/b/ when is it ok to drop your friends? Sometimes I feel like i just don't fit in with my old circle anymore. I've known these guys since I was 11 and everytime I'm around them nowadays I just feel like they don't respect me how i feel they should as an adult. Everytime I'm around them i feel like im the butt of their jokes. I mean i don't mind, i can take a bit of clowning, i just don't feel that connection anymore. I tell them about it but they ubfortunately they dont seem to possess the same level of awareness as I do. They just don't see things the way i do. I often times find my self on the outside of a conversation they're having. Now I know they want me around cause they call me to hang out, i just feel like I don't have that same connection we had as kids. It's just different. Should I distance myself from these childhood friends? Or am i making a mistake?
Just stop talking to them, had a "friend" I knew since 3rd grade get caught with mushrooms, ratted on me for growing them, not even my product out on bail right now. Ditch them and never look back. Once they start spacing out when you talk to them fuck em
>>734164060 nah man they don't space out, they listen to what I say, we talk and shit, but you can just feel when certain conversations arise that you can't contribute to, and that's about 80% of them. Don't get me wrong, they spot me when i need it, they give me rides when i need it, they let me borrow money when I need it, its just we mostly have nothing in common anymore.
>>734165229 and how should I ditch them. Like should I just stop talking to them or should I just talk to them over the phone but never hang out with them. It's kind of hard when you're the only person in the group that can see what really is going on.I legit see what the friend group is for what it truly is.
>>734163657 if you're as beta as you seem, they're your only friends but they have shitloads of friends besides you you should actually hang with them more and become friends with their friends eventually you'll find people you like
>>734166616 i don't care if they have more friends than me, i know this, i just no longer care enough to actually be bothered by the relationship i have with these people. The main contributing factors to me thinking this way is, i believe, some level of maturity and different interests. example, my interests are more towards politics, science, world events, shit like that. Theyre interests are more what other idiots would consider 'alpha' such as sports, cars, and 'clubbing'.
I'm in a similar situation. Some of my friends I've known since I was in elementary school have really changed. They've become the type of person I really hate, stupid, fake-manly, and racist. I don't live in my hometown anymore but whenever I come back for holidays they want to hang out and I sometimes do hang out with them but when I do they'll make a racist remark or try to prove how tough they are and it makes me cringe. Not sure what to do either but good luck
It kinda went the other way for me. Grew up in a lower class, not impoverished but close, neighborhood. I had some financial success in my early 20's. Actually a lot of financial success and became a multi-millionaire. I began to notice 3 things happening. 1) Politicians and business leaders would take my calls. 2) Hot women wanted to have sex with me. 3) My old friends stopped inviting me to their parties.
>>734167983 It'll be harder if you don't have any other friends. Try to do activities you enjoy and make friends there. You can then begin to hang out with your new friends more and them less. Not sure what your life is like but definitely try to go outside of your comfort zone and try new things.
>>734163657 If they don't respect you, then fuck 'em. You only have so much free time and emotional space, and don't need to remain as closely closely engaged as you have been. That doesn't necessarily mean "shut them out", but it does mean you should probably be looking for a better class of friends.
>>734168336 thats the funny thing about it, im actually not having any success whatsoever. The past year I have fallen on real hard times. I've always been poor, lost my every decent job ive had over some stupid shit, my car broke down, etc. There's this rap lyric that comes to mind that I've heard a long time ago, 'people frown when you up, and smile when you down And when you change for the better, shife fools stop coming around', this stuck with me through out my life, i found this to be true, and i rarely listen to rap music.
OP, I have been through this before. I had three friends that invited me to stuff and we had fun, but since college happened, lots of them have specific interests and jokes that they have made that go beyond me. Not necessarily the butt of the joke but more of just "this conversation doesn't interest me but I like having people to play games with". There is no point in burning bridges. If you feel it's right or that it's time to move on, just start going to less things they invite you to (thanks but I'm busy) and join a club/hobby/something that pertains more to you. Probably find better friends that way. And maybe still see them here or there. You never know what contacts help you in life.
>>734169872 ive been doing the whole reset life button my whole life with ex gfs, co workers, people i dont care about, family etc. These people though, i just don't know man, i think its just habit why i hang with them. >>734170237 >like a little bitch how ass hole? I'm actually trying to think shit through instead of letting my emotions make me do some irratio shit. I'm even asking for a second opinion, i think, instead of feel my way through life.
>>734163657 It happens anon. I used to have a big social circle and we were all pretty tight, 15 years later and I have nothing in common with most of them. I keep in touch with 1 or 2 who were/are my bros but the rest i let slip away. Don't feel bad about it. We all mature differently and everyone has to live the life thats best for them. Don't be a dick about it, just do a slow fade. Hang out with them less and less, that way you can part on amicable terms and you won't have any bad memories gettin in the way of the good ones.
>>734167169 Sounds like you just have different personality types. Don't burn any bridges... just don't hit them up to hang out while you're out looking for new friends. I suggest finding a bar that you enjoy by your house, or hookah bar if you're not 21
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