Sorry I'm late as fuck on this. The holidays turned into a bender for me.
>went to restaurant for dinner with parents >showed up an hour early and sat in my car to see who they brought with them >they arrive and didn't see anyone walk in with them other than my younger sister >go to the bar in the restaurant and have a drink before going to their table >built my courage up and walked to table, said hello, gave formal greetings to them all. >sat down and ordered drinks, my mother shuddered when I ordered a scotch >normal conversation until my father says "listen anon, we've got something serious to discuss. Since you've decided walked out on me and your family we need to get something's in order" >the suit who was sitting at the table adjacent to us perked up and came over to the table with papers in hand. >they wanted me to sign papers saying I wouldn't ever try to claim any of my fathers money, that I wouldn't bother my sisters after my parents passing, and that I wouldn't use the family name in any way that would harm the family business. >waitress brought the drinks mid conversation. >just took a kiss of my scotch and poured the rest onto the papers that were on the table >walked out and drove home.
15 missed calls and 10 emails later, they can still go fuck themselves. Should've stayed home /b/.
>>717526744 >>717526390 I made a thread two days before Christmas Eve about my parents getting ahold of me after years of no contact wanting to have dinner. Explained the entire situation, and asked /b/ for help deciding cause everyone I knew was giving me generic "do what you want" answers. Anons collectively decided I should go, and I promised follow up greentext about how it went down. After dinner I went into a bender that ended late last night. So here's the follow up.
>>717528682 I didn't screencap it and I doubt anyone else did. It was just me explaining how I come from a wealthy very religious family, and when I turned 18 was given an option of working under my father, becoming an evangelist, joining the military or lose any chance of inheriting my families wealth. I chose the last and have made my way since I was 18. I'm 26 now and have an average paying job, live with my two roommates who are fantastic women whom I'd trust with my life. My parents had somehow tracked me down after the years and wanted to have dinner with me, I didn't know what to do cause everyone was giving me bullshit answers, so I asked /b/.. anons collectively said I should go.
>>717530572 You don't understand anon, and that's my fault for not making it clear. The way I grew up was very, very wealthy, and I acknowledge my luck in that sense. But physical and mental abuse in the lords name was a common thing in my household. By saying that I didn't want to have a crew cut or wear a suit to church resulted in me reciting bible verses about men dressing like women while the rest of my family ate dinner, every night for 2 weeks.. Me getting caught drinking vodka that me and my friends stole ended up with me having my hands in the table and my mother reciting the verse about men drinking to be drunk, with a switch coming down on my fingers every syllable.. if I moved my hands, my little sister had to join me in the punishment. Because I was the older sibling, and I was responsible.
>>717530572 Very religious families I know usually prioritize their religion first. It's fucked up. You leave the religion and they think you're turning your back on everything good and right because they are delusional.
>>717531535 drinking is not a sin faggot you should had been a man and slap the shit out of your mother while drunk, while beating the shit out of your dad saying you were the young blood. should had learned more bible son
>>717531681 this is for not paying attention to bible bro honestly, you can come up with verses in fact I could beat the leaving shit out of your dad then fuck your sweet noice sister. while explaining them why jews im not sure just learn to bible.
>>717526019 So let me make sure I'm reading this correctly.
You're from a religious house hold, where mental and physical abuse was common place, and was brought up with religion forced down your throat. You decide to leave and get away from that abusive life, only to have your parents contact you years later under the guise of a family dinner and they try to serve you with waivers of your right to the family inheritance?
>>717531875 Yeah, I'm aware of that. My parents are dogma locked.. They even mentioned that they made a mistake buying dinner at a place that served alcohol. The more they dig their heels into their inane beliefs, the bigger they think their house will be in heaven.
Also, my father can afford lawyers that would put OJ's lawyers to shame.
>>717532358 The fuck just tell your dad in front of everyone that drinking is not a sin, that JesusChrist turned water into the most awesome winne in a wedding that if he thinks that he is better than JesusChrist or something.
After reading >>717532358 I'm still of the opinion that OP should consult with a lawyer, and burn the 'Holier than thou' platform they are standing on. Physical/Mental abuse on a child, as well as a child who didn't deserve it, proverbial brain washing, and attempting to serve legal action against someone for no reason other than the fact they emancipated themselves is what's royally fucked. I'm sure there is a strong lawsuit in there, and some child abuse claims that can be thrown in for good measure so OP could get his sister out of there before she becomes a brain dead sheep too
>>717526019 My advice.. they can go fuck themselves. By walk out on them I'm assuming they mean you have your own life and get by on your own, meaning you don't need the money anyways. Imo family has nothing to do with blood, it's the people who are there for you through whatever you're experiencing, whether it be good or bad. You don't need them. Focus on the people who actually care about you.
>>717532160 Yeah, you've pretty much got it.. like I said, I have a good life now, live with two wonderful women, and I can honestly say that everything I have is because of me. I work with my hands building homes, bridges and so on. I've gone from living the lux life with my family, to literally living in a tent bathing in the river, to where I am now. I also help at a food pantry once a month, all I do is carry boxes out for people, but it makes me feel better, so that's something I guess.
>>717532924 You're a good man OP. If i could ask you to do something, anything, it would be to get your sister out of there before she falls prey to the same treatment. I come from a religious family myself, and although not as extreme as yours, I know they can be outright fucked up in the head. The treatment they give to girls and teenage girls makes my stomach churn.
>>717533097 Yeah, it's bad. I cannot imagine what my sisters have gone through, ones older than me and one is younger. But they both have stayed with my parents and have kept close to them. At this point, I'm too removed to have any influence on them.
They could still make trouble for you I think. Could force some sort of litigation especially if they have as much money as you make it sound. Do you live in different states because if they file something in their state it could force you to have to appear there.
>>717534061 I live states away from them, have had zero contact until 2 days before Christmas Eve.. I was already 18 when it all went down. And yes they have that much money. If I end up having to go to court with them for whatever reason, I will, if only to avoid a charge.
>>717534167 grow a pair bro honestly say dad im not signing that shit , smack your mother hire two dangerous niggers for 20 bucks and tell him I warn you I warn you ..... he will be like what the fuck is he warning me about be anxious the profit is you will be invited to more family gatherings. just do that so you dont get anxiety and shit
"And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers; For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ: Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ: That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive;"
This won't make any sense but I will help you out bro. I'm like the son of man and shit ok. So I am gonna punish your parents, take theirmoney(all of it) and give you a lot. Not because I am righteous or some shit, for the lulz.
>>717526019 see OP some satanist or what the fuck is in that picture is giving you hope me a catholic giving you advice then you get this guy things seem to be getting better for you already >>717534629
>>717534375 Civil court isn't for charges like criminal charges. It is supposed to be for settling damages and other things. But what it is used for all to often is draining someone's finances. They could bring a frivolous suit against you requiring you to spend all your money while they have shit ton at their disposal. Now some judges might figure that out but you said your dad was in resources so if it is oil or natural gas or coal then he probably has judges in his pocket. And they will drain you financially until you are forced to sign those documents.
>>717535464 Fuck.. you're right.. that didn't even come into play in my mind. I mean, I don't have a whole hell of a lot for them to drain, but it would still destroy me if I had to do that. Still yet I know my father, and it's not about the cash or anything, it's just about him getting me to sign that paper, as much as I dislike him, I don't see him taking it to that lengths.
>>717531535 This is probably something you've considered before, but you have the rights to your own life, and could write an autobiography that would shed light on the abuse you had to live through. Not only would this be helpful for fellow survivors (which you are), but your family would inevitably try to sue for libel, which would only serve to provide publicity. Of course, you'd have to find a publisher who was sure enough that it would be a profitable endeavor to provide the lawyers for the show-trial, but you'd use bottom-tier lawyers, intentionally lose the case, and change the names - but then when you publish, everyone would know it was real anyway. Of course, it would be difficult to tell your story and relive those experiences, but something tells me you do it anyway, so you might find closure and justice in the same enterprise...
>>717536287 I have considered things like that, but honestly, I am the only son, of an only son, of an only son. Thats been one of the big factors in all this, that I am the only one to carry on the "pure family name".
I am the captain of the ship right now, and the goddamn ship is going down with me.
>>717536287 If OP can barely keep a thread alive, what makes you think a lot of people would want to read about his gay life and his gay little rich boy problems? You do realize there are millions and millions of people who wake up every day and genuinely wonder if they will be able to do what it takes to survive the day? I don't think people care that op got busted for stealing liquor and underage drinking and his parents made him say a few Hail Marys
>>717526019 Lawyer here. Don't sign shit. Go see a lawyer and get some kind of settlement. You have already lost all your honour, so you can at least try to get a few bucks oit of the deal to support your benders
>>717536863 OP's anonymous, Mr. Edgelord, sir. I don't know who he is. That's sort of how this board works, in case ya forgot. But if there's money, then there's power. And if there's power, there are connections. And if there are connections, there's a story that people want to hear. Especially old people who still read books. I'm not a publicist or an agent, but I'm pretty sure a deeply religious millionaire family who literally beat their children while reciting bible quotes would garner more than enough interest for at least a Lifetime adaptation. Plus, OP is actually likeable and very self-aware, and can write well.
>>717536735 But don't you feel like letting their secrets die with you is somehow an act of complicity? I'm going way beyond my boundaries by asking this, so I apologize if I'm coming off like an asshole, but it just seems to an outsider that revealing the monster to the light is the only way to truly destroy it...
>>717537455 The monster is dying regardless. Others will write stories better than I ever could.
>>717537507 These girls pulled me out of fire, I would never expose them. I know that blasphemy as far as /b/ is concerned, but it's just not happening.. >>717537735 You don't understand the use of a good bender.. in these past few days I communicated everything I needed to and got everything off of my chest..
>>717537108 Well sign the docs then and leave the people be. I would suggest that you write a letter that you leave with them when you sign the document and in which you explain to them how they convey god's love by abuse and intolerance to the extent that they were willing to cut they're own child from their lives. Also use some examples from the scripture where their god acted differently to them. Then end the letter by saying you forgive them and that they remain in your prayers
>>717537728 See, now that's why you need to tell your story - you are basically the embodiment of owning and abdicating your privilege to live an honest life... this is Gautama Siddhartha level shit, man! And having a drug problem is actually cultural capital, because it humanizes you and you don't try to shy away from it... I mean, I'm not trying to meme you here, but your position of Ethos is actually very significant, because you were born with a unique vantage point of being "inside the bubble" of wealth that so few people have access to, and yet you recognize how much bullshit that actually amounts to. You actually deserve a lot of credit, OP. I'm legitimately moved by your story.
>>717537455 OP would write the next "a million little pieces" a made up story to garner attention. His parents clearly should have beat him a little harder. This thread hasn't even been up that long and we already know that OP has been on a bender the past few days and is 400 in debt to his cocaine dealer. He sounds like a piece of shit. No sympathy here.
>>717538632 Op here, my story isn't that pure.. as another anon said, I am near a piece of shit..
I will spend the rest of my life trying to make up for my childhood and it still won't be enough.. I am aware of my situation friends, and I am aware that I am awful. But know that I try to make things at least halfway decent in my life..
This my last post here, have a drink for me anons..
I'm fucking trying..
>>717539348 Good on you, I quoted butters in the original thread..
>>717538912 I admit, I'm probably projecting my own desire onto your position out of the naive belief that we have a responsibility to expose the truth of our abusive relationships. I know it's presumptuous, and likely callous, and I sort of feel bad for being so gung-ho about it. But I just feel like this is a story that needs to be told, you know? I obviously don't know you, but I get the genuine sense that you value people more than anything else... and right now, in this fucked up culture with our sick kink for dehumanization and dismissal of others in the name of the most petty differences - it's something to be celebrated. But I won't prattle on about it. I'm just glad that you're alive and well enough to post, and you're keeping perspective. Keep up the hard and thankless work of being a good human :)
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