Do you like being queer? Why (not)?
>>6891083
I guess so? It's similar to asking me if I "like" being a white male. I've always been so, and I've always been queer, or at least since my earliest memories.
Not really. But I suspect I'd be just as big of a failure if I was straight.
As for why, because being a minority sucks, especially a sexual minority. I'll never meet a potential mate randomly. I'll always have to seek them out in these gross, sexually charged spaces. And because there are so few of us, it's harder to find someone compatible.
And love is such a big part of the human experience too. Why would I want that to be more difficult for me?
Also, I live in a less than tolerant country.
>>6891125
Where do you live if you don't mind me asking?
>>6891151
Serbia. It's not horrible or anything, it's just not good.
>>6891083
> queer
Fucking stupid Americans.
>>6891293
Feeling triggered, my European friend?
>t. Canadian bisexual who loves the word queer
>>6891083
Hate it. Bullying all the way from elementary 1st grade by everyone including my teachers and internalized homophobia conditioned into me by my mother and my catholic upbringing broke me beyond repair before I was 16. Puberty was living hell, I tried to kill myself at 18 just so I didn't have to endure another 8 months of school...
I'm kinda ok now, the only thing left is substance abuse and constant nightmares but I can live with that.
>>6891418
That sucks, hang in there anon...
Are you out? If so how did your parents and surroundings react?
I'm sure a lot of people wouldn't prefer to be. It's just as soon as you express that sentiment you're labelled as a "self hating gay" because of course gays need to express their lgbt pride by having sex 5 times a week! Hooray for being gay!
>>6891301
>Canadian
Oh wow, so surprised. Huh. Never would have expected a Canadian to like the word queer. Just woah
>>6891460
Exactly! I'm gay and I fucking hate 99% of the gay community. They make it look like everyone just needs to suck cock every minute of every day, like we're special snowflakes and that we need special treatment and that's exactly why I'm scared to get out, because people will view me as one of those gay-pride ''non-binary'' sissies. argh
>>6891442
I can't tell my parents, my father would be fine with it he has many gay friends but my mom would probably disown me and drift into depression over it. I'm in college and can't make any money on the side because my major is very demanding so I'm financially dependent on them. At least they're out of my sight.
I came out after High School, before that I couldn't walk down the hall without being called a faggot by someone. Worst thing that happened to me for being gay was I got pushed around and spat on by a group of guys I didn't even know by name.
My friends where mostly fine with me coming out, I got responses between "Well, sucks for you" to "I really don't care" which is fine I guess.
I grew up in a nice part of a big town in germany btw.. Very few muslims or any other groups that would've a problem with me on some ideological level. I just got bullied because I was who I was and deserved it because of that, I guess. It wasn't all about me being gay. There were other gays in my year even but they got left alone for it for some reason.
>>6891507
Then don't? Who cares? Other gays will tell you "you're a bad person for not showing pride!", but most of those are just entitled.
I hate being trans. It's a living hell. If I could press a button right now and make it so that no people born from here on out will ever ever be trans, I'd have no fucking hesitation.
This isn't like being gay. This is, unfortunately, a medical condition that can fuck people up for life. It's a cancer on society, and I'm glad as fuck that it's as rare as it is.
>>6893668
This. I enjoy being in a gay relationship (I don't participate in gay culture, though), but being a transsexual makes me hate myself so badly.
I'm kinda thankful I don't have to deal with straight guys and their bs, but on the other hand I agree with >>6891125. People always say "don't try to find a relationship let it find you", but that's basically impossible. All there is is an internet filled with bisexuals who really only like men, or sjw types who expect you to care about all these things I don't, like Islam or class struggles or whatever.
Damn glad I'm cis though, that's for sure.
>>6891083
I feel happier knowing my place in the world, when it comes to my love life. I date guys and I love how amazingly cute guys can be. It feels so natural to be attracted to other men, and I feel like my personal drama is much smaller than my hetero friends and their girl drama.
What I hate is how small the dating pool is and how guys can be as picky as any girl. Rejection happens so easily that it would be soul crushing if I had less self worth.
I have mixed feelings about it. I hate being a sexual minority (bi) but if I can find that perfect person that is also bi, ends will meet. Too bad they are like fucking unicorns. I also fucking hate the sjw gay community. They act like special snowflakes because they are "demisexual" and "identify as an attack helicopter" and when they have a problem in life, they blame it on _____ism.
That being said, I fucking love being queer.
>>6894539
tell me about it. Bi guys are rare as all hell. I don't like the fact that nobody would really understand except for a bi partner. And i cannot for the life of me find a Bi partner.
>>6894559
I'm >>6894539
and that sucks, man. I've dated one Bi guy and one fully gay one. Both were good, but I feel like with my first (bi) bf we got along and accepted sex easier. Plus we could gossip about girls in our porn, which wasn't needed, but a bonus.
I'm used to being a loner by this point, but damn.
>>6894567
Yeah, I need my down time but I cant be alone all the fucking time. I could totally date one fully gay guy but idk. The one bi girl ive met, I chose to be only friends with because she was a bit unstable and I feared what would happen if we broke up.
I'm very sexual and I am more accepting of sex than most guys in my school. I haven't actually had sex yet so i just watch porn. The great thing about watching porn when you're bi is that you can watch (almost) everything and fap to it lmao.
>>6894581
It gets easier with time. Plus the dating pool thing again, man. Not enough guys that are worth the time or won't just give you the time of day.
i think in a way i'd like it if i were just cis gay, but i definitely don't like being trans.
>>6894602
Yeah. Thanks. I just feel like if I don't like the sjws then the dating pool's gonna be even smaller. Fml.
>>6894627
Guess you've had more run-ins with them than I have. I've never met one myself.
>>6894637
Im in California so almost everyone is an sjw. And they are all so fucking annoying. "We need to close the wage gap!"
>>6894645
I'm your neighbor to the east and I've not had that issue. Go figure it's much bigger in Cali. Sorry man.
>>6894653
Cali really isn't worth it. You have to be incredibly fucking rich to have a good life here. It's a glamorized shithole. Skid row is full of druggies. The film buisiness is bullshit and only indie producers make good movies (most of the time). And it sucks being in the middle of most drama. In the ghetto there are the bloods and crips who you dont fuck with. Culver City is the only good place you can live if you are not rich as hell that has people of color and a good school. Now that that's off my chest lol.
>>6894675
I know all about how bad it is there.
>>6891083
No, it's always been my dream to have a big family but it can't happen. I'm frankly too selfish to adopt someone else's kid and would feel no attachment if not blood related.
>>6891083
No, I must like liking boys. I would have had a terrible time with womens. I'm autistic when it comes to reading female subleties and we piss each other off easily sometimes.
Boys you can just slap down, have perverted horny degenerate sex with, and then just cuddle and play videogames while he diligently sucks your dick.
Today's womyn are nice and all I suppose, but just aren't for me.
TLDR being gay has given a semi-average guy the sex life of a Chad.
>>6891083
Yeah I kind of do.. Lol it's pretty fun having hot taller guys chase you and lust after you desu
>>6891083
I'm not sure. Conceptually I don't have a problem with being gay, but I feel like I've internalized a lot of homophobia after years of conservative church and social conditioning. This plus my crippling social anxiety makes for a pretty vicious cycle of self-hatred.
I have a pretty difficult time meeting new people on a good day and the idea of pursuing a relationship (especially one involving sex) terrifies me. I also have a bad habit of crushing on my straight friends instead of guys who actually like the dick.
So to me there are two parts to this question. Do I like being attracted to men? I guess? The nature of sexual orientation makes it hard to have a real opinion about this.
Do I like the experience of being a gay person? Not really. Even though I live in a pretty supportive city, it still sucks knowing that the bottom half of the country thinks you're an abomination.
>>6894761
Yowza