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>>5937959
Cont
Skip to a few days later, I talk to him when he's sober, the information I got out of him is:
>He doesn't think he can be trans because he likes girls
>very self loathing, and hates who he is, thinks he is shit at everything
>He thought he would be more comfortable as a girl when he was younger, before puberty
>When he was away in Japan he felt so much better because no one knew him as the "weak, little, shy loser"
>Finds it really hard to get motivation to do anything because the future just looks so shit.
>Also liked TG porn, (as in like turning a guy into a girl, not shemale) but apparently not as a self insert

Look, I want him to be happy, and that's why I'm so scared, because he reminds me so much of myself. All the pain, the self loathing, the anger, it seems so familiar. I'm just worried that if he doesn't transition he'll be filled with regret.

On a side not he would look good as a girl,much better than me at least

>>5937959
>>5937960
Ha, your friend reminds me of me. Except I'm not an angry people. He's undoubtedly a she. What are you gonna do to help/hinder friend?

>>5938015
ahh, I don't know, I left the conversation basically telling him he needs to do a lot of introspection, and find out who he really is.

Whenever i go buy clothes i usually put on a big smile (a fake one yet still natural looking) so as to divert attention from the awkwardness and to make me look less suspicious of buying the stuff for myself -which is what would happen if i looked nerveous-. If there are male store clerks they usually resort to banter, for example I told one guy that i wanted panties for my gf and after i went to pay he told me "i hope that your girlfriend likes how you look in them, err, i hope you like how they look on your girlfriend". That was pretty funny. When it's a female attending you then they usually look at you funny while they appear to giggle internally at your faggyness.

So yeah nothing really happens

>>5938176
I never really thought about approaching a different gender for questions. Which is better?

>>5937758
My gf likes it when I crossdress. And I love it. But I know that I don't pass 100% when I do, and that usually makes me not want to do it at all.
I've also gotten to the point though where I don't even consider thigh highs and panties to be girl's clothes because I wear them so much in nonsexual settings. So maybe I'll just wear those.

>>5937244

So you're not HRT but somehow you look too young to people when you dress as a male? I'm really having trouble understanding you.

>>5937268
theyre FTM and probably dont want to be a twink

>>5937268
My body is female, I'm legally female. I have dysphoria. I used to be able to pass as a guy just by dressing male, but now I'm so old that it doesn't really work because I look like a male child when I do it and I'm in social situations where people are expecting me to be 21+. One thing to look like a high schooler when you're a college student, another thing to look like a high schooler when you're trying to get a beer. So I get read as butch female now or told to GTFO because I'm a minor.

>>5937191
when people who have life effecting issues are taking medication that alters their brain chemistry, it tends to make them more extreme mood swings in the worst of situations.

or in a more snarkily tldr, mtfs are taking chemicals that make them woman, and women are often irrational, moody and insane. FTM are taking medication to 'lower' that, so they often end up 'less' moddy/insane

>>5937227
Your reading comprehension level makes me giggle like a little girl. c:

>>5937191
It's probably a combination of being more humble from the difficulties of transitioning plus having more "guy" personality traits and hobbies.

>>5937092
Even if you dont pass wouldnt you rather be clocked as a cute fem boy rather than a ugly old man? atleast you can still get dick as

>>5937092
didn't care about living as a guy but wanted SRS
hoops toward SRS require going on HRT
got on HRT but stayed guy to check out the waters
get ma'am sometimes, got asked by old dudes as fuck buddies, probably as a twink
disphoria hits hard when cis-women thinks i'm wrong in heading into the male changing room at work, while the guys in there would step back and double check the sign at the door

>>5937164
hrt is not going to make a masc guy into a cute femboy, lol

The straight guy has to have some latent bicuriosity, but yes, it would be possible. History has many examples. Would be easier if he crossdressed tho.

Sure. Become a fishy drag queen. Although even boogers get dick sometimes.

>>5936515

yup but it's not likely to go terribly far

for me personally (a straight man) it would be easy to justify kissing and possibly oral sex (giving or receiving) with a guy if he looked, sounded, and acted fully androgynous

but guys who pass that well as non-ugly girls are rare; mainly it's the trannies that will be attempting that of course (and even they often don't succeed at it)

it's not THAT hard to give somebody a boner, even if they don't want it

I think it's the opposite tbqh

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>>5936510
>Do any of you think that the reasons a lot gay & lesbian relationships fall apart...
Shut the fuck up, people are bad in relationships despite their sexual orientation, because people are immature and selfish, that's why relationships fall apart.

>>5936533
and its 100% equal in distribution of course. And deviation of this line of thinking would be Wrongthink

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>>5935490
>break down
>cry
>realize you're crying over nothing
>move on
Just have your panic attack and kill yourself. If this shit is seriously stopping you from functioning, you're doing yourself and the world a favor.

>>5933349

Cook spaghetti

>>5935490

Just leave the building and walk to the nearest secluded place

Fuck your roommate I guess? You're not being very explicit about what you want advice on

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>>5935008
secretly feed him hrt

make him tranny

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>>5935073
oh, sorry

I meant specifically how I can make shit less awkward between me and this dude

the only idea I have is to pick a god and pray that it's some gay guy who'll be more understanding and not "LOL CHICKS WITH DICKS"

I'll probably be able to change my legal gender pretty easily after I'm there, it's not hard to do in NJ

name changes are a bitch though, largely thanks to that fat fuck Chris Christie blocking any legislation that'd make it easier

You almost certainly didn't contract HIV from oral sex.

it's unlikely that you got hiv from oral sex

>>5934939
>>5934943
How can you be sure? I looked up and they say there are reported cases of hiv from oral. We also fucked but used a condom and the condom was safe when I pulled out, no tearings or anything.

>telling a straight boy you're bi

To what end?

>>5934610
>coming out as bi
>coming out as bi to a straight man
>ever
why are bisexuals such attention whores?

when I came out to a straight friend guy about being bi he managed to pair me off with his gay friend
It's really much easier to meet (normal) gay people through straight friends.

I'm already a demon

>>5934703
Such a lust for revenge!

Check here.
http://askanonbinary.tumblr.com/post/72910136802/informed-consent-hormone-providers

If you're in college, it appears that every major school near you offers IC treatment through their health departments.

>>5934608
oh sweet. so wait, i can just go to my school's health department? they cover trans stuff too? fucking hell i never knew. once i start college i'm going straight to it

>>5934614
Seems like it! Best of luck with your transition, Anon, and be sure to have/build a good support network for yourself. It helps a lot.

>>5932835
I've heard that Starbucks is a very trans positive employer. Like, exceptionally so.

Here's a list of companies that have been checked for trans positivity. Hopefully something there looks appealing to you.

http://www.masstpc.org/mediawiki/index.php?title=Employers_with_Transgender_Friendly_Policies

>>5938130
Different anon but thank you! Is the general routine to say your status before or after the interview or to HR in private? I usually put my preferred name in ().

>>5932321
>be me
>be lgbt
>post this
>tfw no bf

>both grandpas are dead
>only grandmothers remain
>start transitioning, out to everyone but hide it from grannies with baggy sweaters
>I come out and both accept me, one out of fear of my mother, one out of senility
>they aren't good at calling me my name
>avoid seeing them a few months (family all live close by and visit weekly)
>im always out or working
>see them today on Easter because Christianity
>my nanna is weirdly defensive over me, calls me pretty, says things are coming along well, mainly because i look like she did as a teenager only 6 inches taller
>she still calls me by my guy name
>senile grandma gets my name right but brings up the past and talks as if i was 6 years old still and asking if i remember stuff about going to places i don't remember
>get bummed out, make excuses and leave
>feel guilty
>go to work waitressing
>get called a guy by colleagues all the time because they know i'm trans but called a girl by my tables
>end up chatting to a couple who said i was great and service was excellent
>they ask when if i'm gonna go to uni
>i tell them i'm 27, finished uni 5 years ago, i'm gonna move in with my partner soon and roadtrip the USA
>they say i'm a good girl, and good luck with traveling

why are people i just meet and met since transition so lovely, friendly and just see me as me, when everyone else is just awkward at best, and a cunt at worst. i think when i move in with my partner i'll cut off the past apart from my parents and go stealth, fuck it

>>5932321
Holy fuck that image is jpeg'd to hell.