>>696636640 Yes, and I wish they hadn't. They raised a lying alcoholic who's so afraid of showing any sort of vulnerability that it ruins friendships. I am afraid to discuss my feelings with people, and I can't have even a normal conversation with authority figures without feeling like I'm going to cry.
The belt was "vanilla mode". The fun part was the Wall Fund.
My dad would contribute a little from his paycheque each week, into what he called the Wall Fund. The fund, he said, was to make sure he had enough to replace the wall in the event one of us boys ever back-talked him in his house.
I got thrown through it once, and my older brother got thrown through it twice.
>>696637065 my mom beat my ass with a jug cord when I did really bad shit. >stole her car when I was 13, she beat my ass >broke into a store when I was 14, she beat my ass >when I was 15 I quit school and started working construction for my uncle >looking back I was a little cunt who deserved it >now have a son of my own and a wife who loves me and if he does shit like that I will beat his ass too DON'T BLAME YOUR PARENTS FOR YOU BEING A SHITTY PERSON
>>696637295 >little bitch act I cry on my own time, the people around me don't know how badly that affected me. >>696637349 Thanks man. I have to wonder how to even begin to fix this shit. Doesn't help that I married someone who is as opressive as my parents.
I used to hit them with the belt when they did it.
Every time they hit me they'd basically start living in constant fear because I'd pretend to forget or I'd ninja out of the bathroom doorway or closet and go wild on their asses at some random point during the day.
There was never any threshold where they could beat me enough that I wouldn't turn it back on them.
Nowadays we just swear at each other and make cruel jokes at each other's expense cause we're all alcoholics and addicts and my parents have completely destroyed their health and their internal organs are a mess and they need medication just to survive their golden years.
>>696637519 My problem is that I wasn't a bad kid. I was a super sensitive kid, and talking to me would have worked just fine. I was getting spanked and hit with a belt until I was over eleven, thats fucked up man.
>>696636640 I got beat with a belt three times in my life.
Three times i deserved it.
>I smacked my mom. Dad drew blood he beat me so hard
>i stole a can of pop from the store Beat me then made clean the floor of the whole store with a scrubbie sponge while keeping a sign near me that read "Im a thief. I dissapointed my family, friends, and my faith."
>Third time was when I sassed my teacher bad enough she called my dad in the sixth grade. Dad showed up ten minutes later, ripped me out of my desk, carried me over his head and pushed me against the black board. Ripped my pants down and in one fell swoop ripped his belt out and smacked my ass with it three times. Punctuating each smack with a single word. Respect, your, elders.
She damn near ripped my ear lobes off. literally, no joke. Bitch was crazy. She'd come into my room at night to make me sleep in a certain position. Accuse me of doing shit and interrogate me for hours until i would just give up and admit to shit i didn't even do. Make me sit in my room for hours and watch me in the reflection in the glass of a picture frame so she could see i was sat there doing absolutely nothing. Her own kids were flawless shitheads obviously.
I'm pretty sure the entire ordeal was to destroy the close relationship i had with my father. Mission successful.
I later found out that her dad was an abusive asshole. Most abusers have been the abused. End the cycle, if your as fucked as i am, do the world a favor and don't have kids.
>>696637601 Honestly you probably shouldn't be in a relationship with that person. It'll only make it worse. Went through that shit, I'm with somebody that is like me in almost every aspect and I couldn't be happier, it might take time but it will be worth it
>I like to sleep belly down using my hands as pillows >Shes come in at night and force me to sleep on my side >When she'd leave i'd revert back to the way i liked >She'd come back to make sure i was still sleeping that way
I'm telling you the bitch was a psychopath. If she thought she could've gotten away with it i'd be a bag of bones at the bottom of a river.
>>696636640 yep and quite often I might add. I don't blame my failings on them it actually tought me right from wrong. Some kids thou very few all you need to do is to tell them not to do something. Others you can do things like send to their room, stand in the corner, time outs, take away items. But others need their ass spanked. Some a light tap does it while others need more and still others practically need their ass beat raw to see the light.
The last time I got beat with a belt was when my dad took a swing with the wrong end on accident. The buckle swooped up under my leg and smacked my sack. Also got the open hand and a wooden spoon. Broke the spoon by flexing my ass cheeks, shit was hallarious and somehow I was at fault
nah, they'd just give me vinegar enemas before school to protect me from demons, and if I didn't manage to keep it all up there by the time I got home they'd threaten to cut off my baby bro's limbs and make me watch, then blame it all on me
guess that's how ended up with a lot of my fetishes
>>696639861 The fact that you're second guessing means you need to find the person you don't feel that way at all and start talking about some of the shit you went through. I had a feeling you were a water sign, it's tough being abrasive but when you do people will respect you but what sign is your partner if you don't mind me asking
>>696636640 yes and i didn't become a school shooter... parents this days need to grow a pair... the new generation are pure whiny little brats that belive the word needs to bend over their fukings kness
>>696636640 I never got the belt cause that's what my mom got in school for writing left handed.
I did get the spoon (wood or metal) from her though and just the hand from my dad cause he would "rip the skin" it all sucked but i'm glad I didn't grow up to be a lippy asshole kid like some of my nephews are nowadays.
Now that was just parents. I did get hit by a meterstick by a teacher a few times and hit by a golfclub out drinking one night. I survived, all is good.
>>696640277 I don't know. I don't think there's anybody I'll ever trust enough to be like that with, and it's easy to go with the flow of the now. If he ever starts smacking me around I'll have to rethink a lot, but as of now it's only verbal. Is that stuff super obvious? He's a Gemini.
>>696640990 Not sure what type, literally got him from some Mexicans at 1am on a work night from Craigslist. He's 4lbs and I don't think he'll get much bigger. He only cost $40 but his brothers and sister were bought and resold on Craig's for $200.
>>696640818 You will, like I said in due time you just need to wait it out and find yourself a Virgo, Pisces Scorpio or Taurus because Gemini isn't meant for you. I know that's really vague but the best relationship I've had so far has been with matching signs that are compatible. I'm a Pisces and dated a cancer like I know how you feel. Don't trap yourself i n a situation you know you need to change
>>696641974 I get what you mean, the astrology personality thing is usually pretty accurate. I've got the sun of cancer moon of cancer thing going on so I know I need to really consider whether I'm with somebody I can trust, and the answer feels like no. But can't just throw away that sense of loyalty, he might hurt me but I still care. The only reason I ever defied my parents and got away from them was to be with him, look how far that got me XD
Only got the belt once when my mom found a lighter under my bed.
She was painting my room and I was sleeping in my parents bed at the time, she moved the bed to paint and found it along with a burned out casette tape. She whipped my ass good, kinda deserved it though. No pyro, just thought it was cool to see plastic stuff go up despite not looking flammable according to my 5 year old mind. Had a blast burning my sisters spice girls mixed tape and watched the bunches of scrunched up tape burn in an instant.
Other than that a few backhands from the old man, a bitch slap from my mom (brags about how impressed she was how I took it like a man at about 19) and plenty of times just having my dad motion to punch me but not follow through, got to the point that I wished he would just to get it over with.
glad for the belt really, put the fear of god in me, the other stuff was just kinda shitty parenting though. Low and behold I'm not some lib cuck so I guess it was worth not being raised like a special snowflake.
>>696636640 Yes. I lived in fear all my childhood which made me timid and shy. It socially retarded me during middle school and early highschool.
I then started drinking and now have the confidence to be normal.
Everytime i hold a belt i imagine myself in my dads shoes with a kid grovelling infront of me. I cannot comprehend how a so called man of god can hit a kid with a belt and thinking about it fills me with so much anger
>>696642456 It sucks, the girl I dated in cancer felt the same. Like she owes the person treating her like shit something and you just need to get angry for once, understand what power you have and do what makes you happy, I know you want to do it, just do it for once just to at least get the experience, I don't mean divorce or anything but have a voice and if he fucks up and hits you call the cops, you aren't power less
>>696642250 I had a good friends dad who did that. Always felt terrible for my buddy cause we were all chill and his dad would get home and you would see horror come across him and tell us if we could kindly go.
We were 13. Damn sure we knew what was up but he left a year later. Always wonder how he wound up.
>>696637065 >not being asked to get the built yourself >not being sent back when the belt was too wide
Yes, my parents beat my ass when I was being a terribly shitty kid. But seriously, there's something else that causes this because everyone in my fucking family was beaten with reeds that actually cut you and we've grown up into well adjusted adults with positive relationships with our parents. And this is true of any of my non-white friends. Maybe don't try to sneak drugs in your room when you're twelve, Skyler.
>>696642733 I get some of this, but kinda comes across a little "woe is me". How often did he hit you? However the last part about imagining yourself as your dad was a bit of an eye opener, pretty hard to imagine laying hands on my own son like that as well. Especially with a belt, or really in essence a weapon, sure spanking kids can be a necessary evil that you should really only have to do once or twice. But a belt? fuck
>>696643290 I guess my problem is that I don't know what makes me happy so I just try to fulfill that for other people. Loneliness would just give me more time with myself and I'm not down with that. Anger always leaves me feeling like shit afterwards, no fun at all there. But I will try my best to put my foot down if things go in a certain direction. There was only one time I thought he'd hurt me, thought he would cut me. I told him to fucking do it if he was going to and he backed off. Didn't feel very good.
basically you respect them not because you understand their actions, but you are afraid. This is what you've learned from them- obey the elders, or you'll be punished. respect the rules, or you'll be punished.
you should UNDERTSAND them, not to be afraid of breaking them and its consequences..
Had a lightning temper from extra frozen to boiling over in an instant
Age 10 she swung a closed fist at my face, caught her hand and stopped her, she screamed for my stepfather, heard him coming up the stairs from the basement
Made it upstairs into my room, locked the door and moved the dresser, he still kicked down the door, beat me so bad I was still unconscious when the fireman and police got there, neighbor saw the beating through the window called 911
She lost custody of my brother and me, Steve went to jail, my Mom's parents got custody of us
Soon found out how much fun having two 60+ alcoholics in a single wide trailer with a 10 and 6 year old boy could be
Grandma was worse than my mother, learned where my Mother got her backhand after about 2 days
Grandpa did not hit, he liked sodomy
Until I told a teacher when I was 13, Grandpa taught me a lesson a few night a week, he alternated from making me suck his dick to raping my ass
First time I learned what ejaculation was, it was 2 days to our first Christmas with them, he came into our room, told my brother to get in the closet and forced me to suck his dick, I will be brushing my teeth in a minute, when I think of this story, I remember that disgusting taste, told me as he held my head down, if I puked he would make me lick it all back up
Got put into a state run shelter, my brother was adopted by a lesbian couple
I have no kids, no girlfriend, don't want them, when I turn 25 I will get snipped, my bloodline ends with me, we don't deserve to continue
>>696639725 Because you clearly internalized the wrong shit. Unless you were literally hit for existing, you kept up your bullshit to perpetuate your identity as a fucking tragic character so you can blame your failures on that later. Well, congrats, faggot, you made it.
>>696643205 For day to day stuff, or even yearly horoscopes I think it's bullshit, but it's generally pretty accurate as far as I've seen. After close relationships with a Gemini, Leo, Scorpio, and Capricorn they match up pretty well.
>>696643795 Yeah, you need to get out of that. I've been depressed and hopeless for years and out of nowhere a Scorpio comes around and takes my heart away and you need to find the same. It's not that opposite signs won't mesh it just takes more time and patience than a Gemini had
>>696644097 I probably do. Don't know if I ever will, I've really just assumed that there isn't a good end for me. As long as there's a little brightness I guess I can be okay with that... I've always leaned towards clashing signs for friendship as well, idk what's wrong with me. How's life with a Scorpio? I worked with one, very sweet people.
>>696636640 Yes, also got the hickory switch to the calves till they bled, dragged by the hair around the house, slapped, slapped with the back hand, slapped with the sideways hand because they halfway fucked up some sort of judo chop, hit in the back of the thigh with a stick, got hit with a belt with all those metal bits on it, kicked in the shin with steel toe boots, and oddly enough I never got the wood spoon, just slapped with a metal spatula.
>>696644037 I can believe in something real like what could physically effect people born in these times.
All cancers/leos/gemini might share some traits because a physical property of the planet or the atmosphere or whatever in their time of birth. I can understand that, but saying its because their gemini or any star sign and thats the reason is just dishonest to yourself.
>>696644406 You're right but for your own happiness you need to get away but fucking wonderful, I love my Scorpio, she's the only person I've ever dated that I feel I can fully trust. I'm Pisces btw lol you say you have clashi yheng sign friends but I can handle
>>696636640 Parents were born in the 60s, so yeah they were violent. But then you hit that stage in your teens when you can take on your dad and suddenly things get better because they won't randomly jump you.
>>696644934 its all cold reading, give you basic traits and occurrences that you will find a way to associate or tie in with your daily life. i.e challenges in your day or friction between you and another person. It's a pseudo science to the very core.
>>696643653 I guess i was lucky as he didnt hit me everyday like some people wouldve been. i was distant with my dad all of my childhood and the only interaction we had was when he was hitting me for something i did wrong. He also had a booming voice adding to the intimidation. Mum is a schizo. Dad flies into fits of rage whenever she tries giving him one of her schizo sermons. Imagine trying to go to bed while you listen to your dad shouting while you hear thump noises occasionally. As a result she unloads all of her schizo paranoid sermons on me and my brothers.
Then again maybe im just trying to justify why i am like this and its always easy to blame your problems on others right?
>>696645003 Hopefully someday I can care enough about my own happiness to try. Or at least tell him all the things that j never have. That is a brilliant thing, I'm happy you found someone so spectacular anon. From what I've seen they are incredibly trustworthy. And is Pisces a clashing sign?
>>696644483 All true This is the Cliff Notes, Readers Digest version
I am in counseling now, probably forever, they want me to confront my mother, get her version and forgive her in order to move on, I would rather not
I am pretty sure that serial killers, murders, degenerates are not born, but are made
I am probably borderline, I do not use alcohol, I am afraid of losing what little control I have and am afraid of what exists just below the surface, inside me
Went to community college for truck driving, but decided that might not be a good idea
Applied for a job at a ranch in Wyoming, I can ride and rope pretty well, the only benefit of the group farm I grew up on, they need somebody to monitor cattle and in some high pasture land, mostly solo work, which will be OK with me
I wish they would either kill or sterilize people that abuse or molest kids
It just keeps being passed on and on and on
Drugs, Alcohol, Mental Illness our new Holy Trinity
>>696645936 So what is always the same with a star sign... the date of birth of the person. So yeah i agree maybe some physical effects or real world effect on people being born in those exact same times has an effect on them as a person but its not because of their star sign.
>>696645783 >they want me to confront my mother, get her version and forgive her in order to move on, I would rather not
Find a new counselor.
>I wish they would either kill or sterilize people that abuse or molest kids
Was your brother ever involved in the abuse or did he intentionally just target you?
Did grandpa get charged?
>Applied for a job at a ranch in Wyoming, I can ride and rope pretty well, the only benefit of the group farm I grew up on, they need somebody to monitor cattle and in some high pasture land, mostly solo work, which will be OK with me
Good luck, you are at least functioning and alive which is pretty amazing.
>>696645783 Awful to hear, but I suppose at this point its up to you to move on and break that cycle. I don't mean to sound like a dick but there have been plenty worse things that have happened to people and they've managed to somehow salvage a somewhat normal life after. Definitely not fair for something like that to happen but it doesn't mean you need to simply live a life of loneliness so as to avoid having kids. Not overly religious but always took a liking to the line "god never favored the quitter", nothing will change unless you change it friend. FOr sure you could benefit from trauma therapy if you havent already, all the best though man.
>>696646094 This aint a YLYL thread bruh but i laughed and i lost.
Practical, attentive to details, capable of keeping things in order, finding and rectifying problems. Likes pets, enjoys to collect and systematize just anything, hates chaos (although at times creates it).
That shit is so open ended its not a case of it applying to me its a case of what do i want to apply to me and in what way can i make it fit.
>>696646779 >I don't mean to sound like a dick but there have been plenty worse things that have happened to people and they've managed to somehow salvage a somewhat normal life after.
I do not think that you have the qualifications to make such a statement. I am not OP, but those things would fuck pretty much anyone up. Unless of course you forced to suck dick as a child and told that if you vomit, you will need to clean it up with your mouth.
>Not overly religious but always took a liking to the line "god never favored the quitter", nothing will change unless you change it friend.
I do not see why he needs to change beyond the life he has. This religious crap is just that, he seems to have gotten or looking for a job to start his working life. He is not addicted to drugs and seems like a fairly productive citizen, his life choices are his own.
>>696647047 Oh yeah, for sure. It had these little fucking spiky ridges in it too for gripping it when you open the blinds. At least it wasn't like my uncle who drilled holes into a wooden paddles so his victim would get blisters on their ass.
>>696636640 nope, but my friends' dad would whip their ass with a belt. We'd get in trouble and they'd get their asses whipped and be out playing the next day. I'd get grounded for a week or two depending on the crime.
>>696647402 http://www.elbertwade.com/atlas.html Won't give any description, but it will give you an idea of what you actually are so you can find a better source. I can't remember which I used but it was a lot more in depth.
>>696647259 >>696647259 1. child sex workers or child soldiers probably have a pretty rough go and some actually make it out albeit very seldom. What qualifications do I need? Crack a book, there's plenty of stories out there about people overcoming horrible shit.
2. It's the principle of the saying, nothing really good happens to those whole let life beat them down and a life chosen to live in isolation from intimacy and parenthood are obvious signs of trauma, though clearly for a reason.
My dad made me do hundreds of push-ups in front of him whenever I fucked up. I thought had it easier than others, but then he told me how people who developed more musculature as children grew up to be shorter as adults and I straightened up real quick after that.
His life story is on par, if not within the bar of these people who have suffered their whole life.
>What qualifications do I need?
I did not say you need a qualification, but when you make a qualifying statement that you understand a situation emphatically when you lack the experience he has, it sounds pretty stupid. You said:
>I don't mean to sound like a dick but
You are trying to present the perspective that you at least understand his situation, when I doubt you do unless you have been abused in that manner. This means that you are going to sound like a dick, as his life experiences are fucking awful you cannot make them less than they are.
> though clearly for a reason.
Forcing someone into a relationship will not resolve the problem, especially given how he feels about relationships. Being alone, understanding himself and discovering who he wants to be sound like a pretty good life choice. If he does not have children he can still have a pretty productive life.
>His life story is on par, if not within the bar of these people who have suffered their whole life.
Exactly why I used them as an example...
>I did not say you need a qualification last post started with: I do not think that you have the qualifications to make such a statement
Then why bring it up?
>You are trying to present the perspective that you at least understand his situation, when I doubt you do unless you have been abused in that manner. This means that you are going to sound like a dick, as his life experiences are fucking awful you cannot make them less than they are.
Yet again, missing the point. There really is finite limit to human perseverance so if others can get past it so can he. I said the "not trying to sound like a dick" to mitigate any chances of it being taken as a minor occurence in his life.
>Forcing someone into a relationship will not resolve the problem
still missing the idea, he should get a better councilor who deals with childhood trauma and maybe eventually after years of work be able to share a connection with someone else. Not "force them into a relationship". its not the fact he's alone but why, everyone should be comfortable by themselves but also able to develop intimacy which is not the case since he said he's never had a relationship and wants a vasectomy.
Anything else you want to shoot down with the utmost hostility despite the fact that the original message wasn't directed at you?
>>I don't mean to sound like a dick but there have been plenty worse things that have happened to people and they've managed to somehow salvage a somewhat normal life after. >but there have been plenty worse things
I do not think you can get any worse that his story and I do not see the need for a comparison when his story is bad. It is like, that stories is bad, but these people have had it worse, which have undertaken in your other posts.
>Then why bring it up?
Qualification is not limited to academic studies, it also about life experiences or knowledge, typically within a first person capacity. For example, your experience:
>>a special skill or type of experience or knowledge that makes someone suitable to do a particular job or activity http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/qualification
>There really is finite limit to human perseverance so if others can get past it so can he.
I am not doubting he can/has gotten past it.
>Anything else you want to shoot down with the utmost hostility despite the fact that the original message wasn't directed at you?
Will do, because what he shared was quite personal and you trying to understanding it in that way in a way that you understand his situation, which is pretty fucked up if you have not been in a similar situation. I cannot understand what he has even experienced and would not be qualified to make such a statement about what he might feel, but
>>696651239 A few years ago I had to talk to a manager about money discrepancies. I was so fucking scared, because I hadn't done anything wrong. I kept my cool for most of it, but by the end I was in tears. And the worst part is he was such a cool guy I had no reason to react like that, he just said "I can see you're getting emotional" and gave me a few minutes to myself to get my shit together. I've never felt more pathetic in my life. At every review I was digging my nails into my hands to not cry, it's miserable.
>>696638547 >>Third time was when I sassed my teacher bad enough she called my dad in the sixth grade. >Dad showed up ten minutes later, ripped me out of my desk, carried me over his head and pushed me against the black board. Ripped my pants down and in one fell swoop ripped his belt out and smacked my ass with it three times. Punctuating each smack with a single word. >Respect, your, elders.
That triggers my OCD.
Not the ass-whipping, but that a belt smack is supposed to be one thwack for each syllable.
>>696651064 A lot of "neither here nor there" comments being made on your end and a lot of hostility considering I was the first one who commented on his original post to sympathize with him. Stay as mad as you want, clearly no sense talking to you when you jump at a chance to twist my words instead of letting me explain myself. Gonna watch some tv and go to bed, you can stay as mad as you want though.
>>696636640 Until I was 12. Unfortunately for them I grew really fast and once I hit about 5'4 I could start head spiking people onto the floor. That put a stop to that and as an added bonus my mom can't work anymore.
>>696636640 yeah they did, not only a belt, my dad bitchslapped me with his huge fucking hands and also took a wood branch and whipped my ass with that
im 19 and i'm a complete normie, i got a real qt3.14 gf, enlisted into the army although i still do stupid shit for fun like get drunk and high and then steal shit for the fun of the sport i'm all around respected, and i started working out a couple of years ago and that might be a part of the success
>>696645783 Believe it or not some people are born with tendencies. Whether they resist or give in is up to them but many give in with zero coaxing from parents. You hear it half the time "We had no idea Timmy was torturing cats by the railroad tracks for years, everyone thought he was a good kid".
>>696652249 >a lot of hostility considering I was the first one who commented on his original post to sympathize with him.
What ever helps you sleep at night.
>clearly no sense talking to you when you jump at a chance to twist my words instead of letting me explain myself.
This is why we are having this discussion. You have not said how you have not made a comparison between how you would deal or how you believe he should deal with the situation, as an appropriate response to present some sympathy. It like talking to someone with Autism and no having Autism then declaring that you understand exactly how they feel: pro-tip, you can't.
>And a webster link, how quaint
Soz for using the first website I see: Here are some more with the same definition from some small publications:
>>an ability, characteristic, or experience that makes you suitable for a particular job or activity: http://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/qualification
>>A quality or accomplishment that makes someone suitable for a particular job or activity: http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/qualification
>>696636640 Mexican here, yes belt, shoe or hand. Both parents. Until I was 15. This was pretty normal but I believed that thanks to it I was raised good. It was a nice family, no drugs, alcoholic or economic problems in my family. We were all raised like this. I wouldnt touch my kids tho.
I was punched. I thought that was a normal punishment until around 2nd grade. >forgot to lock the door on the way out >dad sucker punches me in the face >pass out for about three seconds >get up and lock the door >go catch the bus with bloody nose >the other kids at the stop looked horrified
>>696636640 yeah until i got big enough to take it from him. >my father was an abusive pos. one of the happiest moments of my life is when I realized I could kick his drunk ass if i so desired. I did in fact so desire.
>>696643500 Idk. I don't think violence in itself is a problem... If it somehow was clear in your head that you "deserved it" while you got beaten, it's just a rough lesson. If you just got beaten and don't know what's happening to you, you will just lose trust and confidence in anything when you'll be growing up
>>696636640 I wasn't really a bad kid but my mom treated me like one. She used to slap me on the face til my nose bled, hit me with metal spoons, hit me with a fucking oar, bodyslam her 300lb whaleness on my 5 year old self. She always preferred my younger brother over me and still lets him get spoiled and live at the house without paying rent. They even got him a fucking car... but whatever. I was always afraid of her when I was little and now she can't do anything and gets really mad when I do something she doesn't like. She gives me a certain look where her eyes get wide and tells me to do what she wants through her teeth lol it was terrifying as a lil tyke but now it's hilarious because I am a fucking adult and tell her to piss off. She is such a hypocrite and I really hope I don't end up like her when I have kids.
>>696642733 >I cannot comprehend how a so called man of god can hit a kid with a belt Proverbs 13:24 "Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them."
>>696653664 theres not much to it really but here goes.
>i was a little late coming home from wrestling practice my junior year in hs. I had to walk since no car since my family was broke and my mom was the only one working. I was hustling to get home and make everyone dinner. I get in the door and find my drunken father sitting on the couch my brothers and sister were hiding some where since he was always a mean drunk. I came in the house and said "Mom still has that restraining order if she gets home and your here you will go back to jail again", He then said "You aint to big to whip if i need to" I then decided enough was enough and fuck this drunken shithead, The last 10 months since my parents split just hit me like a rock and so i said mildly "the fuck you will asshole now get out or get thrown out". He then literally took off his belt like a retard and said "come get it boy". So i took him down to the carpet with a shoulder takedown. We then grappled a bit until i got his arm into a chicken wing. My brother came running up about then and started kicking him which was kind of funny since the little faggot had been nowhere to be seen until now.I started dragging him over to the door when i heard sirens so I knew then this was all going to shit. the cops burst in and get us separated, since he was violation of the restraining order he got put in the car. they called my mom she had to leave early from work, and i ended up grounded for a month for making a public spectacle of myself.
I got beat regularly by my mother and father. Belts were about the best of it. The thing that finally got cps involved was when I was forced to move into a small room in our detached garage in the middle of winter. I would be locked into the room at 5 pm and let out at 6 am. Teacher noticed I was always sick and wore the same clothes several days in a row.
I ended up in foster care for a few months before my grandparents gained custody of me. Things were pretty good from then on.
>>696656641 No idea. My grandmother passed away in 2008. She left me everything, my parents didn't even bother coming to her funeral. My inheritance wasn't enough to keep the house but I was able to graduate without student loans and I lived in a nice RV in a nice RV park all through college.
>>696636873 I would of liked to be chocked slammed into a wall. Sadly I got chocked thrown of our fucking balcony.. That or knifes/axes pushed against my throat. I was actually a good child but just centre for abuse. Gotta love my dad.
>>696638721 >if your as fucked as i am, do the world a favor and don't have kids. Fucking fact. Even if you think you're over it, don't take the risk. It's one thing to get married, they can at least leave you if you start to repeat patterns, but kids are helpless.
Didn't really want kids to start with, but even if I do develop the urge I'm sure as fuck not risking that shit.
>>696636640 im mexican. so it was a chancla not a belt (sandal) but i had no father so my mom tried her best. it stopped hurting when i was like 7 and it just became a game. piss her off and run away to see if she could catch me.
>>696636640 Used to get slapped by my mom when I was a kid. The last time she did it was when I was 14 and had grown a lot bigger than her. She slapped me and I just looked at her with anger and she knew that I could hurt her a lot more than she could hurt me by now. So after that it stopped
>>696659367 >i scared my momma with my mean muggin no thats not what happened dude. she probably just felt bad for hitting you and decided you wherent going to learn anything that way since all you did was make pouty faces.
>>696636640 no. my father occasionally threathened to do that but thats it. he has a loud voice (he was an nco in the red army) that was usually enough along with some mild punishment like "stand in this corner untill you apologize".
>>696659807 yeah it does. when u where 3-14 gettin hit sucked after 14 u just got you pissed. probably made u slam doors and shout typical teen things like "i hate you" or whatever. u really think shes gonna be hitting you forever? it had to stop at one point. and it did.
whatever the reason was its definitely not cuz she was scared of your punk ass
>>696636640 Belts, fists, kicks, broke a chair over my back once. My dad was a violent alcoholic that used me as a punching bag cause I always stepped in whenever he'd start beating my mom. I moved out when I was 17. Think I turned out OK. I've a wife and kid now, and am not violent in any way and would never hit them.
>>696661003 >She got me before I did the bad shit so I'm thankful for that >But yet again it fucked me up and I can't really talk to people without sweating profusely and feeling faint This is why the cycle of abuse exists. People find excuses for things they go through being ok or even positive, even in the same breath as they acknowledge that it fucked them up beyond all usefulness to society.
It's cognitive dissonance. They have conflicting ideas >I am good, and people are products of their upbringing, therefore my upbringing made me good >I was abused so they reconcile them, and the easiest and most comfortable way to do that is to justify the abuse by the imagined outcome.
>>696636640 Yeah with a belt, or a paddle with holes in it. Sometimes it'd be a switch I had to go choose myself. Open handed strikes were common, and the weirdest thing was the Bible would always come out for justification before and after the beating.
These days I'm hateful as fuck. I drink a lot but am no alcoholic. Have a hair trigger temper, and will ultimately probably not get very far in life because I'd rather be at my apartment sleeping if I can. I consider suicide a lot but have no idea why really, my life isn't that bad these days. I guess I'm just not happy.
>>696663345 Kek... They probably are a thing, and if they end up anywhere, it'll be here on /b. I seen a post here a few weeks ago just about chicks "wearing" cheese dresses. Yeah. Actual cheese.. So, keep your eyes peeled for teabag beatings..
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