you've only seen through a screen for years is one of the most amazing things you can experience, but I don't condone it. I went through hell to get to that point.

>>38560536
Probably going to hate them, but a 50%-of-the-time LDR will be my only option for the next few years if I ever find someone.

>>38560536
like keeping someone on life support even tho they're braindead. being alive a mere technicality.

Me and my bf have been in an unconsecutive LDR--we went to uni together, but that uni isn't in my home state and I didn't have enough money saved up so I had to move back with my parents ~1500 miles away. We'd be LDR during summers and we're LDR now until I get enough money saved up to move back there. In any case, it's worked out fine for us thusfar and we've been dating for almost 4 years. Not a single problem (outside of the usual depression of missing each other). Maybe we both just got lucky with each other, we're the only ldr couple either of us know that's worked out.

>>38566457
*when I say "unconsecutive" I mean that I'd return to my home state during the summers, so during these 4 years, about 1/3 of the year each year was spent being ldr, should've made that clear

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*Long distance barks* BARK BARK BARK

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>talk to girl online for 2 yrs
>tell her I like her
>1 yr later fly 24hrs to meet her
>stay for month
>1 yr later she flys 24hrs to meet me
>stays for 2 weeks
>she just left 5 hrs ago

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>>38566905
What's the problem?
Are you worried that she might be repulsed by what your living conditions are like or something?
She stayed for two weeks, I'd call that pretty good, you think that's too short?
Do you think you'll miss her after she leaves?

>>38566946
No her two weeks are over and she left for home 5 hours ago. It was too short, she enjoyed herself and so did I but it was way too short. I already miss her and can't get to sleep. I am angry at her parents for not letting her stay longer. I don't think her parents like me and I am worried they whisper poison in her ear.

>>38567040
You shouldn't worry that much.
It could be possible, but it's not really likely that her parents have such a vendetta against you.
And even if they do, it's pretty unlikely that they'd convince her daughter to hate someone she likes.
If she really likes you (like you implied), then she'd surely dismiss her parents, right?
You shouldn't worry about it much, get some sleep and contact her when she returns home.

>>38563513
what country m80?

>>38560536
>be me
>know each other for 3 years
>not in an LDR but kind of yes
>we like each other know it and occasionally talk about it
>never met
>really want to but can't (we're not even too far away but for other reasons)
>both of us also having lives to live
>try to never define it as and LDR and keep everything plain and subtle because it'd just upset me to know that chances for it to work out are way too low
>when I start saying how hopeless the outlook is to even ever meet (not as a couple) he tells me how the current situation isn't bad either and I shouldn't overthink everything

also >tfw each time he texts I still feel super comfy about it even after 3 years

Pls no bully for being a femanon, r9k. I just wish to meet this guy irl and know if irl things could be equally great as it seems online. We're always trying to be blunt and honest with what we say but rl could still differ a lot. Also always trying to be realistic about things. The curiousity is maybe what keeps us going and in the meanwhile we're getting to know each other better and better with the time.
This feels like having a lottery ticket to win a million dollars but never being able to cash it. But I don't want to throw it away either.

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They're pretty fun!

I've had several. It's fun to do lewd things on mic and cam with a qt gril and then spend the next hour talking about life, with the occasional "i love you" peppered in for good measure.

It's especially nice when they send you stuff. I've had grills send me cookies, chips, chocolates, and jam; it tastes that much better when you know it's sent to you out of love - and for free.

Try it out sometime!

>>38560817
This. You have to sex her at least once a week or she'll drift.

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>>38566329
>only person who likes you lives in another dimension

>>38568167
You sure know how to pick'em if that is the truth for you.

>>38568144
You need to get a life anon.
Do something useful to you.

I'm being serious here.

I had an online relationship with a qt trap, she moved in with me last year and shit's cash.

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Im in one right now.
Its Bullshit, even with monthly visits. We agreed to move in together this autumn, if we dont I think ill start dating people I actually know.

>>38562549
no. 3 months after meeting online. if it doesn't happen, it's over. this happens every single time. if we don't make plans and meet within 3 months, it dies.

Spent about 4 years online dating a qt trap from US and im from UK

Met up a few times for 2 weeks a time over that 4 years cause too expensive

Was all right but when i turned 20 i decided it was too much money and time trying to keep thst relationship alive

Im 23 now and we still talk

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For someone like me, I think that long-distance is the only chance to find a partner. I can't imagine ever meeting someone locally.

I need to extend the range of my search across hundreds or thousands of miles to have a hope of finding someone. I'm not a normal person, I'm weird and unique, I need a very unique partner as well and that's difficult to find.

So it's either eternal loneliness or a long distance hail-mary, falling in love and moving across the world to be together.

I just want an LDR autist gf.
We don't ever have to meet.
t. autist potential bf

i used to be in a cringy kik groupchat. it was a bunch of edgy teenagers. mostly a sausage fest, but there was a girl or two. some of them started doing "online dating" and it was so bad that i wanted to scoop my eyes out with a rusty spoon. but, it didnt last long. its been a few years, havent seen any of them since. im glad its over.

this isnt really what OP was referring to, but thought id share this story.

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i liked a girl who lived a state over

she didn't like me