I'm an adult female (20) and I'm going to lose my virginity to my boyfriend of two months. I was waiting for marriage but realized that nobody was waiting as well so I hope to keep my partner count low and stay in long term relationships. I just feel like I'm going to be dirty when I lose it. I might cry and be depressed after. Has anyone experienced this?
If you're "expecting to keep partner count low", you're counting with the end of the current relationship. If you expect it to end, why bother doing it? Sex is overrated for women, anyway, you're just disgusting a future potential lifelong partner.
>>38168633
fuck off roastie
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>>38168633
I'm a 20 year old man who is waiting to be in a serious long term relationship before sex as well.
However, like you I have not yet experienced this. It makes me think that my thoughts on purity are sort of dumb because I would then not be pure by own definition, even if I thought the girl was my soulmate and she cheats on me for example.
So even though I am KHHV waiting for an equal, I think if a girl was really special enough I wouldn't mind if she had 1 or 2 long term relationships having sex with the man. Casual sex is an automatic no though.
I would say its ok to lose it to this guy
>>38168715
It's people like you who enable women like OP to downgrade themselves physically and mentally.
Two months. Just a mere two months old "serious relationship" that you'd be willing to accept in her past as an excuse to have been fucked by another man, even though you lived nothing sexually.
You'd put a ring in the finger of a woman someone fucked - oh, it was a "serious" relationship of two months... - while you never even touched another woman.
>>38168633
Yes. I was incredibly depressed after doing things sexually, because I later realized those relationships were nowhere near as special as I thought they were. I also felt some depression immediately after, but it hit so much harder when he broke up with me. It was probably a two month relationship, too.
Two months is nothing unless there's more backstory (crushed on each other for 5 years / dated exclusively for 1 year without a title / whatever).
I have since met some really good guys who were waiting (or had one serious 10 year relationship), and I just feel bad again because I would always be the slutty one if I pursued those options. Not that I'm particularly slutty, I'm 27 with a partner count of 3.
>>38168873
The other thing I'd add is you're going to be surprised how quickly partner counts can add up after 5 to 10 years if you don't find "the one" and always want to stay with somebody or another (even if "exclusive short term" which is what I'd call two months).
Also, there will likely be guys who don't exactly care deeply about you and know you'll try to make it work after having sex early (so you don't look slutty and acquire a high count) -- and that can lead to an unhealthy dynamic that can be manipulated by ... any guy who isn't genuine a good person.
Go to >>>/adv/ you dumb roastie
>>38168692
>you're just disgusting a future potential lifelong partner.
>he thinks normal people give a shit so long as you haven't fucked 30 dudes
lmfao it's not like any of you insecure cunts were going to get a girlfriend for it to matter anyway
>>38168772
Give me one good reason that's a mental and physical "downgrade" and don't base it on the fact that you're jealous
>>38168772
>>38168772
I have been in a LDR though and it didnt work, so I can understand how some people believe they are dating a future life partner, only for it to end suddenly.
If it were the reverse way, and I had lost virginity to a pure girl who I thought I would marry, only for the relationship to break, I would still want a pure gf, so I would extend that same idea to a female if I really thought she was worth it.
>>38169136
Enjoy the "baggage". But whatever, just lazily paint me as jealous and proceed with the mistakes. After all, they're yours.
>>38168633
you have serious mental issues if you have such problems with sex. Its just sex. Grow up.
>>38168633
>I was waiting for marriage but realized that nobody was waiting as well
Not true, but enjoy throwing your ideal away just because every one else is doing it lmao. You are what's wrong with modern women
>>38168633
You're still a virgin until you've fucked a black man.
>>38168873
So should I wait longer than 2 months? I want a long term relationship.
>>38168633
Congratulations. You are not a roastie because you valued your virginity. Do not have sex with him, until you two promise to be husband and wife and stay together for the rest of your live. You don't have to have a ceremony, just ask him if you are going to marry me. Do not be a roastie. If he doesn't agree don't have sex. Be honorable, respect your husband and men. Be good and don't think of just yourself. Dont be selfish, immature or narcissistic.
>>38168633
Two months is not nearly long enough. Stick to your morals and wait until marriage, or at least six months.