>met the girl of my dreams >everything is going swell, couldn't be happier >tells me we need to talk >turns out she was raped when she was 8 >been raped multiple times since >one rapist gave her herpes >wot.jpeg >my life is in shambles right now i dont know if i should stay or leave
My whole life I've always wanted to be in a relationship, I've always wanted someone to think of me as more than just a friend, but I've never found someone that I liked in that way, either. Luckily for me, nobody has ever been interested, either. But I recently fell in love for the first time in my life. All those songs and movies make sense now, and I understand what they all mean. Too bad she doesn't feel the same way about me. I want to go back to not feeling again.
>>704526288 Here's my faggy story >9 years ago >playing an obscure Korean mmo >meet dude in it >he's pretty cool >we end up becoming friends, leveling up together, creating a guild, etc >I'm 13/14 with summer to spare so this goes on all summer >school gets closer, we exchange skypes and steam acounts, then part ways. >we don't talk as often but keep in touch over the years. Fast forward to now >just got out of unhealthy relationship. Not abusive, just unhealthy >decide to focus on friends >get back in touch with old friend, we'll call him C >it's the summer and I've had surgery recently, so I've neither got work nor school >C and I chill like old times >C introduced me to his online friends, I introduce him to mine >C and I both vent and support each other about our past relationship issues >C and I plan a meet up (we only live a few hours away from each other and have known each other 9 years after all) >C starts flirting with me >I'm not feeling it but I let him do it But >one night I get upset over something dumb. C comforts me I don't know why but that night changed things. My feelings really became apparent to me. I liked him. A lot.
We're together now, meeting up next month. It's weird and I'm not sure what to say about it
I shared this before, but whatever. Time to vent and die a little on the inside
>be me >been dating literal 9/10 named Rachel since sophomore year of highschool >she's perfect and I love her >graduate high school >I plan on asking her to marry me >3 weeks after graduation, she breaks up with me >she wont tell me why >feel lost and heartbroken >hound her for days on why >she finally tells me >apparently she found out that she was actually lesbian Junior year >she started secretly dating a mutual friend of ours since senior year >she didn't want to live a lie anymore or to lead me on >I'm devastated >2 years pass >crippling depression and constant suicidal thoughts >it seems like she ignored me for that duration >try my best to stop loving her, but I can't
>>704531969 >get a call from out of the blue >it's her >she's clearly upset >she tells me that she is going to get married to her gf, but her dad and brother don't accept her so they won't walk her down the alley and give her away >she asks me to do it >says I'm the closest guy to her >tell her I'd think about it >friends and family tell me not to do it >I don't really want to do it either, but I still want to marry the woman I love and this is the closest thing I can get >tell her yes >she's ecstatic >day of the wedding >her family shows up begrudgingly >give her away and do my best not to cry >feel kind of happy since she's happy >during the reception, I sit alone and just kinda watch everyone >former gf's new wife walks over to me >she's kinda irritated >thinks that I was upset for years because I hated them for being gay >do my best to hold back anger >spill my heart to her >tell her how much I loved her, how I was depressed and suicidal for years, how I wanted to marry her >she looks like she's on the verge of tears >quickly apologizes >she hugs me >I tell her to take care of Rachel >then I left >get a call a few days later >Rachel's crying and apologizing saying that she didn't know how much I cared for her >we're all good friends now and often go out to watch movies and stuff
I'll never get over losing the only woman I ever loved, but seeing her happy makes me happy.
Maybe I'm just emotionnally stunted ot autismal as fuck, but could somebody explain to me why people get into serious relationships ? Here's the faggy story of my life for context purposes: >Be me, 18 >Have first relationship with very kind girl >Not really in love but she was gentle and understanding, and she wanted to be with me >Her first LTR too >Both virgins >Discover relationships together >Fast forward a year later >We break up because things have gone sour >Get new gf 2 months after that >Unstable hipster bitch >Gets knocked up by a "friend" of mine >Tries to pass the child as mine >I find out all of this bullshit and make her life a living hell >Fast forward a month after that >I'm in a band with my best friend >Go to a rehearsal >End of rehearsal, hear the bell ring >Best friend opens >It's first gf >Shit enough bricks to make The Wall ten feet higher >Mexico will only have to pay for its construction now >abstractkindoffeel.jpg >Go to party eith friends and her that night >We kiss >And here we go again, second LTR with her >Fast forward a year and a half >All emotions are gone for me >Relationship gets suffocating >I'm completely alcoholic >Get piss-drunk every night for a month >Gf finds out >We break up >I decide to get my shit together >Stop drinking, start working out, focus on hobbies etc. I don't feel sad anymore, but I wonder why people commit to each other, how they can be in "love" and open up to their partner when relationships always end like shit and leave you a broken mess.
>>704532477 You're right anon, but what I do not understand is how this thing they call "love" can stay forever. I feel like I'm always gonna get bored of the relationship at some point in time, and it always end badly, no matter how good it has been. It's always a sure way to suffer. And don't even get me started on marriage and having kids. Even moving together with a girl seems stupid to me. >I'm sorry for your bad experiences Don't feel sorry for me anon, those experiences have been enjoyable amd made me grow up, even if I'm disillusioned now. Thanks for reading this.
>>704533212 Thank you for sharing with us anon. It's hard to say exactly what makes people including myself become drawn to love. I think it might be that people just want to be wanted by one another and enjoy each other's company.
>be me 15 >today sep 18 16 >very sick coughing up blood >NoIDidntTellMyParents.avi >mom and pops argue alot >pops says he is leaving >mom flips her shit >pops took all his clothes and his duffle bag >he is leaving tomorow >i hated my mother for all my life >she constanly tells him to leave >lazy piece of shit wont get a job and pops is the only one to pay the bills >mom yells at me >blames me for the reason why pops is leaving >i dont even know what to do >im sleeping on a mattress right now >i gave my blankets to my dad so he could sleep in his truck >cause i love him I honestly would kill myself if my dad really leaves I fucking hate my mom she always favor my sisters, my lungs hurt bad I dont know /b i want to kill my self but im poor and i have no gun >inb4 jump off a cliff, tie a nooce etc etc I dont want a painful death
>>704533477 That's a possibility. But what is really "love" ? That's such a fucking vague concept. Like a mathematical curve without a frame, or a language without grammar. So many people talk about it and it means so many different things about the same subject: a "special" relationship between a man and a woman (or whatever the fuck somebody's into).
>>704534040 Is your word worth nothing? If they're splitting wouldn't you be allowed to choose who you stay with? I think that it may be more work in the beginning but you should go with your dad. Either go to the police before saying you're going with him of your own free will, or wait until the shit hits the fan and try to explain that you want to be with him.
>>704534221 My mom and dad are not married and my mom has my 2 faggot ass sisters who will say some bullshit like "his dad convinced him too" even if i did go i have to change schools by myself because pops didnt grow up with public education. But thanks ill consider that
Secondly, and this one is serious, shooting yourself in the head is not painless.
From reports, shooting yourself in the head is awful. What happens is, as soon as you pull the trigger, you feel an intense heat and pain go through your head. You feel blood pull into your head and all you can do it look up. You're only alive for MAYBE 30 seconds after that, but the pain and blood make it feel like an eternity of waiting for the final sweet release.
>>704534413 Changing schools isn't too bad, but the problem is your sisters. I've never been in this situation, but if you're alone in a room outside of anyone else's influence wouldn't they know what you truly want? Couldn't you claim unhappiness with your mother. Please, just don't give up hope!
Thought I was gonna get a good job, so I put in my two weeks at my shitty toxic workplace job. I just found out that I got thrown out in one of the final rounds of the search. Now I've got to go back to my shitty toxic workplace job in about 6 hours.
>>704535199 Actually this may be the answer. I'm trying to rationalize shit that nobody has been able to since the birth of mankind. Maybe it's just meant to be a vague concept tied to a lot of instincts.
>>704525199 You can do it anon. Didn't get a gf until 21. Been friends for 2 years then I caved and kissed her randomly, she kissed back. Been together almost a year now. Best feeling in the world anon. Godspeed
>>704535942 helping out family is fine but siblings who require constant attention are nice way to get your life ruined, youre not their father, set a limit they must have responsibility over their life.
also, 10 points to gryfindor for showing this virgin boys what a real problem looks like.
>>704530335 this one always hit me in the guts. To feel that this guy honored this silly promise. To make one last stupid thing for his gone bro. To mock death as she takes one of the most precious beings you know. Kudos to you Barry
>>704536143 try to help him out if its reasonably possible and it doesnt screw up your life. But its not your obligation to do so.
based on what you say, theres no way you could come up with that money but if there was it would proabbly screw up your life. He got himself into jail this is not your mess.
Also, get ready to be banned for saying youre underage haha
>>704536227 nah, that's just a common comfort for (jealous) people who havent experienced it. What youre talking about is LUST and that is part of love. but love carries on when lust is gone, anyone who had a true gf knows it. And some rare cases there are cases of love without lust.
>be me 12 years old >class clown can make anyone laugh >grade 7 my friend groups change a few times because my best friend started hanging out with other people >get a girlfriend and hanging out with her group a lot >slowly realize over this time that nobody actually liked me >they only wanted me there for jokes >8 years later and I've never stopped feeling like shit >have had friends for the past 3-4 years but don't see them often >haven't had a girlfriend in years >every chance i get with a girl i stop talking to them because i don't see the point
Sorry to hear, man. I've been down that road as well. Abusive relationships are a double-edged sword. If you spend enough time in one you fool yourself into think that's what you deserve. They suck you in and rewrite healthy responses to negative situations and vice-versa. And as much as things suck you can't imagine yourself without them. And whenever people tell you get out of the situation its frustrating because it's patronizing and they don't understand.
How exactly is it borderline abusive? Is it something that can be worked out or caught before it becomes a problem?
>>704536781 that has nothing to do with having a relationship, friendship and romatic relationships can coencide completely, although i almost never see one of my best friends now ever since he got a girlfriend so I guess most people don't see it your way
Just lost my girlfriend of 6 years over the fact that I sent a friend flowers for her birthday cause she posted shit about it on snapchat. Now I'm just here lurking while I'm contemplating moving on or just getting shit face drunk to make myself feel better.
>>704536731 well if you want to believe that (even tough theres no serious evidence for it) then go ahead. Love is like conciousness, science isnt even close to figuring that out so for the time being trying to rule it out as that is reductionist at best. True love is intellectual,it doesnt go away when youre not feeling horny, it doesnt go away even when the other person is long long gone.
>>704536885 >most people don't see it your way proof im right
>>704519883 I'm down. I can usually handle it but lately the joking put downs from my friends really fucking hurt. Especially one who talks shit on everything I do and enjoy. Talks down on this place, my interests, how I do things, music I like. It's just exhausting and I have to wonder why I'm even friends with him in the first place. I go home feeling like an idiot and a fuck up because that's all I hear all day, I just wish I was surrounded by people who showed even an ounce of positivity towards me every once in a while so I know they don't mean what they say.
>>704537008 if youre feeling things that strongly you need something to wait it out, distractions. Never underestimate emotions you cannot override them completely, ever, you can only recognize them and ride them out. Control them a little when they are at a bearable level.
>>704537235 that reasoning is abosolutely and completely retarded just because most people think something doesnt make it false i understand the general idea and somewhat agree but that logic is objectively false
>>704537018 >True love is something that which can be induced with prescription drugs. I'm sorry to burst your little supernaturalist bubble but the human ape is no different to the rest of the mammals.
>>704537201 Yeah only problem is every time I try to talk about my actual feelings I either cry or make it a joke. Because in all reality I'm not tough and funny like I try to be, I'm a little bitch and just don't let anyone know it.
>>704537703 dont make it some gay paragraph just say "when you say those things it makes me upset please stop" and if he doesnt stop he clearly isnt worth being friends with, if that weakens your bond with possibly your only friend group than that sucks but its better than the current situation
I'm sleeping about 12 hours a day because being awake is painful and difficult and I don't have any good reasons to push through them. I don't know how to create any spark of motivation. I really just want to wrap things up in life and die peacefully in my sleep.
I don't usually post in feels threads, but shit's really starting to hit.
>Be me this past spring >Senior in HS >Thinking of life after HS >College and shit, you know how that goes >Friend of 10 years puts me on to the school I currently attend, he's my roommate. >Forever indebted. >Fast forward after graduation >Meet a girl from /soc/ that lives around me; she's cool as shit and easily an 8/10. >Won't go into the details, but I come to the realization we were just "summer friends" >Become depressed around the middle of August >Band here is the only thing keeping me remotely happy. >Music major, so I'm glad I'm majoring in something I love. >Fast forward to now >Lonely as fuck >Only like 10 friends on campus >I miss everything from home >College is 3 hours away, can't just up and leave when I want >Band isn't fun anymore >Music isn't fun anymore >Considering dropping out after freshman year
I really need some type of motivation. I can usually get over a lot of this, but I'm having some trouble with it rn.
>>704538524 depression fam, seek counceling through your school, most schools make it easy to get and dont ask questions much. as far as motiviation goes the only motivation is to solve the depression issue
>>704530651 why do all these philosophers make such esotieric bullshit statements that imply that life has some kind of meaning and completely ignore the fact that the intrinsic fear of death is biological and has nothing to do with our mental awareness of how pointless life is
Life has made it clear. I don't deserve to be happy. I get no enjoyment out of anything since we broke up. I hate myself and just want her back. But I'd rather she be happy. Guess that's what love is. Rather they be happy whether with or without you.
>>704539405 my emotional response to a 4chan post doesnt represent that im new (because im not) it represents that im some pathetic basement dweller sitting in a feels thread listening to sad music thinking about how pointless life is, im glad you can find the time to le troll me on boards.4chan.org/b/ during your youthful years but you need to work on your logic a little
>GF broke up with me back in May >Self evaluation >Work on trying to get shit done for me. >Been getting shit done >Got a raise and a promotion with another raise
I've been feeling pretty good about my progress but sometimes it's a struggle. Aside from people at work the only people I really interact with are my two older brothers and they drain the fucking life out of me. One is a worthless self absorbed junkie who's not willing to put any effort into anything and wants everything handed to him. The other is your standard NEET who basically hasn't done anything except play video games and watch movies for the past 6 years. The former is insufferable and the latter just doesn't have the drive to do anything.
It's incredibly infuriating knowing that between the 3 of us we could handle things fairly well if the other 2 would put in even the barest amount of effort. What I really want more then anything is to get myself to a position that I wouldn't have to deal with them at all.
>>704540221 I'm using a professional Yamaha with a 4C. It's awful to march with. GREAT horn and everything, but it doesn't give you that marching sound you want outside. You get a better outside sound from a beginner model honestly. Trying to upgrade the mouthpiece when I get some money though.
>>704540688 That's good to hear, I just started marching for the first time and some friends lent me some gear to use. I'm a bassoon player mainly and it's easier than I thought to adjust to single reeds
>>704541004 Dawg single reeds are dumb easy to play on. I'm not trying to touch any double reed instruments unless my major requires it. I'm probably gunna end up destroying at least 3 reeds in the same day.
>>704541275 Get ready to spend $20 a reed lol. My directors used to tell me all kinds of stories of how they bullshitted their way of playing double reeds when they had to learn it for their teaching majors
>Be me >Sophmore >Meet cute new girl first day of school >We're dating by Wednesday (school started Monday) >Thursday, I just look at her and say "You have the most beautiful eyes." >She writes a poem that afternoon, texts me about it >Next day, I am rewarded with my first kiss and hickey >fuckyea.gif >Parents see hickey >They proceed to wig out, as expected >Tell me to break up with her >Take my phone to keep me from contacting her >Weekend goes by >Don't break up with her but continue to go out with her secretly >About a week later she breaks up with me >She says "I can't handle a relationship and a new job" >Okay whatever >Less than a week later she texts me saying I miss you >Okay >She says we should get back together >Yeah, whatever, sure >Next day (Wednesday) >She says we're not officially back together until I find a cute way to re-ask her out >I personally feel like I'm being pussy whipped but I do it anyway >End up rewording a song for her >She likes it and as far as I know we're back together >(weekend) >She's hungover Monday so I leave her alone >Tuesday >I meet her between class and make an innuendo about us >She says "Nice try, friend." >what.webm >"Oh yeah sorry I don't think of us as officially together." >Nothing more is said >I just leave >Next day I see her making out with some other guy >Weeks go by >Hear that the guy that she was making out with is now her boyfriend >Hear he cheated on her with his niece >Hear that she sucked off his best friend as revenge >mfw I realized I just dodged a giant bullet
I've grown so tired /b/ 23, plans can seem to come to fruition, anxiety, depression. It's hard functioning. Ignored what I felt & flowed with what other people said was best for me. I don't think I can recover from this. It's far too late. I'm not sure how I'll survive. There's a point to where this feels like fate, rather than just bad luck. If this is all it's ever going to be, I don't want to go on.
>>704542422 It kinda happens when you're forced to be around the same 80 people from 4am - 11pm for two weeks straight, on top of them being the only people on campus too?? Yeah that's gunna happen. Getcha weight up.
>>704543466 Having sex at age X doesn't matter, your life isn't fucked because you're a virgin at 23. Try not thinking about it, learn about seduction, work on your (probable) shyness and you'll get laid. Doesn't matter if you're unexperimented, if she really loves you then she will teach you how shit works. And if she bitches because you're a virgin, then she's not worth your time.
>>704519883 >24 >graduated from culinary arts with my bachelor's >working a pretty sweet job in a bakery >looking back every so often, lonely >my first girlfriend back in the 8th grade cheated on me and dumped me on Valentine's Day >3 turn downs in high school, one girlfriend only that ended up dumping me for another guy almost immediately afterwards >confess on graduation to one girl, she humiliates me in front of family and turns me down while making a scene and laughs at me >became a little jaded but kept trying >no luck in college, stop bothering after graduation >finally met one girl at my current job that is really sweet >we chat up and I fall hard for her, she does lots of nice things for me and even gives me a smile i never see on most girls >find out after confessing to her she's married and has a kid I'm hopeless. I'm not bad looking but my confidence can't possibly be any lower. Should I bother trying anymore? I'm still a virgin and have never gone past kissing.
>>704543912 Really though lad, there's much more to the background story. More than I would want to explain, such as us kissing, the insane flirting and weird things she does with me, her dropping a movie with a guy that liked her(she didn't like him back) to hang out with me and tag, a time we were in a pool by ourselves and we were up on one another. I see this shit pointing towards us being a relationship.
She knows I would curbstomp the dudes she hangs out with because of some shit they tried to pull, and she knows I want to curb stomp them.
But besides that, should I see if she wants to hang out?
>>704542127 test her to hang out don't be a pussy fucker and just ask her "hey what is with you and X, are you into him?" if she asks why you want to know say she is hot/sexy/something and ask if she is taken
>flashback to 4 months ago this May. > Been with my gf for 5 years. (6 years in june) >planning our anniversary trip plus planning on getting our own place. >everythingisgreat.jpeg >one fateful day in may, she calls me in the morning to wake me up >asks if she can grab some of her stuff out of my car. >yeawhynotbabe.mp3 >she shows up on my doorstep. >looks visibly upset >wtf? i ask her whats wrong >she asks to grab the stuff from my car >I say ok, but I ask her whats on her mind... why do you look so upset? >she silently proceeds to gather her stuff and put it in her car. >after shes done she turns to me and just stares at the ground. >she finally lifts her head and says that she thinks we should break up. >maximumshock.AVI >Totally thrown off guard, ask her wtf is going on. ask her why she wants to break up. >she looks at me and utters words that completly shatter me >says that she just doesnt feel the same anymore... says that she doesnt want any hard feelings between us.. >she even fucking told me that i was still her best friend... >Im absolutely stunned, I ask her if we can talk about it...I love her and i want to work things out or at least get some closure. >she says she cant talk to me right now and to my protest gets in her car and drives off...
>>704544147 I'll probably hit her up tomorrow after my job interview. The night we argued, I called her, and she really was sad, cried too, asking if that was it between the both of us. Ever since then she's been distant from me, never the same.
>>704544460 Shiet nigga, tbh fam, I'm not in that mindset, I was until I got angry at her for some shit.
But tbh, I'm just still trying to see what's up between us now. If there's still something going on between us. Also, I just came here for advice lel, only time I get into feels is whenever I reminisce about times me and my best bud had before he left to boot camp.
Seeing as most of you are depressed, can anyone help me with this?
My gf is mentally unstable and stops speaking to me for long periods of time, during which she's just at home in a dark room sobbing or whatever. I know she's locking herself up because I check on her. I don't understand why she won't come to me for comfort? Ffs that's what I''m here for? No, instead she shuts off from the world and doesn't speak to me for a week, sometimes up to 2 weeks.
I don't get it. What's the mindset here? Why isolate yourself when you can go to your bf/gf for comfort and support?
I feel like a stupid fag, like she isn't taking me seriously
>>704545678 you probably have never been in a place like that so let me help you out
people like that usually feel like they are a complete failure in life and that everything they try to do just ends up failing, and i'm willing to bet she also feels like she is a burden on everyone because of failing all the time. Of course this is all untrue but that's just what she thinks, thats why she sits alone in a dark room and just cries, and thats why she won't talk to anyone, not even you. It's because she feels like her existence is just a big burden on everyone she interacts with, so i suppose just try to get her to open up more and more and eventually she will go to you for support when this shit happens.
You're pretty lucky, some people lock themselves away for not just 2 weeks but months and months.
I've given up and now I'm considerably more happy. Used to be all locked up in my head because I was a kissless virgin and had no gf, until I realized I want no gf and I really want sex only after 2 weeks of nofap. Used to be grumpy and gloomy all the time now I just don't give a shit. So all of you lonely anons ask yourselves, do you really want a gf? I mean she requires time, attention, money plus it's unlikely that she shares your interests so you'll just have to pretend that you like the things she does? She'll get upset about shit and not tell you and make you do shit you don't want. Sure you'll get to have sex, kisses and hugs but is it really worth it?
>>704545726 My first dog dying was the most soul crushing moment of my life. I had raised him from a baby and I had to carry him to the garden and dig a hole because no one else in the world would bury him.
>>704545927 Thanks for explaining man. I tried opening up but with emotional subjects she just freezes and shuts down. This one time she disappeared for 4 months, during that time she contacted me just once to tell me she was volunteering in Syria, and sent me pics of bullet-holed cars and ruins. I was worried sick and fail to understand that mindset.. It's difficult dealing with mentally unstable people.
>>704546499 well if she froze up either she is really depressed and probably about to kill herself (which would explain the random trip to syria since she might have wanted a purpose, like helping those war torn peoples) or that she has just been hurt so much she wont let anyone in anymore
either way just go to her and hold her, then start having a talk about how she feels in life etc etc
>>704546799 That's a scary thought that she's suicidal. I know she wanted to commit suicide when she was 8-10 but never expected that the idea still floated in her head. I'll try holding her and talk like you said, thanks. And I'm sorry you were/are in this situation too
>>704547515 if she spends weeks alone in here room crying i doubt she has been taking nigger dick
i'm pretty sure it's mostly this >>704545927 although i'm just drawing from my own experiences and from how others have told me they feel so i might not be 100% right either way go and have a talk with her
I messaged my ex, because I realised how much I fucked up and she was perfect. She replied that her new boyfriend makes her really happy and just wants me to be happy for her. Then she asked me for snapchat and we've been talking heaps and she's asking me what I miss about us and the says that she just remembers the memories like we were good friends. That the love she had is all gone
Ausfag here.About to start HSC in 3 weeks (18 already). Know maths ain't gonna go down well and drag my overall mark down. Been called a failure my whole life by everyone i've ever known, never had any friends, parents treat me like shit, bullied constantly. Just wish i could end it.
>>704549555 Yeah, but with parents who originate from Turkey and India, the standard is pretty high and they refuse to let me attend college to get into my preferred course. I'm pretty much fucked and they won't let me get a job or anything. I don't even have a driver's license.
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