Have you been in a long distance relationship? Do they ever work? Did you find your special somebody? Did you get ghosted and cry NEET tears into your pillow? Tell /r9k/ your stories.
Don't work.
You will be cucked.
>>36888452
It sucks. Don't do it. LDR is only for super lonely virgins who never had anyone irl. It never works and it's practically equal to having a practice gf without the sex and real social interaction
>>36888469
Also this is true too. Never do long distance relationships
Only do a LDR if you ACTUALLY love the person you are in a relationship with, trust them and have some forseeable end to the 'distance' ie you will be moving in together eventually, and once you do you wont be able to LDR anymore unless its a necessity
LDRs can work and do work when both partners put in the effort and love each other. Usually the female stops putting in effort and that's why LDRs have such a high failure rate. I'm in one right now with a girl I met on 4chan and some days it feels like she loves me and other days she's pretty distant. I don't know how to feel sometimes but it's much better than being alone.
>>36888452
Had something like that, she gave up pretty quickly but we stayed "friends with benefits", although she had a bf and I got cucked.
That fucking whore is enjoying 30yo man's fat cock now (new bf) and she's 21. Stopped talking to her a while ago because she kept telling me how big his cock is and how great it feels in her tight pussy.
Would you enjoy something like this?
Most of the online relationship stories I heard and/or witnessed ended up with the girl breaking up.
I kinda had one for a year as a teenager, we even met occasionally but in the end it didn't work out. Still it was nice.
The ldr i observed was the biggest dumpster fire in the history of modern interpersonal relations. She was a trasj bag wrapped in red flags (cutter, heavily borderline, was at nuthouse for suicide attempt, substance abuser, family a mess, friendless shut in, overly demanding, worse still she wasn't even pretty and had no iq or personality) and he was a depressed suicidal beta who was maximum in love and called her perfect. It lasted for a year before breakups and getbacktogethers started, I opted out of updates after the 3rd.
He found a new, irl gf who also has zero iq and personality but it's ideal since she does her absolute best to keep her issues to herself - she's a vacuum and he's a dirtbag. They had a 2 day breakup after a year and a half together, which was 6 months ago, then I opted out of updates on that one too.
It seems to me that having the wrong significant other may be worse than having no one.
she dumped me to try out some new guys, after she told me we were soulmates and wanted to be together forever
I love my ldr GF <3
>>36888452
My husband and I first met right before he was deployed with the Army. I worked nights, so he would be awake and on Skype when I would be up at 3AM.
When he moved back, he had to stay on base a few states over, so we could only really afford an in-person meeting once a month or so. We did make a rule to call each other on the phone once daily though, even just for 5 minutes.
Once he was discharged, he moved in with me. We took it slow, took the opportunity to learn more about each other individually. It took a long time to adjust to being out the military, as well.
After a few years of living together, we decided to get married. So it can absolutely work, but you need to work at it. Maintain regular but not smothering contact. Get in some in-person visits, but know they won't be indicative of really living with someone.
>>36888452
Never did, never will. I'm not an imbecile.
I'm in my first ever LDR.
It's amazing yet agonizing all at once.
Waiting is hard, yet just hearing her voice makes it worth it.
I want to make the most out of this opportunity, because if I didn't I would regret it for the rest of my life.
And if it doesn't work out, well at least I did my part.
>>36889110
Good for you, anon. Keep at it. Make sure you live your own life as well. A lot of LDRs fall apart from fixating on it, which leads to fixating on the distance. It's better if you're living your life, and then you have something to share during those calls and visits.
>>36888452
No they never, ever, work.
Don't be cucked, long distance love is never true love. Never.
In LDR with my bf, he's great but not being able to see each other really hurts and leaves us both sexually frustrated almost every night.
>>36889150
Why not consider an open relationship? At least until you're together more often. You can both deal with your sexual frustrations while still supporting each other emotionally.
>>36889223
I'm a guy. He's a cross dresser. It's hard to find someone else
>>36889144
I didn't have much of a life to begin with. I'm actually going out and doing more stuff just to try and take my mind off her hahaha
>>36888858
But she's wasting the last of her youthful beauty fucking some 30 year old guy who would still fuck her if she was 40. She only has another two years before her looks start to go, and by then that guy is just going to dump her for some other young dumb broad. Give it like 5 years and she's going to be alone and desperate to find someone before her uterus dries up completely.
I still think about her to this day.
I met her on IMVU lmao.
We got to know and skype, we were a thing for 4 years. She lived in Vegas me I'm Chicago.
>play game with a bunch of online friends
>she starts playing with us
>she lives in another state
>get to know eachother and be flirty
>develop a crush on her
>rejects me
>doesn't want to speak to me
>always see her and online friends playing together
>they never invite me anymore, don't even talk to me either
would not recommend
unless you plan to meet up before you fall in ''love'' or soon after
>>36889455
I don't think so, she's pretty much a normie who gets along with everyone and has easy access to dick. I was just "lucky" to meet her online when she was depressed and lonely. Nothing like that anymore though, she completely changed.
In one now. Second time we have gone LDR because of work. When we first started dating we did about a year apart. We then lived together for a few years but had to separate again recently. This time is not as hard since we aren't in college surrounded by all kinds of temptations.
Of course they can work. You need a pretty good level of trust or it will fall apart. I would say that most new couples can't make it work as they start to look for physical affection elsewhere after a certain amount of time.
Consider the rules for the relationship and make sure each person understands them. Especially in the beginning of the relationship.
>>36889674
you got tossed away for not being a complete orbiter like the rest of your friends, you did good anon
>>36889744
wtf die bitch
>>36889674
The truest mark of a beta is if they turn their back on their friends for the limited attentions of a girl.
All of your friends were beta as fuck for pushing you out to keep her.
It happens all the time in MMO guilds/clans/etc.
>>36888469
This.
Women have a serious cucking fetish. Especially "fembots" who treat orbiters like emotional punching bags.
>>36888497
Long distance relationships can work so long as you both want to put in the effort! Sometimes it isn't meant to be but that doesn't make the love you can feel for a person any less legitimate online or irl! You just have to keep searching until you find the right one!
tl;dr: It didn't work for you because you two weren't compatible!
>>36889992
Define "the right one".
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qaFXrOZDMBA
>>36889303
LGBT board? Are u sure you're not dating Chara?
>>36889992
Women won't put in the effort. They need to be constantly entertained. You have to be a constant presence in her life and draw her attention to you at all times. If you're not entertaining then she'll immediately drift. It's always up to you to draw her focus to you.
>>36890066
You're talking about roasties dude.
>>36889992
fuck off cunt it's not called being incompatible when your online gf leaves you for some other faggot because she was having a midlife crisis and broke down mentally, it's called her being a mental nut and waste of oxygen, you keep searching through shit if you want to though and i'll sit here comfy and happy
>>36890125
Until I see or encounter an example to suggest otherwise, it's all women.
>>36890187
you sure sound happy anon.orig
>three or four years ago, be 16 or 17
>yandere generals here on /r9k/
>been tripfagging a bit, went as "blaabaer" or something. Don't remember the trip.
>join the generals, good times are had, meet Desolation (this Polish dude, cool guy), and hang out with the anons
>I catch the attention of this girl, let's call her P.
>P has all kinds of mental problems
>bipolar, histronic, maybe a bit schizophrenic, I don't know. This woman was crazy.
>we start skyping as much as possible every day
>puppy-love retardation, just two very confused people who found each other on an imageboard for mentally ill people
>was kinda nice
>dumps me after two weeks, I was acting high and mighty earlier on in the same thread I posted about the breakup, served me right
Looking back the whole thing was funny as hell. Just how stupid the whole thing was.
Some highlights:
>come home
>hey honey how was your day
>she replies "it was pretty OK I threw myself down the stairs a few times
>jerk off while she keeps saying "I love you" over and over again over skype
Good wank. She was grossed out when she found out what I was doing.
>got nudes
Lost them though, but oh well.
I still have the folder of blueberry-pictures I used with every post I made.
>>36890435
She also kind of had an alcohol problem when she would go on manic binges. Fucking danes, I swear to god.
Such blanket statement
>>36890247
this dude seems fine >>36889744
Sure you're not being bitter?
>>36890058
Yeah, I'm sure. I think I would have personal problems with loving someone else, it makes me feel like a roastie
>>36888452
I wasted 7 years on one, was probably getting cucked the whole time.
My gf of 3 months and i are gonna have to have a 10 month ldr starting in 2 months cause shes doing a year abroad. I love her and trust her and i truly believe she loves me and wont cheat. That being said i know people change and all that and i was just wondering if anyone has any advice for making it work, or just generally wants to share any opinions or experiences. Cheers lads, much appreciated
>>36890788
Anon, she will cheat. That's the whole point of having a year abroad, for women. She'll fuck dozens of guys because it's so different.
If you love her and she loves you, then you go with her.
>>36890788
>>36890879
Don't listen to most of the people here saying all women cheat and it's always the woman's fault for a relationship failing. Sour grapes.
You may want to consider having an open relationship or just taking a break from it while she is away since you don't have a lot of time invested in each other. Even if she doesn't cheat you will probably have anxiety about it - she won't be as available. She will be busy with school, meeting new friends, visiting new places and the time difference won't help.
It's unlikely that she will have a bf when she returns from studying abroad so then you can start your relationship over. Just a suggestion though.
Good luck either way.
>>36890492
>bitter
>pic related is almost a year old
You sure you're not just being baited?
>>36890953
> you may want to consider being a cuckold
Holy shit you're not being serious with him are you?
Fucking wow.
>>36890953
>Don't listen to most of the people on this board saying she will cheat
>anon, make it an open relationship before she cheats
>>36890953
>the way to deal with cheating is to just have an open relationship so you can cheat on each other but it wouldn't be called cheating
You're a moron.
>>36890788
>>36890879
For what its worth, shell be a high school senior and ill be a college freshman. Also shell be in the phillipines which for some reason makes me feel slightly better abt it.
>haven't seen gf for one month even though she lives 15 minutes away from me
>she says she loves me but feels depressed and needs time for herself so that her mental health becomes more stable
>we are still in a relationship but we don't even talk much anymore
I miss her so much bros...
>>36888452
I'm in a LDR. My girlfriend is abroad an I see her every 2 months or so. She's very much in love with me while i'm not at all but she has a good situation so I dont dump her. I don't think she has cheated on me but to be honest I don't care. I've cheated on her with 3 different girls since she left. It has been like that for 4 months now.
I'm still on this board because I was still a KV 1.5 years ago and old habits die hard.
>>36890989
Stop using that buzzword in ways that don't make sense. I didn't suggest he get into that fetish at all.
>>36890994
Only they will know if their relationship is strong enough to last a year long LDR. If he is so insecure about it what I suggested is a way to relieve that anxiety.
I know any advice other then "lol fuck dump ur getting kuck'd anon just accept it, roasties ree" is frowned upon here but coming from experience I'm trying to offer actual advice and not memes.
What do you suggest?
yes and it ended badly
>be me
>be 15
>be on the internet
>meet really cute girl my age
>we talk everyday
>she lived on other side of country
>summer break cometh
>we agree to meet halfway and sleep at hotel for 4 days
>go there by train
>we meet and talk and shit, have really fun
>go home
>meet again next month
>she tells me she loves me
>i tell her i love her
>we fuck
>again, have really fun
>summer break over
>school cometh
>boring as shit
>next break cometh
>gonna go to her aunt who lives closer to me
>get there
>she is late
>wait more
>doesnt come
>stay over night
>next day read the news
>her train derailed on the way to her aunt
>no survivors
>cry
>>36891078
That is exceptionally bad advice. It won't relieve anyones anxiety.
>>36891078
I didn't suggest he did either.
But letting your partner fuck others while you're aware is cuckolding.
Also some stats for anyone interested
board won't let me post text.
>>36888452
>Have you been in a long distance relationship?
Yes only in LDR because I can't handle a real contact, I had 5...
>Do they ever work?
I guess no, it's like real relationship, it always end
>Did you find your special somebody?
The biggest advantage of this kind of relationship is knowing the real person and not his/her fake that comes when he/she is in public
You can also find somone really special and most of all a truely shy and cute girl
>>36891194
>letters couples write to each other
How cute.
>>36891222
czecked
nice dubblettes
>>36888452
about 2 years ago when i was in highschool me and my class went to european parlament to some competition or some shit. the idea was to look for team mates from other countries and i randomly found few girls from greece, italy, slovakia and few guys from portugal. long story short i started texting to one of the girls from greece and she was really thirsty for the d. should have fucked right right there because about a year later, when she realized that i'm not coming, she got a bf and now i'm here. haven't talked to her since.
>>36891103
holy shit I'm sorry. This is way worse than any of the cuck stories.
>>36888452
Yeah, roughly 4 years ago. It was an online thing & lasted over half a year. Spent a ridiculous amount of time together. Both shut-ins taking online classes, both played lots of vidya, both a little awkward. The distance was always hard for me, but even with that, it was always really comfy. I grew to really care about her. she seemed different. unique. I think I was actually fucking happy, which was & is such an unknown thing to me. We had plans to meet. Got to know a bit about each others family too. it was fun. it was new. really seemed like it was going to last.
NOPE. that's not how shit works. Misunderstanding lead to a little bit of drama, which lead to her leaning on someone else to cool off, which lead to me getting cucked like a bitch. I know I said something stupid, but why does it happen like that?
I still don't get it. It fucking destroyed me. I've been alone since. Hah, I'm still very bitter.
>>36891103
That's sad but you had virgin sex at 15 so I can only say fuck you normie die die die die.
>>36892364
You got involved with a woman, and she acted like a woman. Don't make the same mistake twice.