What happened to all your relationships /b? im sitting here

idk

Been in love with a borderliner for 2.5 years. Worst episode of my life.

Right now i'm feeling like I'll never let anyone get so close to me ever again. Not really because i've become catious, it just seems like a bad idea.

>>719917500
True.i believe the same thing. Very few in who i trust

whenever i get into a relationship i feel really good. but after a few months of the same person i begin to take it for granted which leads to me ending it.

Right now im fucking this chick and i am very content with where we are. However she is in love with me and i dont want to reciprocate especially at this time in my life (just graduated college). The sex is fucking awesome though.

>>719917728
Any reason for that?

>>719916286
same situation yesterday OP, drinking alone my whiskey.

my gf dumped me 1 month ago after 6 years together. Im 32yo, so its pretty fucked up.

Im trying to stand up again, but tinder and other dating websites and apps are absolute garbage. I dont have any real friends as most of them are already engaged and dont want to go out anymore, so its almost impossible for me to meet new people and girls.

>>719917866
Sounds okay to me. I don't get why everyone's gotta be after that ever lasting love bullshit anyway. Do you really need that to have a somewhat fulfilled life?

>>719917955
Put my trust in too many people who have betrayed me. For now on hard to gain my trust. Walls up. Its shitty but i have realized people can be shittier.

>>719918440
cont.
Im spending the days lurking 4ch, saving porn pics, watching stupid youtube vids and growing old an alone, just thinking how great would it be to create a family with my ex.

>>719918440
Likewise. op here. Im 26 my only marriage was at 18 married for 5 years. This past relationship was a year relationship.

>>719918721
So why did it end?

>>719918490
Most girls think so. It's cool to be a slut in college but once they get to be like 26 most of them are seriously thinking they need to settle down and procreate soon, and if they haven't that by like 32 it's pretty much desperation time

>>719918721
Im thinking about the family i had with my ex. Our two kids. our family.

>>719918490
Nope which is why im not getting married ever.

>>719918858
she suddenly disappeared. there was nothing wrong between us, or thats what I thought. After 6 years you cant try to care every single day for that things, you get confy and trust her.

>so she disappeared,
>didnt answered my messages and calls
>she went to parents house, told me "everything is fine, why are you worrying? stop calling me, go on with your work" and so on
>after 10 days or so, she changed her profile picture with another guy hugging her at her home.

That was it. I didnt search for more info nor facebook, deleted her everywhere and stayed in bed for days.

>>719918490
I think for most people it's more about amicable company than ever lasting love. Sure, you still have friends later on in life but the nature of friendships changes on a very fundamental level and it's just not the same of kind of bro comradery that exists in your teens and 20s. Because most people are settling down and having families and shit. So unless you just happen to have a social circle of a bunch of 40 year old bachelors still going and partying on the weekend, most of the time the solution to this is a permanent companion who you live with.

>>719918440

Sup, 30 here. I dumped my fiance last year so I could pursue other interests. Realized my mistake, couldn't go back. Got back into drugs, lost my job, lost my family/friends and now left broke and in legal tangles with an upcoming prison sentence. I've got nothing left in my life, probably will hang myself in prison.

>>719919346
Are you fucking kidding me? That's how she ends a 6 year relationship? That is unbelievably fucked up

>>719919450
How long of a prison sentence?

>>719919346
Tbh, that sounds like you dodged a bullet there. Even if it might hurt terribly. Though too bad about the wasted 6 years.

>>719919727

Likely 2 years. Not long, but I really have no hopes of accomplishing much more after my release.

>>719919526
Forgot to say she didnt even wanted to say goodbye in person. Just a few messages and thats all. I didnt see her after all that.
But yes, she was a demon. Do you know whats worse? Im still thinking I did something wrong, or something I didnt see in time, or who knows.

The only good thing is that happened before a marriage or kids, thats the only thing that I can smile for after all.

>>719919865
Thats exactly what family and close friends said. It was fucked up, yes, but who knows if she was planning all that or even doing it at your back all those years. So yes, better alone than with that evil person.

>>719919882
What did you do?

>>719916286
A lot of things.

>>719920058

When you're jobless and a druggie you really don't come up with great ways to make money. Well leave it at that.

>>719919450
op here similar situation to almost all have posted lol. i sentenced 1 year was looking at att murder 80 years.

i was military deployed.
My ex wife came back to Germany from states pregnant. i offered to keep baby, abortion, adoption. All options. She eventually argued with me and said diryy shit how he s better in bed.i attempt suicide. In mental ward she come and say she sure me for all take kids anything you imagine she said it.i lose my shit and two counts att murder.

>>719919346
Aw man, that's a fucked up situation. After all this time together, she owes you an exlpanation. You don't sound like you're interested in one anymore though.

One month is too short to recover. Give it some time. And also spend some time alone. This helped me in my case.

>>719919398
>amicable company
Yep. Me too.

>the solution to this is a permanent companion
That's a horrible surrogate for partying.

I honestly wonder how my life's gonna turn out. I'm a 24 yo perma-single, barely interested in serious relationships, let alone reproduction.

Any oldfags that can relate to this? How did it turn out for you?

>>719919894
That's fucked, sorry /b/ro. But if it's only been a month then don't worry about trying to get back into the game, just take the time you need to get over it and move on. Work on yourself, and whenever you really feel ready, whether that's in a year or whatever then you can worry about it. There's plenty of opportunities to find others and women in their 30s and easy af to get

>>719919346
My ex who I was with for five years did about the same thing except she disappeared after telling me she was going to have an abortion. About a week later I finally get through or so I thought, her brother was the one that did the breaking up. I tried to talk to her after that which got her to report me as a stalker, even got arrested without any legal order, didn't even get my miranda rights read to me. I later ended up finding out she had been cheating on me for three months. Kid she may have aborted was probably not even mine

>>719920321
Ah say no more... So how many dicks did you have to suck for cash?

Psychotic exe's friends brainwashed her that I was going to turn her into a junkie or an alchy just because I went out on fridays for a drink, she became an asexual feminist tumblr warrior. Have a much better girlfriend now who is really fond of me and I love her to pieces

>>719920643

Proudly will say 0. Won't lie, the thought did cross my mind, but when dopesick I'm already gagging thinking about eating bread. No way I would be able to stomach a dick and warm nut juice.

>>719919346
She was also a very insecure and bipolar girl, guess I always cared for her and gave the best of me. She wasnt the trash type, finished 2 degrees, wrote a book, daughter of a known family in my hometown, she seemed to be a brilliant partner for my future.
So yes, who knows, I didnt search who was the guy, what else she did or things like that.

Right now Im trying to get fit again after getting too much comfy, weighting some lifts and so. Ive been talking to a few girls here and there but Im still not ready even for having sex. After all she jumped in the arms of another guy just in a matter of days.

Im even thinking in leaving the country, I guess Im still young even being 33 this march. But hey, thanks again guys.

Ive been writing in threads like this one since then and /b/ always surprises me.

>>719920471
>that's a horrible surrogate for partying
Yeah it's not as fun and exciting, but the point is that it's sustainable, and it's not like you never get to bro down anymore, it's just that the times are fewer and further between and more likely to be consisting of getting dinner with a friend, not spending the entire night getting shit faced and hitting on chicks. If hanging with you friends only once a month is enough for you then so be it, but most people prefer some meaningful interaction more frequently than that.

Plus, it's not like all women all crazy controlling bitches. If they are then you shouldn't be with them, period, no matter how old you are. But just having someone around the house to watch TV with is nice

>>719918440
My GF dumped me in November. 5 years toghether.
We made plans for spending our life together.
I am 35; I am stuck. I can't do anything, I have no strenght in me.

>>719920627
Anon with 6years ex.

Damn thats hard. I also contacted her brother and family advise me to stop messaging her because there was a risk for calling me a stalker and turning everything into worse. So I just fade away and tried to erase her from my mind.

>>719920860
Heroin or OC? How'd you end up getting caught?

>>719920574
Im just -afraid- in thinking about girls around their 30s. Who knows which kind of women I could find there, still singles, divorced, with kids, its not the same as having your gf from your 20s.

5 years ago this summer, the love of my life decided to break up with me.
In my head everything was going great, we were 3 years in the relationship, we had our small arguments as you do - but all in all we got a long good.
She dumped me on the Facebook chat. She couldn't even do it in person.
I sold everything I owned and moved to a foreign country. Friends tell me that she started seeing a new guy.
4 Years later, she adds me on Facebook and we start talking again.
I go back to my hometown to visit her.
Everything felt like before, like we never broke up - even though 4 years had passed.
I start thinking about moving back to my hometown and give it a try again.
I suggest it to her, she is positive to it.
I find out that the reason she dumped me is because she fancied a guy in work, the guy she started dating after dumping me.
It turned out he was an abusive prick so she left him.
After I found this out, I decided NOT to move back and give it another shot with her. She did it once, why wouldn't she be capable of dumping me again?

I have moved to yet another foreign country, and I am now happily together with a different woman.

>>719921493
Im in the same boat. But who knows the baggage that comes along with them.

No its not the same. i was married to my first love at 18.

>>719921493
There's plenty of good girls in their 30s, ones that have been in long relationships or marriages and just recently become single again, stuff like that. But yeah if they've been single all their lives then stay away from that shit because they're probably insane

>>719921213
Women are cold hearted bitches. It's been a while since it happened and I'm still feeling like shit over it

>>719921573
Does it help getting a new girl?

>>719921914
This is my third one since I got dumped, I somehow feel that this time I am actually patched up and hoping it will work.

>>719921138
>not as fun and exciting, but the point is that it's sustainable
Wow. that sounds incredibly sad to me right now.

University usually keeps me pretty busy, so I'm getting an idea how it is to lack time for friends. But seeing some of them fuckers twice or thrice a month is totally fine. I've gotten to the point realizing who really matters to me. So it's becoming quality over quantity.

>But just having someone around the house to watch TV with is nice
Actually not sure about this. I like being alone. Not saying I don't like people, it's just that I often enjoy having no one around. That's why I question the whole family life draft in regards to myself.

>>719921204
I understand you, anon. >>719919346 here.
I had to stop working, go back to my parents house at 32 (...), and trying to continue doing things. Started playing again videogames just for keeping me entertained.
This next week Im trying to finish a project I left just when all that happened. I showed it to her and how much of a liar she was, pretending she was interested.

Anyway, good luck anon, you are not alone.

>>719921784
Do you know whats worse for me? Im spending all these weekends at home, alone, and I know she is going away, having dinners and enjoying life with her new replacement like if nothing happened.

>>719916286
When I was in middle school where it was still elementary school in another district, I got angry because I was unable to fix the mechanism of this toy we had. I started getting aggressive towards my younger brother. My father got upset, and attempted to force me to stay in a room as punishment. I didn't want to stay in the room. At some point, during my attempts at leaving the room after a heated confrontation with my father, he pushed me into a television and television stand, and after further attempts at escape, he roundhouse kicked me in my leg multiple times until I laid on the floor in pain and unable to physically leave the room.
I told my father that I wanted to live with my mother from then on. He told me to wait until a certain period of time. The next day, I still wanted to live with my mother instead of him, and my mother came to pick me up.
I brought my guitars and amplifier with me.

I don't speak to my father to this day.
In that moment, he betrayed my trust.
I trusted him to keep me safe, I trusted him not to harm me, I trusted him to care for me. He broke that trust.

My father being an intellectual, with a variety of interests, he's a bit like me.
Being such a special snowflake, it's difficult for me to relate to people in any ways I'm interested in.
People who would seem to make good companions are very few, if they exist remotely at all.
Since my father relates to me just a little, even just in some interests and what not, it seems like he would make a better friend than others, but I'm reluctant to have anything to do with him; this is not extremely emotionally charged, I'm much too myself to have such intense emotions with a majority of things, but there does seem to be negative emotions still associated with my father.

I will not be communicating with him directly any time soon.

Reading all these stories.. man, I feel bad for you, /b/ros.

>>719922304
You say that now because you're in university and interact with people all day long. Wait till you have a job where you never actually have a conversation with anybody you give a shit about all day, only to come home and be alone every night, and then maybe over the weekend you'll get to hang with a friend for an hour or two, otherwise you'll just be alone then too.

Being alone is nice when you have something to compare it to. Constant loneliness is just not something most people are equipped to endure. Hence why we have so many suicidal fags on here, because this is the only social interaction they ever get

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>>719921573
>>719919346 here

Congratulations on being so strong and deciding that. It sure its hard to do that. But you have walked a long way since that happened. She dumped through a chat, found a replacement, who knows what can she do in a matter of months? You arent her toy or punching bag.

In my depression moments I always think if she asks me to go out again, I would say yes without thinking, but hell no. There are always better girls.

You did so well about moving to another country. Im currently living in Europe so, maybe I just need to do the same.

it was the 3rd grade.... i fell in love with this person who i'm sure loved me too. silly to think about 3rd graders in love but it was like a "real-deal-actually-calls-me-frequently" relationship. one day, never heard from him again. probably moved away or something

>>719922649
When I was a young elementary scholar, I lived with both of my parents in a nice split-level home.
There was a hill in the backyard, my grandfather helped us clear that hill of snakes.
I recall using a collectable sword that belonged to my father to dehead a snake. My grand father asked if my father would be okay with my use of the sword that way, I assured him that my father would be okay with it. Now that I Think about it, my father was probably not okay with that.
My father's brother was mentally unstable, and at some point, my father allowed said brother to live in the bottom level of our home.
My mother wasn't okay with that, and at some point, my father's brother wasn't allowed to live with us anymore. If I recall correctly, my father expressed regret of that.

I'm not certain but one of the main things that led to my parents separating was because my father wouldn't marry my mother, and that made my mother upset, and my mother ended up cheating on my father sexually and romantically.

If I recall correctly, my father and mother asked me who I'd like to live with. I didn't want to chose, and I got emotionally upset, and unable to produce an answer and my parents perceiving that, if memory serves right, that caused them to decide to attempt to stay together, though, they didn't end up separating relatively shortly.

One time, at that home, when I was playing with my toy gun and or bb gun outside, I pointed it at a police officer. My gun was modeled after an automatic machinegun with a scope, if I recall correctly, and it had multiple parts and attachments that could be assembled and de assembled. If I recall correctly, the police officer eventually conversed with my father, and I didn't see that gun anymore after that.

>>719923180
This, period.

When you are a student you can meet new people every day, classes, appartments, parties, anywhere. But that completely changes once you are inside the "adult" world.
Specially for me, I work as a freelance and alone at my studio through internet and nothing else, so it can be pretty fucked up.

How can you meet new people after that? Dating websites? Tinder? Webchats? Would you go alone for a drink sitting at a table and looking for girls? That could work a few years ago but world has changed and that would look like you want to rape/stalk them.

>>719923453
femanon?

from time to time i think aboutmy kid-crushes.

most of them i have contacted into teens and adulthood seeing if they remember the time i do. nope everytime. :(

>>719923503
I had a friend at that house.
We would ride our bikes with each other.

At some point, my friend and his parents were over at my home.

My parents were having what seems to probably have been relatively casual discussion. At some point, when they were going to leave, my friend was using one of the restrooms.
Since they were leaving, I thought that I'd help convenience my friend and put slide his shoes under the door while he was using the toilet so he could leave more efficiently by putting his shoes on while he was in the restroom.
Since the shoes wouldn't fit under the door, if I recall correctly, I opened the door and put the shoes in the restroom from outside of the restroom. I may or may not have left the door open.

Since my parents and I eventually moved out of that home, I never saw that friend again.

My father didn't want to bring a bag of fireworks that was in the garage.
I wanted to bring them, but my father had some reasons for not wanting to bring them. It may have been due to how there would be less space for items, and he didn't find the fireworks to be important.
Leaving those fireworks had negative emotional associations for me for some time to come.

>>719923180
I'm aware that this might change eventually. I'm just not feeling it right now. My aunt said, being an only child too, she also still enjoys and needs time alone. She's about twice as old as me, unmarried.

>Being alone is nice when you have something to compare it to.
You very much sound like you've made these experiences. I'm guessing you either have a family or want to have one?

>>719922345
I feel the same way anon. I also spend my weekends alone, tried to date other women for a bit but they all just wanted to eat at a restaurant for free. Now I just stay home playing video games, thinking my ex is probably out with her man, or staying in and doing things we used to do.

Im the kind of guy who has a lot of hobbies. Reading, films, art, exhibitions, games, mostly anything like the average 4ch user.
When I have a gf I can freely enjoy all of them. But right now Im single and I just cant spend more than 1 hour doing that, I feel Im wasting time not looking for a girl or trying to be "competent" again. Am I the only one like this?

>>719924023
Being the socially awkward child that displayed symptoms of being relatively intelligent and of Asperger's that I was, I had relatively few friends, but I had friends, nether the less.
Upon moving, I'd lost relationships with those friends.

I chose to live with my father.

From what my memory serves, my father was more expressive with his love and affection for me and presented me with gifts and bought me more toys than my mother, so I probably chose to live with him because of that.

At that home, I had my own room, but I was afraid of sleeping alone. I had many negative associations relating to multiple occasions of my father trying to leave my room after thinking that I may have been asleep, and then leaving, while I lay awake and in emotional distress.
Now, I have trouble sleeping if I'm not alone, and I often awaken with less than my usual amount of sleep and often early in the morning, if I'm sleeping in the same room as other people and not in my own home.

>>719923180
This is exactly how I fucken feel. Dropped out from college to work, havent hung out with anyone since and shit it sucks. My social anxiety is way worse because of it too so trying to meet new people is not easy, The most interaction I have is with my dealer when I pick up bud

>>719924237
Don't get me wrong, everyone needs alone time. And you'll always be able to get it sometimes, although if you have kids it's much more difficult.

I would say I am saying this half from experience and half from logic; I went to university and lived in a house with 4 guys and as a result I had shit to do, whether that was just plans we had made, parties to go to, talking with people in my classes or studying with people, or just hanging out in the living room shooting the shit. Time alone in my room was awesome and always loved to be able to recede and just play games or surf the internet.

But after I graduated and all my friends moved (and then later I moved) to other places, suddenly all of that went away. Granted I'm only 23 and it's only been like a year and I still have young friends who can hang out and get drunk so it's not quite to that level, and so I'm fine with not having a gf right now.

But I can objectively see how this is just going to become increasingly less and less socially inclined as a get older and yeah, eventually I can see how if I don't settle down with someone shit could get real lonely in the future. So like I said, it's not like I need to get it done NOW, it's more just like a vague goal I have for sometime in the next few years to a decade.

>>719924685
In pre-school, there was this African American classmate that seemed to take a liking to me. The teacher and my father seemed to have that "that's your girlfriend" type discussion which is the casual American thing with implications of joking while also having implications of seriousness, all while undermined due to the relations being between such young beings which is associated with lesser intelligence and the human tendency to place less importance of it because of the perceived inferiority of the young, and what not.

At some point, while my parents were still together, and living in the split-level home, my parents conceived and gave birth to my younger and only brother.
I recall the split for attention and affection causing me emotional distress on multiple occasions.

>>719923797
Stupid question but there's still weekends right?

>>719916286

if you have to wonder about all your past relationships you were the problem

>>719925352
Nope, saturday and sunday cease to exist, at the end of friday you just wake up and it's monday again. Really weird but you learn to live with it

>>719925541
Maybe. Im entertaining that idea and applying everything i have learned to future relationships.

Say what you will you don't know my story, and they werent all my fault.

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>>719918721
Does your name start with an M by any chance?

>>719925827

no, but everything ends for a reason. and if you can't pinpoint the reason it's most likely something you were willing to ignore, possibly your own actions.

>if you can't find the crazy person on the bus, you are the crazy person on the bus

>>719925352
Weekends with no one to hang out.
>Friends married or with kids.
>Friends who say "ok, lets go out, but my fiancee is coming too, we can have a beer but at 23pm we have to go"
>Going alone and be like that -old man- you saw when you were first going out and was looking to younger girls or trying to stalk them.
>Trying to get along with your co-workers and go out for a dinner once in 6 months.

And above all those, when you start working you dont really want to go out home. Friday arrives and all you want is to rest, do nothing or thinking about better times.

>>719925918
No

>>719925182
My cousin and I when we lived there, liked sleeping on my floor. My mother didn't like us sleeping on the floor, and told me (a lie) that rats would crawly on us and harm us. Her telling me that caused me to feel fear, if I recall correctly.

In the same room where I felt the distress from being on the floor, at some point, I was doing my homework there on the floor during daylight.
The assignment, from what my memory serves, was to alphabetize vocabulary words.
I knew that it would be more efficient to memorize alphabetical order, and utilize that knowledge to alphabetize the worlds, but for some reasons, which may have include me perceiving that memorizing was what they wanted me to do, and since what they wanted me to do caused me cognitive fatigue, and I didn't like them asserting cognitive fatigue upon me, I rebelled by not memorizing alphabetical order, and did the work in a way that was less efficient and took longer, and bored me more, and caused me more distress than if I were to memorize alphabetical order.
Due to the lack of the instant need to alphabetize things, I to this day, do not have as intimate of a knowledge of alphabetical order.
I have skill and knowledge with alphabetizing, but it's relatively lacking, from some of my perspectives.

At one point in that home, my cousin and I were playing hide and go seek, and I attempted to hide myself in a luggage bag that wouldn't fit me, which was on the floor of in one of the rooms in the bottom floor of the split-level. My cousin found my hiding space to be obvious.

At some point, in the living room of bottom level, we were sword fighting with some of my father's collectable display swords, and dulled and damaged the edges of the swords. My father did not bring upon punishment or any harshness, but from what I recall and my utilization of analysis and applied reasoning and critical thinking, he was most likely upset about our use of the swords.

It's so hard to meet new people. I pretty much just feel like offing myself to get rid of the loneliness

So many elements caused them to fail and I don't deny that I had something to do with it. However I think a lot of it has to do with a general cultural decline which, really none of us are immune to. Dating in the modern world has become dysfunctional and toxic as a result of feminism, cultural marxism and materialism. That's my two cents in a nutshell anyway.

>>719926059
Oh, thought I knew you. But I have a friend in a similar situation.

What about hobbies though?

My gf left me because of my depression

>>719926408
When they are with you only through thick. Drowning in the shallow end.

>>719926059
Phew sounds rosy.
May I ask about your stance on the whole family thing?

>>719926408
undiagnosed bipolar at the time but same situation.

>>719926376

this >>719924576 . Im not really in the mood of spending my time with hobbies right now. I dont know how I finished FFXV last month.

I guess its all about time, it heals everything, or at least trying to forget everything. Ive learnt everytime I think about my ex and what she did to me or what she will be doing I force myself to erase that thinking.

>>719926592
Im actually this guy
>>719919346
>>719919894
>>719920954

So I was trying to create a family, going on with my job and improve my life until everything got screwed up.

Last night i had to chase after my drunk gf through the woods. She went behind a neighbors house along the fence to a small path. To her left was the fence. Straight ahead was a nature preserve. To her right was a 45 degree slope that goes down at least 50 ft to a creek that is overwhelmed with water run off from the freak upstate NY weather. I literally had to pin her against the fence in order to stop her from throwing herself over. All this because Taco Bell was closed and she wanted tacos. Way more to the story but yeah. Idk if I should stay with her or leave here.

>>719926877
>time, it heals everything
Nah man, it just replaces memories, very slowly though.

I know it's not that simple to go and try to find someone else, but what is currently holding you back from doing so? Like what seems to be the biggest barricade or struggle?

>>719927021
Only bigger problems to come when drunk. From exp.

Either be smart about who/when/where you drink and how much! Or drop her. It only gets worse.

>>719927230
Wow. time Just replaces memories.

Couldn't be much truer.

>>719926877
Circle closed, this is me
>>719917500
>>719918858

>I guess its all about time, it heals everything, or at least trying to forget everything.
You won't forget, but, also speaking for myself, there's a high chance that everything's gonna be okay again eventually.

I get that you're devastated as of now, but it will change.

>>719927230
Im actually trying to meet someone new. Talked with a few girls here and there, met 3 of them in person, the best one said she was sorry she didnt felt "the chemistry" for starting something with me.

I dont really know if I want another girl right now. I can have sex with another, but at the end of the day I prefer to lay on my sofa, watch some porn and wait for a new day.

Its been only 1 month since the break up, I guess I should start thinking by myself, go on with my projects, send them to a foreign company and try to look for a new life away from here.

>time, it heals everything
>Nah man, it just replaces memories, very slowly though.

And thats really true, at the end all my ex girlfriends are stored in my memories in several different ways, forgeting a lot of details and remembering only the best moments which always make you smile while nodding. I wish I could be stronger to live my life alone.

>>719926174
I don't exactly recall all of the specifics of what happened after my parents separated and we moved, but at some point, my father, my brother, and I, I don't remember if my youngest and only sister, besides my oldest sister and sibling which I hadn't met besides one time if ever, was also with us at that time. At that time, my father spend is life savings caring for us in hotels. At some point, my brother and I lived with my mother. It may have been due to my father's unstable living situations after the separation. My mother had an African American boyfriend at some point. If I recall correctly, my father had visitations on the weekends, or something like that. At some point, may have been my father's visitation day, and my mother wasn't at the home but her boyfriend was, and my father came to pick me up, my mother's boyfriend answered the door. My mother's boyfriend claimed to only drink a single beer a day. At some point, when my mother and father were having what was probably a somewhat heated discussion some time relatively shortly after, my father mentioned that his breath smelt like beer.

At some point while I was living there, I had a friend, he had glasses, and white. He was younger than I was. At some point, my friend's father told me that he wanted to meet my father. I wasn't told why, and I didn't know why. I told my father, and my father said he couldn't make it. May father may have had a suspended driver's license at the time. My father asked why, and upon not having an answer, he asked if it was for permission to do something. My mother's Asian boyfriend offered to pretend to be my father since my friend's father asked to meet my father. It seems like my mother's Asian boyfriend assumed that the reason was for permission to do something, so he met with my friend's father. My friend's father later asked me if that was my father, and I said yes, since he was in a way my father at the time, and my mother's boyfriend told me that.

>>719927794
Thanks anon, big hug. /b/ should have IDs again.

I should be sleeping now, 1:50 AM here and I have to wake up at 7.
Some nice people here on /b/ from time to time. See you guys and good luck, never fall again into the traps of your evil exes.

>>719927794
>>719928256
Hugging back bro. Same time zone here, Don't tell me you're a germanfag too lol

A'ight, good night anon.

>>719927891
Well that's good, that you're getting out there, just don't force yourself to find someone.

Yeah, you could use this time to focus on yourself instead of the "us", do what you normally can't do and when you're content to prioritise differently.

Being able to live your life alone doesn't really require strength man, normally you'd love something more like your work/hobby/whatever than trying to give that to an actual person, so don't worry.

>>719927929
Later when I was in high school thinking about that, and more after a few years of my interest in psychology and my hours of time spent studying it over those years, it seemed like my friend's father perceived what an intelligent, curious, knowledgeable, and skilled, child I was, and my friend's father being an intellectual, was interested in meeting the man that conceived such a child, thinking that my father would make a good intellectual friend.

Thinking about it, that I've done years ago, it seemed like my friends father was raising my friend to be an intellectual.

At some point while I was living there, I had already gained my martial arts knowledge and skill. I wanted to have a friendly fight with said friend. My friend asked his father for permission, and he did not obtain it.
My friend, most likely due to conversing with his father, wanted to simulate things in fighting instead, simulations that some would believe would prove who would win in a fight.
Things along the lines of: If I can move faster than you can with his move before you can react, then I would win in a fight because of it.
We did one of those simulations, and I faked a side kick, and he reacted and ended the simulation before we continued. He seemed like he was taken by surprise. After later conversions with his father, they seemed to have concluded that they couldn't be sure of who would win a fight due to their lack of accounting for unaccounted for variables.
It seemed like his father at some point thought I wanted to fight him because of competitive nature and wanting to know who was superior, rather than my desire to fight for entertainment.

I recall his father saying something along the lines of "the art of fighting."
Like he was taken by surprise at something like fighting to be tactically and strategically complex.
Kind of like thinking: Huh... dishwashing technique...