Good evening r9k. I would like to discuss a thesis which is found to be culturally unacceptable. I am a virgin who is almost 23 years old. I am proud to be a virgin. I am not religious, however I consider myself very traditional. I have many female friends yet I believe to save myself for the person I love. I accept remaining a virgin for the rest of my life. From my female friends, I am told I am a great friend even though they consider me to be a "nice guy". I am also told I am considerate, kind, confident, very adventurous, and courageous. Despite that, I stay out of being in the "friendzone." I live for myself yet in consideration of others. My thesis is regarding why is it important to lose one's virginity? Is it because of peer pressure by culture? Being considered becoming a "man"? Is it to stop being shy and become more sexually open? Is it peer pressure from lebels, stereotypes, or refrain from being made fun of? Am I the only one who dares defy such culture? Being traditional, I believe in the traditional dating culture. I want to make as much female friends as possible and to choose one to date with the intention to marry them and spend the rest of my life with them until the day I die. I don't like the idea of sex in dating. It's as if taking something that isn't mine. I rather keep it for marriage where it cane be used to keep the marriage strong and special. If I didn't have my traditional values, I would resort to outercourse (opposite of intercourse) to fulfill any uncontrollable sexual desires. I would like to find a person who is also a virgin like me, that is why I haven't chosen anyone yet. It seems it's becoming more difficult to find potential partners who are also a virgin like me who also share the same values. I wonder if I am a one of a kind alpha male that has these traditional values and rather keep their virginity for the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
TLDR - Your biological purpose is to procreate.
If you are sincere I admire you. I have similar but slightly different views. I will admit that peer pressure almost pushed me to abandon my belief. Though truth to be told I have a severely limited amount of friends so I barely had the chance to abandon my view. And some other stuff.
I am not so much motivated by traditional or religious views. I just want to get to know someone well, find someone who is compatible. I am not willing to invest and give up my lifestyle for someone who is incompatible or who I don't genuinely like.
Perhaps somewhat traditional I do personally disapprove of pursuing short-term rewards whatever it is in the form of dating, food, alcohol, consumption in general etc.
>>36798197
By all means do it. Modern dating culture is great (maybe) if you're extroverted and can stomach being intimate with lots of new people, but I can't do it and don't want to either.
Something that people seem to have forgotten in this push to convert everyone to hookups is that we're all different and need different things.
Whether those things are new or traditional isn't a factor.
>>36798197
This wouldn't work where I live, but it might for you. I'm too old to find a virgin, divorce rates where I live are catastrophic so it wouldn't be realistic.
>>36799324
>biological purpose
where does this 'purpose' come from