>My incredibly volatile, politically incorrect hunch is that transitioning is a way to kill yourself without actually having to die. A mixture of suicidal ideation and putting the pussy on a pedestal. Don’t take my word for it: the metaphors are EVERYWHERE in the community. The new name and signifiers. “Look at it this way, you’re losing a son but gaining a daughter.” The dreaded faux pas – “deadnaming.” The butterfly iconography. Referring to the untransitioned as “eggs” – lifeless things that just haven’t hatched yet. THE RAMPANT SUICIDAL DEPRESSION.
so i had for some reason wanted to kill myself (without dying) since i was 9? despite everything else being fine?
>>8148939
>Referring to the untransitioned as “eggs”
Literally no one does this
>>8149018
>never heard of eggs
kiki
>>8149018
>Literally no one does this
To clarify, this seems to apply to AGP trans, not trutrans. It's not like everyone with a fetish transitions, but for those who do...
>>8149069
Then why do HSTSes use the same death metaphors? Also I'm pretty sure those are just allegories for transformation in general.
>>8149069
>trutrans
hsts
>but for those who do...
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I don't care much for metaphors of death and rebirth in terms of my transition. Much for the same reasons you describe, OP. It's too macabre. However, before deciding that I needed to transition and working through those thoughts i always referred to repression as "killing it" (my desire to transition) and in terms of death.
Now that I am on HRT (3mo today in fact) I don't think of those things any more than the average person. I consider my previously male gender expression just a set of behaviors that were there to keep going day to day without losing it. I am not ungrateful for the way I used to be. In many ways I am glad that I at least was a "successful" male in the way that I fit myself into that box with healthy behaviors and strong principals.
Instead of trying to fit myself into a male box I am comfortably exploring the nature of my genuine identity. This time of course it is all without the painful and confusing subtext of trying to "be a man" for the world around me.
It is not a transformation to me either. I'm only giving myself a break. The sad, vulnerable little kid that was stubbornly trying to get the world to approve of (her?) by putting up a show can just rest and be happy now. Nobody has "died", and there are no metaphors of transformation that mean anything to me. I am just moving forward, and that's it. I wish that the people in my life would understand this. They all see it just like you describe OP. I hope you guys get it.
>>8149076
hsts doesn't mean trutrans
Though that's an interesting theory, not all trans people are suicidal, or even depressed for that matter. Plus, the pussy theory falls apart when you throw in ftms.
It's people wanting their body to fit their id. The rest is individual traits, really. You don't have to die to be yourself.
>>8151223
One other thing. Deadnaming - i don't mind if someone close to me does it on accident, but what really gets to me is when my roommate and my girlfriend use both names as if they are both valid whenever. Just fucking pick one, lol.
>>8149069
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>>8149076
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>>8151268
putting trip on for blanchardposting
for reference, op is a quote from this:
https://thingofthings.wordpress.com/2017/03/28/itt-9-blanchard-bailey/
also for reference, i don't endorse it and i don't think op (that is, the person who posted it here from ozy's blog) does either
deadname is a seriously fucked up term, who thought that was a good idea
>>8149069
Hey look its the meme again
It's not a lifestyle it's a deathstyle.
I wish that was just a meme but it's actually true...