So my 20y girlfriend and i are both into hentai, and the other

>>4705642
>>>/adv/
TL;DR: You're both fucked and will eventually explode and mortally wound each other with emotional shrapnel.

>>4705642
This is a symptom of a kind of PTSD that is due to what she went through as a kid. Sometimes the victims will become hypersexual and want after others as they subconsciously attempt to gain control of their own sex life. She needs to see a professional about that traumatic experience.

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>>4705642
Hey Anon!
Every girlfriend I've had has been abused as a kid and are into DDLG. Pretty sure it's just commonly associated with it. Our psychology is really weird. It doesn't exactly mean she enjoyed it as a kid or anything, but perhaps her way of dealing with the trama is framing it in a manner in which she's the one initiating the scenario instead of it pressed on her against her will.

Maybe it's the only kind of love she's come to know - or she associates sex with dynamic power roles of adults and children due to being a part of it. The fact is, our psychology is DEEPLY rooted in our childhoods. It's why you still hear people in their 40's perhaps resenting their parents, who may have already passed away. Or people even older who are timid due to intimidating parental figures, even though they're already grown adults who have been away from such an environment for a quarter of a century.

Our childhood is such a fragile period of our lives that shape our lives whether we like it or not.

I'd say if she doesn't actually project her assailant onto you, or display otherwise troubling psychological side effects, then it should be fine. Our fetishes are all fucked, and the sooner you realize everyone else is just as fucked up as you are the easier it will be to just enjoy yourself. Everyone is a degenerate - some people are just more repressed than others.

PS - be sure to nurture her "little" side and don't make her feel bad for expressing it in the comfort of your private time with her. If she wants to show you a cute coloring book page she made, or show you a "puppet play" she made up with her plushies, or wants you to read her a bedtime story, indulge her a bit. She had her childhood stolen from her, it's okay (in moderation) for her to request to help her enjoy what she missed out on.

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>>4705721
Oh right, and also have her seek professional help if she isn't already. I dunno why you're asking this to /h/ really, but I wish you and her the best.

As another bit of advice, remember that fetishes are all about pushing taboo. It only makes you uncomfortable because you're thinking too hard about it. We want our partners to partake in our fetishes because we want them to accept us for who we are - for the sides that we wouldn't dare show anybody else. We trust them to see our degeneracy and still feel the same way for us after. What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom, and you don't have to feel guilty or like you're abusing her if you're both game.

>>4705642
You both should get mental help, mainly her.

>>4705642
there's actually a theory out there that being sexually abused is like a psychological disease that spreads since most people who abuse have been abused by others when they were young and thus "pass on" the psychological condition.

kind of fucked if you think about it like that.
I hope she gets help

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>>4705738
Thank you! A lot of what she's explained to me has been very similar to what you said, and it makes me feel better to know theres someone else out there who has been through the same stuff. Its also worth mentioning that she works at a sex store and is extremely comfortable with just about everything along those lines, She's had PTSD episodes in front of me unrelated to any sort of sexual experiences. None of it is a trigger to her. Thank you for the well written reply!

>>4705744
Yeah, she's into a lot of other stuff too, she works at a sex store and is also into a lot of other kinks, this is just one of her mains, i try to make her comfortable and keep her happy, Its an open relationship because i cannot handle the pressure of commitment, although i rarely fuck around with other people, i still find the idea of being restricted to be boring as hell. I'm not used to being a dom, usually a sub personally, but i've been her dom a few times and everything has been good!

>>4705769
It's hard to "learn" the role of a dom but possible. If you're in an open relationship, it may be helpful to find a sister or mommy figure for her if she's fine with polyamory. That way you can share some of the dom relation, if she's bi that is. My current relationship is with two DDLG girls who are "sisters" and have me act as their father. We of course know it's all fun and games and don't express the kink in public, but it helps them cope a lot as a sort of support group, especially because they both know they share childhood trauma and feel they can relate to one another. They can keep each other busy if I'm stuck overtime at work or whatever and one of them is a switch who can kinda take my place as dom when I'm not around.

>>4705766
She goes to therapy, but theres no such thing as help, the damage was done, she was raped over 60 times before she was 10, you cannot just "Get Over" something when its that habitual. She deals with it okay now, and she's very in tune with her emotions and knows herself. A guy who doesn't treat her like trash and actually cares for her such as myself is the closest thing to help there is at this point.

>>4705763 i don't need mental help, as the post above you said out fetishes are all taboo. Im not a rapist nor would i actually every touch a child sexually. The difference between someone who is into lolicon and someone who is a pedophile is very distinct. Have you ever seen someone say some ignorant ass shit online, or a character in a movie you hated so fucking much that you wished they would die? Does that make you a murderer?

Have you ever wanted to make a hundred thousand dollars in a couple of days? Does that make you a bank robber or a millionaire?

>>4705777
Yeah we are both bi, and that sounds like a great idea thanks for the tip

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Helpin OP with a bump before I sleep.

Good luck.

>>4705642
Talk with her about it. Tell her it's a guilty pleasure of yours, but that you don't want her to ever think that you would actually abuse and rape someone. The best thing you can do in this situation is to be open about your concerns. Then, assuming the two of you pursue your fetishes further, make sure to follow sex up with aftercare.

Just spend some time winding down, being calm and talking softly, and giving her a chance to see, firsthand, that you and the character you were playing are very different. She almost definitely knows that already, but experiencing that difference for herself is something else altogether. It's the same reason couples who are into bdsm tend to be loving and all about consent. You have to be really careful when pushing these sorts of boundaries, and being able to drop put of character and be "yourself" helps alleviate a lot of potential doubts.

If you and this girl are serious about each other, then even if one of you fucks up and crosses a line the other isn't comfortable with, that doesn't have to be a huge deal. If you're already giving each other aftercare and you've been careful with each other's boundaries up to that point, all you have to do is dial it back if she says something, and then you're good. It's all about mutual trust, and it sounds like she trusts you enough to tell you about some really personal shit. Try it out and see what you both think.

>>4705738
I'm doubling down on what this anon said in his p.s.
I myself am with someone who didn't have much of a childhood and still exibits parts of that every so often through. It means the world to her if I just let her get home, drop the "big adult" act and let her show me something she's excited about even if it's kind of silly of even childish in nature.

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No worries anon
Femanon here, and im into lolis, ddlg, bondage, ect.
And I actually wasnt abused as a child so yay
If you or her arent going out and actually touching small children who cares what you two get off to you know?
I get its a morality thing and thats a good thing, but 90% of the time its pure fantasy

>>4705642
Stop being a bitch and fully enjoy the treasure you have

>>4706079
>being an actual cuck fetishist letting his woman fuck men while he plays beta support
>treasure

Pick one

>>4705642
Your girlfriend is a lesbian pedo

>>4705971
Fucking weirda

>>4706254
Nope, not a pedo. Neither am i.
Saying someone who likes lolicon is a pedophile is like saying someone that has a creampie fetish is a father

>>4705642
nice try fbi. but everyone knows people who browse 4chan are virgins.

>>4706767
Not that anon, but, honestly I think being a lolicon still means you're a pedophile. What it DOESN'T mean is that you're a child molester, or that you're destined to become one.

>>4705769
u think i will find a wild gf at a sex shop too?

>>4705642
I think thats fairly common for girls that are into hentai. Me and my girl team fap to DDLG hentai a lot, and im getting her more into lolicon too. Tho she isnt into rape, but girls being taken advantage of or girls that sorta dont want to get fucked.

>>4707168
Fair

>>4707196
Didn't meet her there, met her through a friend.

>>4707206
That's whatsup!

>>4705971
Were you also sexually precocious as a child?

>>4705738
You have given my heart a boner, but taken the boner from my penis

>>4705642
jeses fuck

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>>4705642
Hey OP. Femanon here. I'm into loli and DDlg as well as heavy bondage and regular beatings, and staged rape.
I was sexual abused as a child and it messed me up pretty bad; masturbating at a young age, having to cum daily was a major problem when I was little.
It's not like I want to go out and touch kids, I wouldn't want any kid to go through what I did.
If she wants to go into Little space when you have sex, let her.
You mention you feel guilty because she is a victim, but if she is willing to show you her little side I wouldn't be to worried. Just be careful to watch her and make sure you don't send her fully into the past and make her relive her it.

>>4705738
Is pretty spot on with how it works, at least for me. I have mass amounts of coloring books, stuffed animals, and cute things. He seems to know what he is talking about.

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>>4708168
Hey, I'm the anon you quoted.
I'm sorry you had to go through that, Anon. Not sure if you'll visit this thread again but I wanted to express my condolences. I always feel overly empathetic in situations like these, probably because of how much experience I've had with girls that have been through it.

I just hope you're doing well and managing on your own terms. Keep your caretaker close and let them comfort you; I'm sure you mean a lot to them.

You sound like a strong girl, and it was so brave of you to come out and help someone in need with your own experiences. Stay cute.

>>4705642
Thank you for that, am now diamonds

>>4708326
I've only resently came to terms with what happened. I was so young at the time. 4 to 5.
But I'm doing ok Anon. Thanks for caring.

Wish my fiancee was into lolicon and playing it out...

>>4709107
i think most folks on here do pal. keep dreaming.

>>4705642
sexual abuse, especially as a minor, is a vicious cycle. the people most likely to sexually abuse minors are people who were sexually abused as kids themselves. food for thought

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>>4705642
I was also abused as a girl, and there was a time when I did things like your girlfriend does.

The best analogy I could find comes from a book by Ian M. Banks called "Surface Detail." In it, a woman was tattooed head to toe as a sign of her position in society, which was that of a slave to a certain powerful man.

When she got free and had a whole new body (Science fiction, obviously), at first she didn't want any tattoos. But eventually she learned that the Culture (another human civilization) had tattoos that you could completely control, taking the shape and design you choose, and even be turned off and on at will. When she got one of those, she nearly cried with joy.

When something awful happens to a person, it's normal to eventually reach the point where instead of avoiding it, you want to control it. You want to be able to experience something similar, but in a controlled environment with someone you love, and where you can put the brakes on at any time. DDlg fantasies are one way of doing this, and more common for abuse survivors than you might think.

As long as you have a healthy relationship with her, you both have a safeword, and she is seeing a therapist, I believe that this is actually a good sign. It's part of her reclaiming her sexuality in a way, and it's an indication that she trusts you.

Another femanon throwing in my two cents, lolicon is my preferred type of hentai and I don't think it is very uncommon. I did not suffer any kind of childhood sexual abuse or sexual abuse in general but I have a childlike body as an adult so I find it easier to insert into those types of hentai. If you both like it why not embrace it.

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Hey Anon.
My girlfriend is into DDLG but wasn't abused, just had an absent father. He isn't a bad dude and didn't abandon his family, he just works on cutting edge cancer research overseas and only gets to visit his family maybe once a year (but of course sends them huge checks to live off in his absence). She never felt she had a father so it plays out well. It helps that I'm about 10 years older than her though.

>>4712102
Oh, my girlfriend is the same way. She loves loli and pretty much all the doujin she gets off to are revolving around the "caring predator" archetype.

She's 17 but literally is the same height and body proportions as she was when she was 12. It's a little scary to the point where she can pull out a picture of her from when she was 12 and it looks like it was taken yesterday, just she styles her hair differently and actually understands fashion now. Even though 17 is legal in my state, I don't think I'd ever get away with public displays of affection with her since I'm 28 and look exactly my age. Though I could probably get away with just holding her hand and people would think I'm just a really young father.

>>4705642
Perfectly healthy and even essential the growth of both of you.

Put simply desires for certain things, escpially sexual things often do not represent something literal but something symbolic. Rape may be taken as a symbol of control and for a woman to ask a man to control her means she trusts him.

Go ahead with it my boi. It will deepen the bonds of trust on both your parts. Don't load it down with guilt.

>>4712003
>A thoughtful and helpful post

What website am I on?

seriously tho, brava; thank you for sharing that.

Another femanon into lolicon, also bdsm and I had the most sheltered childhood imaginable and nothing bad ever happened to me. Of course there might be a darker underlying reason in your gf for liking that kind of stuff, but who knows - it might be therapeutic. As long as she does not show any signs of trauma in connection with it that worry you, I recommend you just enjoy it. If you notice anything is odd, address it openly. She told you she was abused, so apparently she can talk about it and trusts you, which is a very good sign that she coped with it and can talk about remaining issues (unless she runs around telling everybody, that would be concerning).

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Identify as a Loli to all my friend. I'm a flat chest and look like 13 y/o. Bf Is fat and looks like a bear. Not Into DDLG tho, never had daddy issues.
But I'm a big fan of group/Rape tag.
A lot of my friend are into Lolicon and there's nothing weird about it. They just prefer woman with a childish body.

>>4705738
This. This is so true on everything. You da man.

>>4705680
You are retarded

>>4705642
I experienced a different kind of trauma as a child, and now that I am an adult I occasionally get the urge to re-enact it for pleasure. I think it's a pretty normal way to deal with things and you shouldn't worry about it too much.

>>4705642
Girls tend to imitate their bf, be careful there.

>>4705642
You're the kind of couple I'm going to see pop up in my Facebook feed after you two try to kidnap a kid from a bus stop, aren't you?

>>4720738
So I just need to show her how much I love sucking cock?

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>>4705642
She sounds fat and greasy.

so this is why most /cgl/ chicks are basketcases

>>4705642
...

Just so you know a anon just made a loli thread you know its there i think thats the bad

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>>4705642

Femanon here, I'm also into lolis, rough sex, petplay and such. I was not abused as a child and I love my parents, I hate my sister but I love my big brother. I think I'm into lolis because I can self-insert, because an illness of mine I'm very tiny and skinny, I'm at moment 18 but looks like 12-13yo and still loves plushies, I don't draw tho.

>i kinda find it a bit edgy at the moment because she was a victim, and i would never want her to view me in the light of someone who would actually abuse or rape someone

You are overthinking things, you should also feels relieved that she enjoys that with you and shares her emotions. She is just enjoying a fetish with you, let all of that keep being a fantasy and enjoy with her your relationship.

Alright, I am a 26 year old female and I as well am to all of the things your girlfriend is into. Honestly, I've gotten help, I've been to many therapist and been on all types of medication to "cure" me. What happen in the past happen, I've came to be okay with that. Up until two years ago I would get deeply depressed, weather I was thinking of what happen too much, or having a x not accept what happen and just let it be, but in the bedroom let's play. Two years ago I found my fiance, and he accepts and plays into what I am into and it's amazing to the point my depression rarely happens. Honestly let your girl be her and you two will be perfect for her. Be there when she wants to talk and just adore her.

Oh and if people want to say I need help, like I said I've tried it didn't work, but behind my closed doors of my house, how I act isn't up to you. Granted I wouldn't do it at a store, but I can do whatever I want at home.