If you want a relationship in 2017, all you have to do is stop being a self centered ADHD faggot.
I've read so many comments by females about how guys are heartless distracted and indifferent idiots. Any guy worth having genuine interest in a girl for her actual self, not her body, should have an easy time developing a relationship. It's the reason ugly fat guys get hot girls too. All it takes is seeing a person rather than a body and opportunity.
Lower your standards. A friend of mine who is honestly the worst looking of the group have a gf.
Ok she's a small chubby girl who Fucking with him when he forget to order cheesy bread from domino's in front of everyone.
But eh, he live with her so he can fuck regularly, he don't have to cope with loneliness, she knew he's a no life so he can keep playing atm, she knew that he was almost a kissless virgin so she do all the cooking.
>>736493244 So fucking false. Have confidence and treat girls like shit. It's how ANY guy can get a hot girl. The less valued by you she feels, the more she will be compelled to work to gain your affection. It's like a mental illness afflicting all hotties. Shouldn't work, but by God it does, 100% of the time.
>>736491960 Lose weight, get a job, move out of parents basement, stop coming to 4chan, no fap for 2 months and really commit. If you follow that you will find a 6/10 that will let you put your ponis in her vaygina. If you don't you'll end up with a 2 or 3/10 If you are lucky
>>736493661 yeah at least you've got tons of salvageable genetics >>736493620 oh you don't need to apologize, i'm not worth apologizing to >>736493645 considering i'm the ugliest person in the world, it's impossible to lower my standards low enough
my only option is give up. i'll be done on earth for sure by march 31 2018
listen up you fuck, I'm in the same situation we're waiting for someone to rescue us but no girl wants to act as the mom for some depressed lump of shit. It's tough but until you want to improve yourself, for your own sake, you will NEVER be in a healthy relationship. It's really exhausting knowing that nobody but you has a responsibility to fix you. Realize this and turn your life around soon or fucking perish. I'm starting by getting into a more fixed sleep/meal routine and getting some new grooming habits. I was avoiding mirrors, it's nice to have a reason to look into them now.
Or just complain on 4chan forever, it's only your single chance at existence to waste
>>736493661 Don't get on cl. Pof is alright though. Meetme too. But yeah. Go to parties, and concerts and shit. Those are good places too. Ask around for an after party. Host one yourself even. Just be careful who you invite. And do supply some.
As fake-alpha as this is, this neanderthal has a point. When I was confident in high school, girls were all trying to get my attention and rides in my car, etc. Now that I have no confidence, I get no attention from women.
>>736493761 True, I was worried about meeting her myself. I put an add on CL, and she replied TWO weeks later... But, fuckin' amazed when I met her for the first time, could not believe it. My add was for a walking partner in the countryside, but we fucked on the third walk...
>>736493788 I have (as most people do) personal issues with the way I look. But losing weight and, shaving and getting a smarter haircut will also make you feel better. Also to quote from the OP " why can't i have a gf?" This is the worst part of your post OP.
>>736493788 OP, your genetics seem fine. You need to work at this though, it's not going to be handed to you. Get a fucking calendar and mark a spot 6 months from today and you can easily be there if you want, or not, it's up to you.
Diet - Stop eating shit and eat healthier, 10000's of websites for this shit. You want a gf? Self-discipline is a start
Exercise - Basic calisthenics with a diet and you should see results in a month. bodybuilding.com can help get you started.
Job - Don't have one? Get one. It will keep you active, on your toes, help you socialize, and put some $ in your pocket which will help for...
Living - Assuming you're 20-22, you need your own place. Your confidence will increase and you will have a place to bring a girl back, as well as the feeling of progress that your life isn't at a dead end. Find something affordable that isn't covered in bugs.
Learning to dress - Buy basic shit, plain tee's, jeans. Don't dress with brand names or anything graphic/autistic on the shirt like you'd wear when you were 15.
>beta turned alpha at age 18, marrying a 10/10 nolie
>>>736493645 >considering i'm the ugliest person in the world, it's impossible to lower my standards low enough Oh, just fuck right off you whiny loser. This is why you don't deserve anything Just hit the gym, get a job, read about grooming and style and start eating properly >Boohooo it's too hard Yes it's hard you faggot, you don't get anything without effort in life
For those fags that actually need help, go down a couple of beers before meeting chicks in a social situation. My thing is coed softball so we just go out for drinks with other teams afterwards. Softball chicks can be hot as fffffuuuuuuccccckkkk. Just chill with them doing something active. It doesn't have to be a sport.
>>736494376 >OP never goes out >2 beers and he's wasted >reaches maximum autism levels >Um, why is this drunk slob talking to us and what is he even saying? >THEY'RE PRONOUNCED MAY-MAY'S, MAY-MAYS I TELL YA
>>736493788 Op, we all know you're going to make this thread all over again tomorrow. >you aren't going to listen to our advice >you aren't going to do anything except keep this attention whoring pity party going Please, either take some of the advice in this thread. Or yeah, literally fucking kill yourself you piece of shit. >the single most unattractive thing about you is your complete lack of any semblance of self-confidence >"hurr durr I'm such a worthless waste of space" >YOU are the reason you're a worthless sack of human trash, because you can't get over yourself
TL;DR >either get your shit together and stop making these threads or actually fucking kill yourself and spare us the attention seeking bullshit
If you really want a gf, you're an idiot. First fix your life and get yourself stabilized financially and have a healthy diet plus workout routine. Once you have all that then just make yourself open and available socially. After all that is done then you can try to get a girl to bang you. If you like a chick ask her out for some coffee, even if you don't like coffee. Then be real with her, and if she's real with you, then it's up to you of you want to just bang or try to go out again. Always bang first date.
It's not 100% our fault so stop pretending it is. The world has changed. You think everyone in the past was some alpha who deserved a woman? Life was easymode after the second world war and something has changed and made it very hard for the average person.
>>736491960 Unsure why I am now so invested in this thread. Kek
OP please explain what it is that you have to offer a female?
I strongly feel, that by answering this question you will reveal to yourself the path forward.
Give me something, anything..do you have a job? A car? A house? Any qualifications? Can you build or fix things? If a man of dark skin broke into your home with your hypothetical wife in it, could you defeat him in a physical contest and protect her? Do you own a charizard card?
>>736493369 Didn't I see you on a face rate thread last night? It's not hard to get a gf, but your standards could be too high. That, or the girls you meet are angsty teenage fucks. Every time I see a teenage girl who thinks she's top shit, they'll give me a bitch face.
If that is you in the pic: stop looking like a sad potato. Girls these days are already entitled fairytale cunts. Your face looks like your soul is trying to crawl out of your mouth.
Also you probably make the same misstake most "nice" guys make. You press yourself in this urge to have a gf. Stop caring and let it flow. I have a date in an hour. I like this chick but well chances are this will be a first and last one. I could stress about it and it will show trust me. Most younger women are shallow but they sense that shit too. If you like a chick just talk and then ask her out. You got nothing to loose. If she blocks you off well then.. that's thtmat if she does not well one step closer.
But please like yourself first. I am bad at parties because i am sour but you really look like you hate every single second of life.
Love yourself first. Work out and i do not mean fitness perse. I usee to be a fatty weighing 100kg with 36% fat. I started kickboxing 4 times a week for 3 years. Weigh 93kg now but only 17% fat mass. Do not have abs to show off or anything but i feel good and fit and that is what advice i can give. Look good in your own way and hide your sad feels anon. These optimist fags don't like rain om their parade. Person prefference: get rid of that facial hair and keep your chin smooth. Beards mostly attract slutty mops.
>>736495751 Idk. Maybe it is a weight thing then? I know my bf would never live it down if he got fat. You had a pretty average face to me. A 6.5/10 in that thread. Otherwise, idk. Girls are mean as hell. I get awkward around new people. It sounds weird but maybe you should ask 'em Xd
>2017 >Wanting a relationship >Not investing in friends and having shit you want >Not going places, fucking foreign chicks everywhere, and being non-committal about shit >Not investing in a great career and havin yourself set up for the "what ifs..." or "retirement". Trust me, it's not worth it.
>>736496535 Most people are not committed and a bad relationship is worse than being single, but a good one is better than anything you've listed. Some people do have them, myself included. A good, lifelong, committed relationship is the epitome of happiness.
honestly idk. i don't want to see 2018, so new years eve is an option. seems doubtful i'll make it through another christmas alone, so maybe christmas eve/christmas? but that seems selfish. also i don't want to say i made it 27 fucking years without even so much as hugging a girl, so the day before my birthday is a real option.
then i just have random mood swings and panic attacks, after i gather the resources to die maybe during one of those on some random day before that.
27? Motherfucker I'm in my 30s and still living out my shit life. Maybe this is a sentence for past misdeads and you're going to end it early? That just means you have to live out a longer sentence in the next life.
Seriosuly, if you cant get a gf in this day and age, you're probably just a pathetic loser. Chicks are falling all over each other to find a decent guy who will both, treat them like whores and cuddle them and make them feel super special. Instead they get thirsty idiots who have no tact and zero charisma. Here are some tips... - Make them laugh -Tell them they are special -don't push an oversexualized agenda -be the best version of yourself
All of this shit works, but if your best version of yourself is still a pathetic vigin loser, youre pretty much fucked.
Also OP, shave that shit off your face, its not a beard. you look dirty. When youre able to grow a majestic beard, grow one then.
Yes that is legit but it's not easy by any means. Women are dumb. Much like old people they're out of touch and still think someone in their 20s or 30s should have their own house, car and career when that's just not possible for the majority of men these days. You need a two-income household. Many people are still living at home. Ignore the fact that they don't bring anything to the relationship other than the smelly hole between their legs. They expect all the things that fairytales told them they're due.
Funnier than you, guaranteed. You're lucky enough to have a career and a home. That right there proves you're some out of touch simpleton who thinks if you've got yours so fuck everyone else. Rigid brained conservatard detected.
>>736497954 Are none of you guys even earning 6 figures yet? Why is this so hard? There are so mnay unmotivated faggots out there that clibing the corporate ladder is easy as fuck and requires juts working a little harder than the masses of idiots that fill the job market these days.
Seriously dude, you're out of touch and stupid. Pray you never face any real adversity and face what the rest of us are facing. You think you're special and tough? I hope you get a taste of actual adversity someday you faggot.
>>736498144 You're so jealous and angry, if you put some of that effort into bettering yourself, maybe you wouldn't be so self loathing and actually have a chance at living a real life. Having a career and home isn't luck, its hard work, and dedication. The fact that you think it takes luck, shows how out of touch with the real world you really are.
Then you can blame luck for all your woes instead of taking responsibility for being a permaloser. Try pointing that finger at yourself asshole. Make changes, and the see if maybe you can find a crumb of happiness in your desolate, depressing life.
>>736498744 I saved up, made a down payment and took a mortgage. Then I made extra payments on the house to pay off the principal and lessen the interest. I cut my mortgage in half, and now owe less than $40k on a $350k home, which isn't extravagant in my part of the world. I did a lot of the repairs and upgrades myself too. A few beers and pizzas for friends is way cheaper than hiring a crew to do the work.
>>736498859 How am I sad and bitter? Because some asshat thinks that because I have a job and home, everything in my life was just handed to me on a silver platter? I'm trying to motivate this fuckwad past his own self imposed barriers, and to make himself better. I forgot I was on 4chan, and how angry people get at the successes of others.
You sound like an old baby boomer FAGGOT. How much more out of touch can you be you retard? You think your success is due strictly due to your "hard work"? As if no one else is trying to work hard and make it in life? You fucking simpleton... You probably believe in the Just World fallacy and Divine Right too.
>>736491960 Step 1: befriend people and develop your own individuality Step 2: keep befriending people until you have a good mix of male and female friends Step 3: eventually you won't be a loser and some girl will be attracted to you
>>736493107 Maybe you should stop posting on here for pity and actually take steps to improve yourself before you expect someone else to spend their life with you. Existing isn't the only requirement for people finding you tolerable
>>736493369 Glad to see you haven't killed yourself yet OP Will today be the day you stop being a worthless stain on the face of humanity? I won't hold my breath. Realize the only one keeping you from being happy is yourself. Until you seek therapy or make lifestyle changes you will continue to be unhappy and alone.
OP if you have health insurance tell your doctor about your depression and suicidal thoughts and mention fluoxetine 20mg as a possible solution. Most primary care givers can prescribe it and it has improved my quality of life drastically. Only downside is you cant drink or do lsd while you're on it. Seriously OP. Nothing else helped me improve. Some times your brain is working against you and you wont get better without CBT and an SSRI
>>736499270 The fact that you cant see past your own bullshit just shows me youre not ready to grow up and be an adult. Work hard doesn't mean you slang the most fries in the fastest time. It means you dedicate yourself to improvement of your situation. Go back to school, find a better job, make sacrifices.
..or you know, make excuses and don't change. Its up to you. You can attack all you want, probably from your parents home, while I sit in my office and get paid to tell you how stupid you are. It wont make your life better. Just you being here it a tribute to how you'd rather complain than make a change.
Funny all the people in here giving out such lovely advice, basically got shit handed to them. You got everything made already right here. All you have to do is have the connections. Frankly, it can be impossible to be in certain connections without some long string of generations behind that made made that happen. There are a lot of places you just aren't allowed anon. Sometimes the only way is to suck it up and save your bullshit dollars until you can invest it in your own business.
>>736501420 >implying implications You dont know shit about fuck, kid. I crawled my way out of poverty and depression doing exactly what i advised op to do. My family is dirt poor and has a long history of mental illness. Its not about privilege. Its about not making the same excuses every day for why you cant get better
Once your dick is wet what exactly happens afterwards? Do you succumb to your old ways and hide in your cave? Or do you become somebody's bitch (because you obviously know nothing about relationships)?
Not going to lie, you need to hurry up anaon and get some experience in. You need AT LEAST a GF you can say wanted to hang out with you for AT LEAST 6 months before we can say you some mild experience. A couple years is more like it. ONLY THEN can you really be happily single (or lying happily together).
>>736491960 heres some advice OP. lose weight, alot of weight, work out, and lose weight, you wont even have to try, wemon will come up to you all the time and want dick. jut lose a shitload of weight and get buff, thats really one of the most simplest and easiest routes to women.
See, I hate your fucking attitude. Instead of actually trying to change shit, you complain about it to /b/ of all people. It's not easy to hit the gym and make yourself presentable, and it takes effort and time. It is simple though. You gotta decide if you are ever going to do it, or die a lonely death. You aren't ugly, just chubby.
>>736493369 OP get a hobby or a job with people that talk to eachother regularly. There are three rules for interpersonal attraction in psychology. >1. Physical attractiveness >2. Proximity >3. Similarly So even if you don't fit into number 1 you can still check off two boxes. Proximity: simply when you're around someone long enough they get more attractive to you. And similarly: make a connection like "oh I like to take photographs too" (literally the easiest hobby to get into and almost only girls do it) and boom you have talking points to move from >hope this helped OP >$200,000 psychology degree can hopefully go to use for once
>>736493833 Implying girls just magically appear if you don't actually go out to find them in settings where they want to actually talk to people, and not while they are late running to work getting a coffee at starbucks
>>736495927 Hey can you do me a favour and not waste time on people like this, all they want to do is cry and not change anything, I try to change things I do not even care getting a gf as my mental health is what I am focusing on.
>>736491960 >talking to girls on the street doesn't work.
true. they'd shout "creep! rapist!"
> dating apps don't work.
true. they're only meant to make whores -mostly wrecked and fat- attract clients.
> what the fuck? how do people even get gfs?
the so-called sexual liberation had two great collateral effects:
1) make the mating ritual insanely overcomplex and absurdly hypermarketed. that is, you have to be a rich chad, or to invest a ridicolously high number of hours and money to approach girls, socialize, and try to ask for a date.
2) transforming the vast majority of women to used goods - that is, wrecked vagogos who will decide to settle when their clock is going to release its last ticks
> why can't i have a gf?
if you didn't invest your money and time into socializing with a large number of girls (because 99% of them won't be interested in you), well, you cannot have a gf.
>>736491960 If you are 26 and live in the states you lost your chance long time ago (I'm assuming you are a KHV because you totally look like one). Accept it and get over it, or go to a psychriatist to help you with that
Have some real goals, besides getting a gf. What are you doing with your life? It doesn't have to change the world, but girls aren't going to be interested in someone who just exists. Learn the difference between a "nice guy" and a "good guy". There are a lot of people here telling you to lose weight, which is great advice if you wanna fuck, but for women to have long term interest you have to give them the idea that you're worth being around in the long run. Goals!
That's because when you swipe right on everyone Tinder thinks you're a spam profile and your profile isn't shown as often to girls. If your profile isn't being shown to many girls, then you're not going to get any matches.
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