Girls with BPD will NEVER be happy or live a normal life.
I'm a femanon with BPD. I cut people off and never talk to them again. I hurt myself. I can't be happy even when I'm high. I have anxiety. I do crazy things for attention. I stay up late at night thinking to myself about suicide baiting my ex but I'm too much of a pussy to actually kill myself. I lie.
Any other girls with BPD have stories? Just share your experiences :'( I don't want to be alone in this.
I'm a guy with BPD and every relationship/friendship ive ever had has crashed and burned. ive accepted that im better off alone and have learned to adapt to it. i will never be capable of trust or selfless love
>>37036031
You never see old ladies with BDP, do they all die young?
>>37036060
I destroy relationships too. Friendships get messed up because I can't have one day of plain sailing weather without fucking things up. I always slip up HARD.
>>37036077
People with BPD are 800x more likely to kill themselves. Though I think some people learn to manage it, through DBT for example.
I tried an LDR with a femanon a couple years ago.
I was done after a week.
>>37036106
with friendships i always end up thinking they secretly don't like me or they're avoiding me. i'm almost clingy even though i don't mean to be. i also cut people off and never speak to them again, and ive also threatened suicide before.
the upside to this is i know exactly how toxic borderline people can be, and i can identify it and get out of there quickly.
i was close friends with someone who is BPD and i can tell you that it doesnt end well at all
>>37036122
Agh I do the same thing. I overthink things and get paranoid that they're mad at me or don't like me. When they don't actually dislike me, I'm sure to make them by constantly telling them that I'm scared they hate me. I'm annoying.
I threaten suicide all the time. I haven't in a few months but I consider it all the time. I'm actually suicidal though but I know that I shouldn't tell people, especially when I don't intend on doing it.
Talking about this is making me feel a lot better.
>>37036031
why do i get the urge to try and fix you so badly
>>37036031
>>37036135
HEY GUYS I'M A GIRL BTW I'M SO BROKEN AND I USE SAD ANIME GIRLS AND POST ON MY PHONE
fuck off you slag
eat a dick you shit
>>37036136
They will break you instead.
>>37036135
>I'm sure to make them by constantly telling them that I'm scared they hate me
i dont say it overtly but i can tell i end up giving off signs that im very insecure, like when someone tells me they'll message me soon and they dont within an hour i'l end up double or triple texting them for a response
>I threaten suicide all the time.
>I'm actually suicidal though
i've threatened it a number of times but i've never in my life actually attempted it, i'm just extremely manipulative and have no shame when it comes to getting my way
i dont think being borderline is my only issue though, i almost certainly have narcissistic personality disorder and am a sociopath
>hit myself, pull out my hair, compulsively say hateful things to myself
feels bad man
>>37036175
forgot to mention, i am also INCREDIBLY impulsive, i've done some really stupid things on a whim. i've even deleted mmorpg characters that i had been playing for a month all because i lost in pvp. it's frustrating the way your brain will overwhelm you with sudden feelings of intense rage, clouding your judgement
>>37036031
>>37036060
>relationship
[ANGRY FROG NOISES]
>>37036031
Don't be so glum, OP. Just remember one thing: life is finite, it will all be over one day.
>>37036242
trust me anon, the pain of a handful of horribly ending relationships is worse than the pain of not having one. there are people in my life who i once loved who will never think of me again unless its out of pure contempt. it's not a feeling you want to deal with
not a girl but i went out with a girl with BPD. literally we talked to each other every day for over 2 years, and then one day she breaks up with me, out of fucking nowhere and starts dating someone else the next week. I have literally talked to her 2-3 times in the last 10 months.
evil
>>37036298
>trust me anon, the pain of a handful of horribly ending relationships is worse than the pain of not having one.
Just fuck off. Seriously.
>>37036031
You just need to find a nice boy to channel all your bad feeling into good feelings.
>>37036313
sorry that you think your pain is greater than everyone elses. maybe one day you'll understand what it feels like to wonder how a person is doing but know you'll never hear from them again because they couldnt care less if you died. imagine finally getting a qt gf and she leaves because you made her despise you. thats whats borderline personality disorder is like
>tfw deleted skype one day with all online friends
>tfw no more friends for over a year now
I figure that I'm just going to delete them again, why bother. I don't know why I just get this urge to quit and fuck off when I get to know people
dafuq is bpd/
>I think i might have based on what you bots have described.
>>37036377
it's basically the same thing as being bipolar
>>37036298
FUCK OFF ROASTIE YOU MAKE ME TOASTY FUCK THE FUCK OFF FUCK OFF REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
>>37036031
>I cut people off and never talk to them again.
>tfw this happened to meshe's addicted to drugs now and won't let me help
>>37036308
I haven't done that with a boyfriend but I've done it with friends. I stopped talking to my best friend and when I hang out with people, I just wish I was alone on the computer.
>>37036432
im a guy
but please continue to ree
anyway nice thread OP, even though its fairly common it does feel nice to talk about it every now and then. this disorder makes you a walking red flag to anyone who knows what its like to deal with it and god help anyone who doesnt because they will never be the same
>>37036135
This sounds very much like me. do i have bpd??
>>37036387
ah, well im not sure if I have it but all my relationships have crashed and burned, many before they could even begin. I just feel a compulsive need to avoid them,like one girl in highschool, I would just ignore her if I was walking passed her,eys straight forward like she didnt even exist, even tho I clearly wanted to talk to her and she wanted to hang out with me
>this shit went off and on for two years until we graduated
>tfw i probably fucked her self esteem
>tfw even today our facebook interaction are awkward as fuck since we still share a similar group of friends
Life is pain desu
>>37036476
It especially makes me feel hopeless when people on here talk about how we have no chance. I hope you find love and happiness.
>>37036524
i know that exact feel anon, it's possible that you do have it because i have it and i end up doing the exact same sort of shit. i will destroy a girls feelings and self esteem for the slightest reason and then feel terrible about it after it's too late
theres literally a thread with a guy crying about having no bpd gf
>>37036347
>maybe one day you'll understand what it feels like to wonder how a person is doing but know you'll never hear from them again because they couldnt care less if you died.
I already do.
You're not a special snowflake, you know.
>>37036564
i can almost guarantee that guy has no idea what it feels like. dating people with bpd has been described in retrospect as "hell"
>>37036533
> I hope you find love and happiness.
i hope you do, OP. i personally have given up on love. it's for the best. the only person who can really understand is someone else who has bpd and when two people with bpd get together it inevitably devolves into a toxic shit mess
im just opting out for the sake of my own sanity
>>37036548
yeah, and now that I think about it I do the samething I at every job I get, I make some friends on the first day and then I completly ignore them the day after, and I never get promoted or recognized because I cant seemed to make a strong connection with anyone.
>tfw this thread is making me have horrible epiphanies and reliving all my 'tistic moments
always thought I just had a case of the tism, not sure what to do with this info...
>>37036614
I'm avoiding dating for that reason. I'm still self harming and I don't want to make an innocent person miserable.
>>37036576
>I already do.
is it because of something you did to them? is it your fault? that's why it feels so awful. a mental illness you have little to no control over ends up deciding the fate of your relationships for you
>>37036576
everyone is unique on /r9k/
>>37036635
i wish you the best. i hope you find a reason to stop harming yourself before the urge to end it all becomes too strong. you're not alone
>>37036444
but why? you sucked all the energy out of them and moved on to your next prey?
>>37036031
I have BPD too :c
>>37036635
same here, I avoid relationships because I don't want to put someone through all my bullshit, ruin them and make them a terrible human like me. At I am grateful that I have atleast one good normie friend whose able to see past my all my insecurities , its still not the same as having a romantic relationship, but its better than being completly alone/
>tfw i still go long stretches of time with out talking because I dont want to bother them
fuck
>>37036703
guts is BPD in human form
I broke up with my last gf because of my BPD. Was acting out my sadistic shit on her and snapping on her constantly. Haven't pursued a relationship since, I feel like a fucking self-leper
>tfw you'll never have a gf dedicated to fixing you
>>37036031
how do you even get diagnosed with borderline i feel i absolutely have it but i dont know what to do about it
>>37036791
me too, fuck. i had a girl who was really dedicated to trying to help me but i ended up destroying our relationship. pic related all messages from her. i ended up saying horrible things to her and breaking her heart when all she wanted to do was help. this is why i give up on love
>tfw have gf you think is perfect
>starts self harming
I'm ok with this I can help.
>doesn't let me help
>ghosts me for weeks
haha why do I even try anymore
>>37036823
Send her a message.
Tell her you're sorry, and that it was not her fault.
Then move on.
She deserves closure.
>>37036031
What kind of bpd stories?
I talked to one guy for like 4 years and refused to be close with him. Literally was like my only friend for at least 3 of those years and the only form of social connection as well. I was too scared to want to go further like he obviously wanted because I was afraid to lose the friendship part. It also made me pretty angry because he was very persistent about trying to help me, coerce me into moving on from things, be with him, etc etc.
I was a complete wreck. I guess I still am, I just kind of ignore it now because I don't have anyone to talk with about it. He knew I was hurting myself, he knew I was trying to self medicate with whatever drugs I could get my hands on, he knew how much I hated being alive. I think he began to understand what a mess I was toward the end because it seemed like his entire persona shifted. Not really sure how to explain, he was just way less recognizable, more negative. I started lashing out against him for some reason. Then one day he just called it quits, which is understandable, and I haven't heard from him since then. It's like I broke him and his good spirit. I really hope he's happy now.
>>37037036
what should I say exactly word for word, I don't want to set her off
>>37037036
i already tried that and just made it ten times worse
pic related "closure"
>Read the other thread.
>A lot of my personality and relationship lines up perfectly with how people are describing BPD.
>Start researching Male BPD.
>It's eerily similar.
Guess who's booked a psych appointment for Monday because he's scared that he night be tearing his relationship apart.
she blames herself for everything so I'm really scared of setting her off, also I'm pretty certain she could care less about me but she randomly messages me weeks in between with things like I love you, I hate everyone else, you're the only good person, idk what I'd do without you, etc. fuck me
>>37037117
Holy fuck that's bad.
You are blaming her.
You are not accepting guilt.
You should type one message.
>Apologise for your actions, and what you said.
What you meant/felt doesn't matter, what you did and said matters.
>Thank her for helping you.
She put time and love into helping you, and you burned her out - she is not at fault.
>Thank her for any happy memories.
End the message on a good note, reminding yourself of any good you've done, and all the good she did.
>End the message.
Say goodbye, and don't respond to what she sends back.
>Delete the contact.
BPD people don't have souls, I hope they never reproduce.
>>37037153
You won't get her back, you don't deserve her back.
Just send her one nice message, let her know she did right, then it's over.
>>37037186
that pic is months old, but anyway i probably wouldnt have listened to you at the time. love makes people crazy, especially borderline people
>>37037212
True, but if you're still in contact, do it.
Your relationship has been nuked, just try and give it a graceful end.
>>37037204
you're right I'm just holding onto happy memories where I believed she actually loved me
>>37037231
she deleted all of her social media months ago because of me. im a lot crazier than i let on
>>37037235
If she spent time on you, helping you, then she did love you.
You have to consider that when you think about what you did to hurt her - you made it impossible for her to love you.
>>37037239
Aren't we all?
>>37037247
why can't she just tell me she doesn't love me
>>37037247
i said some pretty unforgivable, unforgettable shit so i cant blame her. i still cringe when i think about some of the horrible things i said
Would two people with BPD have a better chance at a relationship together, because they understand what the other is dealing with, or is that a recipe for disaster?
>>37037268
For a long time she probably did love you - she may even have feelings still; but you hurt her man, and sometimes there's no coming back from that.
Just set a covenant/promise to yourself to not contact her, to not try to look her up - if you can manage that then send a letter via a mutual friend promising to stay out of her life, online and offline.
>>37037298
And that's exactly why you should apologise and back out of her life.
>>37036031
How many cocks have you taken?
I am positive 90% of BPD cases are caused by promiscuity at a young age.
>>37037324
Could go either way.
If both people have had counseling and therapy to train them to control their impulses/splits then it could be a very functional relationship.
>>37037326
>apologise and back out of her life
it's all dead and buried now, i have no way of contacting her whatsoever now.
>>37037345
nice armchair psychology, faggot
>>37037362
Well, it's already decided for you then.
Would be nice of she could have her social media back though.
It'd be a good exercise in control for you as well.
>>37036031
I spent tonight sewing up the arm and abdomen of some 19 year old girl with BPD for the 4th night in the past week. Fully expect to see her again tomorrow, with a new cut ... or just my previous sutures burned out.
If you're on here, thanks for the company. I appreciate the opportunity to improve my stitching.
>>37037382
Nice bored out, gaping cunt, you whore.
>>37037386
an old friend of mine who i dont associate with anymore who also has BPD obsesses over this one girl that he used to date and stalks her via social media and has for years now
it's strange, its like we don't really ever get over people. i cant speak for everyone though
>>37036122
Bipolar are more interesting than regular (((people)))
>>37037345
Freud called
He wants his pseudoscience back
>>37037405
i'm a guy, cucklord. your assertions have no basis and therefore you should kill yourself before you have a chance to spread your malignant stupidity any further
I know a BPD girl.
I hate seeing how miserable she always feels, and knowing I can't do anything to fix it all for her.
I'd give anything to be able to make everything better for her.
>tfw BPD
>acquire first bf
>already sabotaging it with outbursts over paranoia/insecurities
I can't believe he still gives me the time of day tbqh. Should have stayed single.
>>37037528
try to enjoy it while it lasts because statistically speaking, it wont
>>37037557
God knows I'm trying. He makes me ridiculously happy, but I find a way to turn it to shit.
>>37036031
>tfw no clingy BPD gf
It's not like I'm a bad person or have no goals, why can't I ever find one?
I dated a bpd girl for 2 years. Loved the hell out of her. But it was so bad that she started at least 5 arguments a day. Got to the point where neither if us were happy, so we broke it off.
She's had an impact one all my life. She still has a part of my heart.
>>37036031
I used to know a girl. We loved each other but never engaged in a relationship because we know it wouldnt work out, we were somethin in between. We also both have BPD.
At some point we were arguing for 15 hours straight about something completly irrelevant.
These kind of things kept happening, arguing about stupid things over and over again. She kept pushing me away and i did the same, for months until we had to cut contact.
A few months later we started to talk again but we also kept hurting each other, just like before.
In the end i had to block her everywhere and refuse to see her because im pretty sure otherwise i might have kms.
BPD is hell for you and your partner, even worse if both parts of a relationship are mentally ill. It might feel good to not be alone most of the times but it just gets worse for both (atleast it did in my case, its like loving something that hurts you.
>>37037416
BPD = Borderline Personality Disorder not Bipolar
I'm not sure if I have BPD..
I took tests so many times, but never got a diagnosis. Constantly called it bullshit.
What are the tell-tale signs of bpd for males?
In terms of relationships.. It's like, the only thing I want and my partner becomes my whole entire world and their happiness is my absolute priority.
All these comments about arguments and stuff.. doesnt sound like me at all though.
>>37038227
same reallymuteblaxx
>>37038154
>its like loving something that hurts you.
so drugs
>>37038386
Not really. People who suffer from BPD are more consistent with their inconsistent behavior as well as being more long term while bipolar has breaks in-between.
>>37038296
Not sure if it's different for males. But do you constantly think about whether she's going to leave you? If when you're not with her do you get paranoid about what she's doing, like she's going to do something to hurt you, even though there's literally nothing to back them up? Do you ever start arguments out of these paranoias? Is she your moon and stars when she's on your good side, but then nothing to you when she says something that sets you off?
>>37038296
Yeah that's probably not bpd. Sounds like you're really dependent, which isn't really bad. Arguments are natural, just one sided when it's a relationship with bpd involved. That's why it's nearly impossible to come to solutions to the arguments and outbursts, so the relationship crashes and burns.
>>37038462
>more consistent with their inconsistent behavior
haha what
Go seek help, OP. It's part of BPD to see things black and white and to use words like "never" or "impossible", but that doesn't make it actually true. It may be impossible to permanently cure you, but you can learn to take control of your thoughts and actions. It's possible for you to hold a healthy relationship. You need to get rid of the self-pitying and have the humility to go ask for help.
>>37038502
And by nothing I mean you feel like you never want to talk to her ever again, she's worst person in the world. You completely shut down.
>>37038502
Think about if she's going to leave me? Yep
Paranoid when she's not around? Yep
I can build up stress from those things and end up saying some stupid shit that I instantly apologize for, I guess..
I can't say for sure about the last part..
>>37038507
So probably just incredibly dependent and gonna die alone, yeah... Shit.. :\
>>37036031
Killing yourself doesn't have to be painful, go by a large helium or carbon monoxide bottle along with a mask, down some anti-anxiety medication and go for broke.
I have recently been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, but I don't think mental health is particularly concrete and expressed similarly among a population.
I'd say your effected by a histrionic personality, and display sign of Munchausen syndrome. Can't say there's any compassion for your plight.
>>37036031
Yes. I've dated one BPD chick. She was also about as far away from qt as possible. Never again. I don't care if I can't have sex. Someone needs to be a 9/10 for BPD to ever be worth it.
you niggers are just self diagnosing special snowflake faggots
>have girlfriend with BPD
WHY CAN'T WE JUST HAVE ONE DAY TOGETHER THAT'S HAPPY ALL THE WAY
WHY CAN'T YOU BE IN A GOOD MOOD FOR LONGER THAN AN HOUR OR TWO WITHOUT AN EPISODE OF BOILING RAGE OR CRUSHING DESPAIR
>>37038556
>I can't say for sure about the last part..
I wrote >>37038536 as an elaboration on the last part. I've never talked to people ever again after they've said one thing wrong. Is that something you think you'd do?
>>37038556
Maybe you're just a paranoid person? If you know to apologize and push all the fear away when things are good, that's a good sign. It's way better than getting paranoid, getting angry, and blocking her out. I'm not a doctor though.
>dependent and gonna die alone
What makes you think that?
>>37038603
i bet you have a legitimate autism diagnosis
i-ilona u here? u were the sweetest girl with BPD tbx.
>>37037955
you aren't pathetic enough
sad but true
>>37038625
oh, sorry. I don't think so, unless it was something really bad..
dying alone because i'm worthless and have nothing to offer other than dedication
>>37038630
Maybe. I had some pretty bad issues with breakups.. Was way too trusting and got hurt in really terrible ways.
I don't have bpd, but I kind of do some things people with this condition does on daily basis, like I'm the best at making enemies out of people, I especially say/do things that I know are irritating/hurteful to others to my own amusement, just to see them angry...
I also back off, even make other dislikes me when someone's trying to be more intimate with me. That's a bit messed-up since I'm not so fond of being such a loner.
>>37036031
I dated a BPD chick what a dump of an entire year and a half. The good though is she ended up blowing her brains out to spite me lol, she always threatend suicide and I was sick of it she was fighting and being crazy I just got off work and was eating taco bell and I tolled her to go fucking do it and she did, downside my bedroom in the apartment was a mess and it took me a few months to get my gun back I'm glad shes dead. The only thing these type of women are good for is sex
>>37036031
>I have anxiety
>I do crazy things for attention
Uhm... something doesn't add up
>baiting my ex
Something definitely doesn't add up
>>37038723
>Was way too trusting and got hurt in really terrible ways
Right in the feelers. You're too innocent for this thread anon.
>>37036031
When I was younger I would target women like you, you guys are so easy to get in bed lol and manipulate I would never date one just sex and get you to buy me things was fun times
>>37038737
Dont date crazy anon you can fuck them though
>>37038760
Its called ape shit crazy M8, I use to be security guard in a hospital with 3 mental wards and BPD are some of the most monsterious people you will ever meet.
Being a male with BPD is so much worse.
>>37036031
Well you can post tits at least what have you got to lose?
>>37038648
What the hell are you talking about.
Here, have a (You)
>>37036031
I'm a guy with BPD. I try to numb myself with weed and alcohol, sometimes it works, other times it amplifies it. I cycle between spontaneously interacting with strangers on the internet and in public and isolating myself. In my interactions I am but an expressive reciprocal. I don't probe into others lives, instead every conversation becomes a questionnaire as my responses swing between
despair, rage and ecstasy. Never stable enough to feel calm, apathetic or happy, even when I'm drunk and high. My brains not wired for this world.
I don't have any words to help you I just wanted you to know you weren't alone. At least you had a bf once. I never had a gf. I hope you find a way to save yourself.
BPD in girls - daddy issues
BPD in boys - mommy issues
?
Why do the people talking about their bad relationship experiences with BPD always play along with it?
>you're looking at other women!
yes
>you're cheating on me!
no
>I'm gonna kill myself!
ok
If your response is "you can't do that when you love them!", your autism levels are not high enough to be posting on this Peruvian folk dancing forum
>>37039085
>BPD in girls
11/10 seductive beautiful goddesses
>BPD in boys
whiny retarded little fags
>>37039141
this so much
i've yet to see an ugly BPD girl
is it because their fathers diddle with their punanis cos they're so qt when they're young?
>>37036548
>>37036576
One could argue that having one feel contempt and being spiteful against you is better than having no one to feel any affect by you. At least you were once deemed worthy to care about, anons that have never been cared for feel broken on an entirely different level than you. You just have to deal with regret, but it is possible for you to analyze your past experience and improve. Anons who have always been alone have less and less hope each day, forcing them to delude themselves into believing they can fit in with society when it may very well be that they can't. Some people live in and die in areas where its simply impossible for them to fit in or be valued based on differences in personalities and values.
>male, diagnosed borderline at 21
>rudderless sperg on top of it, shut-in weeb
>begin self-improvement throughout the course of a year, lose weight etc.
>self-improvement only serves to highlight just how irreparable my mental state is and how terrible my personality was all the years previous
>stuck between the guilt of not contributing to society meaningfully/never properly connecting with people and having my motivation and willpower sapped from me in an instant over literally fucking nothing
I'm like one of those sliding tile puzzles, trying to put myself together from scratch but always missing a piece. I wish I was a fucking girl with BPD. At least you females are showered with affection whenever you want it. Sure it's never enough, but it's fucking something. Being a robot male with BPD is slow fucking torture.
I know you asked for women (lel this is /r9k/) but I do all those things too. Cutting, hardcore drinking and drug abuse, I've gone on Facebook drunk as fuck and told my friends/possible girlfriends that I hate them and I'd murder them for even talking to me. I punch holes in my wall and try and fight my sister's bf constantly. I'm pretty sure I'm starting to hate everyone and I'm only holding out hope I can find someone as fucked up as me and we can maybe have a semi-healthy relationship. That's probably never going to happen though. Its something that is kinda of treatable at least. I don't want to get better though, I'd rather be borderline psychopathic meth head with nobody than be a SSRI drugged out zombie that people say "he's nice, but he's quiet" and try and do normie shit with me out of pity.
>tfw a qt BPD yandere waifu will never hit on you and have sex with you while she's hurting you in qt ways
how do i get the nerdy bpd mommy gf
>>37036364
You need a friend to stick by you. Check up on you, etc. Despite what you feel, these people care about you.
Fuck off, Lin.
>>37039297
You weren't beaten properly growing up. You sound like an entitled brat, typical piece of shit that grew up on the internet being an abnoxious little retard. I'd slap the shit out of you. Same goes for every other cretin like you in this thread and on this site.
>>37036077
They get too ugly to be able to get away with it.
>>37036298
Its your fault. I had that too and fixed it. You could regain her respect.
>>37037412
Your friend sounds like me. Jesus Christ, at least I stopped and got off the Jewbook finally.
>bpd girl
>didn't know what that was for the longest time, just thought i was depressed and crazy
>had some friends in hs but hid from them and everyone else that i was constantly suicidal/depressed/self harming
>became the friend that everyone vented to
>parents found out i was self harming bc i used to rip off my toenails
>take me to a therapist, etc
>mom starts to resent me because she thinks my mental illness made me selfish
>meanwhile a friend of mine has been venting to me about being a schizoid
>constantly threatens suicide, takes pictures of his self harming, even sent me a pic of a noose he made
>tells me he likes me
>scared to reject him bc of suicide threats
>go out with him for almost a year
>pressures me into sex, etc. (he was my first bf at 18)
>finally get enough courage to break it off when i graduate hs
>go to college
>try to be normal and have friends
>end up attempting a few weeks in
>parents send me to residential facility for ~6 weeks
>they put me on lithium and some other shit
>finally get diagnosed with bpd
>get back, go to dbt groups and such
>go back to school
>meet a guy i like
>he has ocd, but really kind and understanding
>we've been dating for two years
>last night
>get mad over something small
>scream at him
>feel terrible immediately
i constantly feel like i'm finally getting better and then i pull this shit and hurt him. i constantly worry that i'm pressuring him to be in a situation like my ex did to me. i love him so much and i don't deserve how supportive he is.
Lt Dan ice cream
>>37039515
The fuck is your problem?
Does normie shitposting on a Ukrainian underwater basket weaving forum fill some sort of hole?
>>37037204
Kill yourself you whiteknighting faggot.
Was talking to a BPD girl I used to be really into last night. I cut her off months ago and decided to let her come over after receiving constant texts from her. She really does seem to care about me, she was apologizing for shit, telling me how much she misses me and needs me in her life and we were just talking about all the good times we had. I don't know what I'm doing, I know I should have continued ignoring her but at the same time it was kinda nice seeing her. Very confused
>>37037382
Did he hit a nerve :D
>>37036031
I have BPD. I'm not sure why. But I really wish I didn't have it. It makes life hard.
I use to have a cutting problem when I was 15 and at the time I was dating an abusive guy who encouraged the cutting. I would cheat and lie to this guy all the time. We dated for about 3 years until I moved on to someone else.
He helped me stop cutting but lately I've picked it up again. Mainly because he has cheated on me and yells at me a lot.
I have attempted suicide when I was a teenager but I am too much of a pussy to hurt my family like that.
All I do now is lay in bed and listen to music. I feel too depressed to do anything unless I get a jolt of energy to finally work on my life.
I lost all of my friends because my paranoia and overthinking. Also my anger.
I want to see a therapist but I don't know how and I don't want to sometimes.
>>37040339
>I would cheat and lie to this guy all the time
The people you've been with are complete trash, but you're not much better yourself
>>37040026
If he loves you then he'll forgive you. I went to residential too but I didn't find it to be helpful in the long run.
>>37040398
most BPD are complete gutter trash, hardly suprising
>>37040398
I'm not good at all.
I do a lot of bad stuff too. Like sometimes I manipulate men and make them feel happy then just never speak to them again.
I kinda like watching them post about how shitty they feel without me. I at least warn them before hand that I'm not a good person.
>No honey! You just think that because people mistreat you! :)
lol..
I also sometimes make money off them.
>>37040026
You don't deserve him, and nobody deserves to be stuck with somebody like you. My sympathies for your condition, but please let this guy go and join a nunnery.
>>37040478
What a pathetic specimen you are.
>>37040478
Wanna be friends? I'm the same way.
>>37040255
This isn't /b/ you fucking tryhard.
>>37040478
>I do a lot of bad stuff too. Like sometimes I manipulate men and make them feel happy then just never speak to them again.
>I kinda like watching them post about how shitty they feel without me. I at least warn them before hand that I'm not a good person.
Can you do this to me?
>>37040554
Sure, I love your attention.
>>37040517
Yes.
>>37040434
It was only helpful to me because i hated it so much I wanted to do everything i could to never go back. And the meds they put me on are working i think
>>37040566
>Sure, I love your attention.
Okay, what's your Discord?
>>37036031
I did have suicidal thoughts but then I had a sincere convosation about them with a friend and I mean they didn't stop but now I know I have to keep grinding my teeth and getting though it.
>>37040478
That's not quite the same thing. Abusing whiteknighting retards, in particular if you're not even hiding your intentions much, isn't particularly condemnable, it's their own fault for being idiots.
Cheating on your actual boyfriend, lying to them, being a slut, that's trashy behavior.
>>37040566
I made a discord for my BPD buddies
/g8t9Zv
>>37039515
So badass
>>37040589
Ghost#0613
>>37040620
Well, I cheated on my~ex boyfriend because he was abusive and wouldn't give me emotional love(?)
I just wanted to be happy.
>>37040672
You don't deserve happiness, and you won't get it.
>>37039515
>t. borderline who can't stand looking in the mirror
>>37040672
>now making up excuses and defending herself when confronted, after having previously stated and admitted that she enjoys abusing people
kek thats bpd alright
>>37040672
>I just wanted to be happy.
Yeah, you and everyone else.
Aside from still being a slut either way,
>break up
>fuck other people
that's the order to it.
>>37039160
I think so desu. My ex was super sexy and had all the signs of BPD now that I think about it. Her dad didn't fuck her but she got pregnant at 16 and he beat the shit out of her and she miscarried. She was also raped by an uncle
>>37040736
I tried to leave him for 2 ish years.
He would threaten to kill me and his family members if I did. Also acted out into hurting mom/brother if I said I wanted to break up.
>>37040758
You should've killed him, or at least disabled him.
can a bpd femanon PLS be my gee eff
>>37040754
fucking hell where do these subhumans live
>>37040788
They're everywhere. She ended up cheating on me getting pregnant again at 18 lol. She wanted me to get her pregnant but there was no way I was getting tied to that crazy bitch for the rest of my life. What's hilarious is if she's as good a mom as she is a person she's just gonna end up with another dead baby
>>37036031
>I cut people off and never talk to them again.
This falls into the 'end yourself' category. Nothing else is that bad, but there's nothing I hate more than a ghoster.
I have depression but i dont look at it like a condition. This society is like a cage and im just a sad bear at a zoo. Few things make me happy and social interactions bore me most of the time. I like walking in the forest.
>>37036135
Bipolar and Borderline Personality Disorder women worry me. Are they evil sociopathic bitches or are they just depressive and needy? The former is what scares me while the latter isn't too bad.
>>37036031
BPD women.
This is what they do. Imagine yourself finding a damsel in distress on the side of the road, her cars battery is dead and it needs a jump. You pull over to help her out. You attach your battery to hers. She keeps you around long enough to sap all juice out of your battery, then proceeds to drive off away from you. Leaving you now stranded, waiting for someone to come and rescue you or dying alone after you've been discarded.
That damsel in distress is now doing it again to another poor individual. The cycle repeats.
BPD women are vampires.
95% of "bpd" sufferers see fictitious disorder and think, hey, I'm a fucking liar, I have that disorder, let me blog about it now.
>>37036031
I managed to get rid of my BPD through pure hatred of my psychiatrist
Didn't have any symptoms for almost a year
>>37036814
You talk to doctors and or therapists
>>37036031
People with BPD can care about others, but only a tiny fraction of how much they care about their own feelings. The being remorseful of hurting others and such is so thoroughly soaked in a lense of combined self-loathing and self-pity, with self-pity being the center course in the feel cocktail.
Ultimately even the things that are about others are mostly about you to you.
>>37042704
They're like drug addicts, but instead of drugs its all about satisfying their feelings. They don't necessarily want to hurt, that is, they're not necessarily evil, but they'll do anything for their feelings and other people's feelings and misery are ultimately at best only a thing for them to feel miserable about having caused, self-masturbating in self-pity over how sorry they feel (for themselves) for "not being able" to avoid hurting other people.
I mean, they could direct energy and feeling towards not hurting other people, but no, no they won't. They'll just feel sorry for themselves like OP. They truly are a garbage neurotype and they probably should either kill themselves or severely limit the nature of their relationships to others so that they don't end up having anything serious to fuck up.
>>37036031
Hello!
I'm your male counterpart!
The avoidant!
I too share co-morbidity with bipolar and depression.
If someone does something to hurt or annoy me, I'll steer clear of them, and go out of my way to avoid them.
If I'm anxious, I'll avoid you.
If I feel there's pressure on me, I'll avoid you.
If you make demands on me, I'll avoid you.
If our relationship progresses to the point where I have to make myself vunerable to you, I'll avoid you.
I also have problems with drug addiction.
If I dread socially interacting with people at work, I'll find a way to get out of work.
I'll lie to make myself seem better than I really am, because I fear criticism.
I'm really just an overall piece of shit.
The only place we differ, is you don't want to be alone, I do.
>talk out loud because I can't think a single thought in my head
>have discussions from multiple perspectives on what someone "might" say
>Disillusions of grandeur
>Flights of ideas
>Cut people off in conversations
>Go off on hour long tangents about fucking nothing,
>Write shit on paper and stick the walls
>Bringe shop for useless shit
>Think down to the last detail on how I would do something and carry it out
>Always happy, nothing can bring me down
>Dont take social ques and never even register to regret
>Cycle between self regret and not giving a fuck multiple times a day.
>Laugh for no reason and in complete blissful laughter
>Hyper focus on projects
>Hyper Sexuality
>This lasts for weeks on end
After going through pills and a physicist, I've stopped taking the pills to go back to my old habits as above. It's such a rush, I love it.
It leaves me conflicted.
>>37040672
>The answer to my boyfriend being "abusive" is to stay with him but cheat on him, not leaving him.
Kill yourself, unironically.
>>37039377
Disgusting. Trash.
>>37037345
It's the other way around.
>>37043462
>Disgusting. Trash.
Why is it disgusting? I don't understand.
I lost my virginity to a qt slav girl with bpd. The experience has left me conflicted regarding her. She could switch from being sweet to cruel in a moment and it really caught me off guard
I had 2 (1.5 I guess) BPD gfs. My current GF is not BPD. She is super nice, sweet. We never fight. She is, however, unassertive emotionally and insecure, despite my great efforts to get her to toughen up and express herself, at least when she's interacting with me.
I miss my BPD gfs, even the pain of that came alongside their at times awful behavior. I miss interpersonal crisis. I miss how intensely they felt.
One of them was my first gf and she was older than me and shaped me a lot. I wonder if im fucked now and she set "the standard" that I need. A standard I know only fucks me over in the end and shits on me emotionally.
Should I just kill myself? My current gf deserves better than me but she likes almost no other people as friends let alone romantically. On the one hand I feel like im wasting her time and will leave her or kill myself eventually. On the other hand I feel like she really doesn't have any other options anyway and if I leave her she might kill herself.
It's hard for me to connect with her without really trying because she isn't as emotionally intense as my exes and thus she doesn't draw me into her heart with her sheer presence and body language. She is so muted in comparison.
I think im fucked. She knows this all to some extent too even though I never put it in these words and she encourages me to get a side-gf that can fill that void and make me happier, which kind of worked in a period where we actually tried that. Me and main gf were happier too, she liked how it changed me emotionally and she too became more emotional and her libido increased as well. She also liked the side-gf and thought she was adorable. Problem was, I broke it off with side-gf because I couldn't trust her to be honest with me and she generally didn't know what she wanted and was like a fucking jojo, like ditching me for some other guy then a week later crying to me because she loved me and not the other guy and then trying to re-attach. Of course, she had BPD, so.
I'm a girl with BPD and I can't keep any friendships I make. People message me and I just don't reply, they get mad and then I realise how lonely I've made myself. After I randomly dumped my ex, we talked a bit and she said she'd support me dating someone else. I'm such a fuck up, I blocked her a day later. What the fuck is wrong with me?
Femanons with BPD, how do you find your bfs? I desperately want a BPD gf, but don't know the signs.
>>37043980
>What is wrong with me?
>I'm a girl with BPD.
Get help, you can control it, you can make your life better, you can be a better person.
>>37043784
>Craving the emotional intensity.
I feel that man.
I'm passionate as hell with my wife, I love taking her out to dinner and cuddling the night away, I want to pick her up when I see her when I get home.
But she's just way too chill, she's not passionate with me anymore, I want to just feel wanted like I did with my ex.
I know its stupid, and I know I really don't want a partner with BPD again, but I need that emotional intensity and intimacy again.
>>37043210
I've never heard a description more accurate of myself.
Where the fuck do I go get tested?
>>37044718
I know this feel, bro.
I need the intensity. I want to feel someone loves me back as much or more than I do. I want someone to be excited.
I don't think I'll ever have it again.
>tfw 36 years old now
>it's too late
>every girl on 4chan is some 17 year old faggot
>everyone I meet my own age can't really communicate with me the way I want
>>37045479
>36
>Too old for daddy issues BPD 17 year olds.
You have much to learn.
If you are remotely in shape and don't work a dead end job, you're laughing.
>>37043199
So are they the mean, bitchy type that tends to cheat on you and divorce rape you? Is it unfixable? If so, I'll keep steering clear of them. But OP sounds more miserable than mean so I'm confused. I don't mean intentionally mean, but that they act mean. I don't care if they intend it or not.
It gets a little bit easier as you get older if you're aware of what you're like. I really feel bad for all the people I've hurt and lied to and caused drama for with my BPD shit. I'm getting better at not having such extreme reactions and tantrums and using my emotions to manipulate people. If you do care and do want to stop you can. You can stop burning bridges.
>>37036031
>girl from /r9k/ wants to add me on skype
>talk about boring shit and how we're neets
>from minute 1 she tells me how I'm gonna ghost her
>tells me she has bpd, I tell her I used to have some anger issues and auditory hallucinations as a kid
>has a lot of anxiety and paranoia, I'm usually able to talk some sense into her when she's crying and being paranoid
>start to like her but she requires a lot of effort to put up with, I'm convinced she doesn't like me and she's just crying and throwing fits all the time
>tell her I've had enough and ghost her
>adds me from another acc, apologizes for throwing fit
>ghosts me two days later for some retarded reason then adds me back
>tell her I like her but I'm more than ok with being alone and I know she doesn't like me
>says she does like me and thinks about me all the time
>at this time I'm convinced she's catfishing me somehow
>we skype 5 hours a day usually, she always calls me during the day
>have another few ghosting episodes somewhere along the line
>starts referring to me as her bf
>starts talking about sexual stuff
>wants me to visit her
>says she wants to be with me really badly
>have some lewd talks with her and ask for nudes
>receive nudes
>becomes more and more affectionate, still cries a lot and is pretty depressed but doesn't accuse me of shit anymore
>mostly feels like a normal girl
>appreciates me for some reason and thinks I'm smart and cool even though I'm a neet loser
>is very submissive and says she wants me to be with her forever
>haven't actually met ever
Idk robots this seems pretty comfy. She's not the type to get violent or do straight up evil things, and as a fellow mentally ill retard I can mostly understand her episodes. And for that she's really thankful and says I'm "really good for her"
>>37046827
she's getting a bunch of dick on the side and you are her tampon / e-bf, screencap this post and look back to it once you find out for yourself.
>>37036031
>tfw either bpd or apd
>doctor thought i was bpd at first and told me i was
>then after opening up a bit more she thinks it could be apd
>going to psychologist as per the doctor for confirmation
people here think i'm bpd but i hope i'm not, i'm scared ;_;
>>37045678
No, I'm too old to WANT a 17 year old who's going to break my heart in a year.
>>37047154
Is APD Avoidant or Antisocial?
the symptoms for almost everything in cluster B are just what i thought were my personality traits.
>>37048092
you seem nice and normal though
>>37046827
How long since you've been talking to her? If it's less than 3 months then you have a world of hurt to still come
>>37036135
I think everybody hates me too but steps
Why are there no stpd anons
>>37036031
Huh, i guess I may have BPS as well.
It started in elementary school. I had a best friend, but after three years I started to see the worst in him. He was an actual twat, though, so maybe it was understendable when I totally cut him off when I went to another middle school. I lost contact with my other friends then as well, though. And I live in a small city.
In middle school, I found myself another best friend. A funny guy. And then, he introduced me to another guy, similarly a nerd. It was fine in middle school, I was sure that we'll keep being friends, although our relationship was a bit turbulent, especially between my two buddies. They argued often. We had a bunch of other friends as well, but we were the core group.
Well guess what happened in high school? I've lost both of them and it's entirely my fault.
The funny friend went to the same high school as me; it shares a building with our middle school. The nerdy one went to another, but he lives near our school, so we kept hanging out.
In my new class, I met a girl. She was Ok and it turned out that she was a bit of a nerd too, so I invited her to our teamspeak. I should mention that most guys think that she's pretty hot, but I never felt the same way. I firmly established at the beggining of our friendship that she's not my type.
Now get this: very quickly, the funny friend falls in love with this chick. He's being very beta about it, meanwhile the tension between him and the other friend grows. Guess what I did?
Decided to take revenge on the funny guy for some petty shit from the past. I also couldn't stand a thought of him getting a girlfriend before me. So I pretty much turned this chick against him, a few other people as well, and laughed at him with the nerdy friend. To be fair, he made it easy and some people didn't even need our help to start disliking him in high school. But I was extra fucking bad, because I would rebuild his trust multiple times abd shatter it later, for shits.
>>37049938
Part 2
Needless to say, we completely stopped talking in like a middle of the 1st class. Funniest thing is, he still despises the other friend more and is somewhat friendly towards me. But still, our relationship can never be what it was. I had episodes when I would try to rebuild it, but it always ended up being awkward, plus i had to kind of keep it a secret from the other friend.
Oh, abd that feud essentially destroyed our whole, bigger group of nerdy friends.
OK then. We're halfway through year one of high school. I now have that one nerdy friend and that chick from my class. We hang out a lot and have a good time. She's not afraid of physical humour, so even though i still see her flaws etc, I kind of start seeing her as attractive. A minor thing, though. I start to think that she's into me - that's the important part.
So I start to compete with my other friend. He literally never picked that up, btw. In the end, in february I give up. It bored me, It fucked with my productiveness, and I felt like I was spending too much time with them. I hate spending a lot of time with others. And again, the girl wasn't pretty for me, i knew it, but she acted and dressed like, well, a bit of a slut and it was turning me on. I felt that it was below me and I kind of cut them off for a few weeks. We were still hanging out online, but not as often.
And then the girl dropped the news that she has a boyfriend. It infuriated me, because she didn't want to tell me who it was. And most importantly, I felt cheated. I did take pleasure in a though that, as I presumed, she was into me. And the it turned out she wasn't!
In most autistic episode to date, i opened up to her and did some weird shit(not super weird though). Not the point though.
My friend was concerned that she'll stop hanging out with us. He asked me to find out who was her boyfriend.
>>37036031
My ex was a girl with bpd.
McTaggart, you were a waste of my fucking time.
>>37049970
Part 3
Fast forward to a month later. We finally meet in my friend's home. And after like 15 minutes they told me that they were together.
I almost puked. It was like a stab in the back. Not only did they both lie to me about they relationship, but that cunt has chosen him over me? HIM?
I should mention, that this guy is a disgusting, fat slob. Ugly af, mostly boring and stinks. I fucking had to wash the blanket that I have on the sofa every time he visited my house because after his visit it fucking reeked.
My pride has never been hurt that bad.
If you were reading carefully, you may remeber that I told the girl that I don't find her attractive and I want us to be friends. But that didn't stop my fucked brain from thinking that she would ignore it and fell in love with me.
Long story short, this relationship continued for another year, had its ups and downs. I've finally cut them off a month ago, we don't talk anymore. The funny thing is that they still think I'm just so busy and don't have time to hang out. Especially the nerdy friend, who have told me multiple times that I'm his only and best friend. They don't know that I hate them.
>>37050018
Part 4 Final
So, I'm finishing my 2nd year of high school and have 0 friends (although I have colleagues and like 3 good mates, but those aren't very deep relationships).
But I don't really feel bad about this. Rather embarassed.
I also don't feel any guilt for essentially breaking my former friend's psyche by cockblocking him for shits and giggles(for all he knows) and generally backstabbing him multiple times. Funnily enough, he still blames most of this stuff on the nerdy guy and as I mentioned is somewhat friendly.
I'm actually kind of proud of all the machiavellan shit I pulled last year.
One thing bothers me now. I need to get laid before I turn 18 in november. I'm afraid that with my autism levels, that will be hard. But whatever. I'll figure something out.
In the end, I am finally free. I can focus on work and self impovement. I feel good when I'm alone. I just need others for work and sex.
The funny thing is, probably in a week I'll feel very bad about this. And then it'll change. Again and again.
Needed to get it off my chest. Sorry for a long post.
>>37043225
Holy shit, it's me in a nutshell
>>37047354
I'm the BPD daddy issues girl dating a much older robot. It's been a few years, we're still going strong. He's my first bf too. We're not all heartbreakers anon.
>Had gf with BPD when I was 16
> Constantly tried to push me away but I was stubborn
> She eventually stopped trying to get me to leave her, said how great I was for sticking with her
> Things are perfect for a little while
> Eventually she gets really angry one day and breaks up with me, doesn't respond to any of my messages, stops all contact
> Found out she committed suicide a week later
> Absolutely heartbroken
BPD is a hell of a thing. My heart goes out to anyone suffering with it
I'm a man with BPD and im a merciless warrior who kills for fun and I lead an insane life, so far wreaking havok and chaos across four continents and I have no intention to stop until death itself challenges me in combat
>>37044597
I found him on r9k. We had the same lewd interests and he was polite. Still afraid he's going to drop me like a hot potato one day.
>>37043980
You probably see the worst in people. At least that happens for me.
You should talk to someone that has the same problem. They should understand.
>>37050052
UNDERAGE
BANNED
GET OFF MY BOARD
>>37036031
im a girl with major autism.
>be op
>>37050163
I remember you posting this story in another BPD thread. God bless you, anon.
>>37040566
Maybe you're not bipolar but just sadistic? I mean, it's not a bad thing. I am a sadist for example.
>>37050252
How did you meet him though? What was the thread topic?
>>37050790
It was some femanon general thread about why femanons are so fucked up sexually and daddy issues. Trust me though, you don't want a BPD gf.
>>37051079
I definitely do, anon. I'm ready for the emotional instability. I want to genuinely help someone in that situation.
Why would I not want one? I know what I'm getting into.
>>37051114
You sound like him. I pick fights with him on a weekly over my paranoias and insecurities. I frequently have to get him to reassure me that he's not going to leave me. I've almost ghosted him a few times and still think about it constantly, but I never go through with it because I like him that much. Got very close to doing it the last time I got upset though. When he does something that upsets me I feel like I never want to talk to him ever again. The rest of the time he makes me ridiculously happy.
>>37051481
That's great to hear.
I've heard stories of girls with BPD getting into fights over problems like that, so I've already planned out how to deal with it. I'm always going to have a list of her insecurities and such on me, and make sure to adress them daily, or more, if need be. When a new one comes up, I'll add it to the list and adress that too. I'll make communication key to the relationship, and therefore keep arguments to a minimum. I'm extremely ready for this, femanon. I just need to find a BPD girl to be my gf now.
>>37051647
You sound like you're going to be a good bf for a BPD girl anon. My bf has gotten better at shutting me down whenever I start getting insecure or paranoid. It's usually over other women or not bring good enough. I still feel terrible that he has to learn to in the first place. Why do you want a BPD gf so badly though? It would be much less trouble for you if you didn't have to do all that.
>>37051789
Why do you BPD whores ghost? I'll never forgive my ex for treating me like shit for no damn reason
>>37051789
I like their clingyness. I understand that not all are clingy, but it is rather common in them, from what I've studied. I'm young- 18- and I want to make great memories throughout my life with someone. I feel like someone who will cling to me and love me to such an extent is ideal for my plans in life.
But it's not for a selfish reason like that entirely. I want to help one of these girls out. I want her to feel welcome in this world. I want her to stop feeling so insecure all the time, and cease all her worries. I want her to feel like she has a normal or even a great life. I want to see her rise to her potential and view the world with a smile.
I know my reasons are corny, and maybe sounds too ideal, but I think with enough effort it can happen. I'm a very dedicated person when it comes to others, and I want to make her dreams come true.
>>37036031
Girls with BPDs are usually just illogical stuckup cunts. Kill yourself before it's too late, desu
>>37051844
I'm constantly paranoid that he's going to abandon me, and my 'logic' is that if I leave him first then I can't get hurt. I know it's awful, and I'm getting better at not doing it. I'm sorry that happened to you anon. We're not good people.
>>37051902
He is the only person that makes me feel clingy. It's strange to me. I feel like you're definitely idealising BPD too much, have you ever dealt with someone who has a mental illness? It's going to be years and years of dealing with irrational fears of abandonment and outbursts. Even then you can't get rid of them completely. You can't save everyone anon. It wouldn't be too far fetched to guess that you'd become resentful of the emotional roller coaster after a while. Hats off to you for being so considerate though. Good luck finding a gf.
>>37051902
Also the thing about that extreme love is that it comes with extreme hate. And when that comes there might not be anything that you can say or do to get her back.
>>37052110
All my life, I've had friends and girlfriends with different mental illnesses. It's not that I idealize them too much, but I suppose I underestimate the negatives at this point, or I've gotten too used to them. I do understand that negatives exist though, perhaps I'm just very confident about changing them around.
I'm used to emotional rollercoasters at this point: it's all my life has really been. I know I can't save everyone, but I do know for a fact that I can save at least one person, and do so to the best of my ability.
>>37052158
>Also the thing about that extreme love is that it comes with extreme hate. And when that comes there might not be anything that you can say or do to get her back.
this. she'll have intense love for you and after a couple months she'll hop on the next dick. its hilarious some of you actually want to go through this
>>37036031
My dad had BPD and killed himself. I wish we could have convinced him that we loved him.
>>37036031
>Girls with BPD will NEVER be happy or live a normal life.
Neither will psychopaths, bipolars, schizophrenics. But oh look. How many fucking threads to we get by people in those categories BEGGING for fucking attention? How many threads to get by people in diagnosed with other personality disorders where they're fucking whining and crying over themselves? Even fucking threads about depression and anxiety are, AT BEST, equal in amount to these fucking BPD threads.
BPD's are fucking toddlers. Begging for attention from everything and everyone and crying when it doesn't go their way.
After experiencing one of you cunts first hand, I literally think it would be better off to have all BPD's committed to a psych ward permanently. They are among the least probable to seek, let alone commit to, let alone go through with, let alone keep up with, therapy.
>>37040305
no, actually. i've got BPD and ive had sex with 2 girls. nice try though
I don't have a disorder but the experiences that people with BPD have always resonate with me because I'm clingy, distant, impulsive, and constantly want to hurt myself and/or others.
>>37051647
You are so fucking naive about BPD it transcends past hilarity and into pity. I pity you so much for being willing to date a BPD, and far moreso for thinking you can contrive some sort of gameplan for doing so. How fucking retarded do you have to be to openly acknowledge the girl you want to date is so fucked up you need a gameplan, but can't recognize that means you shouldn't date her in the first place?
>I'm always going to have a list of her insecurities and such on me, and make sure to adress them daily, or more, if need be.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA
Oh I'm laffing m8, I'm fucking laffin. When you're split white and she views you as some immortal protector, sure, she'll buy into these stupid comments. When she starts to split you black, she'll view you as putting her down, shaming her, not being good enough, thinking she needs to be 'fixed', and completely overnight change her view on you.
>I'll make communication key to the relationship, and therefore keep arguments to a minimum.
L M A O
You LITERALLY have no idea what you're talking about. You LITERALLY are fucking stupid. This is like an 80 year old physicist reading a post by a 13 year old stating, "I'll prove F=MA wrong, therefore changing the laws of physics." You hare so far out of your realm.
SS this post and make it your wallpaper so you're reminded of how much of a naive dumbass you were
>>37036031
youre trying indica not sativa, thats y
>>37036387
Except bipolars are objectively worse people to deal with
>>37052593
Sounds like you have some pent-up anger, anon. I'm glad you can let it out here. It seems you're "split black" right now, yourself.
See, it's always good to visualize your goal, before you achieve it. So yes, a "gameplan" is a good idea. I'm what people here call a "cyborg," so it's only expected for me to overthink something like this.
I'm not saying you're right or wrong in your judgement, but perhaps the best course of action for me here is to find out for myself. We learn from our own experiences after all, not others'. Besides, don't expect me to take you seriously when all you can really do in your post is tell me I'm wrong without any of your own experience and examples to call upon.
>>37052786
Not that anon but you're actually so, so wrong about that entire post earlier.
Good luck for trying though.
>>37052680
not necessarily, theyre just super sensitive. if youre a caring person you should be able to have fun with them, because they want to be caring too. if youre a rough person then i can see how fights can stem out. also when theyre really happy their huge ass smiles really do rub off.
>>37052786
>Sounds like you have some pent-up anger, anon.
No shit, I dated a BPD you stupid fuck.
Your entire posts reek of naivety. Actually, you sound like you have NPD traits, heavily demonstrated by 1) your abnormal attraction to BPD's simply for the sake of being BPD, and 2) your assertions you have a "plan" to control their issues, based on NOTHING other than your own self-delusions. Notice how you attack my post for "not relaying your own experience", yet you provide a "plan" with absolutely zero rational basis for how/should/could it work?
You have done seemingly zero research into this disorder or how it plays out in relationships. If you had actually tried, even the tiniest, ittiest bit possible, you would have encountered an inordinate amount of sentiments similar to my own to your post.
The fact you believe you have a secret magic plan at your disposal to overcome a mental disorder on par with the likes of schizophrenia, as well as even seriously considering going through with attempting it, should surely make you think, "Woah. What the fuck am I doing? What's wrong with me?"
If not, maybe you should develop a plan for yourself instead
>>37036031
Tbh after my friend had his BPD gf try to manipulate him into suicide, Im of the opinion that all of your kind should be guillotined after diagnosis
>>37053541
I strongly believe people with serious personality disorders shouldn't be able to roam freely until they've done extensive rehab. Along the lines of the early 1900's mental institutions.
Too many people with diagnosed disorders can walk freely after a week or two of these institutions... when it takes _years_ of willing therapy/meds to truly make a change
>>37036347
If you can't be thankful for having made a gf and look at the bright of things you don't deserve her.
>>37051902
>its not all about me
>I also want to save some girls life because im so happy and normal :)
bpd gf and narcissism bf will not work out dum dum