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How do you approach a situation like this?

In my case family in particular. When I came out I expected to be disowned, but surprisingly wasn't treated badly at all.

When talking to me directly everyone in my close family tries to use the correct pronouns and name, but at this point I pretty much overheard everybody talking about me when they think I'm not listening and there isn't even a hint of trying to use the correct name or pronouns when they think I'm not around and it's been like 8 months since I came out...

What do?
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>>8869093
disown them
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>>8869093
Transition has no long-term proven benefits.
Detransition.
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>>8869104
STOP LIVING START FAPPING
THOSE SKITTLES WON'T GULP THEMSELVES DOWN YOUR THROAT.
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>>8869109
Reported for what?
I'm not breaking any rules.
I'm expressing my viewpoints.

>>8869112
This on the other hand is a blatant shitpost.
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>>8869093
its been like this for me after 2 years so yeah just disown them
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>>8869118
You're actually breaking a global rule and a board rule.
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>>8869093
Have you tried talking about this with any family member that has done it?
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>>8869123
Please point to which rules I am breaking, bitterhon. [citation needed]

>>8869120
Seriously, transition doesn't work.
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>>8869129
Global rule 3, global rule 10, board rule 1.
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>>8869129
No spamming or flooding of any kind. No intentionally evading spam or post filters.
Advertising (all forms) is not welcome—this includes any type of referral linking, "offers", soliciting, begging, stream threads, etc.

>This board is for the respectful discussion of LGBT lifestyle and the LGBT community.

inb4 insults are respectful because I said they are
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>>8869138
If I come in and spam endless anti-lgbt propaganda, that's totally not against the rules! 1488!
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>>8869125
Be sure to tell them, if you haven't yet, that you don't just want to be humored. You want to know that your family really understands and accepts your identity.
Be as willing as you're comfortable with to help them understand what you've felt that they might not have perceived.
That you're happier now, this is who you are, how you want to live, and you aren't the person your family thought you were.
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>You will not post any of the following outside of /b/: Trolls, flames, racism, off-topic replies, uncalled for catchphrases, macro image replies, indecipherable text (example: "lol u tk him 2da bar|?"), anthropomorphic ("furry") or grotesque ("guro") images, post number GETs ("dubs"), or loli/shota pornography.

My posts are on topic. They are advice. I'm not trolling, flaming, exc - you just think I am because you disagree.

I'm not spamming. Please explain how I am "spamming".

I am discussing /lgbt/ topics, and I am quite respectful, if a bit harsh sometimes.

No rules broken,. Nice try.

>>8869138
I'm not "insulting" anyone.
You can take offence to my posts, but that's your choice, not mine.

Also, I'm not "spamming".
It's advice, that is valid.

>>8869140
It's not anti-lgbt.
Have I ever said anything like all trans must dir they're degenerates? No.

I'm not anti-lgbt.

I simply know the science.
Transition has no long-term proven benefits, and that's that. It's not anti-lgbt to point out the truth. I still support trans rights.
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>>8869129
you don't work. get a job you greasy shitehawk. you're a disappointment
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>>8869167
I do work, actually.
Nice try.

I'm also not greasy, or a "shitehawk"
My family isn't dissapointed in me, they're quite proud actually.
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>>8869159
Paper thin justification. Everyone, and I mean everyone, sees through your shit.
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So is cureanon a repressor or do we not know
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>>8869159
You're outright lying about the science and pretending your extremist politics are fact and not opinion.
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>>8869093
get over yourself
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>>8869180
My posts arem't "shit".
I am simply here to inform, nothing more.
If you don't like free speech, there are many places you can go.

>>8869182
I'm a repressor, yes. From /repgen/.
I have dysphoria.

>>8869184
How am I lying?
I have disproven every single attempt to prove that transition has long-term proven benefits, and that the transgenderism=intersex theory is anything but pure bullshit.

Also, my politixal viewpoints are moderate at best. I'm not an extremist.

>>8869190
This.
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>>8869202
You're lying, you're making things up, pulling things out of your ass, and intentionally obscuring the truth so you can push an anti-lgbt extremist idea.
Nobody is falling for it.
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>>8869207
Please point out any lies I have ever made, and please explain where I am obscuring the truth?

I'm not pushing any agenda, and certainly not anti-lgbt. I treat trans women as women, however realize the reality that internally they will always see themselves as men.
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>tfw cureanon mask is falling.
>tfw anons are finding out he's a /pol/ shitposter who keeps using omission, fake statistics and anti lgbt sources to push people into not transitioning.

Are you having fun tormenting the "degenerates", cureanon?
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>>8869223
All of your "science" has been debunked years ago. Every time you try to cover up your "le ebin redpill raidz" with pseudo-innocent attitude people roll their eyes.
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>>8869228
Tbh curehon is probably pushing more would be repressors to stop repressing as they see how crazy she is
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>>8869159
Calling people bitterhon is an insult and harassment regardless of your opinion on the subject. Spamming and making slogans and adverting violates multiple global rules. End of discussion, next topic.
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>>8869104

She's just mad that repgen was a shit show today.

>>8869148

Well I should also mention that when I said I overheard them I meant that I secretly recorded their conversations for the specific purpose of finding out if they deadname me behind my back.

Yeah I'm a psycho I guess... but I felt strongly that their interaction with me after coming out was completely insincere and that they were only humouring me, and it was eating me up so much that I just had to do it.

At least my suspicions were proven in full, not to mention other thing said about me, like "wow, "he's" actually still making plans for the future"... As if I'm fucking dying of cancer or something... What's the point in them even trying to be nice to my face when they say things like that behind my back...

And I can't really confront them with this because they know that there is no way I could have overheard them unless I spied on them somehow...
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>>8869228
I'm not from /pol/.
They've even told me to transition before.
Nice shitpost, however.

I also don't lie, or use a "mask".

>>8869233
Please explain which science of mine has been "debunked"? I have debunked everyone of the bitterhon citations provded to me as of so far.

I'm also not from /pol/.

>>8869238
The term bitterhon is not insulting or harassment, you choose to take it that way.

It means a specific ideaology which I am critiqing, bitterhon. It is a delusional worldview. This isn't an insult, it's saying your ideas and worldvie is illogical.

>>8869244
I'm not "mad". This is actual flamebait, and actually against the rules, but whatever.

/repgen/ is shitposted by people like you all the time, and you claim I'm breaking the rules?
Hah, nice joke.
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>>8869342
Calling people delusional and illogical is harassment and insulting. You can argue with the mods about that point.
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>>8869342

You have to go back.
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>>8869342
All of your so called science has been debunked or is just an asspull.
Go home spammer.
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>>8869350
I'm not calling *people* delusional, I'm calling their ideas and worldviews delusional. This isn't intended to be insulting. Nice try, bitterhon.

Keep false reporting me.


>>8869357
To where? I am in my main board, /lgbt/.

>>8869361
[citation needed]
I'm not a spammer.
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>>8869408

You have to go back.
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>>8869408
No matter how hard you mental gymnastics insults into not being insults, the mods disagree.
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>>8869408
>I'm not a spammer.
lmao okay
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>>8869492
This. You’re shitting up 2+ threads with the same crap you spam every day. Just fuck off
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>>8869458
>>8869468
>>8869492
Keep shilling. The mods agree with me.
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>>8869244
You deserve another non-cure anon reply
You were right to be suspicious! You know you were picking up on something that was really there. You tested that in a sort of drastic way, but you realize it was extreme.
But you can talk to them about this without just confronting them with your proof.
You can tell them that you're worried their commitment to your transition isn't sincere, and that they don't use your new name and pronouns when you aren't around. That's all true! That unease you felt is no invasion of their privacy.
You don't even need to get them to admit they haven't been doing this to change the way you talk about it with them, and maybe get a chance to teach them something about this.
Like I said, tell them that this is really who you are, this is from now on and it it's who you've been for a long time, and that you want to know that your family really understands that.
And that it will be harder to trust them, or be around them, if you can't be sure that they really accept that.
They might tell you why they don't buy it. You might be able to start a conversation about the problem underneath all this faking.
You might learn that they have no intention of being honest with you.
But if nothing else, you might learn the story behind your recordings, and give them a chance to learn how to really accept you
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I would also reccomend detransitioning. It's not healthy how our society treats body image issues through surgery and pills rather than introspection and therapy
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>>8869525
You mean worthless talk therapy for years and edgy "new age" treatments you cretins worship?

I spent eight years of my life following it your shitty way of muh self acceptance and just be ureslf :)))))))) bullshit contemporary Western fairy dust. I've had enough introspection and enough telling the doctor my feel feels for ten lifetimes.
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>>8869504

Thanks anon, I think you're right, probably going to confront them about it and see where it goes. Not like there's any use in just being mad about it on the inside.
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>>8869558

That's just your mental illness talking honey
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>>8869604
>all the doctors are wrong
>medical science is a conspiracy
>it IS a mental illness, no matter what those jew """doctors""" say
hmm
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>>8869558
Transition has no long-term proven benefits.
I'm sorry therapy and self acceptance hasn't helped you, but neither does transition.

Life is a struggle, keep on fighting!

>>8869604
This too. It's a mental illness, it's not you.
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>>8869618
>>8869604
I'm not a tranny you cocksuckers. I'm a treatment resistant chronic depressive who's been on more drug trials then there are chemicals in your water. I just wanted to point out how bullshit your self acceptance spiel is to anyone with an iota of sense.
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>>8869618
It's by literal definition not a mental illness. Spreading anti-science anti-lgbt propaganda is against board rule 1.
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>>8869648
[citation needed]
The traditional narrative is bullshit.
I've disproved it many times when challenged on this board.

It's not anti-sicence. I'm a man of science.
Also, i'm pro-lgbt rights. Nice try.
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>>8869677
You mean sources you never cite and constant attempts to redirect people off 4chan so they can do your research for you?

Seems more like boneitis to me. You're just a lazy phoneposter.
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>>8869611

Not gonna lie, I find the whole "jews" conspiracy kinda hot. Subjecting the Aryans, Angles, Celts, and other ethnic western boys to subconscious manipulation. Driving them confused into the arms of the Zionist medical establishment, where the boys can begin their hormonal transition to delicious feminization to better serve the needs of our brave new world. Encouraging them to come out as transgirls to their parents, shattering their hopes and dreams. Deeply satisfied with having peacefully sterilized the descendants of their oppressors during the days of the diaspora, all while convincing the innocent European 'girls' that this is what they wanted.

Hnnng ~
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>>8869687
I'm not a "phoneposter".
Also, it's not my job to spoonfeed you an argument.
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>>8869693
>waahhh I have boneitis

That's what I thought, phoneposter. Continue giving me no arguments.
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>>8869228
I'm not having fun watching it. I don't like how sick gender dysphoria is making her because I remember being like that.
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>>8869677
You're the one spamming a traditionalist anti-science narrative though.
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>>8869093
It takes time. My religious fanatic mother even uses the correct name and pronouns when she doesn't think I'm around.

Sometimes my family slips "he". It's like a domino effect. They'll all be talking together at a family gathering and saying "she" and one slips a "he" and now everybody's saying "he". It's been ten fucking years, so now I have a policy of aggressively correcting them.
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>>8869707
read this as “bonetits”
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>>8869734
I'm not her.
I do have a mental illness, but it's under control. I'm not having too extreme symptoms anymore, and I've found purpose in my life.

I'm quite happy most of the time!

>>8869739
The tradnarrative is the beleif that transgenderism=intersex, which goes against science. [citation needed that isn't fucking bullshit]
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>>8869772
Still no arguments to speak of. It seems the phoneposter is only interested in shitposting today.
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>>8869772
You'll have to explain to me how trans = intersex is "anti-science".
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>>8869789
The brain studies are correlation=causarion bullshit passed off as science.
Additionally, all the studies in regards to transition have a severe lack of proper method, with the exception of the CAR study proving a *potential* short-term benefit in taking HRT in biological stress markers. This is most likely due to the stress of getting HRT in the first place / transition itself, however.

Still valid evidence, even if not proven - and there is no studies showing long-term evidence of any kind that is remotely valid.
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>>8869772
Actually the traditional narrative is that trannies are mentally ill.
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>>8869817
The traditional narrative is the currently "accepted" / shilled by various associations narrative.

The term "traditional" in contrast to alternative viewpoints, that make better sense scientifically.
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>>8869837
>>8869810
>>8869772
still no arguments to speak of, and no citations to boot

you just ignore everything that involves actual debate and not just restating your position repeatedly huh?
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>>8869104
>>8869159
Why are you evading your ban(s) now?

STOP SPAMMING START LIVING
Spamming has no long-term proven benefits.
Leave the board.
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