I have a problem. My first girlfriends were virgins (though I didnt do shit with them. it was a different time) last two weren't. With the last two, it had always been an issue. I am still a virgin and I'm glad. I'll only lose to someone who's also a virgin and with whom I get to truly love. I've got these questions for you: >Did you lose your virginity to a virgin? If not, how did you cope with his/her past? >Do/Did you feel pressured into losing it? >Would you only lose it to a virgin or not? >Have you been with someone not virgin after losing your virginity? How do you cope with his/her past?
I was dating a virgin after the one I lost my virginity to and I broke up with her, am now with someone who was not a virgin and am much happier because we are more compatible.
The more time that passes the less chance you have in finding a virgin, so just accept that you're gonna end up with a non virgin, do you honestly think you're gonna find someone at 25+ who is both attractive and a virgin? That being said, don't go and fall in love with the first person and get into a long term relationship with them, because you'll feel shit that they're more experienced. Go fuck some uggos on tinder or some shit and get your number up so you're on equal experience levels with the eventual 'one'
>>717395304 1. No. And you cope with it by not taking yourself so seriously. The world actually doesn't revolve around you. There will be few instances where you're actually the first to do something (or someone). 2. Pressured myself because I was a late bloomer (lost virginity with 20) - seduced a girl two years older, had her take my virginity and dropped the relationship. Not a good way to do it. Would've prefered a prostitute in hindsight. 3. That's nonsense. Two virgins going at it is going to be the most awkward shitshow you'll ever see, especially when all their expectations of the act are either derived from romance novels/movies or from porn. 4. I have, I cope with it the same way I cope with it in 1.
>>717396396 I'm not immature. I just feel like shit when I realise how they've been fucking others in the past while I'd be "giving my v-card to them" and making them special. I guess we just have different points of view. I'd much rather not feel like shit because of this.
>>717396904 Well, if it's that special to you, you should probably do it with someone you love without regard of the status of her hymen. They'll be special either way, might as well make them carry the whole weight.
After losing my virginity at 22, I thought it would be way otherworldly experience. Nah, just sex. Like jerking off, but better. She was 20 years older than me and taught me wild stuff. Was dissapointed because put pussy on the pedestal, but athe the end of the day, my world didn't like change or anything lol.
your putting way to much fucking thought into this. You have low self esteem and are insecure about people with experience (which is natural). Virginity is not special its just apart of life get rid of it and move on. If it special to you then lose it with another virgin that way your tiny ego isn't hurt further. However, upon losing it you will find its almost nothing and wonder why you cared so much about it.
>>717395304 I am a female. I lost my virginity to a virgin. I felt pressured, but I liked losing it to a virgin. I took three virginities after that. Two of the three guys didn't tell me they were virgins until afterwards. I felt bad, but I guess that's what they wanted.
>>717397060 The problem is that I still feel like shit and I feel like they are... say... dirty. Harsh word, but it is how it makes me feel. And it annoys me now that I'm feeling pressured into finding one real soon while she's still a virgin. And yes, saying this all makes me feel like shit. Glad this site is annonymous.
>>717397710 I feel you man. Not so much on the "dirty" part unless the girl is a whore, but I agree with the idea of finding a virgin. I'm the anon who said it was the way it's supposed to be btw. All these guys telling you to just ditch the virginity and get with the experienced girls because it's more fun are only enjoying a shallow imitation of what true love and good sex with the person you love is like. If all you wanna do is get you rocks off that's one thing... but you can do that yourself or with anyone and ultimately it's unfulfilling. If you want to experience real companionship and meaningful sex, wait for the right person (virgin or not, but preferably virgin if possible) and stick with her... and LOVE her, don't just fuck her.
Why do you care? You're overly focused on an issue that has no measurable effect on your life to the point that now it's actually having a negative one because you're denying yourself one of the greatest possible pleasures you can experience with the limited time you have on Earth.
I'm not telling you to spiral into degenerate hedonism, but I promise you this overly puritan shit is going to make you miserable in the end.
>Did you lose your virginity to a virgin? If not, how did you cope with his/her past? No. I had known her for years, including when she was a virgin. If I had had game as a kid I could've been the one, but I fucked that up, so I takes what I can gets >Do/Did you feel pressured into losing it? Yes, but not by anyone else. I pressured myself because it's a pretty simple rite of passage. Modern males have one simple task to become a man, and if they don't do it in a timely manner then something is wrong with them. >Would you only lose it to a virgin or not? No. That's dumb if you're 18 or older. Normal people have had sex by then. >Have you been with someone not virgin after losing your virginity? How do you cope with his/her past? I'm an adult, I have sex with other adults, we all have our own past.
>>717398870 It did when I was younger. I try to stick to porn if I'm not in a relationship. I'm terrified of STDs. About 1 in every 5 people in America has genital herpes, and 90% of them don't know that they have it.
>>717398931 Lol way to just pick the one who agrees with you as the 'most experienced' and ignore all the other advice.
He's right. Wait for the right person if that's how you feel, but most of the people telling you to lose it and then look for that right person are saying so because you 100% are not going to find true love if you limit your dating pool to a tiny percent of the population that reduces every year you age.
Waiting for a virgin and finding true real companionship will likely not both be possible.
>>717399440 It was kind of fun. He was talking to me as a friend and explaining how hard he tried to lose it. He was 22 and I was 18. I was just like, "I'm really good at it. You should let me do it." We're still friends. He has a girlfriend.
If virginity is that important to you, that's fine. Just realize that isn't the case for everyone; avoid looking down on/insulting people for not having the same priorities tastes as you.
You owe it to any partner to be upfront about something like this (not first date, that would be weird, but when you start getting intimate). You can't build a healthy relationship if you're constantly viewing a partner as inferior.
>>717395304 I lost it to a massive whore. I wanted to save my virginity for a girl who i loved also.
> work with slut super cute very tight body face average as fuck > get drunk af with the boys down at the skatepark > one of the other bros wants to bang her so she gets an invite > head back to bros house drink so much i throw up and go lie down and pass out > wake up to her on top of me kissing me and giving me a wristy > dafuq.jpg > taste of vomit in my mouth and she is loving it apparently > best wristy of my life > tell her im going to blow my load and try to make her stop but she doesnt so i shoot a giant load all over the sheets and my mates bed > fuck fuck fuck go to find mess and there isnt any > bitch was riding my dick and how fkn drunk i was i thought it was a handjob > first time for me was getting as we coined the term wristy rape > furious, kick the bitch out never talk to her again
Bitch quit the job as i told everyone what she did. Technically raped as i wouldnt give consent evet especially to a massive slut who in gr10 had already fucked 20 older guys that I knew of.
> Tldr got wtisty raped
Another friend had a land whale do that shit at a party for senior year finishing. His gf went ballistic on the beach and he was passed out drunk. Kekkles
>>717395304 1, no, we fooled around when younger highschool years, after hs we did it. wish I would've in hs when we both were but whatever. 2, the urge in my dick when feeling her up I did 3, meh It it what it is 4, yes and I don't care as long as my partner is clean i.e. no stds
>>717399367 I regret being a late bloomer, but that's not really my fault
And, actually, yes, when I was 20 I was still kind of hung up on sexual stuff the same way that OP is, but I was having casual sex with a really sexy 22 year old. I wanted an exclusive relationship, but she wanted to keep it casual (i.e., she wanted to keep fucking all her other casual boyfriends too). We broke it off amicably because neither of us was willing to do it the way the other wanted. I regret not just getting over my own hang-ups and doing things her way. We could've had much more fun together.
>>717399780 The most common curable std and most people dont even know they have it is Trichomoniasis. Most college people who fuck a lot have it. Commonly mistaken for thrush. 1 in every 100 people have it
Uhuh, and I'm telling you from experience that having had sex before doesn't somehow detract from the experience when you're doing it with someone you love.
You could argue I wouldn't really know, and I could argue the other guy wouldn't really know because the situations are mutually exclusive. All I can work with is reasonable assumptions, and speaking from experience, when you're making love to someone genuinely special to you, the absolute last thing you're ever going to think about is anyone else you may or may not have fucked in your life. It's just them and you.
Again, I'm not telling you to go nuts. I'm just saying you're overly preoccupied with something that isn't worth a fraction of the energy you're putting into it.
>>717399871 She knows he's not a virgin. He hasn't been dating her that long. I was there when they first met. I don't know if he told her that we had sex. He probably hasn't told her, but it would be soon to talk about his sex past. They've been dating for two weeks.
>>717395304 i was a supervirgin in my mid 20's, lost it to a friend of a friend who had fucked somewhore between 10 and 20 guys. it bothered me for some reason but i didn't have a conscious problem with it, i just didn't like feeling like she had done all these things and had all these experiences that i didn't have. we dated briefly.
your best bet is to fuck someone who isn't a virgin, and keep doing that, and just make a bunch of stupid mistakes and learn from them. then at some point you'll be with someone who has fucked a million guys and that will bother you a little or it won't, because you'll be satisfied with what you've done in your past.
also, when you start doing things, you'll understand what it feels like to have used to fucked and cared about someone, and to not give a shit about them anymore, and that will help it not bother you.
I lost my virginity when I was 13, to my highschool sweetheart who @ the time was 14 also a virgin. We didn't make it past 18/19 together respectively and that fucked me.
Yeah..I wouldn't of wanted to lose it to anyone else.
Current partner is younger then me by 3 years (21 now, 18 y/o gf) She's had sex with 4 other guys and at the start it put me off but I'm the one smacking her face and strangling her now so idgaf but I doubt this will last too marriage, I want to die alone.
>>717395304 1. No, I didn't think about it. I accepted it beforehand and moved on 2.Yes. I was 22, and i'm a guy. No explicit pressure to "get some pussy", but with every passing year there were more stories about more sex, more often. I wanted my own stories (even though i'd never actually tell them to 90% of the people sharing their own). I felt left out. Little did I know the story I would end up having would be so bad that i'd swear off until I found true companionship. 3. I wanted to, but as you get older it becomes less and less feasible/reaslistic 4. My losing-my-virginity experience was so bad, I have not had sex in the 3 years that have passed since then. But the urges are strong. While i haven't had sex, I've given/received oral, and that too, was with someone whom I did not have any companionship with, nor did I even know, and further solidified my resolve to limit myself to familial and/or intimate relationships for anything sexual.
Unless the person is astronomically attractive and I would be an idiot to pass them up.
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