How can one stop emotionally investing into people online?

>>37367841
How could you even start?

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>>37367841
By being emotionally distant? I don't know maybe delete the app you're speaking with them on. This shouldn't be difficult.

>>37367903
Autism does things to you

>>37367841
You stop asking how they are, and how often.

Keep everything on a need to know basis.

>>37367903
For me it was Futanari Palace with a genuine grill

>>37367841
>tfw i do this
feels fucking bad
especially when you think about how pathetic you are for getting so attached to words on a screen.
i wish someone wanted me.

>>37368120
>meet someone on sex chat who's a seemingly good sub
>get attached
>connect emotionally
>remind myself that we can never be an item because Im catfishing and not actually a hot blonde
>get tired of them after a while because subs are either not actual subs or are complete doormats that expect you to do literally everything
>burn the bridge
>repeat

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>>37367841
>posting anime
it's too late for you

I have a feeling it was always too late for you

>>37368175
>tfw catfishing just to have someone appreciate and desire you for once in life

>>37368275
Shit the feel hits too close to home...

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>>37368275
That feel is really where my life started going downhill.
>tfw female you is (more or less) literally just your personality in a female body and it goes over like gangbusters with people

>>37368359
Because women have it easier, so pretending to be one more people will pay attention to you.

>>37368384
DONT YOU THINK I KNOW THAT?!
Oregano's is a decent eatery

>>37368359
yeah
>tfw you as a girl would be wanted by everyone

>>37368442
Sorry, just wanted to be clear that you did that all.

>>37368465
No worries, M8

Oregano's again

>>37368359
I've been on a distance relationship with my boyfriend for a year, but... I'm not actually a girl and he still thinks I am

I don't know anymore lads

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>>37368515
I was once in a situation like that. Problem for me was that I didnt have contingency plans in place with fake Facebook profiles in place, so faking my death would have been really tough.
So I just made up a story about getting married IRL
Nothing personnel, Lily

>>37367841
it's only unhealthy if you allow it to be. i met my qt neet boyfriend online and we're moving in together next year.

>>37368515
How in the hell can you hold onto a catfishing relationship for such a long period of time??

>>37368615
Its really easy. Eventually it just becomes routine.
Helps if they dont probe too hard

>>37368648
100% this it's been a year for me as well and I'm just sick of it...

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>>37368594
same person. feels good to be loved, even if they're online right now. as long as you make plans to meet up/have met up before, i don't see it as unhealthy to care for people online.

>>37368648
I should probably try finding more autists like that. Most i encountered kept wanting to voice chat and talk on the webcam or ask for photos with specific poses in them.

>>37368702
Please don't. At first it might be fun or entertaining but after a while it becomes a huge drag on you.

>>37368594
>tfw found a qt neet bf and he broke up with me
>tfw i couldn't fix him by being overly nice and clingy

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>>37368702
Yeah, it takes a bit of experience and luck to find them. I would usually just say I didnt want my pics splashed all over the internet because "I've been burned before".

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>>37367903
>have no friends or anyone to talk to
>only people online
It kinda just happens when your a complete loner. When that person comes around that actually wants to talk to you, when no one else will. You grow attached.

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>>37368680
ihy i had an online gf just like that, she planned to buy train tickets and come visit me during her summer break.. never happened because she left me for another online person.

>>37368730
This. Catfishing and the associated autogynophilia are worse than meth for your brain.

>>37368592
I thought a lot about faking my death somehow but things could get rough real fast if he tried fishing for my info in the right places.

>>37368671
Same... it's not that I don't want to be with him, but more of a fear of causing him pain from this. I wish circumstances could be different for this to work out but unfortunately I can only try to device the best way for him to let go of me in the most painless way possible. And I have no idea how, since everytime things start going in the "right" way, we end up closer than ever.

It hurts...

>>37368671
Just tell yourself you're over him
Pretend your ship's not sinking
Cause you're the King of Wishful Thinking

Thats what I did

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>Emotionally invest in person online
>get shat on
>later on he makes fun of me for it
>Now can't emotionally invest in people online

Works like a charm

>>37368794
What does he know about you? You gotta keep like five layors of obfuscation and irony between you and your online loves, M8.

>>37368794
I know same here but I guess I'll have to do what >>37368806 said or it'll never get better....

>>37368857
He actually knows very little. I try to let as little of myself known as possible and leave some red herrings here and there, but some things could go astray like if he tried to look deep in some nicknames or past contacts of mine I made him know by mistake. He also got my number when we were just starting out and I was high on lolwhatamidoinghahasocrazy drugs, so there's that.

>>37368738
see, i don't want to "fix" him - i love him for who he is. he doesn't need to be "saved". why would you date someone with the intention of completely altering their personality?

>>37368768
things like that happen, anon. i'm sure you'll find the right one eventually. try and avoid girls that you meet through methods of them trying to get attention (ex. twitch streamers, low elo support players, "help im new to this mmorpg what do??", etc)

dull your emotions with drugs and alcohol

>>37368946
Same here started when I was drunk and wanted attention but thankfully I never gave a phone number...

>>37368946
Oooh thats rough, man, I've never been that deep. Your safest bet is probably a fake Chad bf or something to take you away from him, right?

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>>37367841
I wish I could become emotionally invested in people online. I want to care about people and have them care about me too.

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>meet a cool guy on steam
>become my best bro
>chat every day and I can speak normally with them
>suddenly disappears
>blow up his account with questions wondering where he is
>occasionally logs in then out immediately without saying anything
>feel sad that my only friend is gone
>he comes back 6 years later
>"hey dude I'm back"
>"cool"
>logs off again later and never returns

I can keep from getting attached to guys now sure but I still fall in love with any girl that that talks to me for more than a day.

>>37369009
Not the same person but thanks for the suggestion I'm probably going to do that and slowly drive him away or just leave it all and block them from all accounts.

>>37369059
Or just go lesbian. Maybe throw in a fake rape that makes you need your space from men?

>>37369086
I already pulled the lesbian card and he still wants to be friends and it hurts that he won't go easily...

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>>37368775
I'm very very sexually submissive. Domination is the only thing that gets me off, the harder it is the better. Unfortunately dominant women don't exist. So, to find sexual satisfaction I had to play a submissive girl and catfish an older Dom guy. For weeks we sent messages and had little sessions where he gave me orders, hurt, insulted, degraded me etc. It was so so so good, the best sexual experiences of my life. He was even good at after-care, super nice and caring, he'd always be concerned for me and be very affectionate after we were finished. It was such a strong one-two punch I started to fall for him and had to cut him off before I got too carried away.

I wish a was cuter. I've realized that my preferences were a way for my repressed homosexuality to come to the surface and that I really prefer men after all. I'm not cute though, nobody wants to dom me, nobody wants to top me. Even if I have a nice face and long hair and good skin and etc I feel like I'm too tall and big to ever be cute. It's really depressing actually, I totally get why people transition although I don't think that's an option for me.

>>37369105
Yeesh, some just wont unhook themselves. Best of luck, friend.

>>37369148
Thanks for the help though I appreciate it and wish you the best as well in whatever you have. I'll just have to unhook them by force and probably hurt them but it's been too long and I want it over with.

>>37369112
last paragraph is me.
maybe there's hope anon.
i'm hoping one day i'll find a guy that's just into dudes and will lovingly dom me and treat me the way i want to be.
it would still be hard to be happy with my body though. i don't want to be handsome, i wanna be cute.

>>37369182
You're very welcome, sir.

>>37369006
Yeah... if I could only rewind time back...

>>37369009
I saw that as an option, but given that the persona he knows is basically me but as a woman, and I'm a shut-in neet... it's kinda hard to figure out. I thought the most "logical" way of approach would be myself looking more sad and unappealing to him each day, so that he might reconsider things on his own or that I may go in the end into a fake (not so fake) outburst of emotions resulting in the relationship getting stale or me going away.

Either way... if only I could disappear without him suffering or just turning things back to square one...

There's also the stuff with us having met via a MMO, so I colaterally ended up spreading that female persona of mine here and there in whichever circle of people I ended up, so I don't know how to go about it without everything collapsing at once.

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>>37369189
I think it would be easier to get over my insecurities, or at least not let them bother me so much, if I had a partner that actually liked me. I'd probably be annoying about it and need a lot of reassuring and confirmation though...

>>37369240
I know I wish I could rewind time but at this rate for me it isn't going to end in anything but pain. It'll hurt alot at first on both sides but after you get done with it you'll feel better. Or so I hope since I'll be doing it tomorrow...

>>37369240
Well the female is a creature born of drama so I think a slow, natural degradation might be the ticket.

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>meet someone online
>have really nice conversations
>some spanning over a whole day
>talk for weeks
>start to notice a pattern
>they never initiate conversations with me, I always message first
>get paranoid that I may be annoying them
>wait for them to message me first to show that they actually want to talk to me
>weeks later, months later, years later, and nothing

Every online friendship for me. Don't know how you fags meet these social butterflies always up for a conversation people? I always get the silent types that don't even know how to say "hi how are you" every once in a while.

>>37369353
I play up an intruiguing but mysterious persona laced with dom traits

>>37369344
Easier said than done.
Original desu

>>37369272
yeah, some people don't like that.
i think i'd overall be a happier person if i had someone to beat and cut me sometimes..

>>37369339
I've never been that deep, but I think you'll find incredible relief and liberation as well after the fact.
Maybe a fake job could help too?

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>>37369384
Sorry, I thought that would sound like a truism.

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>>37369401
Yeah it'll probably start with a fake job then to a fake Chad bf and fake quit Steam and slowly fade away. Thanks I'll start doing tomorrow. Seems eaiser to do. Thanks again!

>>37369443
Anything for you, pal.

>>37369339
I hope so too, anon... best of luck to you too, happiness ought to await at the end for everyone...

>>37369344
Yeah, I thought so too... taking the initiative seems like the less painful option for him.

If I ever get asked if I hace been in a relationship from now on, I'm going ti be pretty confusing. I don't know if I'll be able to have a normal one in the future either, at the moment it just seems unrealistic. Love hurts in the weirdest possible ways.

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>>37369487
Thanks I think doing what I said >>37369443 will be the less heart breaking way for me atleast. Thanks for caring and best wishes to you.

>>37369487
We're all broken in our various ways here. I was fortunate not to get in over my head and it still led to pain as well as relief.
I too don't know about future relationships for that and other reasons.

>>37369385
I kind of switch since I'm actually attractive as a man and it's the only option I realistically have. It's very unfulfilling for me though. At least I'm good at getting subs off since I know what they like.

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Just want to say this before the thread dies. Thanks for all the help to the people who has helped me with this >>37369523
And more. So everyone please have a good day or night.

>>37369642
You too, friend. And good luck

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>>37369523
Best of wishes again, friend. I feel like that's a very respectable approach as I believe we matter too. It's a given that we somehow started it, yeah... but I think we ended up being big victims of casuality, and having been suffering this long and for what we have to suffer still... I believe a less painful exit is addecuate. I'm still entirely not sure on what to do, but taking the slow degrading road... will surely hurt a lot.

>>37369538
I hope we, as persons, can somehow, someday, find a way to find peace in what haunts us. I hope from the bottom of my heart that our impediments end up not becoming as big of an obstacle. Thank you.

>>37369642
Just saw you're off. Same to you, I found you guys to be really kind and in line with what's eating me from inside, so thank you again. Thanks again and have a good night familia, and I guess for me too.

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