/acegen/ - pet edition

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oh good I can shitpost again

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2jSKyWSvNgg
Is sonic asexual?

>>8130275
0/10 Shitpost

>>8130481
>there's nothing more cool than being hugged by someone you like
>but if someone tries to touch you in a place or in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, that's no good

straight up ace logic

>>8130506
I see, so allos want to get molested all day long, thanks for the information

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>>8129967
>I actually had to ask what they meant when the doc asked that
I just wanted to be honest to my health professional

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in case you haven’t noticed, im WEIRD. I’m a weirdo. i dont fit in. and i dont WANT to fit in. have you ever seen me without this stupid hat on? Thats weird.

>>8130976
I think a lot of them are just convinced that them being in the mood will put you in the mood sooner or later. Had an ex who was like that and it was a very shitty evening.

>>8132189
That's sad to hear

>>8132056
I hate Riverdale so much

>>8134099
Me too but at least I get a meme from it

Slight bump
>mfw my friend who used to like hugs invited me to hang out and I used to (?) kinda like him
I hope this doesn't turn out awkard

>>8135029
inb4 netflix and chill turns out to be "netflix and chill"

>>8135029
>used to like hugs
does he no longer like hugs?

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>>8129954

>https://www.zeemaps.com/map?group=1764048
>the entire state of Kansas is blank
>the closest asexuals on the map are at least two stats away

>>8135281
midwest probably has less aces and aros due to it not being talked about there unless you're in a liberal college/uni

>>8135115
Nah I highly doubt it
>>8135147
I'm assuming. Our last meetup was kind of awkard at the end. Also, I think he knows I kind of like him or somethinh.

>>8135384
are you a guy/girl, and does his sexuality match that? Was it always just platonic hugging?

>>8135436
Dude, probably always platonic hugging.
If I'm not wrong he's str8.
I just want to hug him desu

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>>8135436
man, those questions are bringing back some bad feels on my end

>>8135295
Or y'know lower population density in general

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>>8135839
oh yeah, I totally forgot about that

>hugging friends

When I was in my senior years, I had a close friend who used to hug everyone
but he’d never hug me, and if I tried to hug him he’d physically deflect my arms to stop me
when I asked why, he said “it’s different”. Still don’t know exactly what he meant by that, my best guess is either that he thought I was gay, or he thought that specifically us hugging was gay because we were emotionally closer than the other people he would hug.
He’s straight and has had the same girlfriend since then, which was 4 years ago now. We used to be close then (but looking back we were absolute shit at communicating about any friendship issues) but when school ended we didn’t see each other anymore and he didn’t make any effort to stay in touch (or respond when I did). There was no fight or anything, he just dropped out of contact with me and all of his other school friends.
I saw him again about a year ago at some party and when he was hugging everyone goodbye I got a hug off of him (in a semi-autistic joking ‘it's my turn’ way since he was about to go past me and I didn’t want to risk getting ignored). He didn't have any issues then, but we're also not close anymore so I dunno.
I've got another close friend now who I get to hug so I'd like to think I'm over it but the whole situation with this first guy still feels weird. It's been long enough that I've mostly let it go, it's just weird and kind of sad how he seems to have made an active effort to move on from not just me but everyone else from school. He makes up last minute excuses as to why he can't come to a thing that he previously said he would be fine going to. I straight up froze in place for a couple seconds when I saw him at that party a year ago because I had stopped expecting him to ever show up to anything

Not sure whether to post this in acegen or hrtgen but I'll try acegen because you're smaller~

So after a few months on hrt (mtf) I lost any semblance of libido and grew a bit sex repulsed (like sex seems icky to me now eww not a fan) (which is funny because preHRT I was basically slutty fujoshi trash).

Can I call myself asexual? It seems to fit and I really don't want people to sexually hit on me it just feels hella awkward.

>>8136106
>Can I call myself asexual?
You can call yourself whatever you want, labels are just words used to try and best describe how we feel
That being said, if you do start identifying as ace you can expect people to start arguing with you about the semantics of what defines a "true" asexual. So look forward to that

>>8136106
Asexual is a term that means you lack sexual desire. Libido and sex repulsion does not fall into being asexual.

There are aces who have a low/high libido and there are aces who okay with sex.

>>8136244
I can call myself a parrot but it's still wrong.

>>8136262
>I can call myself a parrot but it's still wrong.
being wrong doesn't stop you from calling yourself a parrot. If at one point you believe yourself to be a parrot, you're within your means to call yourself one. Other people are within their means to disagree and discuss it with you

>>8136106
Go back to hrtgen

how the fuck are you guys finding hug people? All my hug people turned out to want a relationship and it basically destroyed my desire for it.

>>8139623
Frame it as just a thing that friends do rather than hugging being something that's only for people in a relationship

>>8139670
I do do that but I guess I keep ending up around people that never really had close relationships that weren't romantic so they must immediately go from "wow, this person is genuinely okay and wanting of my presence" to "I think this person wants to fug".

It's like those people that thought that folgers commercial was incesty because the sister and brother genuinely enjoyed each other's presence and wanted to be around each other.

>>8139623
I didn't. He was a friend that suddenly turned out to like hugs

>>8139937
the last guy that claimed that turned out to be /r9k/ incarnate and I wouldn't be surprised if he's an active user there

>>8139968
>tfw autism
He messaged me back and I feel autistic because I'm not sure if he's being genuinely happy to see me or flirty or what shit.

>>8129954
>Do you have any cute pets?
Yes, I have a really qt, fluffy pussy.

>cats or dogs?
Cats, obviously.

>Are you in a relationship, despite being asexual? How is it like?
I am. Outside of our lewd life, we are a pretty normal couple I'd say, as one would (hopefully) assume from relationships that feature aces.
We discussed me not being into sex and my girlfriend is fine with it. I'm a touchy person nonetheless and crave intense cuddle sessions still.
I'm not completely repulsed, and us kissing or her touching me turns her on a lot. She usually finishes herself off afterwards.

>>8140139
>tfw got a qt effeminate friend who uses :3 all the time
>but he's got a girlfriend

>>8140374
Oh well I guess it's good I don't really feel

>>8140374
he's probably just a furry

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>be an artist
>want to draw porn for the lulz and aesthetic but don't really want to eventually be forced to explain why I'm doing it because of my sexuality
>mrw I find an ace artist who draws porn for the lulz

>>8141606
Teach me how 2 draw anon kun

>>8141756
>>>/ic/
I'm still shit so I'll just send you over there to get yelled at by slightly better people. Please read the OP in the beginner's thread or at least the sticky.

>>8141772
Post your art please
I've already read the sticky

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>>8141787

>>8141606
would ace people make good porn artists? can they look at what makes things arousing from a more external objective view? Is that a thing?

>>8141809
Possible

>>8141809
I feel like anyone could do it if you just sat down, collected stuff you thought was hot, and then analyzed them for the reason they were hot.

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>>8141809

>>8141905
but ace people don't typically find stuff hot (or don't at all depending on your definition)
though could they figure out what's hot from a more objective viewpoint by observing other people?

>>8141948
is that a jughead crop?

>>8141949
that as well. You could probably just go onto any porn board on this site and see what everyone likes and then figure out why. Or just copy certain scenarios or poses.

>>8141956
Obviously, it's quite exploitable

>>8141948
jughead's quite a smug fuck isn't he

>>8143229
Yeah, he tends to hard into the "smug ace" territory at times but he really pulls it off in a charming way.

>>8143233
I'm assuming that crop is not meant to be an example of 'charming'

>>8143238
Eh, a bit. Though I may be a bit biased since I've always liked smug characters that point dumb stuff out with their ass getting occasionally kicked in.

>tfw trying to figure out if I get aroused by hugs
>never pay attention to my dick when hugging, can never remember what state it was in when thinking back
do you think I'd notice if I got hard, and my lack of memory suggests that I didn't get hard? I feel like that makes sense but I'm still not sure

>>8143268
>asking ace people about this shit
where do you think you are?

>>8143448
arousal and sexual attraction are two different things, anon
I have no conscious desire to have sex with anyone but I'm trying to figure out for my own sake if I can pinpoint any specific things that give me an erection, even though it's not directly related to conscious sexual attraction

>>8143229
That's what I like about him
>>8143268
I think it doesn't matter

>tfw emotionally empty

>>8141798
Why does it look blurry

>>8146312
Because it's probably compressed to fuck after being saved and posted so many times.

>>8146503
Rip

>>8146188
isn't that what depression is?

>>8146752
Probably

>>8139623 I used to be sort of a hugging person in high school, until I just wasn't anymore. Our group had this routine of hugging each other every morning and after a year of it, I was really sick of it. I think my feelings of it being routine and as such 'forced' caused my problem.

Still, hard to explain how I'm no longer a hugger.

>>8147611
>tfw nobody hugged me in high school ever and never had a 'routine'

>>8147624 I would have changed places with you by the middle of my second year (the 'routine' starting in the beginning of te 2nd)

>>8147611
Are you a girl? They seem to have more of an institutionalized superficial hug greeting than guys. I'm a guy and I only hug my closest friends but I hug them a lot

>>8143268
I feel it doesn't matter, but if it bothers you this much: from experience, you'd notice if you got hard. If you haven't been noticing and making mental notes of it every time it happens, it probably isn't happening.

>>8147624
I feel you. Others in my group got hugged but I never did. Then again, I was pretty much the most outcast of the group of outcasts.

Who here /outcast/ and desperate for physical affection

Actually, acegen, whats the difference between sensual attraction and romantic attraction

>gf starts being less and less affectionate
>we weren't that compatible anyways
>have a talk to breakup with her, she also needs to talk
>she comes out as aromatic asexual to me
She has depression and is clingy as fuck. She wanted me to have a closed nonsexual, non romantic relationship with her. Isn't that just being friends with future legal benefits.
I'm also thinking it's a cop out of her losing interest in me but she still says she wants me in her life
>put everything on hold for now
What do?

>>8152834
>Isn't that just being friends with future legal benefits
Emotionally close friends, but you're basically right

>>8152727
Sensual attraction is wanting to hug and cuddle and shit

The better question is, what does having a romantic relationship actually mean? If it's separated from sex and sexual attraction, how is it any different to a close friend? Is 'romantic' just defined by the future expectations to live together/get married? Does romantic inherently imply sensual contact too?

>>8152882
Do close friends actually cuddle with each other?
>does romantic inherently imply sensual contact too?
you might be onto something here
The way I see it, romantic and sensual are linked by a venn diagram.
But then again, I don't really know much about romantic relationships because autism.
Any anons care to prove or disprove me?

>>8152834
Breaking up with someone while they're in depression doesn't sound like a good idea.
It doesn't sound like you're getting what you want out of the relationship though, which ultimately isn't good for either of you
Would you still care about her, even if she wasn't affectionate?

From what I understand, depression saps the emotions out of you - it's not just about being sad, but being apathetic and emotionless in general. If she's currently depressed, I can't rule out the possibility that once she recovers from it you might find her being more affectionate again. I'm not a professional in any capacity and this is pure speculation so don't treat it as a guarantee

>>8152940
How do you define cuddle? I hug my closest friend all the time, but it's not a prolonged 'sit down for minutes hugging each other' thing

>>8152966
Affectionate hugging
>how do you overcome the autism to reach out to make a move to hugg

>>8152955
I was in a really bad relationship before where I was locked in because they would always try to kill themselves if I left.
I support her and want her to be better, however she has always had depression and it didn't stop her from being affectionate.
Basically she told me that she was forcing herself to do it the whole time.
I just can't find it rationally sane to be with someone who has to make themselves do simple physical contact with me.
Sex I can understand, since it's complicated. However I feel like I will be used as an emotional tampon for her depression and anxiety issues.
She shows her love in her own ways, yet she would never tell me that she loved me directly (her words)
>I could probably put it with it if she'd at least cuddle with me
Yeah I guess I'm just bitterly unsatisfied.

>>8152994
is there such a thing as non-affectionate hugging?
I thought cuddling was more about the length. Dictionary says 'prolonged and affectionate hug'. Don't know how long it needs to be to count as 'prolonged' though

>how do you overcome the autism
try and hug them once ironically to test the waters (eg patronizing 'aww do you need a hug' when they mention something they're slightly annoyed by), then do hi/bye hugs, then by that point it should be easy if they've been comfortable with it

>>8153041
>I just can't find it rationally sane to be with someone who has to make themselves do simple physical contact with me.
this makes perfect sense desu, you've got your own physical/emotional needs and if she's not the type to fulfill them then you might just not be compatible

If I was in your situation I wouldn't know how to go about breaking up with her though, since a depression/clingy combo is a bit of a minefield

>>8153057
Tbh isn't cuddling normally done in bed or something like that? I imagine non-affectionate hug would be like bye and hi hugs, like you said.
>but what if they hate me, which they probably do and don't want my hugs

>>8153100
in bed or sitting on a couch I'm sure is more common since it's more practical than standing for a long time
I consider my hi/bye hugs to be affectionate, we squeeze pretty tight and there's a pretty clear emotional bond. It's not just some superficial routine

>then you're sol

>>8153093
>mfw depression and clingy kind of describes me

Anyone /Seattle/ here?

What's the difference between a best friend and a boy/girlfriend?

>>8153336
Is that you, Seattle anon?

Arent most of you "aces" just beta virgins?

>be ace
>still need to masturbate sometimes to sleep or relieve migraines
>but nothing actually really turns me on
>like there's nothing I can fantasize about
>end up going full off the deep end in every fantasy, as sick and depraved and extreme as possible just to provoke some kind of brain chemistry
>never gonna find a girl whose just okay with letting me use her lap as a pillow when my head hurts

>>8153494
You're not ace until you aggressively shove someone off your body and injure them

Reminder that this thread has nothing to do with homosexuality, bisexuality, or gender identity and thus does not belong on this board

>>8153549
and yet here we are
makes you mad, doesn't it?

>>8153580
acephobia is real

>>8153580
It doesn't make me mad but it is annoying.

If this thread is allowed to be here, it essentially turns /lgbt/ into gender and sex minorities board, which greatly expands the range of threads allowed here. This means that by that logic, people can make threads like pedophilia general, zoophilia general etc. or form fetish generals etc, maybe even start nonbinary or genderqueer generals and other garbage. Of course I think that if someone actually did try to make a thread like that, it would get deleted by the mods, which shows a massive double standard since this thread is allowed to stay. Obviously, this thread shouldn't be here because it has nothing to do with the board's topic: homosexuality, bisexuality and gender identity.

I honestly don't understand why this thread isn't just made on /r9k/ or /trash/. It just feels like it's made here as a way for people to justify lack of sexuality as a legitimate sexuality somehow.

It's not like I don't think asexuality is legitimate or that it doesn't cause people to have problems or suffer, I know it's a real thing and I know it bothers people who feel that way and I know ace people can feel better by talking to others who understand their feelings and have similar experiences. It doesn't change the fact that this thread is off topic.

>>8153632
You're missing the point, which is that lgbt is the only sexuality related board for people who aren't hets.
Nice blog post though, I'll update the bingo later

>>8153689
Actually I addressed that specific point.

/lgbt/ is /lgbt/ - Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, & Transgender
/lgbt/ is not /gsm/ - Gender and Sex Minorities

Posting acegen here because "it's the only board for people who aren't hets" means that all sorts of other offtopic threads can be made here as well. It's bad for the health and future of this board.

>>8153632
>pedophilia general, zoophilia general
these are both crimes

are you comparing us to criminals now you fucking hypocrite? maybe you should be chemically sterilized.

>>8153702
Asexuality is observable enough that its presence is tolerated. The more obscure/debatable identities aren't. Agegen doesn't damage the quality of /lgbt/, and as of yet the slippery slope argument shows no signs of being true.

>>8153702
Unless they create another board, we're here to stay. And off topic other threads like 'am I bigender?' can always be ignored and filtered. People won't lose their common sense just because we're here

>>8153729
Being attracted to something is a crime now? I didn't say child molesting and animal raping general.

>>8153702
>Posting acegen here because "it's the only board for people who aren't hets" means that all sorts of other offtopic threads can be made here as well. It's bad for the health and future of this board.
I'm pretty sure an identical logic is used to lock up gays for the "benefit" of Russia.

>>8153734
The slippery slope argument doesn't have to be true.

This thread is off topic and is against the rules. That's the end of it. It's just as on topic here as it is on the mecha board, cooking board, etc.

>>8153742
>this board is for this type of sexuality, not that sexuality
>which is just as bad as posting about a sexuality on a cooking board
that's not how logic works, anon. You're free to filter and hide this thread if it upsets you that much. If I were you I'd be much more annoyed by the shitpost threads that fill up the catalog than a civil general that keeps to itself.

>>8153736
Perhaps, but what if being gay makes you have the potential to commit a crime, it makes you a risk of crime, maybe we should attach electrodes to your skull while we show you pictures of little boys. We all know gays can't control their impulses, why else would they be the way they are? Simply being gay is a crime that needs to be punished because a gay man raping a young boy and corrupting the minds of innocents is an inevitability! This is why you must be sterilized. We can't have your kind running rampant and disrupting society.

>>8153752
Lack of sexuality is not a sexuality.

This thread is to homosexuality and bisexuality as a cisgender general would be to transgenderism. It has no place here and you have no logical or reasonable argument for why it should be here.

>>8153759
I never said there is anything wrong with being asexual, in fact I said that I do see it as a legitimate thing, with legitimate issues, worthy of having a community for support.

It's still against the rules to make a general for it here.

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>>8153761
>Lack of sexuality is not a sexuality.
Completely debatable

Report this thread if you're actually that mad. Your posting here accomplishes nothing that will help your goal.

>>8153767
So you basically have no counter to anything I've said?

>>8153764
>It's still against the rules to make a general for it here.
If the mods agreed they'd have deleted the thread. Why do you care this much?

>>8153773
My counter is that your opinion literally does not matter and you're wasting your time by complaining to people who are not going to change as a result of something you say.

>>8153783
So you basically think "You're 100% correct but so what fuck you"

I can live with that.

>>8153785
If you were correct, the mods would have deleted these threads. Yet they don't. Your interpretation of the rules does not align with the people who enforce the rules. If you still believe you're correct despite this, go ahead. There'll be no consequences for any of us.

>>8153796
You make the mistake of thinking the mods automatically always enforce the rules. Again you have yet to say how I'm actually wrong about my views on this thread.

>the rules state x threads are allowed here
>this thread does not fall into x

If the mods delete the thread or not, the rules are the same either way.

>>8153796
Why do you still respond to bait

>>8153471
Today was a great spring day. Unfortunately, the rains will be back soon. Just in time for me to move tomorrow.

>>8153844
Where are you moving to?
>is it nice living there?

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>tfw nobody hugs me except my mom

I love my mom a lot though at least

This is for all the non-ace lurkers who seem to post "Guyz, I want an ace gf. How do?"

What is your logic that makes an ace partner more desirable in your eyes than an allo partner?

are hets/homos disgusted by the thought of sex with the genitals they're not attracted to? Or just indifferent towards it and/or have no desire to seek it out because it doesn't turn them on?
Because I'm indifferent towards both and have no conscious objections to being in a relationship with either guys or girls, I don't know if that counts as biromantic or just apathetic about life in general

>>8154030

Those who are indifferent to the not-attractive genitals are probably perfect examples of their sexuality, as they do not feel the need to constantly defend their sexuality with "ew, cock/cunt" style comments.

>be me
>have romantic partner
>have ace friend
>have massive squish for ace friend and really want to fucking hug them all the time and talk to them

How do I make this work without my partner getting jealous, because they're the jealous type tbqh

>>8154217
do partners get jealous if you hug other people? Is that a thing?

>tfw didn't get hugs
I guess I'll just cry myself to sleep then....

>>8154275
I think it might be more the amount of time I spend talking to and hanging out with them

>>8153632
>that slippery slope logic
lol
next thing you know people will want to marry dogs after gay marriage goes through

>>8154029
They probably want some "pure waifu that won't be slut like those other females"

>>8154310
I mean you can already fuck dogs in Canada if irrc

>>8154334
nah, it's illegal if you penetrate them apparently. I'm probably going to jail now.

>>8154334
Straight people can. Gays can neither do that nor adopt puppies.

>>8154346
for searching for the laws on a search engine, I mean.

can I get a quick rundown on what "allo" is short for?

>>8154385
I don't think its really short form for anything, bar allosexual. Allo means 'other' supposedly, I guess to differentate aces from non aces

>>8154348
The amount of oppression, baka

>>8154385
Is short for fuckers

I'm sorta trying to figure out my sexuality still, and I think ace is the closest I'm gonna get.
But like, I want to be /intimate/ with people, but not necessarily with sex. I don't know how to clearly explain it. I masturbate, a lot, and I only realised after I started smoking a lot more that it probably is an addiction. I want to masturbate with other people, but not cos it's like doing sex stuff, but like, that's how I'm intimate with myself and I want to share that with them? I dunno.
Anyone else get what I'm saying?

>>8155110
I can understand that

I'm in a relationship despite being asexual. It's nice having a partner to do everything with because I've never had one before. We're not super lovey dovey and only have sex occasionally so I don't mind that stuff.

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>>8155135
REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

Is grey-ace just a fancy word for low libido?

>>8154385
allosexual which basically means "sexual attraction outside of oneself"

>>8156203
No, grey ace is kind of like the midway between ace and non-ace.

Libido doesn't go into sexual attraction just like cravings don't go into needs.

>>8152940
I've cuddled with close friends before. Even straight guy friends (I'm a guy myself, which is why I mentioned the straight bit). People just like cuddling

>>8154030
From what my friends have said, it seems to be a mixed bag there. Some just don't care, some find them disgusting (minus their own genitals of course)

>>8157713
I'm super jealous

Would you anons give hugs if I gave you money?

>>8158115
You don't even have to pay me

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>>8158123

You all have no right to be here, or in any other board to be honest. Go to /b/ if you want, because it is a random topic.

Being "asexual" and posting on lgbt is like going to /k/ and make a thread called /nogun/, and everyone who doesn't have guns can come around and chat. It doesn't make sense.
In short, FUCK OFF.

I'm going to report this thread.

are squishes meant to have relationship exclusivity? Is it weird to hug a guy a lot who has a girlfriend?

>>8158181
No....

>>8158160
i agree

>>8158807
same
gonna go make a /nogun/ general, it's only fair

>>8158811

Oddly enough /nogun/ would probably fit in there.

After all it's /k/ - Weapons, not /k/ - Firearms. Just because guns dominate that board does not mean that guns are the only weapons in existence. You could talk about bows, swords, entrenching tools, improvised weaponry when the zombies come, items that get around laws that stop you carrying defensive weapons, there's a whole bunch of stuff you could talk about on /nogun/

Likewise, if there was a religion board /athegen/ would be a valid thread, as atheism is a valid religious stand-point. One could argue that an atheist thinks about gods all the time, albeit in terms of denial

LGBT covers a lot of things that are not covered by the acronym. While it may be disheartening that there are constant arguments over the A, the fact stands that "LGBT" is pretty much mental shorthand for "non-standard sexualities", of which, Asexuality is one

"But pedophillia is a non-standard sexuality! By your logic, /pedogen/ is a valid thread!" I hear you sputter. Well, the fact that child abuse is generally illegal world-wide, not having sex cannot be made illegal. (In fact I think at one point in an African country, the president made SEX illegal to try and curb the AIDS).

So, BigGuy, please indicate on the doll where the Bad Asexual DIDN'T touch you.

hi guys

>>8159590
hi :3

>>8159590
hi :3

>>8159601
hi :3 :3

>>8159948
hru? ;3

>>8159953
I'm dead

>>8159961
get better soon (´・ω・｀)

Are there any good shows with Ace characters in it?
>>8159964
See you in the afterlife

>>8159989

Nope, only horrible stereotypes.

Closest would be Amy Farrah Fowler from Big Bang Theory. She has her shit together, unlike her beloved Sheldon.

Also, link to the Discord

https://discord.gg/WqcpsU8

>>8160192
no, the closest would probably be the chick from sirens.

i don't even think amy is ace anyway

If you're dating someone of the same sex but would never consider dating someone of the opposite sex isn't that considered gay.

So would you be a gay ace?

If so how do you handle dating?

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>>8159432
>"non-standard sexualities", of which, Asexuality is one

You are wrong, retard. Asexuality is not a sexuality. It doesn't matter how many times you repeat it to yourself while covering your hears to deny the truth.

/pedogen/ would be a much more valid general than this shitpool because that is actually a sexual orientation.


>mfw next week is "punch an asexual" day

>>8153516
It hurts to live

>>8153516
>tfw no boy to hug

>>8161879
>implying anyone likes me and I can talk to people without autism showing

>>8161879
I believe the term is 'homoromantic ace'
~sexual and ~romantic get treated as two different things if they're not the same. I don't know how accepted it is to the actual psych world though, I can't envision a homoromantic heterosexual

>>8161879
That's literally what a homoromantic ace is and yes it would be considered gay in most areas. However, to some people they will believe the person to be repressed due to the lack of actual sexual occurring.

>>8162861
I don't think I've seen a homoromantic heterosexual but I have seen a biromantic heterosexual and I think that was due to abuse.

>>8163122
>I don't think I've seen a homoromantic heterosexual
A*Ps with meta-attraction.

>>8163145
I've never heard of meta attraction before. Can you explain?

>>8153859
Moved to Fremont. And it's nice if you make more than 40k a year, otherwise you'll be priced out. There's easily twenty to thirty cranes downtown and the city and rents are growing like crazy.

>>8163256

>>8163256
Wew I hope I get a job that pays enough then

>>8160192
Amy is not ace dude, she spends half of her time working and the other half trying to fuck Sheldon

>>8163234
It's the way AGPs who don't have normal attraction to men can still enjoy sex with men or at least the thought of it because of how it reinforces the ideas of themselves as women. AAPs can have it in reverse, for sex with women to reinforce themselves as men.

Am female. How the fuck do I get off?

>>8164104
as in masturbate?
the normal way?

>>8164133
it's not working.. i've never done this before.. is there a step by step guide or smth?

>>8164169
I'm a guy so I'm not the best to give advice in your case
but from my (limited) knowledge of biology I don't understand how being ace would prevent you from feeling direct physical sexual stimulation

>>8164169

Not a girl, but try a vibrator. I've heard that some women who have difficulty reaching orgasm through other means find success with vibrators, presumably clitoral

>>8164169
Actually, there is.
http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/masturbate/

If you're still a bit confused, there's more links in the description below the comic.

Remember that everyone is different and your way is probably different from others. For me, I personally cannot get off manually and must use some vibration. Also, if you do obtain a sextoy please get one that is made of a safe material such as silicone.

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>>8164624
>ohjoysextoy.com
Whenever someone mentions that site I immediately think of the cuck comic (pic related).

>>8165166
It's still quite informative for the common person however.

>>8164104
I can't understand how you could go your whole life without masturbating... you never felt curious?

>>8167810
She's not, though. She's doing it now.

I've been considering myself ace for the past 5 years. I just now, at age 22, found out that I have high functioning autism. I thought people saying autistic comments were shit posters but now I feel so lost and confused again. Thoughts?

>>8168573
nah, it's kinda correlated to asexuality. iirc, there's a slightly larger percentage in ace communities than the general population

>>8168573
Did you get tested medically?

>>8168573
If you break it down the word Autism basically means that you don't really approve of the majority society and don't wish to spare energy imitating them or learning their rules and expectations or copying their specious shifting morality. Instead you become autonomous instead of struggling to fit in while getting pushed down and conformed until all your original eccentricities and obsessive compulsive preferences are destroyed. When a child doesn't lose their shit and want to kill themselves when their parents don't approve of them, we consider that the child is the one who is wrong.

This is a "mental illness".

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>>8168944
Go back to your TB ward, Holden.

>>8168963
Not that anon, but what is that supposed to mean

>>8169004
the bismuth or "holden"? If you mean "Holden", it's from the book "Catcher in the Rye" where the main character, Holden Caulfield, is some edgy kid that complains about almost everything.

>>8168573
confused about what? Do you think the fact your autistic mean you can't be asexual after all?
I'd say the two aren't mutually exclusive

>>8168963
we got a doubleplusgood duckspeaker here

>>8162089

>Asexuality is not a sexuality.

Alright. This is your chance.

Convince me. What defines a sexuality? Why exactly isn't Asexuality a valid sexuality? What's your stake in this? Your family own shares in a condom factory or something?

Or perhaps you are secretly Ace, but family circumstances stop you from being open about it. I mean, I may disagree with some of the other /gens/ on /lgbt/, but that doesn't mean I go into them and tell them that their general is invalid. Even then, I wouldn't do it with my tripcode showing.

>>8169138
don't give a genuine reply to the shitposter, the fuck are you doing

>>8168573

There's actually a lot of overlap between the Autism spectrum and Asexuality.

>>8169185
I'm sick of him. I bet he doesn't have the balls to go into another general and attempt this shit. It's not my fault he has horrible Ace-dar and everyone he's ever wanted to fuck won't touch him.

>>8169249
>I'm sick of him
Replying to him will only ensure he stays

>It's not my fault he has horrible Ace-dar and everyone he's ever wanted to fuck won't touch him.
This is some really pathetic projecting that accomplishes nothing but making yourself look stupid. Stop posting.

>>8163709

Amy's an example of a grey Ace. Before she met Sheldon, she had no interest in coitus and was overjoyed when Sheldon's terms included "coitus is off the table". As time went on, she sort of felt like she wouldn't mind if her and Sheldon had coitus. Thing is, Sheldon doesn't want to or feel the need to do that sort of thing, even with himself.

Maybe she just has Single-Target-Sexuality and would be the same way with 63!Sheldon.

>>8169378
Sheldon himself seems like he's an unaware demisexual. He just couldn't comprehend being attracted to someone but once he found them he found even intercourse to be quite a pleasant experience. The lack of libido is probably a form of rebellion.

>>8170314
>demisexual
only wanting to have sex with someone once you're in a relationship is not a sexual identity

>>8170337
it is a sexual minority.

>>8129954
Yours is more of a disease than trans. At least trans people are cool. Yours is a boring disease that makes you technically less human. Feel bad. Also, this isn't LGBTA.

>>8170682
>this isn't LGBTA.
That's because /lgbt/ has four letters and that was longer than the rest of the boards and moot didn't want to make it even longer

>>8170682
>At least trans people are cool
name one (1)

>>8170682
Anon being a slut makes you less human you fucking endlessly consuming jizz juzzling sack of jew-ball-fondling shit.

>>8170384
no it's not. actually the majority of people on earth probably qualify as 'demisexual'

>>8170809
anon don't be fucking stupid jesus christ they're not nearly that discriminating at all, they're all too naive and easily pressured and the jews have their stomachs all tied up in knots over their credit cards and corrupt dictators with mysterious benefactors

tfw loathe sex but still want intimacy of a relationship

all of my past relationships, whether with men or women, i ruined because having sex felt like a job and was so emotionally taxing. this was before i realized asexuality was a thing and i thought it was just... something i had to do to keep people around. haven't had sex in over three years and feel great about it but i'm just kind of lonely. want someone to cuddle and plant a garden with.

i have three dogs to cuddle at least ;_;

>>8170886
have you considered the possibility that you never experienced love but merely desired it enough to fool yourself, but at a certain point would always know that you were lying?

>>8170892
i know i loved one of my exes. i still miss them a lot; one of my best friends and someone i could do anything with and would do anything for. after my cancer scare i fell into a deep depression and we broke up, though. then i had to move two states away back with my family since i'm still chronically ill.

i really wanted to stay with them in an open relationship so they could get their rocks off with whoever they wanted while still being with me. we were talking about marriage and kids and stuff before it all fell apart.

>>8170910
You made a mistake. You never considered yourself to be this person's equal.

>>8170702
I don't give a fuck if there are other reasons. You aren't welcome here.

>>8170930
The Jew fears the Samurai.

What do you guys talk about here

>>8170940
Purity. The pursuit of Virtue. Selfishness. The rejection of society. Loneliness. The sense of not belonging.

Many things.

>>8170940
mostly cuddling

>>8170940
relationship advice. recent research. general laughter at demisexuals and anything else that came out of tumblr's asshole.

>>8170935
Asexuals cannot be Samurai. Samurai have strength. Strength comes from love, a sensation you can only partially feel.

>>8171126
Love is a spook, and for weaklings

>>8171105
Demisexual is a term that came from aven.

Demisexual is a bogeyman word to aces because they all know secretly, deep down, that's what they are, but they're totally convinced nobody will ever be good enough for them. They probably think the only person they could have sex with and actually enjoy it without feeling like their spiritual individuality was violated is an exact mirror reflection of themselves.

They just don't want to lose a made up game that has its basis in their severe obsessive compulsive disorder.

[spoiler]how does it feel[/spoiler]

>>8171133
lol what

>>8171126
Love has nothing to do with sex. Sex is a physiological act that is subservient to love. Sex only has value and meaning when it is an expression of love. When sex is a rebellion against love, that person is a sinner. They are not to be forgiven.

There are other expressions of trust and contracts of love than sex.

Though sex with another person cheapens all of them.

Cheaters are subhuman.

>>8171138
anon where is your sense of skepticism? stop buying the reality that people sell you just because it replaces an earlier belief that proved to be false. the new belief is no more sacred than the old one and still deserves scrutiny until it's sanctity is proven.

>>8171155
again lol what

>>8171158
open your mind anon, love is heroic

it takes courage and effort and understanding

What's with all the shitposters today

>>8171146
Sure is depressing that you think of it that way. I'd kill myself if I viewed sex as primarily dangerous.

>>8171554
What's with the shit fake sexual orientation today?

>>8172390
isn't that just because you're weak and tried to kill yourself already

it sure is depressing that you're so reliant on sex and going through the motions of society when you still think about suicide all the time. it doesn't seem to make you happy and you've adjusted down to the same level of misery, but you sure can't live without it

and you don't even realize that living with it and just doing it because you need to to self medicate yourself keeps you from having something better, that would actually make you feel better

>>8172921
I tried to kill myself back when I thought like you! And BELIEVE ME, sex is not a bad thought for me, not one bit. This shit is why I think you aren't a real sexual orientation. Puritan much?

>>8173435
You never thought like me because you never had my courage. You never had that kind of strength and granular independence that tears a hole through society. You got beaten down and tried to kill yourself because you gave in, you folded over, you lack the strength of will. When I love it is greater than anything you will ever experience, both when it is reciprocated sexually and when it is not. Because I made that sacrifice, I made that pledge of loyalty, I took that risk.

>>8172390
You sound jealous of aces

>>8173869
Less pleasure in life but you are still here pissing your life away, so less pleasure and less productive than most humans. Good logicTM my dude.

>>8173934
>implying your fucking is productive
shoo shoo
Go back to your tranny generals

>>8174031
No, you retard. I was suggesting that the only thing I would enjoy about asexuality would be boosted productivity, but your stupid ass being here tells me you are just as lazy as the rest of us.

>>8170886
Between any two people, even if they're fairly compatible, there's a certain amount of difference that leads to a proportional amount of discomfort. All too often, aces try to be martyrs and take on 100% of the discomfort because they feel that they're the abnormal ones, that they're the ones who need to change. It does not need to be so. Make sure the other person is forced to bear at least half of the discomfort, preferably more. If they don't feel like their impositions on you are just that, of course they'll pile impositions on you until you break.

>>8174432
No bully autismo

>>8170892

how do you tell if you love someone? asking for a friend

I'm just aromantic and asexual. I don't have a dog in the race, and i'm proud.
I don't suffer from depression or anything, by the way. That seems like a stereotype.

>>8175009
Seconded

>>8175009
>>8175232
Thirded

>>8170996
The lack of cuddles*

>>8175410
speak for yourself nerd

>>8153516
(Coming to terms with the fact that I'm probably ace)
Holy shit it's not just me that has to do this
Genuinely feel a bit less shit about it now
Thanks for sharing anon

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>>8169138
Lol, I don't have to prove you shit, you don't belong here, plain and simple.

Go to /a/ and make a general for all the people who don't like anime and see how you'll be welcomed there.

You lot have literally nothing interesting or redeeming about yourselves to talk about, or connect with other people. So you sperg out all day about your meme make-belief "sexuality" that no one gives a shit about other than your own circlejerk.

>>8169249
>It's not my fault everyone he's ever wanted to fuck won't touch him.
AN ACE MAKING FUN OF SOMEONE ELSE FOR NOT GETTING SEX, YOU CAN'T MAKE THIS SHIT UP!!!
I'm screencapping this, pic related, it's mfw I read your posts.

>>8175858
REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

>>8176293
>asexual threads don't belong on /LGBT/ because it's not one of the sexualities listed in the board's title
>webms don't belong on /wsg/ because they aren't one of the file types listed in the board's title

Man, if people keep repeating this flawed argument, we may have to put it on the bingo card.

>>8176811
It's already on the bingo as "no A in LGBT"

>>8176824
u right u right

>>8175858
I did speak for myself

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>>8176811
>asexuality is a filetype

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>>8179976
>lack of sexuality is a sexuality

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>>8180225
>asexuality isn't real

eat a bag of dicks

>>8180225
Lack of sexuality isn't a sexuality, so /acegen/ doesn't belong here.
Being male but preferring to have a female appearance isn't a separate gender, do /femgen/ doesn't belong here.
Being attracted to the idea of being the opposite gender but not actually wanting to transition isn't a separate gender, so /agpg/ doesn't belong here.
Crossdressing is not itself a gender, so /cdg/ doesnt belong here.

These would all be beliefs that, by your logic, hold true.
And yet, I only see you screaming about our gen.
If you're gonna be exclusionary, at least be consistent.

>>8180552
>Lack of sexuality isn't a sexuality, so /acegen/ doesn't belong here.
Does John Cage not belong on /mu/?

>>8180556
My point was not about whether or not asexuality is a sexuality. That argument was going nowhere.
I was simply pointing out the fact that even if you consider asexuality to not be a "real sexuality," it still is related to LGBT the same way all those other threads are, and like those other threads, acegen is relevant to this board.

>>8180259
This picture gave me a good chuckle

>>8129954
Cat ! Best for cuddles, better than all of my plushes combined. He's my precious little baby :3


Talking about cuddles, I've encountered a fellow ace through the interwebs and they've expressed how hard it is to find buddies to cuddle with. It made me think a lot because for the longest time, I thought I was a normal heterosexual persom, and I did lots of things keeping all this in mind. I've literally stopped considering platonic hugs as a thing because, when I was younger, I would cuddle with some girl friend at the time, and everyone would pair us up as a lesbian couple. I was very clueless as the hugs never meant anything sexual to me, but when I found out that that girl had sexual intentions and was using hugs as an excuse to "touch" me, I stopped hugging anyone altogether (except my parents) besides very occasional hi and bye hugs. Affectionate hugs to friends really stopped existing to me, as they "HAD" to be romantic or sexual or something...
Ever since I just feel unconfortable to the idea, even though I wish I didn't or could feel genuinely happy about hugs, and could just find a cuddle buddy, but I feel I will never recover from this stupid fear/gross feeling. I feel like I'm tainted with some sort of "ERRYTHIN IS SEKSHUOL" glasses.

How do you get rid of all this ?
How do you cope ?
Do some of you actually feel the same ?
It's like losing some sort of innocence and seeing everything as potential danger... Anyway, ever since that incident, my brain's all fukked about the idea of hugs. Help...

>>8181237
Please kiss him for me thanks.
Also, I need more context
Are you from burgerland?
What do you define as a 'romantic relationship'?
Personally I never really hugged any (few) friends of mine, but it might be because of autismo, awkwardness, or just because of where I live, and the resulting culture. The ones that I do hug are because I like them

>>8181961
Done ! :3

I'm not from burgerland, but hugging is quite normal here. I used to hug people I liked as friends. Still, it was rare, but I know plenty of folks who do it a lot without issues.
I'm also reconsidering if my only relationship was a romantic one or not, because I feel like I played some sort of role, and I've never "fallen in love" again, not even a little. It all feels like fantasies or wishful thinking, and I get over them after the person leaves my sight. Probably because I feel quite lonely.
I've only recently identified as an ace, which brings a lot of relief cuz for the longest time, I thought I was broken in some way, and I used to do thing as I thought a normal heterosexual person would do. But looking back, in the romantic aspect, it's as if I really committed to the role, and I "loved" the guy because he was already my best friend. Someone actually put us together, had him confess to me, and I went along with it (it was like a forced fantasy or smth). We broke up a first time as to me, it didn't feel real and I couldn't handle it anymore + other trust issues. Then years later we got back together for 2 intense months where I got my trust completely crushed, but even then...
Now I'm unsure what a romantic relationship is or if I ever had one to begin with. Shortly after posting, like 15min later, I started browsing the internet for answers lol... So I'm not sure I can even answer that anymore...
To answer honestly, what I seek is company, and if possible cuddles. When I really like someone, I just want to cuddle them to death, smooch them a lil, and BE with them and that's it (Aka whatever I do with my pets). That's why I never ever confessed to anyone myself. I never felt the urge to. For the longest time I never gave a fuck, and I assumed it was because I was still in love with them, but now I'm seriously reconsidering... As of my bestfriend at the time, I was perfectly contented with just talking to them all day long, or whatever.

>>8182771
One solution would be to just try to get more exposure I'm thinking

>>8183003
Definitely. I'll wait it out a little, see what's up if I find anybody who's into cuddle (might even meet that other ace friend). I'm just generally unconfortable now because of that stupid incident.

Wtf is happening to acegen lately...?

>>8184346
What do you mean

>>8184346
If you're referring to all the shitposters, it's an inevitability. We had a few good, on-topic threads recently, it figures that we're going to have a few hijacked ones as well. It would be better if we could just stop replying to obvious trolls.

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29 male here.

Wish I could feel that passion others seem to feel. I don't feel anything, like an alien observing human behavior.

I've realized that not only will I live alone my entire life, but that I will die and disperse into endless eternity emptiness. So I meditate, preparing for forever. It's comfy, in a way.

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>>8187303
Im feel you, anon.

>>8176811
As if its flawed.

>>8187303
Eternity might be endless but it's still full of stuff. You won't get off so easily that it just ends because you died.

>tfw people around me get partners and I couldn't tell
>tfw awkard

Hey guys, I could use some help figuring something out. I'm starting to think I might be aro. I used to think I was heteroromantic or biromantic because I've had some kind of feelings for a couple girls and a guy before. The thing is that I've recently reflected on that a bit and have done a lot of other thinking and I've just realized that really I just wanted to cuddle somebody in general and these were people close to me who I was comfortable with. I've also come to the realization that what I've always thought I wanted in a relationship was simply a friend and somebody to cuddle. I've realized that that doesn't really seem to fit the typical definition of a relationship at all (ignoring the sexual aspect of said typical definition).

What made me think about this was that I have this one friend who I've gotten really close with recently. There's much hugging and physical contact like resting heads on each other and stuff at times. He's straight and knows I'm ace (male), yet the other day he referred to what's going on between us as "probably the healthiest relationship" he's had (contextually, he was definitely talking romantic relationships). Though we aren't in a relationship (at least not officially?) he sees it as comparable to one. What I realized was that what I have right now is pretty much exactly what I've thought I wanted in a relationship.

I really like the dude as a friend and everything developed completely on its own, but I've noticed that I don't really see him as more than that. And thinking back on past friendships as close as this, I've realized that what I thought might've been romantic attraction to someone was just me really being really cuddly. It wasn't about who the person was, it was just that I saw them as someone I can use to satisfy cuddle desires.

This has gotten far lengthier than I intended so I'll get to the point: aroaces of /acegen/, how did you determine you were aro? Do you think I am, or am I just confusing myself? Thanks.

>>8188848
>I have this one friend who I've gotten really close with recently. There's much hugging and physical contact like resting heads on each other and stuff at times.
holy shit that's me

I've never thought of myself as aro, but I also have no idea how to define what 'romance' is. Regarding this guy, if I had a bf/gf I don't know how I'd act any different. I don't consider him a boyfriend, but at the same time it feels like the only difference would be the label that's put on the relationship.

In the last month he got a gf and when we've been in person he's been texting her a lot, whereas I only get a message from him once or twice a week (we don't go to the same uni anymore and live far apart so messaging is more frequent than seeing each other irl). At first I didn't know how to interpret that, but I've come to the assumption that since due to the nature of a 'new gf' relationship it's much more high maintenance (and testing to see how well they go together), and he probably considers me lower maintenance because we're already friends and there's not as much testing involved.
He's told me about how they hang out overnight sometimes (not for sex) and I wish I could do that with him, but due to the distance we live from each other and how we both still live with our parents I don't know that that would ever happen which kind of sucks.

Still, he's definitely the healthiest relationship I've ever had in terms of open communication - but I don't know if that goes both ways since he's got many more friends than me. He's said I'm up there, but he's still got a childhood best friend he stays in touch with and I don't think it's fair on him to start assuming any positions in his life. I'm still a fairly shy fuck and there's things I haven't really opened up to him about (he was the first one to suggest I was ace but I still haven't really had an in-depth talk about it), so I'm a little hesitant to start a direct "what am I to you" type conversation

>>8188848
To address your post more directly though
>It wasn't about who the person was, it was just that I saw them as someone I can use to satisfy cuddle desires.
By this do you mean you were using them purely as a hug object and didn't care about them personally or their lives? Because I can't relate to that part. Perhaps that could be what makes it aro. I'm no expert in any capacity though so don't take that as fact

>>8189088
Tl;dr that anon is desperate for physical affection
>tfw no qt boy to do that with
>tfw autism

>>8189088
I meant I like them as a friend and care about them, but also they are able to be cuddled. Like an extra added awesome quality to them.

>>8189081
"What am I to you" conversations suck but it could be worth it.

I've tried dating and I just couldn't treat it differently. Had to break with with the person because what they wanted didn't seem to line up with what I wanted. That's another thing: relationships don't mean anything different to me than a friendship.

Your friend's new-gf phase will pass and you'll be able to spend time together actually together instead of with him distracted. You're absolutely right about the maintenance thing.

If he's the healthiest you've had, and you're up there for him, that's still pretty good. The childhood friend probably just has a lead because of more history

>>8189132
What did they want that didn't suit you?

>>8189142
Outside of a few attempts at sex (despite communication), they just seemed vastly more attached to me than I was to them. I liked cuddling, but when cuddling they got way more into it. That along with other things made it clear that what I just really continued to see as friendship was seen as different to them in a way that couldn't work

>>8189150
So what makes friendship different to a romantic relationship, do you think? Just the intensity of the attachment?

Cringe worthy name aside, this might actually help some people figure out stuff
https://theacetheist.wordpress.com/2014/08/02/strawberries-taste-like-red-a-post-on-defining-sexual-attraction/

>>8191877
I think it's probably best to compare a friendship to the bond in an older couple that probably has sex very infrequently.

>>8192021
>quoisexual

>>8192231
aw damn, I didn't realize they used that terminology. However, it's still pretty good.

>>8192557
Eh it was explained pretty clearly
>captcha is helicopter

>>8192021
I'm a little hesitant of "just do what feels right to you, only you know you" type language
I don't trust myself to know enough to make informed decisions on most things, and anyone who does trust themselves are probably deluding themselves with false confidence

Does this person have any credentials or are they a self-appointed expert because they have a blog?

>>8191877
I wouldn't say the intensity of the attachment, but just kinda the feelings behind it. I have a math background so I feel the best way to describe it would be as like a force. You can push something one way equally hard as you push it another way, but the amount of push is the same. Friendship can have the same intensity as a romantic relationship, just in s different way. They absolutely seemed to have their feelings rooted in some other way than how my own were. Really can't quite describe it better than that

>>8193174
I get what you mean
Do you have any idea how to explain what that different direction was though? What made it different?

>>8129954
so, you like cake?
jk
I'm asexual myself- sex-repulsed and all that. I'm glad to see that there's people online like me. It gets a little lonely since nearly nobody around me in real life is asexual. I shouldn't really say lonely, but I'm sure you get it.
/shrug

>>8193212
>sex-repulsed and all that
not all aces are repulsed by sex. Some just don't care about it and have no desire for it

>>8193192
That was a poor analogy. The point was to say you can have the same intensity from different causes for affection.

What made it different was possibly something sexual, I don't know. I just got the impression that there absolutely was a difference between how we felt.

>>8193212
That is absolutely a type of loneliness.

>>8193212
Who needs people when you have the Internet. Fuck them

I have really no sexusl desires, but are desires to hug and cuddle still sexual? Like I get a biner from imagining laying in bed spooning and feeling the warmth of a person who loves me back.
Kind of new to this shit.

>>8198763
>I get a boner from imagining laying in bed spooning and feeling the warmth of a person who loves me back.
Same, but then when I hug the person I was thinking about irl I don't get a boner.

Short answer, I have no idea. Arousal and sexual attraction are two different things but I don't know where one starts and the other begins

>>8129954
Are anallosexuals welcome here?

>>8198797
Its not even sexual arousal, like I dont have a desire to fuck from it. It just makes me so happy.

>>8198828
Doesn't getting an erection from the thought of something constitute arousal, which is different to having a desire to fuck something?

>>8198828
You're romantic without being sexual.

>>8198844
Those are pretty much the words I was looking for.
Nice and consice.

>>8198860
For the record, it's concise. You flipped the s and the c

God dammit, I'm so happy that these threads are so short now. We've grown as a gen so much recently :D

>>8198806
Meme sexuality

>>8198806
only if you can provide evidence that it's a real thing

>>8199732
What evidence for any sexuality is there?

>>8199735
now now, I asked first

>>8199732
>>8199755
All the same evidence there is of bisexuality and homosexuality and heterosexuality and transsexuality and even asexuality.

>>8129954
If I ever forced someone to like me, then I'm sorry. I don't know how to do this people thing very well so I regurgitate what others around me do. It makes it incredibly difficult to find my own place in existence alongside creatures of carnal desires. I have been a shitty friend and a shitty lover, I have tried and tried again, but could never grasp at a hand above the ledge. I believe now that I need to pull myself out of this pit of self pity and show myself what I can do for this world, as much it for me. Let this be the catalyst, the origin of continued growth from which I bring what I can offer to the world around me. You are an amazing people, with your held ideology of gender and sexual identity, both of which remain alien concepts to myself. I am human as much as any other, and I will do whatever it takes to prove to you and myself that I what I can do is significant, and worthy of merit, alongside any shenanigans pertaining to expulsion of bodily liquids or solids. I love you all and I'm so sad I cannot define that wll enough in a nonsexual manner that I feel would be revelant.

Is it wrong to have sex with an ace person if it hurts them but they're too eager to please to ever say no thanks?

>>8199899
No, I would not believe this to be the case. An asexual person craves validation and attention as much as any other human being would.

>>8199899
hurts in what way?

>>8199914
Not sure. Enough for tears.

I'm not sure they can handle rough sex but it gets me off. I could go softer but they still seem on the verge of tears either way. Rougher just feels more rapey though.

>>8199924
have you ever asked them if they're really okay with it? It's entirely possible they're just going along with it because they feel they have to (and they don't have to)

>>8199937
I've tried my best. I've asked them a few times and i always ask before sex.

They say that typical 'i enjoy the fact that you enjoy it' and 'i like the closness'. Kinda just sounds like crap to me.

I feel so dirty having sex with an ace in a way that i never feel woth normies.

>>8200019
Tears is the bit that makes me concerned desu
is communication with them good in general? Are they comfortable being honest with you or is it possible they're too scared to say they don't want to do it because they think you'll leave them?
have you ever brought up the tears?

>>8171126

Bullshit. Strength comes from Conviction.

>>8171133

Going by the definition of Demisexuality, doesn't it seem like all humpers end up Demi?

>>8171554
Because everyone in /legbutt/ hates us, they will not come to out in defense if they see shitposters..

>>8175009
You want to spend more time with them.

>>8180552
ANON SPEAKS THE TRUTH.

>>8200079
>you want to spend more time with them
Thats also applicable to friends

>>8198806
>anallosexual
???

>>8199823
Good job enjoy this (you)

>>8201152
Only fucks anally.

>>8200029
Well not real tears. They just make faces and say they're always on the verge if tears.

Our communication is mediocre. I guess i'll try and talk about it more next time. Maybe i should try going really slow or something and see if he likes it better?

>>8201688
Anon I think he might really, really not like it.

>>8201878
Oh. But i like sex and they says they want to do it.

Does it make me a bad person to still have sex with them?

>>8202232
>they says they want to do it
as in they genuinely want to do it or "I'll do it because I don't want to make you upset and I don't see a way out"?