What's a good strategy for [spoiler]making friends[/spoiler]

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>>8918362
Don't be a creep. Don't be a mouth breather. Don't smell bad. Don't stutter. Don't act like a spaz. Don't needlessly touch someone. Don't invade someones personal space.

Say hello, introduce yourself, state your intent and act like a decent human being.

Alternatively play Sims 3 and follow the general conversation for the fastest friendship Introduce>chat>friendly chat>ask about person>chat more

>>8918362
>See someone cosplaying
>Ask for a photo
>Compliment a part of their costume that looks difficult/looks good
>Ask them about it
>Lead into conversation
>Best friends

>>8918435
>Don't be a creep. Don't be a mouth breather. Don't smell bad. Don't stutter. Don't act like a spaz. Don't needlessly touch someone. Don't invade someones personal space.
All easy except the first one - I have no idea when and if I come off that way because I really don't talk with people all that much - which is part of the reason WHY I don't talk with people that much, etc. etc.

Also how do I know who to approach? Where, in con terms, am I likeliest to find fellow introverts?

Have a good interesting cosplay

Talk to people on forums

Room with people from forums, even if you have enough to get your own room

Be well kept and smell nice

Don't be a dickhead or outright creep with girls.

Don't drop your spaghetti and make it obvious you want to fuck them (in a beta kind of way) don't hover/ try to spend the entire con with them. Just act cool, interesting, have fun, and they'll come to you

Once a grill is actively wanting to hang outr with you, ask her out to dinner/lunch and buy her food.

You'll end up at least making out.
47% chance you'll fuck her
21% she'll blow you
32% you'll just fool around

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>>8918456
It's really easy. Even if it doesn't sound easy. Best targets are small groups. 1-3 people are the easiest to approach. 3 is pushing it, but ideal for a start. If you feel you are at fault for a crime you didn't commit just be cute. If you can master charm and cuteness, people will not mind you at all. Personally I smile a lot, "shyly" put my hand on my neck and look away while going "Ah, I'm sorry if I interrupted you- would it be alright if we talked?"

Pic related. Disarms people easily and they're more prone to talk to you. But don't look away all the time and some eye contact is welcome. Just don't stare at their face for an hour straight.

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>>8918362
I'll love more weeb/vidya friends. I have like none.

Or even better, a qt weeb/vidya bf to homo with, but alas making friends into that sort of stuff is pretty hard.

I recommend going to clubs. I also feel like smaller events would make it easier to make friends than larger ones, cause you're bound to run into the person more than once, but the larger cons have a larger selection of potential friends. I'm new to cosplay though, so I don't really know much.

tfw no money to go to animu boston despite being in Mass.

>>8918456
>>8918362

>Don't be a creep

Be presentable
Have good hygiene
Shower
Wear clean clothes
Do not be sweaty and smelly
If you are sweaty and smelly, don't touch anyone or anything.
You don't have to be a 10/10 dude, just have good hygiene and basic grooming.

Behaviour-wise:
Learn to read body language, so if the girl exhibits signs she doesn't want to continue the convo/isn't interested, leave.
Don't follow people. Not even people you think are interested. When they say goodbye, it's time to go.
Do not ask to go hang with anyone and do their thing, invite them to hang with you instead. If they're interested, they'll come along. If they're not, leave them alone.
Never ask anyone their room number or their house address.
Follow social rules. No hugging or glomping strangers. Don't touch them unless they seem okay with you. Just because it's a con doesn't mean you get to do whatever.
Equally important: learn to recognise crazies and avoid them

Also: go with no expectations. Girls who go to cons tend to already have plans to meet up with friends. It's not unusual to find random girls who are willing to hang out with you, but it's more common to meet hundreds of girls at a con and none of them can spare the time to hang out with you. That's the nature of cons. Don't expect to get laid and don't expect any girl to spend any kind of quality time with you.

Where this is important is your expectations often colour your behaviour. If you go to cons expecting to find your one true love or some rando to slut with, you're going to get frustrated when you don't, and then you'll get angry, which is going to come through in the way you talk to girls, and then you'll find that they start running away because you're now being creepy and scary. So. Go to cons with no expectations. Expect good stuff in the AA, dealers and the panels. Don't expect quality time with girls. If it happens, good. If it doesn't, that's normal.

>>8918635
I feel too old for undergrad anime clubs at this point although I'm getting my degree a couple years late. I'm equally interested in trying to make friends who are into /tv/ or /lit/ sorts of stuff (clpser to my actual area of study, as opposed to hobbydom) but I'm not really any more clued in to how I might go about doing that either.

I'm also going to AB incidentally, but thankfully I can at least stay in a friend's apartment so I don't have to spend money I don't have on a room.

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just bee urself

>>8918688
I think this is pretty good advice.

Only one I'm not sure on is I wouldn't mind someone going to the panels I want to go too, but I can see where some people may use it as an exit strategy. So then yeah, if they say I'm going to go to this thing.. and you're like cool I'll go to that maybe weird.

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>>8918435
>be pretty social person, liked by people generally . im a happy guy
>have had gfs and lead normal life while hiding love of anime
>suddenly hair gets thin and falls out. Dang , thanks genetics.
>shave it off because whole it sucks i never cared about my hair
>Notice people dont smile or approach me like they used to
>cashiers dont smile anymore, dont get flirted with.
>gf grows distant and we eventually breakup
>uhh what the fuck is going on?
>read online that being bald makes you look older/meaner/unapproachable

I think i somehow became a creep

>start become more reclusive.
>i really miss going out to parties and to be honest i miss the attention i used to get from girls
>slowly but surely becoming a hermit
>not used to these feels

I feel like ive regressed into some sort of anti-social behaviour and an losing my ability to talk to people like i used to.

Pls help

>>8918461
The most autistic thing ive read. Are you a girl atleast?

>>8918688
>Do not ask to go hang with anyone and do their thing
I disagree. During my first con I found a group of people and asked if I could walk with them because I had no idea what to do. They said yes. I've done it several times and am still friends with them.

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>>8918889
Get hot. People will judge a book by it's cover so if you feel that being sociable simply isn't working, make yourself look sociable. Or get rich. That's the only advice I can give outside of trying online communities that meet up.

>>8918889
How old are you? Generally the older you get the more bald men there are so it should be a look your peers are used to idk

I mean my boyfriend is 26 and already is balding and he still has all of his friends + me... maybe its something else youre doing? i think its pretty silly to think its just your hair

>>8918889
I think you just became insecure and started acting sad/insecure/aloof. People can unfortunately pick up on that quite easily and start avoiding you.

I'm a girl but I've had similar problems, until I learnt how to talk myself into being confident people were kind of pushing me around a lot and nobody wanted to talk to me. Basically I was the 'oh yeah, I forgot she exists' person.

>>8919088
10/10
Hot bod.

Has anyone ever stayed friends with people you meet at cons outside of cons? Yeah it's hard if they don't live in your area. But I would really like to be able to hang out with people when not at a convention too.

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Does anyone else have the problem of keeping friends they meet from cons?

I think I'm a pretty well liked person (at least I hope so) and I do my best to be friendly but not too forward and it seems that people like me, but I have such a hard time keeping communication up and con friends I meet always just end up being another FB friend or tumblr mutual that I never talk to.
I just want to meet friends into the same things and cosplay together.

>>8919830
i have that problem too, actually. its always tragic to see that a bunch of people you hung out with became really close buddies without you between cons

>>8918889

are you me? I am in my late 20s and my hair gave up on life a couple of years ago, so I accepted reality and shaved head. Ever since then, feel like shit about myself. Look way older than I actually am, feel like I went from average looking and approachable to moderately ugly, nobody will ever wanna talk to me, no hope. One reason I like cosplaying is cause I get to wear wigs and ironically feel more normal than usual. I can't approach anybody anymore cause I feel like they'll be like, "who's this old balding piece of shit?" when I'm still pretty young and a normal/friendly dude otherwise.

-Search online, join con communities, search tags, talk to people, go meet ups at the con itself (ie there's usually fandom meet ups so maybe go to one of those for a few minutes)
-Go with a friend, even if they aren't into conventions going with someone else can instantly make you more confident and you're less likely to walk around listening to music or spacing out
-If you get the train or bus talk to cosplayers, if I'm honest talking to cosplayers on public transport is my favourite thing about conventions
-Have a good cosplay or something you really like, if someone else likes what you like it's an instant common ground, talk to them about it
-Learn to notice when a conversation feels one-sided, for example if someone doesn't seem excited to talk to you or friendly cut it off, it saves feeling really embarrassed afterwards and being put off from talking to people in the future
-Compliment people, even if it doesn't lead anywhere you probably made them feel better about themselves so win-win really
-If the conversation goes well ask for their Facebook or number otherwise you'll never see them again and kick yourself for not asking
-If someone blanks you or seems rude don't take it too seriously, some people are shy and some people feel overwhelmed at cons or are busy don't dwell on it
-Just be a nice person, if someone was talking to you like you were talking to them would you like it? Would you want to talk to them again

>>8919830
I have the same problem anon.

Offer to share your ketamine, that's how I make friends.

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>>8918435
>don't stutter

>tfw have a stutter

>>8918435
Also, I'm a girl, not a guy.

Why are you telling me not to be a creep?

>>8919830
Wow same... I do not know how to stop doing this? Then I find it awkward if I see them at a con and I want to approach them but I have an awkward thought of maybe they'll not realize who I am, especially in cosplay. So I just ignore them.

>>8920326
creepiness doesn't care about social constructs like gender, baka

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>>8920298
> via 9gag.com

>>8920808
>9gag
>implying that image isn't way older
Likely google search.

>>8920326
see >>8920504
Anyone can be a creep.

>>8920852
>>8920504
let's be honest. no one associates the word "creep" with a girl...

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>>8920928
>no one associates the word "creep" with a girl

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>>8920928
Gee golly

>>8918894
Not that poster, but they're still completely right.

>>8924604
They aren't, you pathetic virgin.

>>8924856
Maybe not "completely right," and I don't know how much of it really has to do with charm necessarily, but being upfront about being shy is something most people respond to with sympathy.

>>8919830
You have to keep engaging them. Chat with them from time to time. Hang out occasionally if possible. Remind them that you exist. Behold, network maintenance. It's hard. I know. I struggled for a while.

>>8918871

Nah, I meant, don't invite yourself along, as in don't try and insert yourself into the group.

Totes okay if you decide you want to go along and check out the same panel or whatever -- seperately, without clinging on to some strangers you just met as if you'd die without them.

>>8919083

You, on the other hand. Either you lucked out and met very chill people who took a liking to you, or else you're someone else's annoying duckling story. Either way, not good advice to give to someone who needed pointers not to act like a creep.

> be walking by myself
> some girl is wearing cosplay from my favorite series
> "I notice you are cosplaying [show], I like [show] as well"
How acceptable is this?

>>8926266
A little formal, but that's a good way to start a conversation. Try to invite this cosplayer into the conversation with a question though.

"You're ____ from _____, right? I really like that show! Who's you're favorite character/what's your favorite episode/what'd you think of the last season?"

Its also possible that this person got roped into cosplaying in a group and isn't that familiar with the source material. If the person doesn't know the show/video games/whatever, you might say, "Its great! You should check it out. What shows do you watch?"

That question is how you get someone else talking with you.

>>8925948
>Either you lucked out and met very chill people
Maybe. I just pick and choose who seems the most worth the effort, not absolute randos.

>>8919830
I almost never talk to con friends outside of cons. People I meet tend to remember me though, maybe because I'm small, cute and friendly and always make sure to say hi every year. I prefer this type of relationship 2bh. So it might not be you, it might be me? It slightly annoys me when someone keeps talking to me in the off season.

>>8926821
And you've had multiple successes doing that? Wow...color me impressed.

I just get so nervous when I see good cosplayers, especially from a series I love. I'm afraid they're going to be super mean and stuck up...am I overreacting?

>>8918889
One of my friends shaved off all his hair recently, he went from looking like a long haired hippy to some kind of cultist.

>>8926975
Gotta have a decent sense of judgement. My first con I found a group, they started screaming CARD GAMES ON MOTORCYCLES. Noped right out with "Goodness look at the time" and didnt look back. Never immediately tie the knot.

It'd be nice to meet people at cons, but i've only ever went with people or met with people i already knew online.

Both of those are thin on the ground these days for me, and i have to admit, part of my ulterior motive for hanging out on /cgl/ is maybe making some friends or someone that'd be cool hanging out at a con with.

>>8927025
Uh anyway, i meant to say, most people are already meeting up with people, and i distinct impression that they won't be too happy about strangers trying to crash their social groups

How do I find people to room with, but not hang out at the event together

>>8931254
Really hard unless you can find people who are also in need of a roomie because one of their party members fell out and didnt have the money

>>8918889
Start wearing a hat - you could be iconic baseball cap guy or iconic beanie guy.

I had a friend who was balding in his teens - he always wore a baseball cap so I didn't even know until a few years into knowing him.

I think it's good to remember that while you might be doing well at socialising (being polite, not a creep, interesting etc) the other person could be shy themselves. Make sure to plan for talking to other people who are just as uncomfortable as you are. Try to learn the difference between someone not digging you as a person and just being shy.

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>>8918889

Buy a wig.

>>8931741
This.

It's very hard for me to tell the difference though. How are you able to tell, anon?

>>8918456

Why do you want fellow introverts? One of the best ways to make con friends as an introvert is to make friends with an extrovert who makes things happen.

Another con goes by, I make okay conversation with other cosplayers when I can but at the end of the day I'm always hanging out with the guys I came with.

Everyone else has their own friends and their own stuff to do, no one ever has interest in doing anything together

I dunno, I must come off much creepier than I think.