>>736403560 Rea or watch a few videos on "ego", "ego death", or "ego dissolution", and you'll probably find what you're looking for, considering that you are actually looking for answers to real problems, and not just excuses for shitty behavior.
>>736404122 >be above average intelligence teenager >spend a lot of time trying to disarm my own ego >succeed at it >women and people don't like me anymore because i don't think highly enough of myself
i don't really get people. they don't want a middle ground even though they complain about the extremes.
>>736404421 I don't think you really want to do it, simply because you asking this question.
You would easily know how to change your own mind if you were actually interested in exploring your own mind in the first place, but I don't think this is what you are looking for, exactly. Not now, and not at this moment, at least.
>>736403560 It is a meme indeed. What others think of you is really important and quite determinant of your possible outcomes. It can get to a point in which the image they have of you is so low that the best you can do is just go away and start over with new people. This meme was just created so unpopular kids don't kill themselves during HS.
All that said, the only evaluations that matter are those which come from 'higher class' people.
No you don't. Thinking you do is what's making you sit there and say you "can't" because you've "tried everything". If that was true you would already be killing yourself.
Here's a tip you won't take: Next time someone calls you a whiny crybaby, try saying something like "why do you think that?", "instead of ahhh I already know everything but somehow I can't fix anything ahhh".
It takes a little effort but gets easier with practice.
>>736404720 >I've tried changing it myself but can't. You can't change other people, but once you realize you don't necessarily have to be the "yourself" you see in them, or at least that you don't need to force the image you have of yourself onto others, maybe you'll understand that what they think comes from what you are, and not what you think you are, and what you think you "are" isn't anything concrete.
Unless you understand the sentence "you are nothing" without feeling defensive, and unless you realize that there's someone else getting angry at the world, who isn't necessarily "you", but the ego, you'll struggle to let perceived "treats" to just bounce-off. You need to be able to access this information for it to guide what needs to be changed in your behavior, so you can stop your own ego from clashing onto every other unrestrained ego around you, and that definitely isn't something many people are even aware is possible, or are willing to go through.
Think of the ego like this: You probably see yourself as a "separate" entity from the rest of the world, right? This separate entity is the ego, and the rest of the world is the rest of the world. The "real you" is a mere observer who is hiding "behind", or "within", or "under" the ego, and the ego is the "shell" that you use as a bridge between the "real you" and the rest of the world. Your goal is to understand "the ego" is actually part of the world, not part of the "real self". Why? Because the "real self", isn't really a thing.
>>736403560 Ive taken so muchmushrooms and acid that I realize none of this matters but in a good way. If you really want to not care.about what people think you have to realize in just 60 years none of this matters. Its really easy to get sucked into a world where you think every little thing is important and who your friends with and what people think of you is of absolutlr importance and priority. Truth is youll lose contact with friends and make new ones. Youll probably never talk to these people again after thid chapter in your life. People inherently are pretty shitty creatures, never expect much from them. And than you die.
>>736403560 Smoke (vaporize technically) a breakthrough dose of DMT or do 5g of shrooms in silent darkness or do some Ayahuasca or perhaps even some Ibogaine. Maybe do all of them and if you're really hardcore all at the same time, but that would probably be a bit too much for you to handle haha.
>>736403560 if you're still here OP maybe studying some philosophy and getting older would help, just start including yourself in banter and take it as a joke when they call you something like a "fat shit" or something
>>736403560 The problem goes deeper than not giving a shit. You have to work on your confidence and be more sure about what you want to do and be happy doing it. It's not simple. In short you can't stop giving a shit if you give a shit.
>>736408737 You just got tired of being fake dude. That banter bullshit is tiresome as fuck. I have to do it in my job and it literally wears me out more than hauling shingles.
Like I thought we'd outgrow that shit in high school. I feel like I cant say 2 words without someone making a joke at my expense and its not that I cant take the joke or that I get butthurt its that I feel like nothing being said is being taken seriously and so why talk at all? I end up staying silent a lot.
Not to say I dont have confidence or something I have true real confidence the kind that comes from having an ability and being able to showcase it and garner adulation from people passing by.
The problem as I see it is what you are worried about is being worried if people see the real you because of perceived judgement. My advice is act in a way that there can be no question as to your worth whilst remaining humble socially (sounds like that may come easy).
And one last thing, always know the worst thing your enemies (or friends if thats what you'd like to call them) could ever say to you. Cause then they cant use it against you.
Look, you either do or you don't. Most people run around saying they don't care what people think of them but if you really don't care, you wouldn't even take time to post that. Basically you are either born with the capacity to not give a shit or not.
>>736409213 I recommend you people to read onto this stuff. I'm really not at all qualified to give out instructions or lectures over this subject. It's way bigger than what I can write down, and people have been doing it infinitely better than me for a very long time.
If you're really interested, you should either watch someone on youtube, or get some information from people who are more responsible and informed than I am over the web.
>>736403560 For me, it was about realizing that by far the largest group of people in your life don't and can't substantially influence your life. Thefore it would be silly to care about what they think about anything, let alone about you.
Try to be kind to whoever possible, and at least be professional. Don't gossip or start shit, be brief and clear about your intention when it's not required to not be. Handle conflicts maturally.
That way you don't ever get drama, and your life will be as stale as uncooked pasta.
>>736409408 If it makes you feel better when your reality is shitty, it's a self-induced lie. Medicating ones self with a mind altering substance to pull away from average human experiences is a bad thing. Taking substances out of experimentation for recreational purposes isn't what I would call bad, but playing doctor is a bad move. Honestly if you would like to "not give a shit" try some Opanas, Roxys, Oxys, Loritabs. You'll be hooked on heroin in a year or two and you'll learn the impacts of "not giving a shit" real fast.
>>736409589 I work at a unit that deals with suicidal and substance-addicted individuals. I have to give a shit to be good at my job, but giving too much of a shit is a horrible thing. If I end up taking too much emotional baggage home, I'll be in the same boat as the people in treating.
>>736410171 I'm going to believe you and thank you for doing that. A drowning man rarely knows whats best for themselves. The best way to care is by telling them where the boat is without yourself getting in the water. They will kick and scream at you for simply not saving them. You will feel guilty because they are in pain. But if you don't force them to swim all you do is enable them. They may smile and thank you in the short run, but don't get lulled into thinking that is help.
It is hard to go home without baggage. But you can only help a victim if you don't follow them down the rabbit hole.
>>736410612 To add to that metaphor: they're already anchored by their disease and I am in a submarine. Opening my door will simply make myself a victim to the environment as well. But I can still show them which way is up, and sometimes bump them forcibly to the surface.
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