as someone who does both, its pretty much the same
i had someone do this to me unannounced and it almost sent me through the roof screaming.
Ouch! That's just rude! I happen to like butt stuff but I still need to be prepared for it
not even a courtesy spit? yeesh
nay, not even that.
Butthurt, severe butthurt
id have been receptive to the idea if asked and prepared...
my few experiences with it involving a person and not a toy all resulted in lots of butt hurt and soured any draw it might have.
i still have toys for it i try every now and then, its just something that the taught and lust over seem to be much more fun than the actual activity