A gay person wanting to be straight is said to have internalized homophobia, but a trans person wanting to be cis is just normal. Why?
wanting to be normal and have an easier life isnt bad in any way. dont listen to butthurt fags
>>5634399
what? just an hero brah had enough of this mental illness propogation facts are facts and no one is this retarded.
>>5634399
Gay privilege desu.
does anyone else feel like it's better to be "repressed" rather than make your sexual kinks part of your regular identity?
i can't live a normal life unless i repress my sexuality, otherwise i'd be masturbating 900 times a day and getting nothing else done. i can't seem to balance two things in my life, i have to either be in a "repressive" non-sexual phase, in which i focus on other things, or i get into these obsessed tunnel visioned psychotic sexual phases where all i can focus on is it.
taking this even further, i feel like repressing it actually informs my other interests and views in life. i like being the repressed side of myself more than the indulgent, free for all, sex on the brain non-stop every day side of myself.
can anyone relate? i feel so lost in life if i'm not actively "repressing".
>>5634391
No. This intense, single-minded sexual drive doesn't even sound similar in TYPE to any experience I can ever remember having with sexuality.
The contrast is so great that it suggests at least one of us should seek a therapist to discuss this with soon. I'll be seeing mine in two weeks, advise booking an appointment.
>>5634435
so do you just have sex or masturbate and then... that's it? you put it aside and move on with your life? for how long?
I can kind of relate to this. As a pretty dysphoric AGP individual I can honestly say that if I weren't repressing, I'd be some cheap, tranny hooker on backpages because of my hypersexuality and desire to be a man's fuckhole. I get my best work done when I'm in really dysphoric moods though, it's awesome. I've lived a life of sexual repression for so long and am so used to this identity I have now that I can't let go of it. I mean, what would that make me? Not the me I want to be. Dysphoria just gets me in the mood to develop skills and build things. It's also a bonus that I get all of my energy from being alone.
Hey there /lgbt/, I'm in a bit of a pickle. I've got feelings for multiple guys, and I'm torn apart on what to do. See, I'm on the US West Coast, and these guys are spread out everywhere else. I have feelings for this Asian dude in Massachusetts who's 2 and a half years younger than me, and I've got feelings for this Australian guy. I've also got feelings for this mudslime in Malaysia who just so happens to be one of my best friends. What do I do? Who do I choose and how would I go about getting to them and getting close to them in a romantic way and all? I'm not good with this stuff ;n;
ok well the mudslime is out for obvious reasons. the asian guy mayyybbee but i'd go with the australian one unless hes hideous
>>5634258
Well, the mudslime is a really great guy, but so's the Asian dude in Mass, and the Aussie is nice and sweet but so far away and I don't wanna get citizenship in a place where everything can kill me.
>>5634253
Why don't you meet someone irl? Like literally in your city?
List of /lgbt/ approved musicians?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TvYLStxuRWU
>>5634177
We're to diverse of a community.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Fle2CP8gR0
a reminder,
I would date a trans woman but since I'm average looking you wouldn't look at me twice.
...and I don't blame you honestly
>>5633958
let's just be friends anon, doesn't mean we can't tongue kiss, now go hit the gym naughty boy
I would date an average looking guy.
>>5633958
>average is not in the middle
What is this? A video game review?
Gay Anons, do you like sniffing the butt of your bf/significant other?
yes. its animal
>straight man poo
>>5633925
no that's degenerate you fucking faggot
this is definitely correct
go back to tumblr faggot
>>5633707
you rainbow hugging faggot
Hey guys
What if gay pride marches were secretly ISIS recruitment marches?
>>5633429
No someone is sneak dissing in london lol
>>5633429
It was a dildo flag, and why would they recruit fags? just so they could throw them off of a roof? seems recruitment would be better served recruiting someone you want not someone you are fundamentally opposed to.
It's not actually their flag
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/jun/30/isis-dildo-flag-london-pride-cnn
>Tfw about to get hormones but a salaried position is offered in management for an entire market in the industry you have been working in all of your life so you take it and cut your hair and hate yourself for caving to pressure to conform and your hair was so close to being long enough to look okay it just needed like another inch to not look like shit.
>>5633407
You couldn't have worn a wig to hide your hair? From what you have said, it sounds like your hair only had to be short during the review/recruitment portion and you'll be free to grow it out after. Otherwise I don't know why you would take the job.
>>5633853
What about all those balding cis guys who get wigs to hide that they're losing hair then?
So lesbians, how can you tell if a girl *likes* you? Seems like a lot of straight girls act flirty which is very deceiving.
>>5633223
You can tell it in their eyes.
>>5633223
I think she likes me when she pulls me in for a french kiss, but maybe I'm overthinking it.
>>5634247
what gives it away?
(not OP but horribly awkward)
I'm 18, born male and i am pretty sure that i'm transgender. Growing up I never felt comfortable in my body. I remember crying in front of a mirror because i was "ugly", but i didn't know why I felt that way. I'm 18 and I have never been in anything resembling a romantic relationship. I can't even tell if I like girls or guys at this point. i don't know how to approach anyone with intimate intentions. Girls probably think I'm gay because I present kind of androgynous. I feel that growing not knowing what I was and what I felt has damaged my ability to form meaningful relationships with people in general, especially girls, never having an iota of confidence to approach I girl I may have found attractive.I feel pathetic but I don't know what to do to fix myself. drugs are the only thing keeping me alive right now
>trans girl
>#netflix&chill with another trans girl tomorrow
>star trek date mk ii fuck yeah
>using hair clippers to make my genital hair less gross and boyish
>accidentally chop off a chunk of skin
>no longer bleeding but still kinda weird-looking
>you know, because it's a wound on my fucking balls
So how do I explain this shit to my date without squicking her the fuck out? Any tips on how to play this one smooth? I don't want to have to explain it in the moment but I'm also nervous about broaching the subject before anything happens.
>>5632971
>>#netflix&chill
you got everything you deserved
Just don't bring it up.
Also topic isn't thread worthy anon.
>>5632971
...do you have to have sex?
I have been with my boyfriend (we are both males) since one year and half ago, he is a really good person and we have practically everything in common (interest, values etc) but there is a issue in the sex, he is like a "sloth" in the bed (very slow movements, no kissing, no biting on the neck.. no eye contact ) im trying my best in order to letting him know about this without harming his feelings, he started indeed trying to be more "passionate" but everytime he tries to have sex with more energy his erection is gone shortly after and he explain this as "i feel it better doing it very slow" what can i do? i´m developing insecurities like "maybe he doesn't like me" i'm afraid it can separate us in last term, what can i do?
>>5632916
You're probably just not pretty enough
>>5632916
I'd suggest having him do all the other things that don't require him going slow, the kissing, the biting, the eye contact, and go from there. Maybe if he can't do it as fast he might try fucking you "harder"? Maybe holding you down and pinning you might help you get off.
>>5633010
*that don't require him going fast
sorry
i've been thinking about this a lot lately and i feel like society and the trans community really push you to seek out this ideal of being a woman. you're supposed to identify strictly as a woman, and try everything you can to prove you're just a normal woman at heart. but i don't understand why that would have any appeal or make any sense when i can't think of a single thing that all cisgender women have in common, other than two x chromosomes and being referred to as women. i can't even see a chromosome or talk to a chromosome or anything like that, so i figure it would be weird to care about not having one. and what's the point in needing to be referred to specifically as a woman? i am what i am and no word is going to change that. as far as i'm concerned it doesn't really matter if people think i'm a woman, a man, or a fish. what matters is that i'm comfortable with my body, that i feel free to explore my femininity, and that i can be myself without feeling insecure about it. so why should i try to be anything in particular other than a well-adjusted, well-rounded, kind person?
i'm sorry about the wall of text but i just had a lot of thoughts that i wanted to get out
if you only read the title and respond to that then that's ok. i'm not expecting anyone to trudge through a wall of text when they don't want to
>>5632525
You already said that everyone is different.
I'm just nervous what picture of myself I show if I'm so obviously trans but don't try to fit into a female role at all.
Afterall I very much do want to be seen as female and I feel I got a lot of shortcomings to compensate for.
I think this would be much less of a concern if I pass.
earlier today a guy told me i wasn't trans because i said i don't want to be a woman. he said it doesn't matter that i take hormones, or that i mostly wear clothing for women, or that i wear makeup, or that i'm training my voice to be less resonant/higher, etc. if i don't have a strong feeling that i'm a woman, then i'm not trans. but i don't understand why anyone would try to be a woman when the word doesn't even really mean much of anything. i feel like it actually means a lot more to say that i'm feminine than to say that i'm a woman
Whu do trans people always look depressed? They never look happy no matter what they do.
not depressed porbably just sad
>>5632423
Look pretty miserable to be. Which makes me think its more of a mental illness imho.
>>5632418
Because being trans just sucks in every way?
And you can't give it a break either.