OK /b/, I'm totally fucked now. GF just called, she's pregnant. I'm 22, 3rd year of college and I'm gonna probably need at least 2 more to get my degree. GF and I don't live together, and my parents will be go berzerk when I tell them. Wat do? >inb4 abort, she grew up without a dad and would never abort >inb4 leave her, I'm not a fucking coward >inb4 autist asking /b/ for advice, I'm obviously retarded
>>719984395 I still suggest abortion, drill home the point that you want to raise a child properly not fuck up everything in both your lives by doing it to early. Pull some research about how it's not a fucking person yet.
>>719984522 Dubs aside, I still can't do it. She won't ever do it. She already has her degree (Masters in mechanical engineering) and thinks she could raise a child on her own at least until I finish my college, but fuck me if I let that happen.
so you need to be a man op. its your responsibility to tell her what to do. whether that is convincing her to get an abortion, give it up for adoption, or raising the child. print out some facts and talk to her and her parents.
but holy shit why would she stop taking bc if she didn't want a child...
>>719984844 Conditions would be I go back to my home town and we get married and live with my parents (which isn't that much of a problem, they have a huge house) and I get as good as a job I can with my current education...so yeah. The point is the kid would grow up in surprisingly nice environment, but I'd have to give up a lot for it.
>>719985063 She had some hormonal problems because of the pills and she was supposed to switch one some other ones, but she had to wait for a couple of monts for her system to cleanse or some bullshit like that. I don't feel like a man, I've never felt more like a child in my whole fucking life.
>>719985247 well im giving you this advice because i had a pregnancy scare a year ago or so.
you just need to be a man. you're the one who put a baby in her. you can give her the "abortion is just 2 pills and thats it" talk. if abortion is off the table, you have to think
>are you going to do some sneaky abortion shit? >are you going to convince her to give the child up for adoption? >are you going to get married to her? >are you going to raise the child?(honestly you would probably be okay doing this but its not what you want)
keep in mind this is gonna be an emotional roller coaster for you. you'll feel great if you want to keep it/ditch hit, feel like your life is over, feel bad for trying to convince her.
just don't do anything you will regret. because if you do have a child, the fact that you brought up abortion will stick in your gf's mind and poison the relationship unless you man up and show her you can't wait to raise the kid.
>>719985150 Since she has a masters in Mechanical, she can probably get a job that pays enough to provide for both your sorry ass and the kid. You should expect that for the first year until it can handle daycare, you're going to be a stay at home dad.
TL;DR Your wife has the pants in this relationship now. You're just along for the ride. Dipshit.
>>719985593 Best answer yet. Adoption is off the table as well, so yeah. The only way I see is getting married to her and actually raising the child, I just don't know how to get through with it. She literally called me 30 min ago, crying, telling me the test showed positive after 15s even though it takes a couple of minutes. It still hasn't gotten to me yet, idk when it will hit me.
>>719985749 I don't plan on being someone she has to provide for, I'm in a damn 3rd world country almost so she won't have that much of a paycheck to handle everything. Also, we would probably live at my parents house, and she's really not the hit-and-run type of girl.
having a child out of wedlock is fucking retarded, even if marriage is a meme nowadays.. you're doing your kid a disservice by having him, you and your retarded gf are obviously not ready to be fucking parents.. just abort and don't implicate some poor soul for your stupid immature behavior... and i'm not using "immature" in the sense that society does where they're trying to guilt you into doing something; im using it in the sense that you're hurting another third party because you and your gf are too proud to do the right thing. FUCK OFF if you have this kid
>>719985896 If you don't bother reading all the posts, don't even bother commenting. You're implicating that we'd be shit parents - you never know. I've always been good with kids, so was she. Secondly, the kid would grow up in a very comfortable environment, so it's not like we'd fuck him up just by giving birth.
>>719985736 Call her back and tell her you've got everything figured out and that you'll has the details out later. She needs something she can rely on right and guess what, son?
So tell her your gameplan and get her to stop crying. Talk to your parents asap and try not to look like a fuckwad who accidentally knocked up bae and more like a man taking responsibility for his new family.
They should respect you more than they're ashamed of you.
TL:DR - Act like you've got a plan even if it isn't 100% hashed out yet. Your girlfriend needs that level of reliability right now and your parents need to see that you aren't going to be a directionless fuckup and you have a workable plan of action here.
[spoiler]Or do what I said earlier and drug the baby out of her you pussy[/spoiler]
>>719985736 when shes sad just console her. be there for her and make sure you act like you got this. be confident in yourself that you can raise a child. it might be the most rewarding thing you've ever done.
>>719986047 >berzerk >implicating i'm not implicating OR implying, your fucking english the only proof that i need. stay in school and stop fucking up your life. if you can't see the pain you'll put the kid through in a broken/poor family then you should probably just keep your dick in your pants
>>719986112 She's calmed down now, and I'm here like the true autist I am, posting on /b/. The toughest part probably is telling the parents. I'm waiting for her to go see the doctor and then determine the course of action.
>>719986582 As long as she can prove the child is his, whether married or not she can get him for child support payments. If they were married then she could get him for his assets as well.
You can't prove she intentionally got pregnant, the law in almost all countries don't care about that part, what they care about is who is going to pay for the kid and if there is a father they will ensure it is always him.
>>719986047 Wait, you guys are incapable of the simple act of not getting pregnant, and you DON'T think you're going to be shit parents?
And being able to hang out at a birthday party with a nephew... Being "good with kids" has nothing to do with raising a human being.
My woman had an abortion five years ago, we found out she was pregnant at one of those shitty Christian pregnancy "choice" clinics... We used the proof of pregnancy to get the state to pay for our abortion. Was pretty great.
BUT, while we were at the pregnancy choice bullshit place, they were trying to talk us out of the abortion, and one of the ways they tried to sell us on it was to try and make us feel like grown ups, because we weren't.
Lemme tell you; a free tool kit isn't what makes a dad. Neither is a comfortable place to live. If you aren't ready, you aren't ready. It hasn't stopped anybody else from having a kid, but don't kid yourself into thinking you're going to be a good parent. Most parents are shit, it's just about getting the kid to the point where they can live without you or your shitty parenting.
>>719984395 Next time you will fuck her, be sure to not having peed for one day, and fill her vagina with that. This will do the trick. Be aware to grab her firmly about 5 minutes after if she notice something.
>>719989091 It's not that I don't want the kid or that I won't love it, but it's too damn soon.
>>719989103 There aren't people I don't like, just people I don't give a shit about.
>>719989026 I don't care about games and shit, I just want to finish my college so I don't have to work like a horse and still bust my balls about paying the bills and raising a child. Thanks for the nice reply too, appreciate it.
Wow, all the fags in this thread feeling 1 baby is bad or hard or fucked up. While I got 2 somehow and I didn't whine like a bitch when that happened. Keep the baby OP, could be hard, but not impossible, man up unlike half of the fags in this thread.
I'm going to suggest a little bit of a different path here. Have more kids. Back to back to back. Get 3 or 4 knocked out in 40 months. Then they will have each other to play with. This makes it alot easier to care for them as they will have each other's company. Also hope that your parents can give you free baby sitting. Good luck buddy.
>>719989435 Thanks /b/ro. Free babysitting probably, yeah. Even my grandma is still alive and living with my parents (we have a huge house) so that should be taken care of. And I know nothing would make her happier, even if I drop out of college. I don't know about that many kids though, seems to be expensive.
>>719985150 I don't have any kids, but you asked /b/, so here is my advise.
She seems like a good person, and your conditions for life seem to be good. Don't give up on education, this is something you may regret. I've seen people who "give up the dreams" for a kid and end up drinking or just mentally unsound.
Try to brainstorm together with her for a compromise that will get you your diploma and let you give as much time/support to her and a child. Maybe your parents could help.
Two years are not that long. You have a chance to be happy.
>>719989594 I'm not gonna lie, it is going to cost you. I figured I spent 7000 on fucking diapers for my 3. But when you come home and all your kids as so excited to see you it's the last thing you think of.
>>719989697 I know, that's my main dilemma. If I manage to get both security for her and the kid AND my diploma, I'll be a fucking wizard. Her job will be irrelevant for the first year or two since she won't go to work probably, especially if we're gonna live at my place. I just hate facing my father and telling him how much I fucked up.
Be very careful OP. Let me tell you the story of my step-sister.
My dad was young, and married a dumb whore who only married him out of interest. They had a child, not long after my sister was born, she divorced him. For 10 years, my dad tried to get back with her for the sake of his child. She was only interested in him when he had money. After 10 years, he met my mom and married her, and had me. Mom loved my sister like it was her one child, but the Dumb Whore didn't let her come, and would always yell at her if she stayed too long. And my sister also studied music, and was exactly like me, I found out just last year. Basically in the past 10 years I was like my sister. Her mother sent her in a city all by herself when she was around 14, or something, and she was all alone. My mom proposed the Dumb Whore to let her child stay at my grandparents, since it's closer and she doesn't have to pay anything and it would be easier for her. Nope. The Dumb Whore yelled at my mom. So my sister finishes highschool, and goes to college, in the other part of the country. Finishes something that doesn't have anything to do with music and moves to Germany. The last time I saw her was in 2006 I think, when she came to dad because she needed some money for college, and my dad didn't have enough at the time but said he will help her, but she didn't came back. Dad and I always suffered that I couldn't be close to my sister. She turns 30 this year. You're young, you don't know what can happen, you don't REALLY know that girl. She may be a Dumb Whore,
>>719990519 Another story of one of my neighbors : Young girl marries a guy and wants a child. He is a bit hesitant because they're young, but agrees because he loved her. When the child is about 4, she divorces him and moves to a different city, leaving the kid motherless and fatherless, both of his parents visiting him sometimes. The kid was grown up by his grandmother. He was the most bullied kid in the neighborhood (and there were only 5 kids there, including me. The other 3 were extremely religious, not catholic, but some christian cult thingy anyway), he was the most dirty and poor and everyone made fun of him. I always regret making fun of him. He was kind of abused. When he was 8 his mother came back and took him with her and her new husband to Constanta, and I heard he is doing quite good and changed. Last time I heard of him a few years back, he came to his old home and wanted to visit his childhood friends, unfortunately I did highschool in a different city so I wasn't home at the time.
>>719984395 Many unprepared and immature young couples have children because they 'feel bad' about abortion only to look back and realize they switched to a shitty path of life because of a icky feeling.
Dont let the stigma of abortion manipulate your decision
you are a fucking coward if you're asking /b/ what to do. obviously you have financial issues to worry about and you'd like to finish school. Tell your parents and ask for help.. even if they are mad at first, they should realize that your are a young man and maybe you were just moving a little too fast and started a family a bit too soon.. ultimately in the fullness of time this situation will resolve itself fine as long as they can help you and you can trust this girlfriend.
>>719984445 >Be a man and raise your child. You can do it. It'll be worth it. This. Im 39 I have a 2.5 year old son. I never imagined it will be this fun. I too thought it will suck. But it's just mainstream propaganda, having kids is awsome. Cant wait to have another one. And yes, you still get to party & have fun time with your mates.
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