It's been a while so lets do it
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>>7009872
I've only ever seen that type of gag in that picture. Are there actual ring gags that hold the tongue down like that irl?
>>7010046
I sort of doubt it, since it seems like it would be pretty easy to wiggle your tongue out of the harness unless it went far enough back to stimulate the gag reflex.
Which would also be a problem.
>>7010069
Shit, that had me curious. The idea of taking away the last little bit of free movement sounds pretty hot. A ballgag could achieve that I guess but you can't stick things in someone's mouth with one in
If only one could do this by themselves.
>>7010391
>tfw you will never experience true bondage since you need at least one other person in order to completely lose all agency
Living is pain
>>7010046
It would work a lot better with a pieced tongue, rather than a strap. I've never seen something like it.
>>7010402
>living is pain
and not the good kind
>>7010046
Seen a few bit gags with a part that sticks out to keep the tongue down, Eve Ellis wore one in one of those Devonshire vids
>>7010505
>he's not into emotional abuse
Huh, so is /bdsmg/ dead?
>>7011723
It's been months bro. I'm sure the tripfags still lurk here though
>>7011723
very
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>>7012070
Seems like /gfd/ is kill too.
Those were nice threads, however cringey the latter was.
>>7011721
I have no one to emotionally abuse me either... unless, y-you wanted to do that anon
>>7011723
Cancer will do that to ya.
>>7011723
For good reason
Shit community nearly put me off the fetish entirely
>>7011723
Couldn't have happened to a more deserving community.
>oh wait it did with /gfd/
>>7014127
I haven't been here in about a year. I was wondering what happened.
>>7014593
>guy introduced bdsm personality quiz
>every post soon become results
>the autism created a singularity and /bdsmg/ disappeared
This is the gist of it. That guy was me btw. I had no idea that my actions would cause such a severe reaction. I thought it would be fine if I dumped afterwards and people would follow my example but noooooo, they had to be retarded and ruin everything
>>7014715
Yeah, surveys, do-it-yourself charts, and other shit like that do not work in porn boards. People get caught up in answering, don't post porn, and it doesn't even really stimulate discussion because people tend not to read each other's results.
>>7014737
Yeah, I know now. Luckily though, nothing of value was lost
>>7014715
That kinda sucks. I was enjoying the talk.
I remember reading Nana (Hachi?) some bondage comic and I always wondered how it turned out. I couldn't find it again.
>>7014861
Nana to Kaoru?
>>7014882
Is that what you were looking for?
>>7014715
You didn't ruin things, it was the pro-rape assholes who shit up the threads
>>7013258
I'm pretty sure your crippling loneliness does that for me. I'd rather do it to someone worth my time.
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>>7010046
you're looking for a jennings or whitehead dental gag in this case, they're not terribly common anymore but basically its meant to keep the tongue out of the way when doing work on the upper or lower sets of teeth. pic related, old fashioned whitehead gag with longer tongue depressor
>>7015303
Wait, please don't go
>>7015585
forgot a picture
>>7014990
There was no "pro-rape" conspiracy. Only a vocal minority of opinionated twerps that wanted to police content despite never posting anything themselves.
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>>7015633
You gotta thing for the spanish donkey huh?
>>7015469
That looks scary.
I'll take eight.
hey guys i'm the guy who brought up the rape debate and whether rape can be bdsm or not
i was active in about 3 threads then i stopped checking these threads
how ya all doin'?
man it's silent here.
it's so different from the way it was before right?
kind of wish i hadn't insulted the old ppl so much, but it was the only way to get their attention.
well not really, i talked to them peacefully before. more like an easy and intense way.
will this just die?
anyone want to talk?
>>7016535
So... You raped them with your shitty views?
Figures
>>7017028
they were already gone though...
and don't call my views shitty ok y-you slut?
>gf is submissive, into petplay, bondage, light degradation, light outside
>I'm dominant, but not very experienced
Can I just get a lot of replies wirh ideas? She's pretty submissive so she'll probably do most od them
>>7011723
I kinda miss them. But the last half devolved into flaming and bullshit.
>>7017257
Make her give you her power of attorney.
That is my fetish.
>>7017257
I've never really been in a BDSM relationship but you two could always try watching porn together and she could point out the stuff she's into. That would make it easy to visualize what she wants from you. As I said though, that's just an idea. I've never actually tried it.
>>7017257
fold her arms and legs to themselves with bondage-tape or something that does the job and make her crawl around on the "stumps" (you can pull her behind you on a leash, if you own one)
be sure to not cut off blood circulation and stay safe :)
>>7017497
I kind of miss them too. Most of them usually had experience and were able to give good advice
>>7010402
got any more traps with tight little bulges anon?
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>>7018136
futa but still has a bulge
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>>7018169
You asked and I delivered.
>>7018172
Wait, got one more
>>7013258
I will emotionally abuse you. Post a kik or email.
>>7018172
That you did.
>>7017028
View-rape, the next feminist frontier
>>7017252
>Typing anything with a stutter
Could you be any more cringe?
Go get raped IRL
Eh, a good bdsm thread turned into a homosex with the d futa.
If only alternative didn't mean homo dickchick mode. Sigh.
So it goes...
>>7019642
>not every single picture is catered to me and my sexual preferences
Why don't you stop whining and post something
Does anyone have more gentle pictures with a willing, happy sub? Stuff like pic related. That's my fetish
I'll toss a few in. I was wondering where this thread went.
Any ideas for a sub on cam?
>>7015587
Even better, someone else is stupid enough to waste time on you.
Go fulfill yourself you fucking degenerate.
>>7018193
>now, what should I stuff in there first?
>>7022121
>inventory tetris
>>7019689
Cause they were triggered by the homose x
Bump and thanks for the fap
So, /bdsm/, did I miss my opportunity? 36 years old and not a single hands-on experience with this fetish with an actual, flesh and blood partner in all my life, although I have plenty of interest. Now I feel so old, maybe there's no point to even try anymore, I already missed my prime years for this sort of play...
>>7010046
Just sew a leather strip to the mount and cut a slit for a piercing to go through. Add washers if you want.
>>7010402
Cowardice.
My wife and I would take you in, but you won't put yourself out there. FetLife etc exists. SSC sure, but quit denying your nature sub, and come home.
You you are your own worst enemy.
>>7024555
O-okay. I can't do anything to get into the kink community now since I live in the middle of bumfuck nowhere and there really is none. I am moving to the city sometime in the next few months. Would people want to get involved with a virgin though?
>>7024237
No you've not missed your chance. I know of people just beginning that are your age and people who are in their 70s that are still into it.
>>7025201
You cringey shit, stop typing a stutter.
It's such a stupid fucking thing to do
>>7025596
I typed that up with more, realized it was dumb, must have missed that one.
Kind of interesting how even all this time has passed since /bdsmg/ got banned for being cancer and yet there are still minute traces of their autism in almost every bdsm related thread. Its kind of like nuclear fallout tainting the land for decades to come.
Does anyone know how someone who has recently moved to a new city would go about finding someone to dom them? Just moved for university and I'm craving someone to tie me up and gag me like the little bitch I am
>>7026177
best should would be online unless there are s&m clubs which are pretty rare.
>>7026179
shot* fucking autocorrect
>>7026179
Are there any particular sites that you could suggest that could help me find a dom? I am a complete rookie lol
>>7026181
Not that anon but there's fetlife, various dating sites and if you get real desperate, backpage
>>7025925
Last time I was in /bdsmg/ it wasn't that bad. What happened?
>>7025201
>Would people want to get involved with a virgin though?
Somebody probably prefers it. It's a big world, anon.
>>7025925
Wait, /bdsmg/ got banned? I thought people just stopped making the threads
>>7014882
Best fucking manga ever. Have you read the Black Label version?
>>7018851
It's called role-playing, you idiot. And stop using verbs as adjectives, not even this place can take that level of autism.
>>7029614
Please get raped IRL
>>7025201
Eh, get into some online communities, get a feel for the place before you start posting, don't be the cocky ignorant newbie. (everybody hates that one - don't pretend to not be new and you'll be OK. You will get hassled by cunts but it happens)
When you do move, see what happens. If there's a noob-friendly community, get in ther and be chill. Nervous is OK. Sweaty and pushy, noone likes that. Be prepared to ditch any community that's run by/full of cunts.
>>7029604
I read a little bit. I really want to read the whole thing though, I just sort of fell out of reading manga or watching anime for a bit there.
>>7029766
I remember reading that the kink community around where I live is pretty alright back when I lurked in /bdsmg/ (Halifax in case anyone is curious)
how do i find someone (safely) to tie me up and put stuff in my ass?
>>7030587
Get a boyfriend
>>7030587
i'll tie you up and put stuff in your ass if you tie me up and put stuff in my ass ;)
>>7030688
area code?
>>7030691
i live in the UK, currently in Devon
>>7030694
I can give you my throwaway email if you just wanna talk it through
[email protected]
>>7030694
shit, different continent m8
>>7030879
dang, worth a try lol
Yo fuck living in Hawaii there's literally no people here because the population is so small and it's in the middle of no where.
Ship me to the big rock pls
>>7031076
Sub or dom?
>>7031076
There are plenty of people into BDSM in Hawaii. A lot of them are on Fetlife, so your best bet is to create an account there,
>>7032749
>fetlife
hahahahahahahaha
>>7032931
Oh, and what's wrong with Fetlife?
My lady friend wants to lock me up in chastity. I ended up getting a knock off cb6000 on Amazon.
Any tips about chastity that you guys can give?
>>7034210
don't
>>7034212
Why not?
She wants to do it because she says I jack off too much watching porn. She wants my cock to herself
it's yours.
as is your agency.
you can loan 'em to people, but dont be an idiot & give 'em away.
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>>7034214
Not that anon, but I think the standard response is something along the lines of...
Don't go with a cheap knockoff; there are tons of horror stories about the cheap stuff breaking in ways that do particularly awful things to your dick (especially in the event that you don't have the key handy, and aren't able to get the ruin of the device off yourself in time). If you're going to do chastity, spend some actual money on a quality product, so you don't risk having to spend tons more money on embarrassing medical bills.
Alternatively, if you're determined to go ahead with the use of the device you have anyways, be sure to keep a key personally on-hand, in case of emergency. Since you're not personally experienced with chastity, any number of things can go horribly wrong; one of the more common possibilities, off the top of my head, is that your device is slightly too large, which will let you get partially erect... causing your device to pinch against some important blood vessels, cut off the blood flow to your balls, and cause serious pain as your balls turn interesting colours. Until you know that that's not going to happen, keep a key handy so you can escape, at need.
>>7033406
If you have to ask that question, then this isn't the thread for you.
>>7022121
I saw quite a lot of her. What's the model name?
speaking of fetlife is there a search engine/scirpt for users that actually works
>>7030530
Well, best of luck you you then Anon!
I was lurking bdsmg for a while.
Got on pet play forum too.
Got on the pet play chat and meet a cutie.
Dated a year. Brought her home and lived together.
Then she cheated on me last month.
I let her keep the pet chat and forums for herself.
Now I'm looking for new forums and FetLife groups to meet pets and slaves in.
I know I'm not the most twoo domineering Domly Dom but I have a twisted mind and evil way i just want to share.
I often stop in amazement that there are some people out there that enjoy being my victim!
>>7010069
>I sort of doubt it, since it seems like it would be pretty easy to wiggle your tongue out of the harness unless it went far enough back to stimulate the gag reflex.
Or was attached via a tongue piercing.
>>7024377
What doujin is this? And I feel your pain anon, there's never enough Ritsuko x Maya much less in bdsm
Seems that bdsm on /d/ is usually missing the SM part of BDSM
>>7038616
What do you consider the SM part?
Just that allot of people don't research their history about sadism?
Or that posters don't like the darker pain and control?
What are you looking for?
>>7038640
>What do you consider the SM part?
Red marks, pain devices
>Just that allot of people don't research their history about sadism?
While true
>Or that posters don't like the darker pain and control?
Yeah, most of the thread is more just bondage and restriction compared to people enjoying pain. There's barely any Red marks or bruises. How's the character supposed to have that exciting reminder throughout the day of who they belong to?
Are the pro rape people finally gone?
>>7038663
Like pro-fictional,-pornographic-rape, or just-pro-irl-rape?
Because if it's the former, I think you might be better off on a different board.
>>7038689
The bdsm includes rape, there is no consent, shit up the board scum from before
>>7038654
Every girl I've eaten out gets a deep purple bite mark on their inner thigh after they cum.
Did this even when I was a vergin.
Some girls would flaunt it
Others would get angry .....
...until they wanted it again.
So... Where can I find a masochist?
>>7038775
OH, OH ME ME. RIGHT HERE, YOU FOUND ONE!
>>7038640
Dammit, I was gonna post that pic. That might've been the best thing I've ever had come out of a request thread.
Ah well, this thread needs some Punishment.
>>7039037
And where will I find you lurking?
when you finally raise your head from the anonymous and say "please sir I'm afraid of your whip that slashes and stings, of your cane that thuds and bruises but as long as the Rope is tight and you command me to endure I will stay in my place for you ... if you'll have me."?
When I'm on the prowl to look for a person to push against the wall every time they bend over to put on socks I find myself unable to find one that also enjoys teeth and scratching and losing themselves to pain.
>>7039412
As a sub guy that sounds sssssooooooooo nice. Doubt you want a guy though haha.
One thing I'd point out though is that some people are bedroom only BDSM. I dunno, through out my very limited experience I've found out that any two people are never alike. Which is why after my ex and I split up I haven't even looked. I dunno, after finding someone who you really click with kinkwise it's hard go out there and try and search again. But maybe that's just me being lazy and being content with my hand and toys.
>>7033406
It's the biggest SJW hive outside of Tumblr.
>>7038460
That sucks. Everyone ive met on the pet site is so nice. Sorry things didnt work out for you.
>>7039941
I know right? I'd like to find another group like that even if I need to beat a bunch of sissies with a heavy dragon tail whip to get in.
(Not gay right )
I know I need more time to bleed the anger and frustration out of me.
My life needs more motivation and yet more peace. still... I have the erge every day to burn a stare into the eyes of a sub and push them into the wall using a finger placed on their throat before whispering
"Where should you be right now?"
...
Or something like that. A master with out a slave isn't one. Just another grumpy sexualy frustrated dude
>>7040022
It must suck being a sub. It's not like there are a lot of very dominant people out there to begin with, and then you have to deal with all the doms you can't even begin to take seriously.
>>7040028
They say the ratio for female sub to Male Dom is equal but every girl I talk to needs to wade through dozens of messages from men even when she says TAKEN in bold.
Where are all the SLAVE AUCTIONS !
>>7040054
It's the job-hunter paradox in action. In a functioning economy the vast majority of job applicants/interviewees are terrible. That's because highly qualified people are extremely likely to find a position rapidly, whereas unqualified people are likely to go through the process repeatedly without every finding a position and thus driving up the % of unqualified interviewees.
In short, The numbers may still be close even if each girl has to go through 15 fuckwits to find 1 boyfriend because it's quite likely the same 15 fuckwits over and over.
Also, this doesn't hold in a broken economy. The more inefficient the economy the more *everybody* wastes their time in unnecessary interviews.
If you were owned as a play thing, what is something you would want your master to say to you once you're tied up ?
>>7040203
"You're mine now, don't be scared though, I take good care of my possessions"
>>7040203
"heeere's johnny"
Any more tutorials like this specifically about wrist binding? I'd like to know more about how to tie someone's arms behind their back and have it connect to a chest harness to immobilize the arms completely.
>>7040200
So in order to get "the job" I'll need to hit on dozens of girls just like the rest of the throng And be slightly better perhaps?
Just admitting that I'm in contest with those Dick pic faking "dtf" shit stains Makes me nauseous.
I'm trying to recall the name of this one manga of two women, and one was tying the other (who was really angry and hesitant) up into really heavy horse-bondage with a gag and tail.
I saw it like three years ago anyone know what I'm talking about?
>>7040736
Here's an image to help the thread along.
>>7040738
Nevermind I found it, link to anyone interested.
http://g.e-hentai.org/g/394373/dfb679a019/
>>7040756
Fun fact about this doujin, it's done by the author of Black Lagoon.
>>7039519
God what I would give to live like that..
>>7009868
in love with this one
So quick question. How many people here have had IRL experience with BDSM? I'm just asking out of curiosity
>>7042201
I have and I hope to again.
Bedside drawer full of sex toys and chest at foot of bed full rope just looking for a partner
>>7042206
Good luck on your search anon
>>7009868
There is no way that she is able to function with those clovers on. Nope.
>>7042201
i have, but then im probably an outlier because i bet im older than most of you fags (28, remember - you're here forever)
multiple times as a sub with a pro domme and then i topped an ex-girlfriend quite a bit when we were together.
im still not sure which i enjoyed more.
>>7009868
She must.
I know those hurt but if she succeeds in serving the drinks I'll proudly take her back to the kitchen and suckle her sore nips while slowly undressing her from bonds allowing her to serve the rest of the night in a slightly more comfy maid outfit.
However... If she drops a glass, embarrasses me or ,God forbid, she spill a beer she will be whipped with ten times the pain of those clamps, stuffed with far less pleasurable oversized toys and reduced to the status of furniture for my friends to rest there feet on or ice cold drinks.
Ether way she knows it won't last long. Eventually the guys will get horny.
>>7043182
29 here. The one thing I need to learn from a pro is how to plan a scene that doesn't end in foreplay and violent fucking. Did you fuck your domme?
>>7025201
>I can't do anything to get into the kink community now since I live in the middle of bumfuck nowhere
How far do you have to drive to get to the nearest city?
I have to drive 3 hours.
>>7043751
It's not very far at all, only about 30 minutes away. The problem is, I don't have my own car. I'm still only 18 so I live with my parents but I have an apartment lined up in the city for after I get a job. At which point I can just use the bus
>>7010046
I absolutely adore this pic
any more like it?
>>7040440
Nope. There's actually very little hope for you to gt "the job." Going 0 for 48 won't do it, anyone who spouts that "you have to hear a lot of 'no' to hear a 'yes'" bullshit is a terrible salesman to begin with.
You have to be a person that people want to be around. You might not get every girl you approach but you should generally be found pleasant to be around. And things like thinking this could be solved by slave auctions and trying to white knight while simultaneously calling people shit stains that nauseate is rather the opposite of that.
Embrace your inner shit-stain, fix it, learn to converse pleasantly, and there may be hope. Or hang out on 4chan and be a bitter cunt, your choice.
>>7042201
I have BDSM relationship since 2014
>>7044667
This is a good point. Being attractive (not necessarily physically) is actually the only way to succeed. People have always told me I look pretty or handsome, but i know that doesn't make up for my emotional and personality issues. It doesn't help that a lot of my more toxic issues came from being abused through intimate relationships in the first place.
I've found that people who reject me often don't want to admit that it's me, you know? People appreciate sincere effort and want to validate me when I take risks, but I rarely succeed, and it can enervate people.
Boundaries are really, really hard, /d/
Anyone got some more nipplec/clit piercings? Those always make for fun BDSM scenes.
>>7044390
I'm stuck in the same boat anon :/
so in two days I'm going to be having a very special guest over, a long time friend of mine, and a complete sub bitch.
We're gonna be doing lots of fun stuff
like outfits and chastity and leac.collar stuff.
I'm just not really sure what to do other than force her down on me
>>7046411
That's rape
>>7046532
no it isn't, consent has been explicitly given
>>7046536
Yeah, and they're going to be using a safe word.
Just don't forget the after care.
>>7046538
yes, hey are going to be using a safe word
...
this discussion is weird and unproductive
>>7046411
>I'm just not really sure what to do other than force her down on me
Well, to state the obvious... do you know what she likes? You're clearly setting up some kind of rape fantasy thing there, but what else is she into? I'd personally be inclined to suggest stuff like spanking, hair-pulling, and nipple clamps, but I'm sort of into pain, and your sub might have different tolerances.
>>7046597
actually no, rape fantasy was at the back of my mind
and yes, I have extensive kowledge of her likes and dislikes I'm just limited in tools and imagination
>>7046603
> I have extensive kowledge of her likes and dislikes I'm just limited in tools and imagination
If lack of tools is the problem, two days is enough time to go shopping, anon. Imagination is more of a limitation, but I can't offer more specific advice unless you divulge more details about what she likes.
Speaking personally, I'd like to try e-stim, but if your sub isn't a painslut, that might be a poor purchase.
>>7046620
yh, they're far more sensual, not much for pain or humiliation, far more for the "pleasing others"
>>7009868
No one else is gonna talk about the snail with the human head?
>>7046637
It's the artists callsign. Unfortunately I can't remember his name. It's in all his pictures.
Bottom-left translated (not by me):
"Personality Correction Program
Problematic students are subjected to an intensive brainwashing regimen during which subliminal messages are constantly poured into their brains.
After a period of about 7 days, character flaws such as rebellious thoughts, free will, and even personal ethics are significantly reduced.
Particularly stubborn subjects, such as the one shown here, are also exposed to electroshock therapy: Whenever the system detects a spike in the subject's brainwaves, it delivers a high-voltage electric current to discourage future thoughts."
>>7046620
The nerd in me is annoyed that the current is just passing through the wire and not her. It wouldn't really shock her so much as just make the wire white-hot and burn her vagina. For this to work you'd want a single contact on the wire, and the other either somewhere on her or just grounded.
Good electrostim drawings are hard to find....
>>7044390
Airdrie fag detected
>>7047937
>Airdrie
I said earlier in the thread that I'm close to Halifax.
Has anyone here ever tried self-bondage? I really get off on being restrained, sensory deprived, totally helpless, and having everything being out of my control. At this point I'm just getting desperate to feel it at all, even if doing it myself kinda seems like it defeats the point.
>>7048409
I know a guy who knew a guy who did self bondage, or rather the guy I knew worked body pickup and picked up selfbondage guy's corpse.
So I'm ven more leery of selfbondage than most, and the level you want is pretty much nope nope fuck nope.
A lot of smart people have spent a lot of effort working to make selfbondage safer, and make no mistake, the risks _can_ be mitigated.
But in the end, on the other side of that mitigation is a very real risk for a very bad accident.
>>7048409
If you're going to try it NEVER restrain your hands. Always have your phone nearby or at least accessible. Also keep a knife handy just in case you can't untie yourself. You won't get to extreme levels of sensory deprecation just because you're alone and like >>7048794 said it can quickly lead to death if you don't know what you're doing. Don't let that scare you though. Just be safe, always be conscious of what's going on and always have an exit plan. It's a lot of fun. Start simple and just work your way up. Learn what your physical limits are then go from there. Enjoy bondage anon however like pretty much all sexual fantasy it's much more fun to play it out with others.
>>7017257
-If she wants to talk to you, she must be crouching, talons together and legs completely open, with her hands on the floor behind her. Add in something she´s particularly shy about, such as having her wait for permission with her tongue out or something in her mouth. If she´s shy about exposing herself and is allowed to wear something, maybe make her lift her shirt or skirt, or take down pants, or whatever. Missbehaving carries punishment.
-She´s not allowed to touch anything with hands or feet. When you´re going to it, put her food in a shallow dish on the floor. I assume you´ll be cooking here. Make it spicy. If you´re not a good cook, then get something premade, or try it yourself first. Don´t go overboard, just a little spicy.
She´ll be thirsty. Give her a deep dish to drink from. Water will intensify the spiciness, while milk will tone it down. Put both dishes in front of her and explain her she has a choice. She can get the water, but she´ll have to earn the milk. Is she into some type of animal? Horses? Ride her around the room, spank her a little. Dogs? Put her on a leash and walk her around the room, or make her fetch something. Cats? Can´t think of anything right now, but you get the gist.
-Sit down. You want to eat her out. If she gets on the sofa and tries to stand over you, have her lay on your lap and spank her. Tell her you´re on top, and she isn´t allowed to be higher than you. Have her find her own way. If she takes too long, punish her. Here you can get into degradation easily, because she failed to do something so easy.
-Have her walk around with a gagball. Remember it gets painful after 20-40 minutes, depending on relative size to the mouth. Punish her if you hear her slurp. She has to drool, preferably over herself. Or the floor, whatever pains her the most.
Bondage can be very dangerous. Study first a little about security.
Also remember to establish a safeword, first thing - and a safe gesture for when she´s gagged.
>>7024237
I´m 23. I´ve gone through three cities trying to find a partner and I´ve always had to dig through horders of people +40, and mostly +50 and +60, who occupy everything about BDSM.
Hell, here in Germany where I´m now there´s a couple pages specifically for young people where the old ones aren´t allowed, because they´ve flooded everything.
It should be rather easy for you to find something. Just keep searching. Maybe check on a bigger city. The internet is your ally.
>>7048794
>>7049066
I wasn't planning on anything that seems too extreme like self-suspension or self-mummification, but I didn't think at least binding my hands would be too dangerous depending on what I was doing.
I think one of my big fantasies is actually being bound like that, gagged and blindfolded with headphones on, while whoever bound me is seating nearby watching TV or playing a game, maybe helping to tease me every now and then. So I want to try binding my hands while I have toys working me over, which like I said didn't seem too dangerous. Also really want to tie myself up shibari style and just feel the rope on my skin and walk around outside with it hidden under my clothes.
>like pretty much all sexual fantasy it's much more fun to play it out with others
That seems obvious, but I don't imagine that to be something that happens any time soon for me considering I'm still 100% kissless virgin, though I'd have to admit a little obscure fetish of mine is the idea of maintaining one's (penetration) virginity while being very experienced in...other areas.
>>7049118
>-Have her walk around with a gagball. Remember it gets painful after 20-40 minutes, depending on relative size to the mouth. Punish her if you hear her slurp. She has to drool, preferably over herself. Or the floor, whatever pains her the most.
Oh man that got me hard. Gags are love, gags are life.
>>7049143
Stuff like walking shibari style under your clothes is fine. The problem comes when you restrain your arms and/or hands.
There´s a couple ways you can tie yourself while remaining safe, though of course you won´t be giving full control away, which seems to be what you´re actually looking for.
For example, you could tie your hands with a zip lock. Tighten it with your teeth. But first check out how to escape a zip lock. They´re pretty easy to break if you use your arms - although of course then you must keep your arms free. And, well, don´t get heavy duty zip locks. Get cheap ones and make sure you break a few first, to practice. Maybe cut a little into one, to make it easier to break if something happens.
Keep in mind, laying on a sofa with hands tied isn´t dangerous. Suddenly getting a painful cramp, or slipping off the sofa and dislocating your shoulder (which will probably stop you from being able to break the zip tie), is what can turn a harmless game into a deathtrap, specially if you´re more bound and can´t just walk out and get help or call someone. Accidents happen when you´re fully able, and the danger multiplies when you´re tied, even if it´s just a single sewing thread.
Something I tried once was wrapping myself in that thin plastic you find in most kitchens, to wrap food. Wrap one layer around you (hard, but doable), and you can mummify yourself (body>head>arms themselves) with almost no risk. Just don´t cover your nose and mouth, and do not use more than two layers. Make sure you test how resistent it is first, of course, but you should be able to destroy the thing very easily.
In any case, doing it with someone else is always better. Both safer and funnier. Check for contact sites, classified add sites, bdsm communities, whatever. You´ll eventually find someone.
Alternatively, pay a domina.
In any case, always remember to think twice and plan how to escape everything, even if you can´t use one arm/hand, fall over, whatever
>>7049143
To add to what the other anons told you, be extremely careful. I can't stress it enough. Know your limits, triple check everything, and ffs always have a second release mechanism.
I love some self bondage myself, and like you, I very much enjoy sensory deprivation, so I'll tell you my worst and only fuck up thus far. One day, the day before my flatmate was coming back from some vacation, I was feeling daring enough to get some of my favourite rope and tie my knees together, having the rest of the rope go up behind my legs and making some sort of belt that covered my crotch, hips and waist, securing everything with a few knots in the front (this will be relevant later), and tying a pair of leather wristcuffs near my lower back. Satisfied with the setup and having my EMT shears somewhere easily accesible, I locked myself in the cuffs and started walking.
Long story short, I'm stupid and I tripped. I had eyeballed the amount of rope between my knees and my waist wrong, and it was too short to allow me to bend forwards in any significant way. With my hands on my lower back, that meant I didn't even have the leverage needed to prop myself up to my knees and I could only worm around in the floor super slowly while lying on my back/stomach.
In my case, even if for some reason I couldn't reach my backup release, this wouldn't have meant the end of me, the worst that could have happened was my flatmate finding me on the floor, tied up and dressed quite provocatively the next morning (I might add he knows nothing of my antics, so that would have been very awkward for the both of us), and in the end it only meant I had to wait a couple of hours being teased by a vibe until my ice lock released the key to the padlocks.
So yeah, just be careful. Plan everything, thrice if needed. If you use rope get some good shears, and please, PLEASE, always set up a backup release mechanism.
That said, have (responsible) fun!
I'd take everything you read in this thread with a huge bag of salt, folks. This is the remnants of the /bdsmg/ community giving advice, the same community that advocated rape, that said safewords are useless, etc.
>>7049166
>>7049310
Thanks so much for the informative posts anons, I guess it's really easy to underestimate how wrong things can go when you have no real experience with it. I think I'll definitely stick to easily breakable restraints like zip ties and that plastic wrap mentioned (which got me a little excited when I saw that since I have some at home right now) to start off with. I really want ropes and wristcuffs and leg bindings and all that stuff but I know if I rush it I'll just fuck something up and hurt myself, so I'll take all of your advice to heart and be careful and take things so slow.
>ice lock
This is my first time hearing about that but what a genius idea that is.
>>7049327
The last few posts have pretty solid advice, though, and there's at least a couple mentions of safewords.
Maybe we can do /bdsmg/ again if the assholes are gone.
>>7049399
>didn't know about ice locks
You're pretty fucking green, then.
Before doing anything, get some EMT scissors (they've got one round point and one spiky but very thick, so it can get under tight rope or whatever but it can't pierce into skin at all).
And go on a google binge. There's a lot written on self bondage and self bondage security. Read tips, and research safety measures.
Keep in mind you might fall down and be unable to get up, like >>7049310. Keep your phone and security scissors on the floor, or on a very low surface. Decide beforehand who will you call if shit hits the fan.
And also go read about other people's fuck ups and disasters. You'll see that most of the worst stories come form very small errors, oversights, miscalculations, and other little things that become very serious problems while you're tied.
Also go read about bondage security. It's VERY fucking easy to cause lasting damage. These are the basic rules:
-you should be able to get two fingers between rope and skin, to make sure circulation isn't cut
-don't tie articulations
-be careful with gravity. You tie your hands to the top of the bed and get caught like that for hours? You could end up losing the hands if there's not enough blood flow
Etc.
I'm a switch. Sometimes I'm a sub, sometimes I'm a dom. Being a sub takes a lot of emotional work and trust. Being a dom takes a lot of discipline and responsability, because you could seriously harm someone without even noticing. There's A LOT of planning and research behind those cool rope set ups and poses. And a fuckload of time invested learning knots, ropework and basic anatomy for even the simplest stuff. Knowing where your major nerves and blood vessels are, avoiding pinching and excessive pressure.
Being alone, you gotta be three times more careful than that. Put on a simple harness, slip off the sofa, get a rope somehow caught somewhere, and suddenly you're strangling yourself and unable to reach your scissors.
Be safe.
>>7049399
>>ice lock
>This is my first time hearing about that but what a genius idea that is.
They are quite versatile and pretty much foolproof if setup right. They are great to have a way to take away agency for a limited amount of time, either being part of the locking part itself or giving you access to the means of getting free once the ice melts.
You don't even need anything fancy, my setup was basically a lanyard hanging down from a celing lamp with a carabiner at the end, a short ankle stocking threaded through the carabiner filled with ice cubes at one end and a small weight with the key in the other. Since I was blindfolded and barely able to hear a thing (3M disposable ear plugs work wonders) I added a string long enough to make it easier to find the stocking once it dropped, tying the open end of it to the lamp and letting it hand a couple of inches of the floor.
>>7049452
Another switch, huh? Sometimes I don't understand how we can be such a minority. My switchyness is a big part of the turn-on of BDSM for me... I enjoy forcing people into positions I'd like to be in myself, and I enjoy having people exert power over me that I'd like to exert on someone myself.
Besides, there's all sorts of quirks to a switch that you can't do in a monodynamic relationship. You can have struggles for dominance and all that stuff. [spoiler]Sometimes I play fighting games with my partner, and the winner gets to top.[/spoiler]
Anyone else /switch/ up in here?
>>7049452
>two fingers between rope and skin
two fingers side-by-side next to the skin or two fingers lined up, one next to the skin and the other next to the rope?
Rapist scum detected
>>7049808
You're just jealous you don't have a intimate, loving relationship where you get to have fun roughing each other up.
>>7039513
>hand job
>cannot move hands
>"vegina"
>"vegina" is impossible to reach
>>7049327
Your knee is jerking, mate. Might want to get that looked into.
>>7050275
>he is so fat he doesn't have wrist articulation
stay american
you're right about the vag tho
>>7049421
We could do a trial run and see how it goes after this thread dies
>>7049736
we just do two fingers s-s next to the skin. If you can poke two fingers under the rope and slide, then you're good. Then again, I tie too gently for my kitten's liking because I'm paranoid.
>>7049714
*raises hand*
>>7050786
You got any stories to tell me, Kitten? Please, sir, I would like to hear.
>>7049821
>Thinking rape is fun
>>7051524
> Thinking it's rape when it's between two consenting adults.
>>7049714
I would prefer to bottom but tops to my liking are slim pickings.
I do enjoy topping and bottoming though, I have an extreme power fetish either way. I do have subby triggers and it can really suck when a brat fucks around and hits one and I'm much more affectionate than I was planning on being.
I enjoy topping the same way I like to bottom, which can get complicated since I like gentle femdom and a lot of that does not translate well into topping fairly normal female partners that are in it for the masculinity.
>>7049714
Well, I would be if I could actually find anyone to begin with. Still haven't managed to lose my virginity in the first place.
>>7051548
>Subby triggers
Like what?
If you don't feel like telling me, then it's fine. I don't have any use for the information, im simply curious.
>>7051555
I know how that feels.
I have problems with trust and confidence. What's your reason?
>>7051565
Just can't meet people. I'm a beta-as-fuck (in public, at least) college student in a relatively small town. Finding friends is hard, dating is harder, and finding someone who I can be sexually open to is literally impossible.
>>7051564
Certain touches on the back of my neck can give me a really strong reaction. Makes most of my muscles relax and my brain go nice and fuzzy I don't quite understand it because it feels like a crossed wire.
And ass in my face generally turns my brain to pudding. If I'm wrestling and my face or chest gets sat on it's not easy for me to get out because I get hazy, and with someone I worship strongly I can get twitchy.
>>7051568
College town might have a fetlife presence. I played video games and worked until I found a munch and fell into the local group but my area was a surprise goldmine apparently.
>>7049714
Love being a switch, just wish I had the time and energy to find someone new. (Also i am inept and fucking suck at social cues)
Think that near the end of my relationship that I noticed it for the first time, I got to be the little spoon and just loved it and being treated just a little gently, I'm right up there with the other gentle dom wanting guys.
Though I'm generally alright with everything, I so want a switch relationship for petplay. Every time i wear my makeshift collar i feel just right and i would love to do shit like >>7049118 said where i would be the dom with my sub tied with something like >>7009827
I sometimes wonder if my ex was into it (possibly secretly conditioning me, though she was never expressively into kink.) because every time she sould get stubborn and i'd give up she would say stuff like "good dog" or "good boy" in a teasing but nonkink way. Also every time we got snug she would rub the back of my head specifically.
My only problem with BDSM is that it all slightly scares me, the idea of it going too far suddenly because the dom could think "oh, don't be a baby/so scared/ect..." gives me pause. I know the foundation to a BDSM relationship is trusting and responding to cues, but anyone can easily get lost in the moment.
>>7051573
>And ass in my face generally turns my brain to pudding. If I'm wrestling and my face or chest gets sat on it's not easy for me to get out because I get hazy, and with someone I worship strongly I can get twitchy.
You are actually my nigger.
My neck will do it to me too, but it's more the front than the back. It starts off more ticklish than anything but if it's gentle enough it kind of makes me shiver and I lose a lot of my strength. I've... been known to drool after enough of it too.
>>7051023
Umm, I'm not sure. I've got a couple stories of failing to dom and some silly stories, how I got my girl into bdsm and accidentally made her a switch, or just name a topic and I might have a story on it.
>>7049714
What if I feel like a sub but wouldn't mind topping if it meant I could be dommed later? Would that make me a switch?
>>7051934
Newfag here, what the hell happened?
>>7052244
/bdsmg/ became a by-word for "cancerous community". It was nothing but namefags with severe queen-bee syndrome constantly bitching at each other, posting huge multi-post blogposts about their personal lives. They were being cunts in every other slightly bdsm related thread, not content to just ruin their own ones. Then trolls showed up and of course when you've got an ego as big as your own misunderstanding of the reality of bdsm, you're perfect targets. They just couldn't help themselves. It was like someone would criticize them, and it was like knocking over a domino. Suddenly the whole thread would become a shitstorm, because they were already so catty to each other that was the only way they knew how to respond. Like throwing a firecracker near a room full of cats, bang! Suddenly they're tearing each other apart and shitting all over themselves, each other, and the thread. The mods took months to finally get rid of them. Maybe the mods were giving them a chance to learn how to fucking act on 4chan. If you can't handle being criticized then you probably shouldn't be on here after all. Anyway basically like the Roman Empire, it was shit for everyone except a few namefags at the top and eventually it all came crumbling down. Thats what happens when autismals build on a foundation of shit.
>>7052268
>>7052279
So basically, Tumblr took over? Jesus, that sucks.
It's a shame, an anonymous board (on or off 4chan) for BDSM-related fuckery (both literal and otherwise) would be nice. I'd try FetLife, but I really don't want to have to deal with making an account that I then need to basically quarantine off from all my other shit (probably overkill, but I've learned not to take chances with such matters). Besides, I've heard they've been taken over by SJW's as well.
>>7052299
Kinky and popular is basically tumblr and people expect pronouns but people being to terribly retarded usually gets called out. I literally just get on, check my friend feed for events, and log the fuck out so I rarely see anything on the extremely SJW side anymore.(all of the SJW extremists in my area moved to Seattle.)
>>7051909
I really don't understand the complete loss of strength but people seem to find it adorable so I'm more than happy with it.
>>7052268
>>7052279
>>7052299
>>7052317
The saddest part was they kept believing everyone who hated them and wanted them gone was all one person, i.e. samefag. They managed to convince themselves that all the people who didn't like them had to be the same person, because otherwise they'd have had to accept that people just generally didn't like them, which kind of happens when you go and post in every thread and sperg out when anyone complains.
>>7052494
That's exactly what the furries do so I'm not surprised at all.
>>7051602
I don't know how the guy you are responding to feels, but for me personally it's not that easy. I usually have no trouble making friends, but I'm extremely shy.
I've literally never flirted with a anyone (although I have been accused of doing so once, so I'm not broken i guess.) For me at least i have some for fundamental problems I have to solve before I get anywhere near my fetishes.
>>7052066
That's called "service domming", and it's not really switch behavior. If the act of domming is intrinsically rewarding to you, though, then yeah, you've got some switch in you.
>>7051818
>"oh, don't be a baby/so scared/ect..."
If a dom harbors thoughts like that, they're a bad dom. Being a sub isn't about being hardcore and taking all you can muster; it's about submitting to authority you trust. You aren't weak for having limits.
>>7051950
>got my girl into bdsm and accidentally made her switch
This sounds interesting enough.
>>7049714
I've only ever done this type of thing through the internet and typefucking, but though I am definitely submissive, I don't mind domming if the other person really wants it, you know? Feels good to put myself aside and do something I don't really get or enjoy to make someone else happy.
I just like to please I guess, and have a hard time turning people down in the first place. Makes me feel like I have some worth.
>>7052299
Fetlife is good for finding munches, and reading some 'how-tos'. Nothing else.
It's not the community that is necessarily toxic, it is the few 'celebrities' that are. There are too many people convinced that there way is the only way, and those that are willing to accept that there might be more than one way to skin a cat tend to also be the ones with actually dangerous practices (that they pass off as safe).
>>7052637
I lucked out and one of the group leaders introduced me to some of her friends. Lots of people like to let newbies taste things without much actual interest.
>>7052066
>draw a blindfold
>make it see-through
Why, why do they do this?
>>7049143
How do you even tie your hands in front?
I've seen videos of people doing something like it, but I can't figure it out.
When it comes to self-bondage, that's as far as I'm willing to go. I can't trust myself to not get stuck with my hands behind my back, and I know that I'd be too embarrassed to ask for help until it was absolutely too late.
>>7053130
I'm with you anon. I get the idea that it's still blindfolding them but you can now see their expression through it, but that defeats the purpose for me. I love how similar of a facial expression anyone ends up with once their blindfolded and gagged like that, no matter what they're thinking or feeling.
>>7053522
It is a good look
>>7053572
unf I love how hard hakaba goes on all the toys and devices he sticks on them. You don't NEED all that shit at all, but something about the blatant excess from their captors really turns me on.
>tfw you'll never be a girl in his doujin
>>7053281
You can use snap hooks to easily link two cuffs together within the same range your fingers need to reopen them. Practice in front first.
That doesnt trap you, but they will keep your hands firmly behind you until you disengage them
Fuck being an m sub.
>>7054292
>m sub
masochist sub? Feel like that kind of comes with the territory on almost all subs, at least a little bit.
>>7054508
Male sub. Finding a female dominant is a long long lonely road
>>7055319
git gay nigga
>>7055319
>male sub
shit I feel stupid
If it makes you feel any better I'm in the same boat, though I think I'm slowly turning more and more 50/50 bi as I spend more time on /trash/