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>can't date girls if they don't care about style and do it well, even if they're nice, cute, sexually indulgent, supportive, emotionally mature, and intelligent
>feel like a shallow scumbag, but can't get past it
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>>11270191
As someone with an un-effay gf, there's nothing wrong with having standards if that's what you're into. Sometimes her style bothers me but I'm sure it would bother other guys more.
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>>11270191
>tfw ugly
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>>11270208
It seems like such a dumb thing to care about, and I wish I didn't. The girl I'm with now is a great person, but she won't wear makeup unless I ask her to, and even then its usually just poorly applied eyeliner. Bothers the fuck outta me. Someone help.
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>>11270321
Break up with her. If it bothers you (and shes probably bothered by you telling her that stuff) youre probably both better off finding other people. Imo it doesnt matter that much. Fashion is about my personal vanity, idc what other people wear.
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>>11270321
well do you care how much of a dick you come off as in the process?
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>beta autist most of my life
>now 20 years old
>getting normalized
>lifting weights, working on getting effay, making social gains, put $2000 in a trading account
>Really don't want to act egotistical, but I'd consider myself more 'intellectual'
>like to listen to debates, really enjoy deep conversation
>I really don't just want to get a job, retire, and die
>Always think to myself about the people who I'll never know that died fighting wars for this country and think what did they die for
>they died for me knowing they'd never know me
>they died because they believed in something higher than their individual life
>and what am I doing with their death?
>keep thinking to myself "what would I gladly die for"
>have a deep fired ambition to accomplish something in my life but don't know what
>really love the concept of beauty and culture and want to create instead of consume and really want to be an architect

>am too robotic for normies and too normal now for most robots
>I'm stuck in the middle and can't relate to old friends anymore who only care about anime and video games
>I really just want to find a good girl, marry her, and start a family before 30 and make a mark on history so that I can partially elevate humanity higher

I and roped myself and a friend into a majority female group and now we're going to an anime convention with them and sharing a room. We hung out with them yesterday and I didn't like any of them. One wore literal elevator shoes and another wore a fox tail and none of them seemed to have anything deeper than anime and video games. I hate most all anime and hate most all video games.

I know there's girls that I would like and who do have ambition, who dress well, who are smart, and know what they want in life, but I'm nowhere near their level yet. I don't play any instrument. I'm not well-read yet. I'm still need to buy shoes and a nice shirts before I can start wearing what I want.

tl;dr I'm between social castes and it's awful.
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>>11270574
i feel u
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>>11270574
damn.. yeah just remember /don't wish for what you want, work for it.
you will, not you can.

are you currently in college?
are you in to the whole church thing? or no.?
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>>11270574
Are you in college? If so you have the chance to get into professions where people are a little brighter.
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>>11270574
This hits home
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>>11270574
hey, good luck to you! You're doing better than most people by simply making the effort to be better.

Most people don't have to make an effort, but if you do the payouts will be higher than those who don't
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>>11270191
>caring about any other human being but you
>not having a 10/10 turbowhore brainless deeply in love with you to pair your godly look
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>>11270824
>>11270816
yeah I'm in college, no not into the church scene

I need to pick up a hobby and get good at it like music or something and I think my environment will change

Someday, senpai
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>>11270363
Yes, definitely.

>Man can choose what he does, but not what he wants
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>>11270574
This was deep and meaningful and all but I lost it at
>>am too robotic for normies and too normal now for most robots
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>>11270574
Also I don't want to shatter your expectations, but I don't think social castes are the problem. I think just general lack of self worth is. If you work on all the personal stuff first, the social aspect still may never appear. But, you'll be better off with a hobby and a sense of purpose. Hope this helps man, we're all gonna make it
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>>11270574
delusional
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>>11270574

I'm in the same boat.
Ur makin me feel some feels.
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>>11271079
I picked social dance as one of my hobbies and it's working out okay for me - pretty much everyone involved is about where you and I are, at the halfway point between nerdhood and normsville. It's a good place to be because you get to live the good parts of both worlds and celebrate them.
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>been on /fa/ for years
>took a step back lately and realized all of my outfits look like shit and I'm not nearly as /fit/-looking as I believed myself to be
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>>11270191
Break up with her. Why be with smbdy who doesn't fulfill your standards. My boyfriend is effay as fck and it makes me oh so happy.
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I dated a ford model

I just lucked out and didn't meet a vapid one.
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>>11270574
there's no "social castes", you just have little in common with those people. you're not above them in any way and your feelings and (somewhat naive) ambitions are pretty standard for a 20 year old.

the fact that you still use /r9k/ terms to describe yourself and your peers means you have a long way to go.
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>>11271625
which one?
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>Ugly face
>Wide hips as a guy

Can't win
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>>11271583
>been on r9k for 5 years
>have bought nothing too crazy other than basics and a few shoes
>don't really care about """""fashion""""" and wear jeans and a t shirt most of the time

I hate the idea of conciously deciding on what to wear everyday. It's way too stressful for me desu
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i got beat up for ironically wearing a trump hat
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>>11271714
white f150 in LA
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>>11271857
lol what happened?
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>>11271857
top cuck
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>>11271898
went innacity at night without thinking about it
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>>11271923
you should apply for a hidden carry
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>>11271857
pussy
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>>11271923
>>11271857

>white people

literally its not even funny if you do it. you probably dress like a normie on top of that so its even harder to tell
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>mfw graduating college in a month
>sliding back into a deep depression
>no plans post-graduation
>trying to get laid, but don't really know how
>work piling up, can't muster up the will or focus to do it
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>>11271935
yo the fit was dope
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>>11271929
trueshit
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>>11271778
Just have a summer uniform and a winter uniform.

Good jeans and variety of those J. Crew thin cotton sweaters plus boots and jacket of your choice in the winter. Canvas sneakers, chino shorts and V-neck t-shirts in the summer.

Own one pair of sunglasses and a belt.

Boom, now you can look decent but unprepossessing by just grabbing whatever's first in line in your closet.
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>>11271079

>I need to pick up a hobby and get good at it like music or something and I think my environment will change

You've got that backwards senpai. You need to change your environment first and let the hobbies follow.
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>>11271857
foh ian you bastard
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>>11272029
lmao
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>>11270574
>tfw this guy doesn't realize that he just described how 95% of people in the Western world feel
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I heard everything was gonna change but it wasn't
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>>11271625
My ex was almost a Ford model, she was a model in her teens and got an offer from them but didn't want to move to NYC and make a career out of it.

It's funny, she's now a cosplayer who makes her living off of Patreon betabux.
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>>11271754
were you on a vidya-related chatroom yesterday night talking about depression and stuff
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>>11270574

I don't know where the fuck you went in the middle, but I definitely feel you on the last part

Too weird to be normal, not weird enough to be a weirdo. It's like high school again. At least people on either side pick a side.
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>cant talk to girls i find attractive
>literally cant talk to girls
>cant text
>cant facebook
>cant snapchat
i can only really get comfortable and flirty after like 5 beers at a party and even then i'm still pretty reserved
i'm handsome guys, but i'm so lonely
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>>11270574
>Really don't want to act egotistical, but I'd consider myself more 'intellectual'
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>>11270574
You sir are a gentleman and a scholar
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going to wear something outside my comfort zone tomorrow /fa/
wish me luck
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>into music and fashion since middle school
>be 23
>can play instrument, can draw, but always procratinated and low motivated in getting good
>am overweight
>want to get fit so bad, yet too procrastinated to start anything
>actually started running but stopped because no results after a month. So i was like "i think i'm doing it wrong" since idk anything about fitness and health
>am depressed, /no friends/, very lazy and procrastinated, no purpose in life, no hobby
>very low self esteem, actually overvalue other people and undervalue myself
>chose fashion and music to overcompensate. Trying so hard to get into avant garde and other genius music, and dress to impress, to make people think that i'm better than them
>can't think of anything other than impressing other people and sex
>kinda bisexual but maybe i'm just very lonely
>social anxiety
>manlet, dicklet
>want to try out different styles but can't do anything other than normcore and slackercore because overweight.
>daydreaming all the time. Fantasizing about playing in band in front of my crushes, fucking a girl that i like with a big dick, or just walking in front of my crushes in my dream outfit and dream body
>tfw
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>>11272798
How well off are you? Do you live with your parents? How much spending money do you generally have?
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>>11272798
>be 23
>chose fashion and music to overcompensate

except fashion starts with not being fat. you know its the root of your problem go learn to do something about it instead of overcompensating. And if thats too much for you i hope you enjoy being a cuckold for the rest of your life
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>>11270191
>wear a baller fit
>feel like people are staring
fuckin hell, I have no idea why I feel so insecure sometimes
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>>11272798
Do you have any music online? I'd love to check it out
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>>11272798
>>want to get fit so bad, yet too procrastinated to start anything
this is me
i get a gym membership but just don't know where to start, i feel like people there are super judgemental
also a big problem is that i'm just on the verge of skinny fat, so if i wanted to get /fit/ i'd have to gain a little weight, but then i'm worried that i'd give up on the gym and wouldn't be able to lose that extra weight
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>tfw white middle class boy
>tfw have everything I could wish for in life, plenty of money, a bright head, interesting hobbies, plenty of friends
>tfw still can't be happy and dark thoughts take over every few days
>tfw went from non smoker all my life to a pack a day within months
>tfw hit bars for hard liquor every night

>>11272718
I feel ya, 21 and just started dating for the first time

met a girl, it actually took off for a bit, had a good first date and everything but I fucking hate texting at this point, I'm literally out of shit to say and I feel like it's kind of killing a good vibe the way I'm forcing myself to text

>tfw she was the light at the end of my tunnel, the one thing I've been missing all my life
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>>11270191
Just be urself ;^)
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>depressed as hell
>try my hardest to do well, work out everyday, do things like hike out and read more
>all my friends have moved away and got real lives
>im still stuck where I am since i was 19
>increasingly being socially isolated, havent talked to anyone not related or about work/classes in 3 months
>try to hit girls up on tinder, when you get a match you dont know what to do or talk about
>deathly afraid of not being able to connect with anyone on an emotional and intellectual level
>jaded about hoping for relationships
>routine of classes, working out and work is killing me
>not feeling as depressed but at the same time realizing you are stuck in your position
>fantasizing about driving away one day without any real goal, just driving out into the desert and or go to a national park
>have no real goals, only vague dreams of being happy and content
>dont know how to fix myself at this point, no friends/gf
atleast I have a loving family I guess
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>>11272718
same

I often fantasize about having a decent conversation with a girl and just cuddling, I dont even necessarily want to have sex, I just want someone to hold and talk
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>>11272891
>a decent conversation with a girl and just cuddling, I dont even necessarily want to have sex, I just want someone to hold and talk

jesus anon
r u me
i feel pathetic
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>>11272855
>also a big problem is that i'm just on the verge of skinny fat, so if i wanted to get /fit/ i'd have to gain a little weight, but then i'm worried that i'd give up on the gym and wouldn't be able to lose that extra weight

it doesnt work like that, bulking only really is necessary when your already big and need more muscle mass, just do strength and cardio consistently for a period of time and you will see results

stop carrying about what people think, look up guides on basic exercise routine (preferably for the week), everybody starts out somewhere, even just buying dumbbells and working out for 30 mins a day + cardio is enough to get results, and at the very least get you started

also fix your eating habits if you havent already, eat less bread/pasta and more fruits/veggies
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>>11272905
a lot of people feel this way dude

experiencing sex without intimacy fucked me up, it was eye opening because it made me realize what I really want is a connection with someone, Im just lonely as hell
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>>11272887
hey man. its like that for a hot minute. Like driving through the fogl; never quite sure if youre gonna drive over a ledge or a hit a tree, or if youre still even on the right path. then suddenly youll be done with school and looking for a job probably, and the fog will lift, and shit will start to really go for you.
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>be me
>in high school
>grades not too good but life is going well
>great job with great people
>lots of friends
>getting more popular by the day
>about to hit it off with a qt
>into bmx and got a nice crew to ride with
>learning new tricks daily
>navy says we have to move
>fuck
>said the move wont be for 6 months
>ok i can deal with that
>one month later
>"move rescheduled to next month"
>please god no
>days later
>moving in 2 weeks lel have fun
>its so sudden i have no time to cope
>fast forward to moving here
>flat midwestern city
>nothing within biking distance
>never got a car cuz i could always bike wear i needed to go
>no close by jobs
>schools a week from over here so i never went
>no friends
>no job
>no money
>no buddies to ride with
>biking less and less
>gaining weight
>friends texting less and less
>desperately trying to point out that im still here with an occasional snap or ig post
>eating more
>gaining weight
>life took a total 180
>i fell of the top of the mountain and dont have the strength to get back up
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>>11272945
you have to deal with being isolated from now on man, its one of the hardest things to do

you have to learn to do shit on your own and be satisfied with your own goals

also prepare to feel lonely as shit, its hard to not have any close friends to hang out with and do shit after having them desu
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>>11272964
thank you for the up front advice, as long as i can stay sane until i get another job or the next school year starts ill be fine i think
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>>11272974
>in high school
>next school year starts
underage b&
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>>11272984
if every underage poster was band this forum would be empty
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>>11272989
banned*
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>>11272984
we're all pathetic enough to be on a FASHION board and share the same problems as most 16/17/18 year olds so why do u care
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>>11272798
holy fucking balls, this is me without the overweight, manlet and dicklet
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>>11272910
hey thanks man
i've been doing cardio for the past month but am gonna pick up some weights in the next couple weeks
yo also if anyone here has bad anxiety running is by far the best thing for it
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>mfw tall, handsome, big dick and gf
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>>11272864
>I fucking hate texting at this point, I'm literally out of shit to say and I feel like it's kind of killing a good vibe the way I'm forcing myself to text
God, I know this feel. I am a great conversationalist in person, but absolute shit at texting.
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>>11272807
I still live with my parents because still in college. Not working yet because college kind of very busy
>>11272852
No. I want to start producing so bad, but the thought of the process really procrastinates me
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>>11273261
quit being such a fucking pussy and just do it, jesus, what are you afraid of?
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>>11273018
Same here
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>>11273018
>>11273351
gibb tips or leave
this thread isn't for u
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>used to keep my interest in fashion to myself and just buy stuff and wear it with not commentary
>start talking to a friend of mine about fashion stuff
>he's getting into it now too
>our aesthetics are getting closer and closer to each other
>he pulls it off better than me

REEEEE
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>>11272798
You sound like you'd make a great bottom. Think of it, having a nice, tall, strong guy to hold you when you're feeling insecure, help you get twink/fit/, hold your hand when in a big crowd. You definitely sound like the type of person who would be more comfortable with a confident, masculine person. Hell even a butch-ish girl maybe.
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>>11270191
you shouldn't have to settle there are girls out there with a sense of style with all those qualities you just need to leave whatever fly over state you're located in first.
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>>11271583
same, so much money wasted and buyers remorse when I look back. some shit just doesn't fit right and should have been returned especially regarding denim.
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>>11273504
iktf
>tfw faggot best friend blatantly copies off me
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depression, not having the energy for anything

really withdrawn, finding conversation with new people more of a struggle lately. not that it matters, i don't seem to meet any interesting people

the only thing i'm really good at is running, and that's compared to normal people, i'm one of the worse in my club.

i wish i did creative things but seem to just waste away browsing the internet. any time i try to put energy into anything it gets too much and i need to lie down. i've never been motivated to do anything or was ever encouraged to be, over the years i resented it and wanted to just do my own thing. now i feel worthless, boring and nothing of value. why would anyone want to be with me?

i think i can be a fun person but rarely does the environment allow me to be, and i'm too reserved to create the environment

there's a bunch more that i worry about, finishing uni, finding a job, living in the 'real' world, finding fulfilment... it feels like it's all going to end in either drug abuse or suicide.
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>>11270574
As corny as it sounds, make a bucket list. Since I wrote mine a couple years back, my life has only gotten better, moved to a new city, surrounded myself with interesting people, progressed enough in my hobby to be recognized by professionals within my continent, started making art, and inspired my mother to pursue her dreams.

If you really want to do something with your life, then go underground for a couple of months, and meditate HARD on what you would actually like to do. Once you go out of hermit crab mode, you should be prepared to face a whole lot of shit from friends and family, but if you stick to it hard enough, and work through the blood, sweat, and tears then you'll without a doubt become comfortable in your own skin.

We're all going to make it anon.
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>>11270191
You need a partner with the same interests as you, basically. That is not shallow. My bf and I wouldn't be together regardless of our personality traits if we didn't have some things in common.

Now, if you have an unrealistic ideal of how your partner should look, and make that a higher priority than other qualities, THAT would be shallow.
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>>11274214
being in the 'real' world sounds terrifying but this post made it seem liberating. maybe things won't be so bad when i leave uni
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Got an amazing wardrobe, all my grails copped everything goes well together and fits my aesthetic.

Never actually get to wear them because I'm either at work in a suit or in casual party clothes that I don't mind getting beer spilled on.
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>>11270574
Pursue Architecture and related fields then. Do creative things you feel strongly about, but also consider how you will make money before investing in college. Welcome criticism as a means by which to learn more about yourself. Don't let it make you feel bad, first examine whether or not the criticism is valid, and if it is, use it to find and work on the faults that limit you.

When people see that you take some pride in yourself, but are also humble enough to grow from adversity, it will attract people to you. I know from experience. This is about finding your own image and your own strength and letting the rest come to you, instead of being a weak person who can only chase after others, which is a place where I have been in my past.
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>>11274251
>how you will make money before investing in college
I feel like college is a waste of time

but I don't know what else to do
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>>11271754
Nonsense. Some women find wide hips on guys really sexy. Just embrace it. You also don't have to be classically beautiful, you just have to have a striking image. Aesthetics aren't just about conventional beauty. If you dislike yourself, you'll only make others dislike you as well.
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>>11270321
You just have to accept it or break up. You can't keep asking. It's really toxic for your relationship.
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>>11271754
Brad Pitt has wide hips and his physique is admired a lot.
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I cant stand how shallow/stupid i am when it comes to girls like i legitimatley have 0 motivation to talk to girls even if they show interest and are attractive idk why everytime i start hitting it off with a new girl i just lose interest as soon as it starts going well
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>nineteen years old
>kissless virgin
I'm told I'm slightly above average in terms of appearance but every time a girl was interested in me I just assumed there was something wrong with her. :(
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>>11274319
become independent from ur parents, that'll give u enough confidence to do whatever
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>>11271754
>handsome face
>wide hips as a guy

feels somewhat good.
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>>11272798
>>chose fashion and music to overcompensate. Trying so hard to get into avant garde and other genius music, and dress to impress, to make people think that i'm better than them

This is the worst thing to do. Instead of making an effort to become more of the person you want to be, you are making an effort to be a poser, and there's little people hate more than a poser.

As to weight loss, you're still young, which is good. Try South Beach or Atkins, and go for daily walks. A couple times a week challenge yourself to a super long walk. I'm struggling with weight right now, too, and have people close to me who have had good results with these two diets. South Beach takes longer to get results but is better for your over all health and easier to stick to.

You should also just do some basic lifting and exercises while you watch tv, a few times a week. You don't need store bought equipment, just two objects of nearly identical weight to lift in different positions. Do some squats and lunges. It will hurt the next day at first, but then you'll start to build some lean muscle, which will help your metabolism.

Your depressed state is often enhanced by poor nutrition and poor health. Getting exercise and eliminating most of the processed sugar from your diet will actually help a lot. I'm still fat, but even so I can tell you there is a marked difference in my mood and capabilities when I'm taking care of my health vs when I gave up.

Be passionate about your interests and don't use them as a weapon against others. Look for people who will want to share interests with you. Learn from others, and project self worth. If you do not value yourself, no one else will have any reason to value you.

You've already been strong enough to admit your faults, and some people never even get that far. Take some pride in that and work on self improvement for your sake, not for the sake of others. I wish you luck.
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>>11274332
If I'm being completely candid I'm probably not ready for a relationship with someone that I care about anyhow.
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>>11272887
Try looking for something you are passionate about, and go from there. It doesn't have to be practical, just play. Play has a huge effect on our psyche and forcing yourself to only go through what is practical like work and school will leave you clinically depressed. Friends and romance will often follow from sharing a hobby with others.
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>>11272945
>>11272964

This.

Also, don't think about where you are NOW. Think about where you want to be and how to get there. Being a teen in a shitty school is temporary. Don't give up on your entire life over just a few years stuck where you don't want to be, because once you're an adult truly on your own, everything is going to get harder, and you will look back at those high school years and hate yourself for not doing the things you needed to do to get to a place you'd rather be, because once you're an adult and you wasted the time you had under your parent's protection, you won't be more free, you'll be a wage slave. You need to start making the hard decisions now. I regret that I made the mistake you're making.
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>>11274086
You might need to see a shrink to get you through this because it sounds more like clinical depression and less like 'my life sucks' depression. Just be wary of those who are too eager to drug you up. Meds can help get people through the worst of it when applied responsibly and combined with counseling and behavioral therapy.

You should also just look at any hobby or entertainment you are interested in as a gateway to socializing. Everything doesn't have to be about being productive or a necessity. Pleasure and play are necessities for a healthy psyche.
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>>11272818
dude maybe they just like your fuckin fit lol. confidence makes a fit 99 times better
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>TFW want a gf really badly
>don't know where to start and I doubt I can find the gf I want where I live
>live in Texas where it's mainly basic rednecks
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>>11274258
If you commit yourself to something that you both love and can find work in, it won't be a waste of time. I skipped college because I was a working class poor artistic type who's terrible at math. Art school in America is only for wealthy hobbyists. But you expressed interest in Architecture, and that is a field which is both creative and practical. As a backup plan you could learn some related trade or the business side of building.

Conventional wisdom would be to take gen-ed courses at a cheap junior college, but make sure they are transferable to colleges that have good programs for what you are really interested in.

If you are on your parent's health insurance, you'll have to be a full time student to keep that. If not, then you could try working while taking only half a course load a semester. It will take longer, but you'll be able to work a job or two without completely exhausting yourself and your resources on classes.

If you don't go to college, what do you want to do? Would you be happy just learning a trade and being a plumber or electrician, or do you need something more creative?
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>>11274432
Having a girlfriend isn't what you think it is, stop glorifying it, friends can fill your life with just as much joy if you just find the right ones.
>>
>>11274446
Not that anon but I want to love someone. :(
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>tfw gay
>tfw cannot find a non-sjw, non-basic bf
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>>11274446
I just broke up with my first gf though and I miss that feeling. I miss loving her and I miss her loving me, I miss all the cute things we did and I miss talking to someone every day and talking about feelings. I miss daydreaming about having a future with her.

Friends can't fill that up, I can't love a friend as much as I did my gf
>>
>>11274462
>>11274446
I dreamed about her two nights in a row and I fucking hate it. I woke up happy then I realized it wasn't real

I know she sucks but I can't help but feel like I fucked up too and I feel like I'll never find someone as perfect as her

I just want a new gf so I can fill up this hole in my heart
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>>11274462
so go get another gf?
youre a bitch for complaining about that when some of us cant even get 1
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>>11274475
I only got her out of pure luck man, and I was treated like a doormat the entire time and the breakup put me into a huge depression

It wasn't worth it
>>
>>11270191
gets me every time how much that fucking baby looks like matt damon
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>>11270574
we are all the same, brothers and sisters
normies are sometimes just afraid to talk about feels or unpopular thoughts and opinions
just poke around a bit carefully and you might find yourself in these people
remember: shallow people talk about others, mediocre ones about things and happenings, the really big ones about ideas
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>>11272718
I feel you my dude
>>
>>11273018
Probably no personality
>>
>>11274446
stop anon.
i just want a petite qt to cuddle with
really
it's all i want
>>
>be me 19 in college
>social anxiety
>felt anxious just walking through halls at school
>cant really talk to anyone at school
>get burning "anxiety eyes" every time i walk in a full class
>start meditating bc i heard it can help
>15 min a day
> 3 weeks in
> all ready seeing positive effects
>improved conversation skills, more confidence, less anxiety,
>its like my brain is being "cleaned up"
>feelsgoodman.jpg
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>beta af all through life
>started lurking /fa/ and /fit/
>no longer chubby kid that wears ptv shirts and cargo shorts
>catch a few decent looking girls mirin
>still not pussy magnet tho
>going off to college soon
>lived in gay ass mudslime family
>had to be back before maghrib prayer
>usually around 7-8
>resulted in no chance for social life
>basically id come home from school and maybe hang out with freinds for a bit (like once every few months because they hang at later times)
>every day I'd get home, play vidya and procrastinate
>pop pills and do drugs by myself because fuck it, everybody out getting lit imm get lit too
>still virgin because never leave house,
>very cold to everybody because know I can't take relationship far at all
>no social skills at all
>and I fucked up with a 2.8 GPA and 24 ACT (very likely I'll get around 26-28 for the June test)
>college was my only chance to have fun and get away from family and develop social life
>probably gonna end up in shitty commuter school
>should I just give up and become a neet robot?


I hope I get caught up in some terrorist attack or just die
>>
>>11270321

>>11270336
Chicks are so easy bothered though. They'll talk shit about you if you do anything. A chick once tweeted with #yesallwomen about me because I told her I prefer blondes. The cunt was a natural blonde and had dyed her hair black.
>>
>34 on ACT
>dont do shit in college, get all Cs and Ds
lmao
>>
>>11272887

me, just go for that drive, even if it's not necessarily far. I've gone for even half day trips alone to the mountains, just me and the car (helps if you're a car guy too), and it rekindles my love for life and what it stands for.

>>11272922
The fog's there but it'll be gone eventually, we're young too, there's a lot ahead of us.

tfw I feel like I was pumping myself up writing this
>>
>>11275574
2.8 and 28ish isn't the worst thing in the world, I'm sure there are a few non-commuter colleges you could get into depending on what state you're in
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>>11270191
I'm actually the opposite, really

>meet basic-style A V E R A G E qt who dresses really straightforward
>The fact that she is really down to earth and has a completely unpretentious sense of fashion makes me like her even more

And yet I still managed to fuck it up
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>>11275722
>mutant feelpenis
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>tfw I have high cheekbones
>strong jaw
>prominent chin
>decent skin
>still considered ugly


>be 6' 1.5"
>have 36 inch inseam
>28 inch waist
>can never buy pants in my size
>whenever I do buy pants they tear at the crotch

>be me
>feeling confident
>think I can be a model
>set up appointment with photographer
>day of appointment
>get photos taken
>submit photos to a bunch of agencies
> been about 3-4 days
>still no response
>been praying every night
>I'm not even religousure
I hope I get in
>>
>>11275789
Show
>>
>Have all the traits to become a male model
>be 5'8

JDIMSA
>>
>>11271079
as a musician and church-goer, both help me a lot
>>
>>11272814
this desune
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>>11272128
Literally this, eveytime I get down about this I just remember that I am not special. Surprisingly enough that doesn't help.
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>best friends with girl for 13 years
>we are pretty much inseparable
>she has perfect skin, gorgeous face, extremely skinny body with long legs
>also nicest person in the world
>every time I stand next to her, I make her seem even prettier
>have ugly, oblong face with super oily skin since young, shitty acne and scars, short and average weight
>clothes will always look better on her
>never show a hint of being envious
>but she always makes room for me on the sidewalks when we have a big group of friends and will ditch her own boyfriend for me
>so glad to be friends with her but feel so physically inferior
>wish I could just stop being so obsessed over appearance
>>
>>11275872
Show what?
>>
Y'all just some bitchboys who don't know what real hardship is like

literally get over yourselves

you just like to whine because your shitty parents couldn't discourage you from getting negative attention

fuck man, wastes of fucking space, all of you
>>
>>11276254
Thanks, senpai.
>>
>broke up with first love
>horrible breakup
>horrible depression, literally had no motivation to do anything
>i literally never felt worse in my entire life, seriously
>doing shit in school
>excited for summer to come because no more school
>so i can sit and sulk at home and stay sad and lie down
>tfw no irl friends
>tfw no gf anymore
>tfw ive never left my country
>tfw ive never left the state where i was living in at the time
>tfw have car but nothing cool ever happens where i live (texas)
>thinking of going to an anime convention here to pick up a qt maybe
>remember that no one would want a wreck like me
>constantly working on personality to make sure im never a shitty, mean, awkward or rude person
>it works, but no one ever realizes it other than the random people i talk to on the internet
>tfw willing to do anything just to get gf
>>
>>11275698
In NJ I can't get into Rutgers new Brunswick and all the other campuses are mostly commuters, I was thinking OU but I'm not good enough to get a bunch if scholarships and the average financial aid is like 7000 which leaves like 28000 left which my family can't afford
>>
>>11276661
I found this site helpful:
https://bigfuture.collegeboard.org/college-search

You can search by test score, tuition, etc. and it gives you schools within the parameters. You'll be able to find somewhere to go, and if you don't like it you can just transfer somewhere better.
>>
>>11270574
Time spent on 4chan made bunch of bullshit delusions and constructs in your head. Basically all of your ideas is result if having no own opinion and power of will. Start volunteering, this is the best way to get to know actual life and people.
>>
>>11272718
go to omeglee or any analog and start practising.
when you will start to feel that you are capable of actual honest discuss with females without fleeing on any embarassing moment, start doing it not anonymously
next, do it irl
>>
>>11270191
>sexually indulgent
Nobody else bothered by this? Jesus
>>
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>have had awful scars on cheekbones
>after two abrasions and two years of skin regeneration feel confident and removed from self-hatred and reserved tendencies
>went mountain biking last week
>get large scratch across cheek
>one week later it hasn't faded or healed
>haven't left the house in one week and am in solitary
>back to the same depression I was in from years ago
>>
>>11276817
>>11276817
Scars from acne suck, but a scar from something like a biking accident can be /fa/ as hell, just work with it. There is literally nothing else you can do

It can also be story to tell for anyone who asks, if you want to look at it that way
>>
>>11276661
I don't want to go far away to go to some obscure ass school tho
I'm just gonna have to be lonley with no partying and chicks for another 2 years and that's if I'm able to transfer
>>
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>friend group split up into two
>am literally becoming a middle man, while stuff is getting patched over
>slowly realising that I fucking hate almost every human I know personally due to how irrational and egotistical they all are
>hung up as fuck over a qt3.14
>my new bike is busted after 5 rides
>also need to buy almost an entirely new wardrobe

Hold me anons
>>
>>11276817
>>11276979
Hell yeah, it's a battle scar. Be proud of it, it's not in the same category at all.
>>
>>11274319
Didn't lose my kiss card until 20 and I'm moderately attractive, so you're fine
>>
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>>11272891
I feel you my dude
>>
>>11272798
>>daydreaming all the time. Fantasizing about playing in band in front of my crushes, fucking a girl that i like with a big dick, or just walking in front of my crushes in my dream outfit and dream body
this is painfully relevant
it's a vicious cycle of getting a crushing terrible feeling, subconsciously fantasizing to feel better, and spending enough time daydreaming that I get nothing done and nothing changes so I feel like shit again
>>
>>11275926
>Have all the traits to become a male model
>be 5'8

Chose one.
>>
>>11277500

That was the point
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>>11270574
I feel you
>>
>>11270191
i hear ya mate. i started seeing this amazing girl, she was really smart, had good taste in music and lit, good sense of humor, amazing face and body, but one day when we hung out she wore those sweatpants with "PINK" printed on the ass. I dropped her that instant.
>>
>>11276285
>Can afford school and higher education
>Have car
>Proven to be attractive to others

Stop focusing on the negatives man. Your first major break up sucks, but you can't and won't let it define you.
>>
>>11277967
thanks man, i appreciate that. still hard to get over though.
>>
>>11270574
>start a family
>make a mark on history

pick one and only one
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