/ldr/

Here's how every LDR ends:
>Girl realizes she's tired of living alone
>Tons of guys offering her dick and company
>5 minutes later "We've just drifted apart as people"

>>36786371
my anecdotal evidence says otherwise, and since you said 'every': haha ur wron

>>36786384
Okay. Enjoy a relationship where you're hours away from each other and get to have the worst part of relationships combined with the worst part of distance

>>36786426
you like assuming a lot huh?

>>36786439
I ultimately don't care. I'm sure you believe your LDR will be the one that defies the odds and makes it so have fun.

In late 2013 a friend in my group of maybe 5 people introduced a girl who recently fell out of sorts with her old group due to drama.

She and I got along easily and two months later I managed to ask her to be mine, and surprisingly enough, she said yes.

I was always a lonely, bitter, depressed guy who never cared about much other than video games. She introduced me to plenty of shows, gave me her opinions on social issues that I never even knew about until then, confided in me about her issues with her family. We talked constantly, day in and day out. It helped that she was taking classes online, we even managed to live in the same timezone.

In 2016 things became stressful for both of us, and on September 1st she broke up with me and went back to talking to her old group of friends.

I think about her every day and I haven't heard from her in months, I doubt I ever will again. She was my everything and I can't imagine ever moving on. I've stopped talking to all of my friends, my job sucks, I dropped out of college.

I'm just back to not seeing the point.

>>36786459
you certainly sound like you care.
and more assumptions? I just stopped by to say you're wrong, but hey I have a gf now? neat

>>36786336
She cheated on me tons and we broke up 4 times over the span of 3 years. Eventually, we broke up for good because she gave up on me, funny enough.

>>36786514
>She cheated on me tons
probably your fault for picking a bad girl

>>36786459
Why are you so butt hurt
Not OP, but I've been in an LDR for the last 16 months, it's just a normal relationship with two people
Get off your high horse just because you thought you were in an LDR with a girl who tried (or even worse, managed) to scam you lol

>>36786466
This honestly sounds like a post a 15 year old would write.
>never held her in my arms
>gonna marry her
>we're on a different plane of love than everybody else
>Our love is unique and more real than everybody else's
Jesus Christ dude get a fucking grip.

>>36786336
it takes a guy strong enough

>>36786526
I'm not some Chad like you, I don't get choices.
The sex was great before we were LDR, though.

>>36786336
Semi-ldr here.
Just got told she cheated on me tonight.

>>36786466
y did u haf to make me cry reeeee

>>36786531
I know anon. I'm very aware of that. I'm in love though what can I tell you?

>>36786550
Sorry, dude. Literally happens every time. The ones that last are the ones that break the long-distance and finally get close.

>>36786562
Maybe I'm just bitter because I used to feel that way - hell we all did with our first love. I don't want to burst your bubble but you should probably tone it down a little otherwise you're going to get hurt bad if/when something goes wrong

>>36786569
We were close. I visited her a few times, she was only a couple of hours away. She cheated on me 2 days after I left from the last visit, this was 2 weeks ago.

>>36786336
Known a girl for a year and a half. Watched anime and hentai together online and went very lovey, lewd, and supportive of each other. Somewhat recently she admitted that she doesn't see us actually becoming a thing. She's said that she's done cam stuff with another girl before but she'd never do that with me or even want to hewr my voice.

She first brought up the L word to me. I always said to be careful because I may start believing her. I did and went full tard about a distant future. But now I feel horribly stupid for being so open about it.

I worry that my time in the sun has ended.

>>36786582
I hope you make the rebound.
Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks.

>>36786599
>I hope you make the rebound.
Doubt it. I'm 19 and she was my very first girlfriend.

>>36786606
You still have a good 10 years of youth left.

You've been in a peers-having-sex world for less than that.
You'll get someone, I know you can do it, anon.

>>36786371
Alternative director's cut:

>girl and boy are tired of being alone
>move in together

>meet girl on /r9k/
>hit it off in thread and exchange skype info
>talk for three months straight
>we live a 12 hr bus ride from each other, so we agree to me going down to visit her
>fuck a lot, talk a lot, never stop falling for her
>keep bussing to visit each other
>start staying for months at a time

we're married now

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>>36786336
>in a "relationship" with some retarded level 300 american cunt on steam called 'reign'
>keeps me awake at night because she's sad we can't talk
>if i stay awake she just goes to play overwatch with her retarded orbiters group
>in the morning she disrupts my sleep because she has to sleep but can't if im not talking to her so we can fall asleep on skype
>gets jealous as fuck when my ex and me wanted to become a thing again
>procedes to guilt trip me for anything and goes back to her orbiters group

phew, glad i blocked and removed her

>cunt started acting sad and suicidal
>said i really never cared for her
>sees that this approach doesn't work so she starts insulting me, raging and acting like a complete bitch and creating drama everywhere
>spreads rumors about me and my ex
>says i raped her or abused her or some shit

whatever. might've just dodge a huge bullet

>>36786685
Not a successful LDR.
You closed the gap.

Ive had two quasi-ldrs

>first sucked
>400km distance
>close enough to see each other weekly or at least monthly
>missed her way too much during the week
>still hated never having a weekend to do anything other than seeing her
>lasted for a year
>moved to her city

Then we lived together throughout college, which was a really nice change. She finished college a year before me and started working back home so back to ldr it was.

>200km distance
>close enough to see whenever, but still mostly weekends only
>fucking LOVE being able to focus on shit throughout the week alone, then having a good old time with my gf on the weekends
>so good that im worried about moving back in together almost

Its pretty much the same situation, hated the first one, love the second one, so i guess its just me getting a bit older.

>>36786581
We've broken up a few times before and we both pretty much just give up and go back to talking to each other everyday in a month or 2. She is my exact female opposite. I met her on /r9k/ for fucks sake so our conversations are effortless. Everything comes naturally with her I don't even have to try. Also I'm not trying to delegitimize every other couple's relationship. I just don't think there are a lot of couples that are this autistic over each other. She is my first love and people always say that your first is easy to obsess over but I don't think that's the case. She's just perfect man. I hope you can find someone like that again

>we met on gmod
>watched movies together and talked all night
>bought me CS:GO
>she eventually got wooed by an ex and left

It was an enjoyable month.
LDRs are just for lonely people, nothing serious.

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>tfw in love with a guy on the other side of the planet
>have been for 3-4 years

>>36786716
>met on /r9k/
>you stay up all night justifying it

Relax, anon, you're anonymous.
I know you can feel your relationship crumbling.

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>>36786336
March 2016: We met
May 2016: Became a couple
December 2016: Met up for the first time
February 2017: I moved in with her (another country)

now: feelsgoodman

>>36786697
That's the opposite of true. An LDR IS successful when the gap is closed. It's the only way to go, LDRs are a means to an end. It won't work otherwise because the only incentive to push forward is knowing that some day you will be together. It's the engine that makes the whole car go

If a long distance relationship never closes the gap it is a failed relationship

>>36786749
Precisely.
LDR never work.
You have to make it a normal normie relationship

>>36786733
hope you both die and cease using this board you fuck

What did my nigga Nat Wolfe once say?
>Long distance relationships will kill you
I unfortunately don't have a story to share but I hope one of you lucky bastards can have some success in ldrs.

I was in an LDR with a girl I met on here for a couple months. There was a gap in our communication habits and we drifted. We planned to meet up, but that obviously didn't work. She eventually cut off contact and I can't really blame her for it, but I'd have appreciated a "yeah this isn't gonna work sorry" message. It's no skin off my back though, it was nice to see cute messages while it lasted.

I'm in a LDR with some chick who thinks I live in a different when I really live about 10 minutes from her house. I don't really want to see her. She is doing everything she can to move in with me, but I really don't want to live with her or anything. Right now I can sex whenever and I don't have to be bothered by her clingy behavior, so that's why I'm still dating her.

Oh, and I'm hitting on her much cuter friends and can't do that by being on her bad side. Wish me luck guise.

>>36786818
That's not a LDR, you literal retard normalfag.

>>36786716
Nigger every first love is just like that. I'm hitting it off with an actual basic failed-Stacy (quit cheer bc she was ugly and fat), with no real personality, yet I'm still head over heels for her /shrug

>>36786836
It's set up like one. I usually talk to her online and meet up rarely.

>>36786716
What's her initial? Please answer orig.

Does anyone have a partner in college right now? We met young and she is going to apply for college next year. She is planning to apply to a university in my state and some unis in her state. The only way she can justify going to this uni to her parents is because it's highly rated for her profession. I'm not expecting her to get in, so what the fuck do I do when she's going to be in uni for 8 years? I can move up to her after I finish uni in 3 years but that seems like too much time. I don't know how the fuck we're going to get through this.

I shattered someone's heart by being stupid in an ldr and I'm not ever going to enter another relationship again.

>>36786761
I feel like you're being intentionally dense.

An LDR is not easy. It sucks! But you put up with it because the person you met is worth it. You push through it and at the end you have a relationship with someone that is deeper than any random normie relationship. You didn't meet this girl in a bar or on tinder. You met them on your terf, the wilds online, and you had a real connection. You got to know them for real, just honest words on a screen, no pretense, raw and open and faster than you would have if you met them in person

It sucks and its hard, but that doesn't mean it's doomed. And the end result is a pressure tested relationship that can take a few bullets. Ride or die.

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>tfw making plans to meet up soon

help me anons, how do i make sure this is a good experience for both of us?

>>36786336
>Be in band that starts doing well, touring, playing a lot of gigs etc
>gf starts going to university
>Only 2.5 hours drive away
>Torn between band and relationship
>Fuck up both because l can't get my shit together and properly commit to anything

good times

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>>36786923
>2.5 hours
>LDR
when will they ever learn huh

>>36786864
You're going to break up, OP. And that's okay. It sucks right now but you will move on and you'll do fine.

just the other night i was out for a nightwalk. smoking cigs and thinking of the good times. i walked by a parking lot building that i used to climb to the very top of. i used to message my ex from there some nights. i messaged her everywhere, back in high school, in my room, etc etc. i didnt exclusively message her from that lot building. the only reason i went on top of that building those times is because we were at the verge of breaking up. i hinted that i would jump and kill myself if she left. it must have been like 8 stories tall. at the time i didnt smoke. she ended up leaving me and i dropped college. i just couldnt sleep normally since then, still cant. we kept in contact for a bit after. i began to smoke and drink, hoping she would get back with me to make me stop. she in turn copied me, began to drink and smoke. we were guilt tripping each other but no one caved. being a girl of course, she got a social life. she wanted me to go to college, but obviously wont get back with me to motivate me to do so. my heart was damaged when she told me she went to the movies with a guy, dates, drinking. i stopped logging in that social media account after 2 years of constant messaging. i still love her and am suicidal because of her. last i heard she is doing good, is probably very happy to be with a better man. im still smoking and unemployed.

I guess it was a failure, and I can't imagine it ever being a success.
LDRs seem perfect for the robot type.
I was in a rut, online for 15 hours a day, fucking up my sleep schedule.

Met a guy on here/through OKC (if you recall before /soc/ we'd have OKC threads here, anyway) and we shared just about everything in common. I mean, if you don't have hobbies/a life the personalities seem to melt together.
People here always into deviant sexual stuff, not-quite-PC views, but not as extreme as voiced here, into computers, into gaming, NOT into normies etc etc.
So we'd talk on steam all day, he'd wake up at a stupid hour, but we'd still get a LOT of time together. he was a little more anti feminist than I was, but I enjoyed arguing and playing devils advocate because I'd put some effort into finding papers etc to back my claims up, and it was just about the only passion I had in a day.
But then I started to pick up my life a little bit. I'd want to go out for walks, being in nature cheered me up and calmed me down. For the first time in a long time I could be alone in my thoughts without going into a spiral and seeking distraction through porn etc.
But I'd get back to the computer and get a "where were you? ;_;".
He said of course he didn't mind me being away from the computer, but he wanted to know how long I'd be. So I felt restricted. If I went out, I knew I could only be whatever time I specified. I couldn't just be alone because I ALWAYS had that burden of knowing he was at the computer, waiting on me coming back. And he'd send scrolls of text while I was away, for me coming back. And he'd still try incite "discussions" and I'd be like "we can't agree on everything, let's just agree to disagree hmm?". Because there was no need for that stress and negativity.
I didn't meet any new people in real life or anything, but I feel I just grew a bit, and he didn't.

wow i leave r9k for a while to watch the shitshow on pol and see a thread full of SUCCESSFUL ldrs? im jealous of you guys but surprised at the succession rate as well

*read thread*
*cringe*

>>36786939
As much as I wish you were wrong you probably aren't. We're going to try though. I think the bond we have is strong enough to wait 3 years.

>>36787014
You got a clingy type? I hate the needies. I just wish I could find a gf who wasn't super clingy.

>Met guy on /r9k/
>Skype constantly, get to know him deeply
> invited him to hang out at my place
>dude took a bus from Toronto to see me in New York
>sexual tension is unreal the whole subway ride back to my place in queens
>he drops his bag on the floor of my apartment
>pulls out an entire box of condoms
>I laughed
>"what the hell you think we'd be doing this whole weekend?"
>end up using all of them and then some
>fall madly in love
>that was three years ago
>still going strong, live together, wedding next year

We made it robots

>>36787220
jesus christ fuck off you whore, don't say we made it, you don't belong here, you did it, you just become a massive fucking slut, good job go eat a dick now ugly

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>>36787220
That is such a lovely story anon, I am happy for you.

>met bf on r9k this year
>tfw already want to marry him and have his children
Am I going to have my heart broken?

>>36787258
You can tell it's a femslut by the fact that it's using condoms.

Pure healthy monogamous male/male relationships have no risk for pregnancy.

>>36787269
yes i'll personally rip it out of your dying carcass and smash it in whole

>>36787220
That's adorable, anon. I hope you two continue to have a great relationship!

> she's 13 hours ahead of me

You guys have it easy

>>36787281
Using condoms during sex is very important in male-male relationships, as the inside your ass is very delicate and easily ruptured, therefore prone to infection. Practicing safe sex, using lube, and getting tested often are good ideas in a sexually active male-male relationship.

>>36787349
neck yourself you dumb gay faggot

Was with someone for over a year, visited each other, was great, but she turned out crazy

Now talking to a Pole and Australian

I was in one that ended not particularly badly. Not all girls are offered dick on a plate though come on r9k.

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I met this bitch after I dropped out of hischool and we dated for a good 2 years, all the while she was completely obsessed with me.
I join the marine corps and I hear the jokes about bitches leaving their guy once the dude enlists, that shit happens alot but my girl stayed with me.
I get stationed in Okinawa japan, which is 14hr away for where I'm from, calling is difficult because of the hours we both work, but I still keep her around because I need see easy poon that I love when I go home on leave, I end up getting forward deployed and she stays with me the whole deployment as far as I can tell, and the day I get back I call her only to find her wanting to break up because"she doesn't think our plans for life are compatible, she doesn't want to be a housewife and needs time to focus on school".
Obviously she's cheating or plans to get other cock. I delete all forms of contact with her and start drinking heavily. I'm sad that I wasted almost four years on this bitch, and that I need to find some new pussy.

I didn't know getting dumped felt so bad

>>36787598
>joining a branch while in a relationship

You went full nigger there. Tell me you didn't marry her.

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>>36787623
Fuuuuuckkk no. Never will as long as I'm enlisted. Too much cheating. Getting pussy is great for relieving stress, but I really want a relationship and I can't stand Japanese bitches.

I thought this bitch was marriage material. Good Christian girl, hot, sweet, nice voice. She was perfect. Go on one fucking deployment and she leaves me. I need to find out what aspect of a woman makes her cheat when the guy leaves. I can't trust these hoes.

>>36786880
Can you tell me more about this please? I don't want this to happen to me.

>>36787693
Look for Terrance Popp on YouTube. Guy's career Army and has more than enough videos about how to not let women fuck you over. God couldn't help you if she got pregnant and claimed you were the father. Even a DNA test might not matter.

Expect that shit. No woman has honor and no woman will stay with you while you're enlisted unless she wants that gubment money.

>>36787790
Thanks bud. Women will stay while you're enlisted. Though they often cheat and get fat, because they know they will get money for you because the military don't fuck around with that.

Funny story. My buddy married this Jap bitch so he could get pussy on the weekends, when he had to leave they had a mutual breakup cause she didn't want to leave Japan. So the marine corps made him give half his shit to her, he got his car cheap as all fuck and sold it for 500 yen. He ends up giving a this bitch a grand total of 300 dollars and no alimony after leaving her. That guy won so fucking hard

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>>36786336
I had the chance to have one. Met a super qt3.14 on a trip to Italy, and she was into me. Problem is that she's from New Zealand and going to skool in auzieland, and I'm from California, so too fucking far apart. I love her, and I'm pretty sure she loved me too (everyone else was telling me so). I should have made a fucking move but I pussied out and waited too long, and now chances are that I'll never see her again. Feelsbadman... I fucking miss her, it's been almost 6 months since I've seen her and I still think about her every day.

>>36787883
Outstanding. But don't think you can be so sly. Family all over is military but I didn't enlist because fuck it, I work for the state anyway. Make sure you stay careful about what you say to chicks. Uniform will get then wet but the implied gibs and GI Bill will make them grow a second face.

>>36787703
The most important thing, and the thing which was our undoing, is you cannot let yourselves drift. It is very easy to quickly become distant to someone when the only way you can talk to them is through text or a screen. Other than that, just treat it like a normal relationship. Make sure you trust the person, and are willing to talk to them about anything that's bothering, especially if it's related to your relationship. If this isn't very helpful, I'm sorry, I can try and give more details.

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>>36787920
That's a rough feel man, regret really does ache for the longest time

I've only been in LDRs. I'm 25 years old, have fucked 4 girls in my life and none of them were from my country.

They all ended differently.

First one was not a relationship really, she just flew over to my place to visit. We sort of fucked but sort of didn't, then things got awkward.

Second one I dated for almost a year. I visited her 4 times, a few weeks each. I broke up with her. She lived in the country next to mine.

Third one I dated for almost 2 years. She was American, east coast. I'm European. I visited her 2 times for a few weeks each, she visited me 3 times for 2-3 months each. It was nice and comfy, but we drifted apart. Not because of distance, just in general.

Fourth one was also American, west coast. We dated for about 5 months, was mostly a sexual relationship. I met her on a visit over there, and she came to visit me 2 times for about a month each, then broke up with me after the second visit. It was mostly a physical relationship, and my dick misses her more than my heart does.

>>36787962
>The most important thing, and the thing which was our undoing, is you cannot let yourselves drift. It is very easy to quickly become distant to someone when the only way you can talk to them is through text or a screen. Other than that, just treat it like a normal relationship. Make sure you trust the person, and are willing to talk to them about anything that's bothering, especially if it's related to your relationship. If this isn't very helpful, I'm sorry, I can try and give more details.

Would you say not talking for a few days or a week is drifting? Or how much is drifting?

Sometimes I reconnect with friends after a year or more and it's like we never left. Can you elaborate

>>36786468
>gave me her opinions on social issues that I never even knew about until then
Go back to leftypol you fucking cuck

>>36787977
Telle about it. I feel like she was the one. We had so much in common. She liked the memes, and thought I was funny, and not an autistic piece of shit. God I fucking miss her, I'd do anything to get her back into my life

>>36788125
For us it was at least a few months, but I do also have some friends from high school that I still talk to every now then, probably not more than two or three months in between conversations, though I do wish I talked to them more often. The problem is not the amount of time you do not talking, but what happens during that time. For example, if someone's life changes very significantly in between the times you last talked, which was one month ago, that can be a much longer time to catch up than being consistent and not talking for two months. I think I am explaining this poorly, but do you kind of understand? Basically keep your partner involved in your life, and a part of it, as best you can. It is hard because of the distance, timezones, and impersonal nature of communicating through a screen, but you have to keep each other as a part of your lives.

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Going into LDR with Japanese girl soon.
>be college fag
>did exchange in Japan in highschool
>this girl finds out I did it in the city she's from
>she wants to talk to me
>meet up and immediately hit it off. Invite her to the gym
>end up asking her out
>ends up being near perfect relationship
>we spend all day every day together
>literally all day
>I am her first boyfriend
>I originally had a strict policy against LDR, but she is better than any white woman i've ever dated and probably would ever have dated
>can talk through any problem with her and vice versa
>shes actually mature, tells me what she thinks politely, isn't entitles like western women, is willing to be stay at home mom, is willing to also work, and is basically everything i've ever looked for
>she tells me she could never have thought that she would be with such a beautiful and successful man
>come to think of it, why am I on r9k

Despite all of this, still fucking scared. If I lose her, I will become a grass-eater alcoholic.

>>36786468
Fuck dood that sucks. But you know what they say, it's better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all...

>>36787956
Oh I know the horror stories. No marriage and never touch her or she will cry rape and assault.

>>36788175
thank you man i appreciate it.

organics

>>36788329
Best of luck to your relationship anon.

>>36788231
As long as you remember. Stay safe out there.

>>36786923
What did you play in the band?

>mmo fag
>learn how to talk without kms
>be the joke guy of the guild
>all the chicks dig it
>im 3000km away from anyone in the guild
>get in my first ldr, totally spaghetti cunt khv
>girl says after a month im cute but she likes other mmo cunt
>queue aspie rage
>both those two end up leaving
>start working out to attempt and gain a form of confidence
>confident me finds the second girl
Robots, this one was and is my otp if i could ever decide that
Everything ive ever asked for in a person in one hot form
>start talking
>only lewd and corny lovey shit
>she pushes me to say that i love her
>goes fkn great for a month or 2, she gets separation anxiety, acts weird, we both agree to cut it off

Im fucking dying inside during this
>ffw 4-6 months, she gets bf in guild
>aspie manipulative rage kicks in
>she starts talking to me again when bf acts up, he leaves her on valentines through text
>we kick it off again, this time im 100% spaghetti
>say i have feelings for her
>she runs away

And now im verbally abusive
Ldr's will never work for me
And i want her so bad

have been involved in an on-off LDR for the last 10 years with a person I met through an AIM thread on /b/. I'm Australian and they are American, so there's a retarded timezone of like 13 hours and about 11,000km of distance.

I was super young when we met and they were about 7 years older than me or so. Life kept moving around us, we were friends and we weren't, we were romantically involved then we weren't.

We've had breaks in contact for months at a time over these years but somehow we always manage to make contact again.

I know one day, we will end up together but that time hasn't come around yet.

I was in an LDR with a girl called Ashleigh Rose for four months. It was the best thing that happened to me, in the sense that she would impact my mental state so much that talking to her would make me go from apathetic to happy really quick.

I loved her so fucking much, and I didn't want to lose her. A few days ago, she decided we should stop talking, and said that she didn't trust me. She thought because I played videogames with other people when she was busy at work or with college, that I was being unfaithful to her in some way.

She thought I was too deadpan and distant in my emotions, and for that reason, didn't know when to believe me or not.

I wish I could have done things differently, but a part of me says she deserves someone better who can give her what she needs.
I want the ground to open up and swallow me whole.
I feel so fucking alone.

>>36786336
>long distance
>relationship
That's kind of missing the vital elements of human affection and interaction. You can't digital generation your way out of meeting girls.

Was in one for 3 years. It sucks knowing they can just cut contact with you completely and unless you fly/drive to see them there's nothing you can do without looking like a complete psychopath.

>>36788777
I can't even work an ldr, how am I supposed to work a real one? I don't even have 1 irl friend.

>>36788777

I prefer LDRs specifically because I don't like physical intimacy tbqh.

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>start talking to this girl online
>start lewding together regularly
>she starts to become more and more distant
>sorry anon, but im too stressed by other things in my life right now
>mfw

Never even talked to girl online and too shy to even make a call ,let alone video chatting. LDR will never work for me.I am just waiting for a female A.I robot .

still in an LDR with a girl I've never met who lives on another continent after more than 7 years

being with her makes me miserable but I feel like being alone would be even worse so I just keep telling her that I love her

we will probably never meet because I have no ambition and am probably going to kill myself soon anyways

>>36788949
dang anon

>>36788949
why does it make you miserable to be with her?

she denied me when i asked her to be my gf. said we should meet first..

ITT: people who had an internet crush they never met and call it a relationship.

It's not a LDR unless you meet often enough.

>>36789178

Typical shallow normie.

>>36789149
because I know the only reason I'm putting up with it is that I can't do any better. it's a constant reminder of how pathetic I am, that I don't have the strength to move on. Whether that means putting in the effort to bring us together and have a real relationship, or moving on from her and doing something better with my life, I don't feel capable either way.

>>36789225
Butthurt virgin in a "LDR" with a catfish detected.

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>>36787005
That's rough, I'm sorry anon. Please don't end your life over a girl. It's not worth it.

I was in an LDR for 2 years, it actually did fuck me up. She always did hard drugs and lied about not doing them even though she was fucking addicted to xans. The wave of anxiety that crushed me when it turned out she lied for 5 months about her quitting drugs gave me trust issues that go away. Seriously robots, don't pursue these no matter how pretty the girl is, real life contact and feelings are a million times better even if she isn't as good looking.

>>36789457
Not him but I'm really tempted to for my own bad situation.

>>36786371
lol this recently happened to me. I fell for the 'shes different xP' meme

>>36786336
My mother and her husband are married for 5 years, been toghter for 7. It all started as LDR from dating site, so I guess there's hope.

We met on a shitty video games forum in like 2005 and moved in together in 2010 and things have been amazing

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>>36789899
Don't do it mate. I'm going through something similar. Haven't slept much or ate much in the past few weeks. I don't know your situation but if you ride it out and give it time, eventually you'll slowly forget about her. I wish you the best, don't you dare do it over a girl. Godspeed anon.

>>36786336

Am in a LDR relationship right now, and have been for about 8 months now.

He has been nothing but good to me, he is very kind, and gentle, but also very fun. I really love him. I've had a lot of personal issues in that time, and I am sad to say that that has influenced our relationship. I've been mean to him on a lot of occassions, assholish, and all around abusive. I've expected more out of him that I have any right to. The lack of personal closeness really hurts. I want to show him just how much he means to me, but all I have is words and promises and apologies. It's hard.

That's my general opinion. It's hard. Harder than 'local' relationships, but if they last, they last for life. I'll do my best to keep him in my life, he is just wonderful.

>>36790513
What kind of "issues" do you have? Where did u meet him?

How far you both live from each other?

>>36786371
Every time all the time and they wonder why we get sick of being burned/rejected.
Gone.

>>36786716
Look at this man and laugh see you in a few years (or weeks) when she stomps on you.

>>36790657
Not him, but Im in a LDR too, btw Ill visit her! fuck off

>>36787693
>Good Christian girl,
Thats a fucking paradox innit? and a redundancy.
Fucking idjet when will they learn?

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I met a girl here in 2014. She was 24, I was 22. She posted that she distrusts men, and I replied that I distrust women, and we exchanged e-mails to fight about it, more or less. We were both too polite for things to ever get too hostile, and it eventually spread to talking on Steam, and then Skype much later. She was pretty fat, but I'm into that, and I had already started to get feelings for her because she had a good sense of humor, could communicate well, and shared many social/political/practical viewpoints with me.

It took a romantic turn after valentine's day 2015, and we were super into each other until we'd set up a date for her to fly over and visit me, but she backed out at the last moment. She was a very nervous person, and in retrospect, even given our existing relationship, I don't entirely blame her for not coming out to meet some random guy off 4chan. Things cooled off for a year, we still talked, but it got gradually less romantic. I removed her from everything after things had slowed to such a crawl that I felt there was no more of a relationship left.

Sometime early-2016, she texted me out of the blue, and said we should re-friend each other. I obliged. Everything started over again. After a pretty shit valentine's day for both of us, and sharing unsuccessful dating stories, we agreed... Hey, fuck it. If she buys the ticket, I'll just fly over to her, despite my more demanding job/schedule. If something happens, great, if not, it'll be a decent vacation.

I flew over, and it went great. She was more or less everything I expected, we got along very well, and I was able to navigate through her weapons-grade autism without any trouble. Things between us are now more serious and affectionate than they were ever before, and we're both fairly responsible adult-ish types with high-demand careers, so we're already beginning to talk about how we could move to the same place and actually, really do the whole 1.5 kids thing.

Hope it works out! I'll try.

>>36790575
I live in a very conservative and backwards and because of being trans, I am facing a lot of passive discrimination. I can't make any friends, I can't honestly talk about myself, I can't honestly express myself and it is really fucking with my sanity. I do my best to keep it all together but it can get really bad. I am making a lot of choices to try and get myself out of this place, choices I wouldn't actually do if I didnt need to leave so urgently.


I met him online, on 4chan. I was talking about myself on the lgbt board, he replied to me and we soon exchanged contact. We hit it off very quickly from there.

We don't live too far away from each other, we can visit by plane, but he is poor, and I am just trying to save up and get out of here. I feel like if we do, we'd just get drowned in debt and lose everything. I also feel like if I don't meet him I am going to get too depressed and kill myself.

>>36788209
This is a fucking lie its way better to be ignorant then understand anything.
You listen to a dead fool and a poet.

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>>36786336
IT was awful but the closest I've been to a gal, skype calls everyday, playing vidya together. Really pathetic.


She cheated on me several times ( span of 2 years ) and kept going back begging for me to forgive her etc,etc. Different excuse every single time.

I found out because I actually got her passwords. Saw her skype logs and turns out she had cammed for a guy for about 10 bucks worth of credits on some dumb social game. That's how much she was worth.

Fuck Roasties.

>meet a guy off /r9k/
>start ldr
>we already have a plan to meet soon
>literally broke my no ldr rule for him because i think he's that amazing
>literally everything I have towards a dream guy he meets
Damn, i'm just asking to get hurt in this aren't I?

In LDR with my gf (male) and shit fucking sucks, we cry every night because we can't see each other and cuddle

>>36790685
You fuck off you fuck of and never be happy
NA NA BOO
SHA BA BOO

>>36790755
c-carmen? >.<

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>>36786336
this is how it's actually is OPeee

>>36790793
>dating women
found the problem

>>36790739
any relationship is 'asking to be hurt'. I think LDRs are better in the sense that there is none of that physical infatuation you might have with someone. and if you talk to someone enough you will get to know htem, online or not. They are less likely to work, but when they do, they work.

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I still miss my online girlfriend.


I met her when she was 13 I was 15. I'm now 21.

I fucked things up, we were together for 4 years. She really liked me and was super beautiful.

I still think about her to this day.

Been in a LDR for about a year and a half now, we have a 5 year age gap

We met through a discord server one night while I was sperging out and singing in a voice channel, she sent me a DM and we kinda hit it off
Started skyping all day everyday even when she was at school and we would watch movies and shows on rabb.it all the time, we'd also fall asleep together on call
She's the reason why I didn't kill myself and made me go back to school, she's helped me be a bit more open about my feelings and confront shit from my past
We've had some pretty rocky moments, maybe a bit too many, she puts up with too much of my shit
I can say without a doubt that my happiest moments in life have been when I'm talking to her

Since starting uni again we haven't talked as much as we used to, nowhere as much as we used to
We've been getting more and more distant from each other, I keep trying to set up times to talk to her, but it usually just falls through
I had huge breakdown one day, worst I've ever had in my life, I was pretty messed up and I tried calling her but she never answered

She's had some really shitty things happen to her throughout her life and she has some self esteem issues
I wish I could just take her away from everything

The distance sucks so much, I live in Australia and she in the US, I've been trying the entire time I've known her to get a job just so we could meet but I can't get anything
I hope I can keep getting better for her

Love you Bun

>>36792539
Wait are u still with her, anon..? Why can't you get a job yet?

same here

>>36792593
Yeah still with her, idk why I can't get a job, I guess I'm just too unqualified for most places and I'm over 18 so a lot of places don't want someone my age with no little to no experience

>>36787220
Cute.

Happy endings hit me harder than sad endings because I know I'll never have the same.

>>36791222
I think you're right
It's just I'm surprised at how much i'm into him already. Sometimes he's a bit aloof so it drives me a little crazy.

>>36792811
That hit me harder than I expected.

>>36792821
Hey, I know it's tough. But love is easy, making it work is hard. Talk to him if you think it's proper, but be ready to compromise on your own ends too. People have good reasons to be the way they are, and relationships are about working together.

Sorry for preaching, I am honestly talking more to myself than to you. Good luck, woolie

>>36786336
>date girl for a few years in uni
>break up around third year
>be single for a year, working, meet a few interesting girls but not much goes on
>plan to move away at the end of summer to middle east for a new job
>a month before i go, start hitting it off well with a cute girl at work
>a week later, meet ex on a night with friends, end up getting back together, she dumps her weird bf who goes on a crazy power rant
>have a wonderful month, go to paris together, spend our days picnicing and drinking wine and enjoying the last of the sunshine
>also staying friends with work girl, she wants to get together but bad timing i guess
>september rolls round, i have to leave
>me and gf decide to stay long distance
>i spend a year in a dusty hot country, work is enjoyable and i learn a lot, spend the whole time effectively single
>gf starts studying for masters degree, goes a bit crazy from anxiety over uni work
>kind of resents me for not being there to help, we speak less and less
>work girl misses me a lot, have some nice calls and miss her
>come home a couple of times with mixed results, sometimes it's nice, sometimes gf hates me
>eventually year ends, i meet gf on holiday in malaysia as a reunion (our other best friend is there too)
>she is really distant the whole time, obviously doesnt want me there, making me feel like i ruined her holiday with the friend
>he's my best friend too and he's stuck in the middle a bit
>anyway now moved into apartment with gf as planned before
>slowly got worse and worse, resents me more and more
>even though i try to help she doesnt let me, then tells me off for it
>eventually we break up (last week actually)
>still have to live together til september
>meanwhile i meet work girl a few times for dinner, things go well, i missed her more than i thought
>she was single the whole time, waiting for me to come back
>actually cares about me and doesn't resent my very existence
>might see if things work with her once i move out

>>36790404
>my doggo passed away a couple of weeks ago
>he was a fluffy, bouncy golden retriever/border collie cross
>had just about stopped feeling awful about it, slowly ecoming just a series of happy memories
>see this
>literally a tear in my eye typing this
anon why

>>36793762
this is normalfag shit

>>36793835
sorry i didnt write a story about falling in love with some girl i've never met via steam forums or something

>>36790735
I think I knew a girl that did something like that before, initials?

>>36786686
>whatever. might've just dodge a huge bullet

Sounds like you dodged a nuclear warhead, I was dating a chick like that, when we broke up she called the police an said I raped an beat her, thank god I don't live in cucked America where every man is evil an every woman is a victim, otherwise i would have lost everything. Honestly anon dont contact that girl again, avoid that shit, even if it means deleting your steam account, I'm sure the net worth of your games are less than what a lawyer costs.

>>36786914
Screen capped, this shits too real.

>>36787269
>>36790739

TFW I'll never meet anyone and I've been hardcore contactfagging for 8 months now. Where do you people meet honestly. What is going on.

>>36786371
My relationship started as a ldr and then became a real one when she moved to my country.

>>36786371
This.
I was in one for about a year, we visited each other once a month, I was a KV before and it was the happiest time of my life.
We broke up 3 months ago because she got bored of it. It still stings thinking about all the lovey-dovey stuff we did, it felt so real at the time, didn't expect that someone could be done with you so fast after so many plans of spending our lives together and shit.
The weirdest thing is that I'm sure she didn't have another dude on the side.

Maybe you guys should try it if, and only if you can't do it with a local girl, its worth the experience at least, but if you can get someone near, don't even think about it, its bound to fail.

>>36786336
>Relationships
>In /r9k/
what the fuck were you thinking, you dumb fuck

>>36792618
You're in Australia anon? Shit man just hit the mines or become a construction laborer, if you have no experience, just get your dad or something to be a fake reference.

> be me, trap starting transition
> extremely lonely and depressed, living inside my room
> meet literal jew
> his last name is Goldstein. Fucking Goldstein
> nicest guy I ever met. At least he didn't send me a dick pic
> start talking
> talking becomes natural
> we chat for hours every day
> we exchange stuff like games n' shit
> he gifted me Terraria, I gave him Don't Starve together. We only played once cause he didn't like it...
> always talking about finally meeting face to face (he is american, I'm in Europe)
> dreaming about the future
> more than 18 '''''''together''''''''

> he tells me he has an STD
> he has been dating random girls with an app
> he tells me he never gave a shit about me, was only interested in sexual relief
> apologize shortly after, saying he was angry
> I believe him
> he stops talking one day
> he found a gf and tells me same, never gave a shit about me

That's my experience and why I will never give a dam again about someone online.

>>36794429
I'm in Europe. Do you wanna give it another try? Don't be hurt forever now because of that jew.

>>36794175
post your contact info here and see what happens

>>36794485
I don't think I'm worthy, anon.
Now I'm too old and ugly.
If you had the heart to date me, then you'd deserve much better.

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>tfw your alcoholism can ruin relationships from a range of 560 miles

>>36794528
>no i didn't make that story up
>I-I'm just insecure

>>36794528
How old are you? And ugliness is subjective. Besides you play games and at the least I could be a gaming buddy.

>>36786733
tell me more anon, am talking to a femanon in a different country

how do you make it work?

>>36794510
Here we go again then

[email protected]

>>36794547
Nah, it happened and I feel like an idiot.
I wish I never met him...

And I'm not insecure. My sister is insecure, I'm a freak with a deformed body. That's a fact
>>36794551
I'm 25, my man.
I could probably like, your older cousin...

>>36789673
Tell me about the good times anon

>tfw madly in love with a girl on the other side of the country

I will be with this girl or die trying, I've never felt this way about a person before.

>>36794601
Do you pass? Honestly I don't care about your age. Be kinda cute and share gaming interests and we're golden as far as I'm concerned.

>>36786371

How every LDR actually ends:

>Girl makes 1 friend IRL after years of anxiously avoiding people
>Slowly she tells her new friend about her bf
>Her new friend points out that her bf is a deadbeat loser misogynist who is at least moderately abusive and controlling
>Girl makes more friends through her new friend, gets a job, and goes to school
>Girl has successfully developed self esteem and drops the robot

>>36787005

>she won't get back with me to motivate me to do so

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA she dodged the biggest bullet holy shit

>it's her fault I'm a loser motivation doesn't come from me getting off my lazy ass it comes from a girl who skypes with me sometimes!!!

>>36794628
>>36794628
>>36794628
>>36794628
>>36794628
>>36794628
im on the same boat with you, except she lives outside the country

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>>36794636
>Do you pass?
Yeah, I guess I do.
I've been living as female for around 2 years now. No one ever told me anything and not too long ago I got into an argument with 2 girls about LGBTetcetc and they told that I ''wouldn't say the same if I was trans'', so that's a pass in my book.

I'm miserable for being a robot, not for being a tranny.

>>36790724

LOL BACK TO YOUR CONTAINMENT SITE, TRANNY

>>>tumblr

>>36795025
Well that's nice! What games do you play? And where you from in Europe.

>>36794209
That's because women are retards and your probably an ISIS Chad

>>36795052
Southwest in Europe.

I play mainly strategy, rts or turn based (Going to play Empire Total War [Darth mod] in a moment), rpgs and the occasional co-op game. But I have no one to play so, it gets boring pretty fast.

>>36795347
You could play with me. But I mainly play online modern games. Generic normie stuff. WoW, League. That kinda stuff.

>>36786606
>Doubt it
You're better off than most of us. We've only known how to crawl our entire lives while you've found out how it is to walk, only now someone broke your legs and you're with us. Only difference is that legs heal and when yours do you'll be ready to walk again, we'll be crawling in the dark, not knowing anything else.

>>36786686
Did you get back with your ex? How does that work?

>>36795025
what would a male know about living as a female?

>>36786733
I'm really happy for you anon.

>>36795383
Oh, never played that.
Competitive stuff is not really attractive to me.

Although I played a bit of WOW when it came out, cause I was a huuuuge fan of Warcraft 3. Damn, I miss those days...
>>36795453
What do you mean?

>>36795485
Well doesn't have to be competitive. I just play that tier of games. Including GW2, Planetside, Diablo, Borderlands, PoE, modded minecraft. Also a bit of total war Rome.

>>36788209
You fucking virgins need to stop saying that shit, it isn't true at all. I was arobot until 24. Loved and lost twice at this point. Having your heart ripped out is a far worse pain than any robot can ever imagine.The anxiety and anger you feel believing you'll never find someone is NOTHING in comparision from the myriad of things you feel when you have someone that you love and they decide you're not the one

>>36795648
Lol stop being a normie faggot.
>I was arobot until 24
kys

>>36786336
ldrs are fucking stupid. I'd rather beta orbit. She'll fuck other guys either way and one way you don't have to be all lovey dovey. You can get porn from anywhere and any chick you're likely to be with is likely to be less hot than one you could find on the internet.

>>36786686
like attracts like, anon

>>36795485
How does a male know what its like to be female?

About 6 years ago I started online dating a girl from a /soc/ big girls thread. I was lonely and horny, and think I told her I loved her within like 2 weeks. We had each other's pictures as our phone wallpapers. I tried to break it off with her after a month, and she sent me a Vocaroo of her tearfully singing "You Are My Sunshine" so I stayed with her another week then broke it off.

A year later I contacted her, she had a bf, and I told her I still loved her due to being lonely/horny and I believe she broke things off with her bf, then I never talked to her again.

All in all a bad time.

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>>36795886
>told her I still loved her due to being lonely/horny and I believe she broke things off with her bf, then I never talked to her again.

Mother of dog.

My experiences were shit.

A majority of them are either A. She was indeed female but also fucking with a bunch of other dudes or already with another dude while saying they weren't or B. A bunch of awhile traps who refuse to say they have a dick until things gets too serious and they can't pretend they are a girl anymore.

Fuck you traps, learn to be upfront with your bullshit. We know you want to be women but you can't be, I want a woman who can bear me a child not some mutilated hole you promise you will get one day.

>>36795541
Played Diablo, Borderlands is great.
You seem cool, anon.
>>36795851
Why would I know?

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Loved her for years until she decided being a pedo/zoophile was more important than our relationship. Right now she's helping traffick children for sex in the Philippines. It disgusts me to think I once wanted to have children with her, knowing what I know about her now.

>>36795929
You wanna share steam and play together sometime?

>>36795929
you said you have been living as a female for 6 years
either you are breaking global rule #2 or you're a male

>>36795963
>Loved her for years until she decided being a pedo/zoophile was more important than our relationship. Right now she's helping traffick children for sex in the Philippines
What the fuck? For real? Story?

>>36795967
Sure.

Look for ''Monalba'' in Steam if you ever feel like it.
>>36795983
>you said you have been living as a female for 6 years
Pretty sure I never said that.
> either you are breaking global rule #2 or you're a male
I'm a male.

You seem a bit slow, anon, you feeling ok?
>>36795648
>The anxiety and anger you feel believing you'll never find someone is NOTHING in comparision from the myriad of things you feel when you have someone that you love and they decide you're not the one
Have to agree there.

Looking back, I wish I never met him.

>>36787089
I'm not sure if it was clingyness. His lifestyle was just sitting at the computer all day, and I get that if i'm his main companion online and then I go, he'll get lonely.

>>36796101
originally you are >>36795025

>>36796135
Original yes, anon.
Your point?

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>>36787089
I wish I could find a gf who was insanely clingy. Makes me feel wanted.

>>36796203
you also have to consider that that feeling gets old fast, and the girl just ends up annoying you

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>>36796215
Oh you assume I have some sort of, what is it, a social life? Other interests?

I'd spend my entire day talking to her. I spend my entire day on r9k finding a gf like that so talking and making that girl be happy is my dream.

The more obsessive and insane the girl is the better desu

>>36796101
Okay I added you on Steam.

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>>36786336
>meet a robot off of /r9k/
>really shocked how into him I am
>meets my dream guy checklist
>little bit autistic in a cute way
>literally broke my "never ever date online" rule for him
>honestly shocked at how into him I am this early in the relationship
I'm really excited for when we meet irl. He's fucking amazing

>>36796215
motherfuckin' spot on. This guy fucks.

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>>36796520
>>honestly shocked at how into him I am this early in the relationship
Infatuation. He will pump and dump you as soon as you meet. It's all a farce.

>>36796601
>he will pump and dump you
but im the top

>>36786336
When my gf and I had seeing each other for 1 year she left for studies abroad for 10 months. I visited her once after 4 months. This was 3 years ago and we're still together.

>>36796619
Doesn't mean he won't leave as soon as you're done. You're walking into the age old trap so many fembots have been through.

This is you in a few months

>I can't believe he dumped me
>I'm never trusting anyone again
>All guys are assholes

>>36796664
>fembots
what did he (original)- mean by this?

>>36796248
>>36796557
look, you THINK that you want that, but there's a reason why crazy girls like that are repulsive to normies. I stay inside all the time and go out at nights, and trust me girls who are like that are huge red flags and will suck your life away.

as for your dream, it's the same as mine, I'd love to find the one, and work my ass off just to see her smile when i get home everyday. that's normal, but i'm telling you that the girls you just described are life sucking succubi and you will hate your life

>>36796520
Hi ken-ken~

>>36796520
>>36796601
quick update
>he finds out i'm in this thread
>finds my post
>teases me
>ends up saying how much he likes me
>>36797077
hi~

>>36797077
hi soul
>>36797081
hi kenny

it's me

I had an LDR with a girl on another continent. I really cared about her, embarrassingly. I visited her for a week and it was really nice. I hadn't been that happy in a long time. Found out a month later that she had a boyfriend of many years and that I was the other guy, just a fling of sorts. It's been two years now and I'm feeling much better, but it still stings a little when I think about it.

>>36786371

lol. This is so perfect and true. Sorry robots, I'm the guy that goes after LDR chicks.

>>36786336
my story is pretty typical.

>meet girl on social anxiety forum
>she lives across the ocean
>get along, chat constantly
>she wants a relationship
>too anxious to meet me or tell her family about me (red flags one and two)
>says she loves me first
>im constantly trying to arrange for a meeting but she keeps dodging
>eventually breaks up with me (after 2 years) saying stuff like 'it was like a fantasy in my head'
>also was apprehensive about being with a white guy (she's indian) because of her parents
>eventually stop talking

I looked her up a few years back and guess what? she married a white guy lol

>>36786336
2 LDR both didn't work out oh well cest la vie

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Honestly senpai Im fucked

Hate being a fucking leaf and dont want to put that on my children, so I need to find an american woman. Irl is filled with stupid thots as we all know. Dont care about having meaningless sex with them

Long distance is my only option I think

At the same time I dont know how that even works and if I were a woman I wouldnt go for it

:/

>>36797787
i am in the same situation as you, anon

i just don't know what to do

>>36797077
>>36797081
>~
You guys are cute
now get out you fucking normies

>been in a LDR for years
>not a real relationship, just friends
>she constantly tells me she loves me
>wants to meet up with me
>never told anyone about her, completely a secret
>dont want to explain the situation to parents/friend cause they'll think im weird
>continue to friendzone her
>get absolutely no pussy irl

I'm in too deep m8s

>>36794896
Yeah this is definitely what happened to me.

And now I'm in another LDR but its different as we met IRL and lived together for a while and it will just be 3 years separate and seeing each other 4 months a year so we can get through it. Also im no longer a deadbeat loser.

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>>36798374
Just go on a solo holiday and meet her?
Then lie to your family and say you met her on holiday or you met her ages ago irl and have chatted occasionally online and decided to hang out and it went well.

>>36798482
Only 19 and in college. She lives west coast and I'm east coast. Only way i could do it is if I bought a plane ticket but since I fell for the college meme I'm broke af. Even if I could afford the ticket parents would question why I'm going to Washington

>>36798596
Get a train, or both get trains and meet in the middle.

I'm a dumbass so all my ldrs failed

I'm conscious of it now and it feels bad man

Making sure/vow to never get in a ldr again because I'm so stupid

>>36798713
What did you do wrong anon? Let us learn from your mistakes.

I can't >> for whatever reason

I was insane and brain dead, as long as you're not me you're already more successful than I am

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>made r9k skype group couple years ago
>a girl from r9k joins my group
>constantly bitch about being alone on that group
>one day out of the blue the girl that joined offers to meet for cuddles
>im lithuanian living in uk, shes french living in france
>meetup fugg
>im a lonely fuck obsessed with finding a gf so i continue to chase her
>she says it wont work but allows me to keep seeing her
>months later she starts liking me more
>eventually decide to start dating officially
>start flying to france every month sometimes 2 times a month
>months later we actually fall in love with each other
>in january shes moving to uk to live with me
>i actually fucking think im going to marry her
>i actually made it??? how???
>pic related my first post on r9k some years back

I used to be extremely pathetic, like paying girls to cuddle with me and shit, this girl fixed my life

>>36798919
I hope I can post a similar story in the future my man.
I just met a girl off here recently and she's goddamn amazing. It's already been starting to improve my whole outlook on life, I feel like I have an end-goal now. I wanna be a man that can make her proud. I wanna build a future together.

i met my ldr bf on gmod TTT (we're fags)

we've since then spent most of our freetime together for the last ~5 years

i'm set to move across the country to be with him in about 4-5 months or so. our relationship is very strong, and i know that us meeting could potentially change things, but i'm willing to put in a lot of extra effort to be his perfect bf :3

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>met guy on /r9k/
>very similar interests
>he's just a bit awkward in the beginning but I gain his trust quickly
>every conversation goes smoothly
>happy every single day
>we exchange pictures of our faces
>not attracted to him physically but I am in love with his words
>keep talking to him just the same
>fall for him more and more, dream about him, the whole world revolves around his being
>realise that he's actually attractive and my standards were impossible because 2D
>straight up want to marry him
>I'm always very loving and the feeling never falters, but he doesn't feel the same
>quit talking to each other
>never had as many mood swings as I do now

>>36794896
Thats how one of mine ended

She went to a community meetup for some game server she was staff on, one user was actually someone she knew without realising, she left me for him, since I lived 8000 miles away and waiting a couple years was apparently too much for her. Funny she said she still loved me after he left her because she is a psychopath

>>36799201
get fucked roastie, i hope every guy does this to you

>>36799302
Why, Anon-kun? I loved him truly.

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>robots deluding themselves into thinking that texting a 14 year old 1000 miles away equals having a long-distance gf

>>36786371
this is true and if you don't believe it then you're in denial

>>36799477
my gf is 23 yo and i fly out to see her every month, stop being poor

I married my LDR late last year. She moved here to the US since it was easier than me moving to Australia (but I would rather live in Australia).

LDR is difficult, I can see why many fail. You have to be really committed, and simple miscommunications can spiral out of control easily.

>>36799481
if youre dating a girl like that shes shit and its only for the better to lose her, same thing would happen if you were not in ldr, its called being a slut

>>36799572
Nobody cares about your life dude

>>36799351
>tfw same thing happened to me kinda but im a guy
wanna try again with me?

>>36799676
i was under the impression that this thread is exactly about sharing our ldr life stories

>>36799685
No, sorry.

You have been muted for 2 seconds, because your comment was not original.

hello anon, i had a pretty succesful LDR.

>she went to another country for a master's (3 hrs flight)

>i wanted to break up, but she insisted we could do it

>we would videocall 3-5 times a week. (+messages of course, but nothing too pressing i guess)

> i had no intention of cheating, and was prepared for the worst (i think this is the most important thing. trust, but also be prepared for the worst)

>im 99.9% certain she didnt cheat also

>total time apart was like 1 full year. she would come back for holidays n stuff, i would go there to see her (2 or three times if i remember). had an amazing time, and had no big problems (1 years is not that much..)


so all in all, it was a pretty good time. it is not impossible, but srsly, prepare for the worst

>>36799695
I was under the impression that your gf wants my dick

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Tfw ywn even ldr

>>36786336
>meet girl on omegle
>talk on kik
>she asks me to be her bf, I say yes because beta retard
>after about a day want out
>4 days later she tells me she made out with her friend who's a girl
>I say we aren't good for eachother
> she agrees

I'm going to go ahead and assume that didn't count as a gf

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I had a couple LDRs
I live in Northern Virginia, for reference
>girl lives in central Pennsylvania
>really love this girl, been friends with her for a year or two before dating her
>talk and skype every night
>one night she doesnt respond to my messages
>later find out shes in the hospital for overdosing on oxycontin, thought she was just fucking around with her friends
>eventually released from the hospital
>never responded to my messages except for one time on valentines day
>cant deal with the emotional stress of this, send her a break up message, still doesnt respond, and dont talk to her again until like a year later
>find out she OD'd on oxycontin as a suicide attempt

>girl lives only an hour away from me
>friends with her for about a year before getting really close and starting to date her
>we visit each other a bit, i meet her family she meets mine
>she's got some problems though, depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, and psychosis
>get really close to her and fall deeply in love with her
>she tells i am the greatest thing to ever happen in her life and she wants to be with me forever
>that makes me happier than anything else ever has, think that i finally found my soul mate
>her depressive and psychotic episodes start to get worse
>try my best to help her out
>nothing can help her
>eventually start falling off with her
>she breaks down and tells me that all the feelings she had for me were a lie and she lied to me to protect my emotions and to make herself feel more normal because she says she cannot actually feel emotional bonds with other people
>my world comes crashing down
>we break up
>try to stay friends but shes not interested
>lol okay whatever bitch
>she tries to befriend me again later and just ignore her in return

tl;dr LDRs dont really work out and anyone who says "b-b-but muh LDR is working out fine" is holding on to a fantasy and will have their world destroyed in due time when it all falls apart
pic unrelated

>>36799841
It's okay. I'm your gf now. Do you want a sandwich and a cup of cocoa?

>>36799201
Why don't you girls meet guys who actually want a gf. It seems girls only talk to guys who DON'T want a gf and are then surprised the feeling isn't mutual.

I'm buying a goddamn gf first to apply wins.

>>36800142
Just because you had a bad experience doesn't mean all LDR's are fucked.
You gotta play the game to win, amirite?

>>36800142
m8 you were in LDRs with nutters so of course it never worked out. Geniunely feel sorry for you though.

>>36790706
I'm gonna marry you in 2020.

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>>36786336
>meet guy in plenty of fish who lives near me but is finishing up in the marines
>6 months left but why not
>get into unofficial relationship
>I send care packages and he comes home once every other month
>noticing red flags of cheating the entire time
>one day he sends me a selfie but the background is a nice bathroom
>they don't have nice bathrooms in the marines
>dump him
>three days later "in a relationship with" a girl 2 hours away from him base
>mfw

I only wasted 4 months, may-August last year so it was only a summer thing. Better than nothing. Sadly he only chose her because I left him, she doesn't know that she was a second choice to a cheating asshole.

I know people who had successful ldrs. And I'm envious of them
I ruined all of my own ldrs by
Being a creep

My advice, never speak your mind, be as personable as possible

>>36800497
>my advice
>lie
yeah
nah

Should have polished it a bit more

I mean talk by talking, i usually talk by speaking my mind and it ruined all my ldrs

If you don't have the self control to stay off 4chan, you don't have the selfcontrol to be in an LDR.

>>36800801
What if me and my boyfriend both post on 4chan?

>>36800801
Does that include yourself

>>36800497
Never speak your mind only applies if you're fucked up. And if you are never speak your mind to ANYONE not just ldrs

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>>36800160
O-oh thats very nice of you those would be nice thank you..

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How do you LDR anons have any ideas on staying connected with your partner? We're so far away, it's getting difficult to say involved with each other.

>>36790706
tl;dr: you both were normies from the start who had valentines dates so you dont belong on r9k normalfag. fucking leave now.

Can I get a nice fembot ldr gf now

>>36802175
She would only settle for an LDR if you were better than all the men in her area. Likely not.

both of them relapsed for exes they had and left me.

I don't have any exes to relapse into, just unrequited love to relapse into.

currently in a LDR.
I love her but i cant keep it up. distance is too hard.
DO NOT LET IT HAPPEN NO MATTER WHAT.
I will be breaking with her soon.

>>36794960
dont do it. please dont. I am in it now and stuck from breaking up with her and destroying her or feeling dissatisfied with the intimacy and connection. IT IS NOT WORTH IT

>>36803983
WHY though? what if im not a poorfag and can afford to fly to her?

>>36801393
it is hard. the harsh truth is if you are drifting the only out comes are find a way to be together... or leave. im facing that decision right now. but i cant move away

I've been in several. Most of the time we end up staying friends if shit doesn't work out.

I'm still kind of confused as to why there are so many people in relationships on /r9k/ kek.

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If you can't meet each other within that 3 month honeymoon period of your LDR, don't waste your time. It will fade and you will eventually stop talking to each other out of the fact that you have nothing else to talk about anymore and didn't take the next step of meeting.

Like a lot of other anons are saying, don't do it. You end up getting your heart broken for one reason or another. If you can meet up in the near future then it's different, otherwise don't.
I won't ever even entertain the idea again.
I'll probably end up in another one when I'm lonely

>>36804047
If you have the time and money to regularly visit her, or pay for her to regularly visit you, it can work. The problem everyone runs into is keeping it strictly long distance for too long. You have to escalate and meet up, and here's the next tricky part, not only do you have to want to keep escalating and find some kind of living compromise (her moving closer to you, you moving closer to her, or both moving somewhere new) AND she has to want to do plus be willing to do all these things too.

>>36804054
So what are you going to do then, Anon? We still talk all day and everything, but it still feels like he's so far away.

>>36787220
>still browses /r9k/

retard

>>36804431
My boyfriend and I both use /r9k/
We end up talking about our threads sometimes. it's nice

>>36794896
the r9k "men" who date fembots don't want to believe this. :^)

I might be a little late, but I'll say my piece. Long-ish story ahead.

The closest thing I've ever had to a real relationship was long distance. I met her in 2014, and she lived a thousand miles away. We hit it off immediately. Never have I ever had such a connection with someone.

She's a weird person when it comes to relationships. She has never been in a romantic relationship with someone before we met, despite being 18. Not that other dudes haven't bought it up- she just wasn't interested. And trust me on this when I say she is a total 10/10. She told me she only talks to people that truly spark her interest and make her want to know more. Apparently I was a person like that.

We had a great relationship. We never got to meet, but we still worked out amazing. Our relationship did not fall into the usual pitfalls anons discussed. The decision to end it was mutual. But the thing is- even after our romance ended, we still talked. More than just that- I would say she's my closest friend. And she certainly feels the same way.

I am still in love with her. If there was ever a woman I could spend the rest of my life with undoubtedly, it's her without a question

I like to think she feels the same way about me now. I feel like she does but doesn't show it because showing emotions isn't her thing.

I've tried to move on, of course. I'm only human and I can't pin for something that might not even be there. But no matter what, I just can't seem to get her out of my mind. I have never met someone that I just... click with like I do with her.

Funny story. Recently, I've been talking to a girl I've been wanting to ask out and I informed my long distance friend of this happening. She's jealous. I can tell. She wants to FaceTime almost every day, always sends me selfies, reacts somewhat negatively about the girl I like, and recently told me about how she thinks it would "be cool" if we were roommates.

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Met my fiance on 4chan, ask me anything.

Do not assume these people posting their """success stories""" are attractive. There's a reason they found each other on r9k.

>>36804696
I'm attractive. Fiance's attractive.


Sometimes people are honest, anon. The world isn't all awful.

>>36804716
I can't help but assume your standards are low.

>>36786674
I'm REALLY hoping for this. 500 miles. She doesn't enjoy being where she is. PRAY FOR ME.

>>36804716
pictures or it's not a true statement

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Old friend of mine met a guy online and they chatted for ages. Eventually, she moved across the country to be with him and they've been married ever since.
She works in his family's company and they moved into a nice new house together.
Neither of them are lookers--subpar, really--but they have what most people on here don't have, at least.

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>>36804731
They aren't.

Maybe the reason people aren't honest or bother contributing content or ideas they feel are valuable is due to the unwarranted hostility of the environment.

Just my thoughts.

>>36804745
>Post picture with timestamp.
>Could look like george clooney and would still get 30 responses from autistic manchildren virgins amounting to "LOL what a fag, ugly 2/10"


4chan died when people like you flooded it.

>>36804794
I can't help but not care anymore.

>>36804794
ok ugly and ugly girlfriend, glad you're happy at least

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>>36804820
>>36804840
>Thread about X.
>Spend your own time discouraging people from talking about X.

I'm sorry for what's happened to you both.

>>36786336
Lost my virginity on April 12th with my long distance girlfriend, she's coming over for the whole summer.

>>36804862
It's almost like I've spent about two minutes of my time responding to you. Wow!

>>36804873
It's almost like you're so used to any conversations you have descending into a spiral of inconsequential inanity that you don't even value your own thoughts enough to ensure they're honed to the degree needed not to waste two minutes of your time defending imaginary accusations against yourself in response to your own, continued, and self fulfilling inadequacies as a thinking, feeling consciousness.

Humans learn through interaction. You interact like a wounded animal.

It's why you're alone.

>>36786336
2 month anniversary today of being in an LDR with a qt girl from Australia. I'm in the Northeast USA. We're both 19.

>>36804918
I won't even read your post.

>>36787327
>not 14, sometimes 15 hours

>>36804918
>tl;dr
im just going to assume that this is you REEEEing over us calling you ugly because you refuse to prove us wrong

>>36786336
Been going well for the past ~8 months
She's living with her fat female friend

>>36788125
>>36788125
If you don't talk for two days, you already fucked up.

>>36799847
No ldr originating from/entirely online interactions counts as a real relationship.

>>36794056
I also screencapped it and archived it. He nailed it there.

>>36797077
>>36797081
if you want to namefag go to reddit

>meet someone here
>hit it off instantly
>start dating within 2 months
>don't even live in the same country
>talk all day every day, skype call even while we sleep
>visit them a few times
>our 1 year anniversary is in a few days
>will be spending almost a month with them in less than 2 weeks
>talking about moving in together after I graduate university next year

Thanks /r9k/, I came to you at my lowest and you've given me more than I could've imagined.

>>36798919
nobody gives a shit fag

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>all these posts about successful relationships
GET OUT YOU FUCKING NORMIES YOU DONT BELONG HERE NOBODY CARES ABOUT YOUR SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS EXCEPT OTHER NORMIES GET THE FUCK OUT NOW THIS BOARD IS FOR LONELY OUTCASTS NOT YOUR STUPID RELATIONSHIPS OR TENDIE MEMES OR WHAT-FUCKING-EVER NORMIES COME TO THIS BOARD FOR, GET OUT GET OUT GEETTTTTT OUTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT

>tfw non ld gf is going away with her family for 3 months
:^(

I'm in an LDR right now with a guy I met off here
he sends me 3 or 4 half hearted messages a day
all communication stops after 8pm. this repeats every day
he used to be so sweet to me and talk to me all the time. I try to send him nice good morning and good night messages all the time. I genuinely enjoy hearing about his day, how he's feeling, but he rarely talks to me now and he never asks about me. I feel very alone and sad all the time now.

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>>36786336
I live in Washington DC and my sister lives in Hawaii. I talk to her all the time and she buys plane tickets when I need to visit her. I know it isn't technically ldr but I think it's kinda nice.

>>36806756
> them

Just say the gender, fag

>>36807064
i'll be your gf :3 info?

>>36786439
>"Guise I'm 19 ang have been in an ldr for three whole weeks. Get learnt, Google is your friend."

Make this thread again when you want to commit suicide. Next time you say goodbye don't actually hang up so you can hear the bitch gagging Dindu's cock you beta cuck faggot.

Was sort of in one with my oneitis. She lived 3 hours away but we still managed to see each other like every other week. She would come down and see me all the time and she would beg me to come see her or pick her up. Some of the best times of my life were spent seeing her. Then she moved closer to me and became a huge cunt. She still hits me up sometimes, I always ignore her...I miss the fuck out of her.

>>36807212
It's a straight relationship, don't worry my man. Fuck gays and fuck traps, they're ruining modern society.

>>36803360
Actually you have two...

>>36786528
YOU have been in an ldr, you have to be legally retarded if you think women can abstain themselves from a cock up their ass at least twice a week.

>>36807338
You live in a weird world

>>36786371
LDRs only apply to people who meet and date and then are temporarily separated by school/careers/ general location. Does not apply to robots who cannot function as normal.
You meeting somebody in the echoes of a skype group/omegle/ or some blog or discord does not count as LDR when you never met them in the first place you retarded insufferable faggot autists

I think my ldr is going to end soon
it's not what it once was and my s/o isn't into it/me anymore, although they claim they are
LDRs hurt so much, if only I was able to close the distance, or have been born in the same area
maybe then you wouldn't have lost interest
or maybe it was inevitable
maybe the age and accent thing was the only thing interesting about me and that's finally gotten boring
I wish I could be a better match
I wish I could make you love me again
if it does end I think I'm just going to stay alone, no one would be able to compete

>>36807787
>You meeting somebody in the echoes of a skype group/omegle/ or some blog or discord does not count as LDR when you never met them in the first place you retarded insufferable faggot autists

This. Nearly every single time a robot on /r9k/ has said they're in an LDR they always mean with some chick they've never even met irl.

>>36807978
you're describing exactly what's happening to me right now. I wish I could give you a hug

>>36808044
>tfw she thinks I'm with her and don't want to break up is because I don't want to be alone
I don't care about being alone, I just don't want to be without her
I haven't gotten drunk in years, not since meeting her, maybe I'll get blackout drunk tonight

>>36808231
I know that feeling. I hate myself for falling in love, I feel like such a fucking fool. I'll have a drink for you, I'm drinking right now. will most likely start doing pills again this week, haven't touched them since 2014.

>>36807221
t. fat NEET man in moms basement

>>36808312
what are you drinking?
and what pills will you pop?

>>36800142
> LDRs dont really work out and anyone who says "b-b-but muh LDR is working out fine" is holding on to a fantasy and will have their world destroyed in due time when it all falls apart

What about people who eventually get married then? me being one of them, just because it didnt work for you it doesnt mean it doesnt work for everyone

How do I be a good boyfriend for her?

im in a long distance relationship and its torture. he doesnt contact me and doesnt respond when i contact him. too bad i love him.