girlfriend of the last 12 years told me last night that while she was at work, talking with a colleague about "soul and personal development", another coworker, a guy, just sent her an email telling how bad he felt about himself and his looks, his issues for being fat and bullied during his childhood & so on. then they started an email conversation she felt very constructive, even told me some bullshit about how good she felt now, seeing her life goals of helping and being meaningful to others were starting to happen. when i told her how pathetic the whole thing was and that i didn't really feel ok about her replying to a random beta that didn't even have the guts to talk to her, chatting by email during work, she simply told me i was wrong and that she saw nothing wrong in that, also that she would never stop talking to the new found friend.
is that normal and i'm being an insecure asshole or should i dump her?
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>>741750456 investing time and psychological resources on a girl you are interesting in is a waste? no
that's why you don't do it on random bitches. anyway it takes me from 2 to a week to turn them into that, at the end of the week they will know that talking to another dude will have consequences and they just stop doing so.
>>741750430 meh. would i be a double stupid asshole if accessed her email and forwarded their conversation to the maximum number of people possible? it's a work email of a national communications company with a few thousand users. worked there, have the password.
>>741750576 man, i did it, or tried to. i even pulled away her abusive father to whom she had a strange "love-hate" thing in the beginning.. but truth is, it's probably impossible to succeed always at that.
>>741750265 You're being incredibly insecure. Do you think she's going to cheat on you with this fat goon from her work? There's literally no rational reason for you to be upset about this. Start worrying when starts fucking other people.
>>741750913 I agree Anon should let the guy dominate him and leave his Gf so he can be the little bitch he's always dreamed of being. If one beta can make him spiral out of control like this then he's the beta and needs to accept his role in the grander scheme of it all, by being a cum dumpster to daddy's cock.
>>741750265 You're being insecure and showing her that you have trust issues, and worse, that you have no faith in her. She will start to resent you if you try to restrict her freedom as far as who she's allowed to talk to. Why should she spend time with an insecure guy with trust issues? If you feel confident in your relationship, there's no reason to suspect her of cheating. And if she does end up cheating, then you're better off without her anyway.
>>741751285 >>741751328 maybe i'm not a pure alpha, but not a poor, fat crybaby trying to hit co-workers. that said, i don't believe that dude to be serious competition. but it fucks me a bit to know shit like this happens and she's ok with it.
Why "Dump her"? WTF dude. You've been together 12 years. And because of one betaboy who needs some encouragement. And your GF actually being sweet enough to give him that. You are thinking of dumping? That sounds so childish man! Is this kek or are you seriously such jealous manchild?
>>741751473 chill dude, you can always play with her mind and go with the "hey babe, so I was thinking about yesterday and I'm sorry for overreacting" then play the "but how would you react if I were in your shoes and some random girl texted me about how insecure she's with her weight and looking for my approval"
Been in the same situation but I handled it differently OP.
>In relationship with girl for a few years >One day she comes home to tell me >" Hey Anon there is this Anon who is having a rough time and I figured I'd be a shoulder for them " >" Okay babe, call me on your way home, be safe, let me know how it went " >Go back to doing what I was doing >She's stares at me >" Soooo..you don't care Anon? >" Care about what anonette? " >" Me going to see this guy " >" Sure you said you were going to help him with issues " >" What if I was going to sleep with him " >Stare blankly at her >" Is that what you are going to do anonette? " >" No! But it just seems like you don't care ! " >" I didn't think I needed to anonette " >" You don't but at least act jealous or something Anon good! " >" That's stupid anonette because you would be pissed if I told you couldn't go also " >She crosses her arms throws her purse down and sits in the couch >" Forget it I don't want to go now " >" Okay babe, hungry? "
She kept playing her games until she left me for some other bitch boy who would.
Shes still comes to fuck me every now and again.
They want a reaction from you, good or bad, it doesn't matter what you choose.
So remain stoic and make her think she shes better off with you by acting like her shit doesn't bother you and you have options.
>>741751670 Okay dude just chill out and play it cool. Best thing to do is go on Rubmaps.com make an account and find a asian whore to get sucked off or fuck. That way you win either way. she has like a .05% chance of fucking that fat dude... way i see it if she cheats emotional u can do it physically. This is something i personally wouldnt do because i love my gf, but u know since u mentioned breaking up with her over this you have nothing to lose my friend!
>>741750265 You went about it wrong. Its not her place or job to be there for him. You are correct. But, its all about phrasing. It sounds innocent. But, she should avoid even the appearance of it not being. She was open and didn't keep it from you. But in the end, it should stop.
>>741751708 >>741751748 Thanks I've been doing these since I was 15. (Only lost control over the brainwashing 2 times causing them to kill themselves when I started).
>>741751783 >Revenge Haha, you are dumb. If you take any personal action with the guy you will fuck it and turn into the bad guy inmediately.
Just go with the shit i said, then play the "i'm not telling you what to do babe, but i would always listen to you because i really really love over anybody else... but maybe i love you more than you do"
Well clearly you're an insecure controlling douche.
Ypu like your gf because you feel she's inferior and like her being dependent on you, but the moment she begins to feel some self worth you piss your panties and try to crush her spirit.
Obviously the best thing for all parties is to take out a million dollar insurance policy that leaves the crux to your gf and then take a bath with a plugged in toaster or high dive off the top floor of a building with at least 12 stories.
However, if you were to man up and fix yourself a nice bleach & ammonia cocktail, it would show at least that you weren't a totally faggot and that you took into consideration the mess people would have to clean up after you when you were gone.
The plus side here is your gf would see you in a completely different light and that my faggot friend, would last forever.
>>741752561 >>741752154 >>741752465 This is me. >>741752711 I was joking.. First, don't forward the conversation, that's a horrible idea, it will make you look like a little angry child with his computer. Second, don't fight the guy for no reason that's just stupid and might get you jail time, in which case she will leave. Just follow what anon told you earlier. >>741751773 Done deal, have fun.
>>741753133 she's probably mailing him right now. he sent him a good morning message after getting her number yesterday via mail she said shes feeling sad because you both fight and he told her she can trusthim
>>741753219 >So you don't even mean it when you say you want the best for them? Of course I don't. I couldn't care less about them. If I get bored I just ditch them and move ahead no fucks given. People are just an investment, when I feel that the pork is out of bacon I just throw it away and move to the next one
>>741750265 >is that normal and i'm being an insecure asshole or should i dump her? why is this a question? you are an insecure asshole and that is normal, she's not a muslim hijab wearing whore. she's trying to be nice. you just don't want her to do anything weird. go get yourself a muslim cunt. they like to be told what to do. you should dump her because you're a fucking idiot. god damn you're a fucking beta.
Well you are an ignorant, potentially inbred, moron who doesn't feel any self worth unless he perceives (and that is a key word that you should really look up) that there is someone/people beneath him.
Now the fact that you have at least considered the possibility that you did something wrong and the fault might be with you, tells me you could potentially evolve from what ever lowly state of sludge you were when you selected to raise yourself up on the back of some insecure mentally unstable girl, BUT the realization you may very well come do during this "evolutionary" period in your life might lead to to a more disturbing realization that would likely send you to the same end.
I'm really just trying to save you some time. As well as help your gf get a real life going for her with someone who gives a fuck. What's her name again?
>>741750265 You are being an insecure asshole. Dont decree to her. Talk it out. If she cant handle your feelings thats another thing all together but as it stands you are acting like a controlling douchenozzle.
>>741750265 Watch out for those kind of dudes who talks to girl privately even though she already has a bf. Those kind of dudes are the ones who will snatch your gf when things between the two of you goes wrong, and women are passionately liars.
If I were you, give it to her straight of what you feel, don't hold back (just don't hurt her physically that's fucked up).
If she agrees to end the conversation, she loves you, but if she don't, she will eventually surely cheat on you.
>I'll never stop talking to my new found friend What the fuck? Some random dude emailed you and has a heart to heart, your boyfriend of 12 years(why aren't you married you faggot) expressed his disdain of the situation and you basically tell him to fuck off? See ya scrub
Yes OP has accurately identified the intentions of the coworker.
Now it's up top the intentions of his girl.
First, you need to calm down OP. secondly, you have the password, so you can monitor their conversations.
Third, talk to your girl, tell her that she's a good soul and that she might be a little naive, but that you love her for exactly that. Tell her you think that the guy is more interested in her than in free therapy sessions, because that's how guys work. Add that you find his way of approaching her pretty pathetic.
As the other anon said, you might ask her how she would feel in your shoes - while she'd probably say she'd be completely okay with that.
You have different options:
1) Monitor their communications, and if he tries to make a move, discourage him vehemently.
2) Trust your girl - dunno about that. But she freely told you about that stuff, so she probably has no second thoughts atm.
Your insecurity is pretty beta bro, so bad news she's attracted to betas. Should probably dump her now just in case she decides to leave you for a more beta beta. Then kill yourself before you potentially have a fatal accident.
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