So, my mom wrote an e-mail and demanded that I inform her about what's happening in my life and how I feel, because in the last phone-call I was very concise.
Now I have to write back. Can you help me figuring out how honest I should be?
Should I tell her that a part of me despises her and sees her as an enemy?
Should I tell her that I deplore the fact that I lack the heartlessness necessary to cut contact completely?
Should I tell her that I always feel down after meeting her and that a conversation with her is poison for all my hopes and desires?
Should I tell her that I went home grinning from the hospital the day she received her cancer-diagnosis?
Damn, I feel conflicted right now? Please help me /r9k/.
>>36751675
If you actually hate her you send her an email back saying
"Nothing. I'm fine."
>>36751714
but that's what i normally do, and it's getting on my nerves because then the same e-mails and phone-calls happen over and over again.
Why do you hate your mom anon
>>36751804
Well alternatively I like the point about grinning when she got cancer, but I feel like she doesn't deserve to know what's on your mind. Things could also escalate when you send that.
>>36751675
It depends. Does she deserve the hate?
>>36751675
Yes to all 4.
Send here a savage, hate filled message, then block her number and email.
>cancer diagnosis
wtf you evil bastard
>>36751823
well, on one hand she's just dislikeable. arrogant, conceited and such. on the other hand i blame her for many things that went wrong in my life. she put me in a horrible daycare very early on, cheated on my father (which lead to him leaving), never showed real maternal caring and was very closemouthed about everything.
i know these feels. just give her some detail, not a ton, and nothing she can go on a tangent off of
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder
>>36751930
I-I'm not evil. It was just that... it was exiting, you know, it wasn't even that i hated her so much, but just the appeal of a new development and the perspective that i in the end would be able to dodge the honest talk i intended to have.
>>36751885
Maybe? Everyone seems to like her except me and my father. But she was very much the reason why I wasn't able to talk to my oneitis and thus missed the chance of my life, which threw me into a deep depression that lasted for years.
>>36751859
>she doesn't deserve to know what's on your mind
I feel that, too, and I would be happy if I could just avoid a conversation. But she at least tries to appear like a good mom and wants to make up for nearly a decade of totally lacking maternal care. That's why I can't just shake her off.