Advice mtf Gf (4yrs) wanted a poly relationship. >Said yes.

I mean if you're not happy like this then she isn't really doing her job of making you comfortable with all this.

Like poly relationships are hard as fuck to manage but she should either find a solution for this or you're going to have to tell her you're not comfortable with this type of relationship after all and ask her to pick either of you.

>>8397205
>where they have sex for money and I am pretty much dry
Offer to pay?

>I've become the one thing I feared most when she first brought up polyamory, a cuck
You can't be cucked by a girl silly.

>>8397277
Camming isn't the same as prostitution though.

...nice dubs

>>8397232
But you can't just tell someone to stop being in a poly relationship. That's literally telling someone to stop seeing someone they love for another.

You are right, she hasn't made much decision or come up with any ideas on how to solve this since we started. It's always been me, coping, dealing, and making sacrifices. But I can't just switch to an ultimatum like that.

>>8397205
Sounds like you aren't compatible and should break up

>>8397319
i mean look, you are also in a poly relationship right now lol.

Like when you're in an initially monogamous relationship and then realize you'd rather be in a poly relationship, the person you're currently with has to be cool about that - otherwise it's cheating. And then person you're with can stop being cool about it at some point and not want to be in a poly relationship anymore. That's perfectly fine as well.

Like if you don't feel satisfied in your relationship now then there's clearly a problem and she's largely responsible for helping you deal with that.

Like look I had an offer from someone who wanted to be in a poly relationship with me and i didn't want to because I simply can't handle two people at once and would much rather prefer to focus all of my time on my girlfriend I have now and I know I wouldn't be able to satisfy the emotional needs of the other person and would make them feel left out. So me and my gf agreed to decline that offer.

>>8397338
You might be right. I just wanted to see if there was anything I could do to at least be as happy with her again as we once were. It'll most likely have to end due to other factors at work, but I just didn't want to come to that conclusion on my own.

>>8397350
And I have tried on several occasions to find and be in a relationship with someone else, but I guess I'm just too big an oddball to find someone else in my area.

I was sure I could balance two, but never got the chance so I've just had to sit with theirs on my mind, which wasn't bad, until the sex stopped, and then I only felt worse when her gf moved in and realized what I had done.

I think I only agreed to being poly because I lacked the confidence that she would be satisfied with just me while we were together. But yeah, I don't feel like this relationship has had effort from both parties. I'll have to talk with her when I get home.

>>8397299
It's not prostitution when you're her boyfriend.

>>8397405
>I think I only agreed to being poly because I lacked the confidence that she would be satisfied with just me while we were together.

:/
dude yeah that doesn't sound healthy, I'm sorry.
You were basically coerced into a poly relationship (even though your girlfriend probably didn't realize it).

Look it's very unfortunate but I personally wouldn't feel comfortable being in that relationship.
So yeah do talk about it extensively.