I'll try to keep myself from making this post long.
So, my name is Pitta, I was born a male. Ever since then I always chose identified myself as the girl character more than the boy character... always liked drawing girly things, girly hair, girly clothes.. had a girly mentality(and was made fun of for it), was around lots of girl-friends.. however I've never wanted to dress like a girl or play with girly/pink toys. And I've always been straight.
Fast-forward to 2015. I was in my last year of high-school and a really close friend of mine(who had recently come out as gay) was thanking me for being there for him and for helping him come out(the sunnovabitch made me tear up). He then started talking more and more about the LGBT community when something hit me.. hard.
He told me about Gender Identity and Transgendered people. His brief explanation stuck to me for a day. Then a week. Then a month. And when I realised I was at the university campus when I finally decided to look up "Gender Identities and definitions"... When I read the definition for "Demigirl" I dropped my phone on my lap, started shaking and started crying right then and there. It was so natural and uncontrollable that a teacher that was passing by had to help me calm down... But it wasn't any emotion I can accurately describe. I felt like I had found myself. I could finally stop being forced to act all manly and
A few months passed and I has the courage to tell my significant other about it... She said she was really happy for me and that it was quite obvious(to her at least).
With that story out of the way.. I want to ask you.. What do you think of me? Of my identity..?
I've dealt with many people of the LGBT community who don't accept me and say I'm just a man trying to pass as transgender, or just straight up calling me names. So shoot away, I just want honest opinions.
>>7687155
>Demigirl
Honestly I hate this shit. My brother (female) is trans. I have gotten used to calling him by his boy-name, male pronouns, his new attitude, everything. In fact I like that he is open about himself now, he seems much more confident. But I cannot bring myself to validate his identity as a "transmasculine nonbinary demiboy". It is just too fucking much for me. I simply call him a boy, and this seems enough to satisfy him.
>>7687155
I am technically a demigirl too, OP. But for some reason I still find these definitions pretty dumb so I just call myself a transgirl, also less explanation required.
>>7687168
>I simply call him a boy, and this seems enough to satisfy him.
Maybe that's all it takes.
I'm just straight up a Demigirl. (Born a guy, like girls and don't entirely identify as a girl)
As for pronouns... I really don't mind.. call me whichever one you see fit.
>>7687185
Yeah, that would be easier for me.. But I live in Brazil.. and people here are extremely ignorant.. so saying "I'm a transgirl" would be like coming up to a random girl in the US and calling her a tsundere.
The reaction would most likely be "Excuse me, what?"
>>7687193
So... I would be "MtF Transitioning" or...? What would be the correct way to call it?
>>7687168
>My brother (female)
not to nitpick but i think we could've gather that he's ftm from the rest of your post even if you left this out.
but yeah, i think most trans people would agree that "demi" gender labels are completely pointless. if someone says they're "non binary" but has dysphoria and goes out of their way to look as androgynous/neutral as possible, that's different imo, but even then it depends.
>>7687195
the correct term is mtf, or trans woman, or male-to-female transsexual, or just whatever variant of those you prefer
lesbian trans women are actually more common than straight trans women, so your sexuality is not an issue here
>>7687200
I really appreciate your help and attention.
But I can't help but ask... Isn't "Lesbian Trans Woman" inaccurate for me? Since I don't entirely identify as a woman? (hence why I called myself Demigirl instead of just MtF or Trans Woman)
>>7687196
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not to nitpick but i think we could've gather that he's ftm from the rest of your post even if you left this out.
Yeah I know it has just become a bit of a meme around here thanks to all the funny ladies (male)
>>7687212
the idea of 'gender identity' is a meme
very few people, even trans people, have strong internal senses of their gender
assuming you aren't a girl if you don't 'feel' like one is inaccurate, and is the reason people make fun of 'demigirl' as a concept in the first place
>>7687224
Gotcha. Thanks a lot ^^
So from now on I'll use "MtF" instead of "Demigirl" since it's a more accurate, easier to understand and more accpeted term
>>7687234
Just curious but will you actually transition? Otherwise it's pretty pointless to call yourself mtf.
>>7687248
Most likely I will transition eventually. But I'm not sure desu.
If I don't.. what should I call myself then?
>>7687339
>I'm not sure desu
Better make up your mind, FAST. If you're not transitioning, people will absolutely call you a man. So do you want to be a boy or do you want to be a transgirl? (There are no other options.)
>>7687353
Huh.
>>7687404
You would probably be better off just being a "femboy" in the classical sense (not the current /lgbt/ use of the term). Male pronouns, no medical transition, no nothing really, just being girly.
>>7687155
>With that story out of the way.. I want to ask you.. What do you think of me? Of my identity..?
I don't give a fuck. Why do you think we care?
You are not a special snowflake.
>>7687498
ow the edge
I think you should do whatever feels best for yourself, not to go with what people think it's okay or easy for them to understand.