My few of friends moved away, I have been alone for two years, I don't have any friends
How do I make friends?
I suppose nobody really cares at all
go to a bar get a couple of drinks to loosen up and make small talk
Get a job, and/or go to college, you can meet people there.
>>36738720
Have you considered just trying to be yourself?
Don't criticize, condemn or complain. Give honest and sincere appreciation (no flattery). Try to become genuinely interested in other people, or learn to fake it. Smile - and if you dont feel like it, force yourself to think happy thoughts. Remember and use the other persons name. It's important to people to feel like they matter to someone.
Maybe it'll work for you.
>>36739386
I do have a job, I quite like my coworkers and they seem to like me, but I just can't imagine becoming friends with them beyond a work environment.
My only friends I ever had I made in elementary school, I stuck with them until halfway through college, where I dropped out and my friends eventually moved away after graduating.
The whole reason I'm making this thread is because last week I went to a little get-together with them (as they were in town, which rarely happens) and we had a great time, I had totally forgotten what it was like to have friends, when it was all over and I got home to my empty apartment I began to cry.
I really miss them, they are still my very good friends but I only see them maybe twice a year at most, besides that I am completely alone.
>>36739487
Not OP, just in the same position as him. A lot of this is pretty difficult for me to do. I find it really difficult to find interest in almost anyone i come across and i can't really fake it, i just will cease the interaction when i get bored but do it as smoothly as possible by making up an excuse. i'm probably just borderline autismo. o well.
>>36739507
Life is passing me by, and I failed until recently to realize just how miserable I am, how miserable my life is. Life isn't worth living without friends, without other people to enjoy life with, it means nothing when you're alone. This fact can escape you when you are alone long enough, but the moment you experience actual happiness, when you are with true friends, you realize just how miserable your everyday life is in comparison to when you are with them.
>>36739537
I'm in more or less the same situation too. Holding on to friends is a lot of work.
>>36739560
I'm 30 and haven't had friends since I was about 23, haven't been in a relationship in 11 years. I just focus on hobbies, and if I happen to make actual friends at work/school, fine, but I don't actively seek them out, that's an easy way to become discouraged.
>>36740079
How do you do it? It just feels so lonely.
>>36740423
I just try to avoid thinking about it, I try to focus on reading, playing games, school work, if I start contemplating life I become very depressed.
If you have hobbies try joining a club of said hobbies. It's an easy way to make friends because you already have common points, also these people tend to be quite open
>>36738720
For you and any other lurkers, this hook allowed me to out aside my fucked up cognitive distortions and make friends for the first time in my life
https://www.amazon.com.au/Social-Skills-Guidebook-Shyness-Conversations-ebook/dp/B01AU8C766