>be me 21 years old >never had a real gf >had two "relationships" before, both lasted for 3 months >decided to forget about girls and concentrate on my job and supporting my mom >suddenly met a cute girl on facebook two months ago >a solid 9/10, she's small and a bit shy, just my type >she comments some of pics since I started lifting this year >I chat her up and we exchange numbers in the evening of the same day >we chat more and more every day and get to know each other >find out she was adopted when she was 7 >her parents are psychos and want to divorce since years but haven't done yet >her father abuses her probably (she didn't want to admit it but the way she talks about this topic makes me think that) >her father doesn't let her go outside although she is 20 >she always needs his permission and the most time she gets home he is either pissed or "depressed" >he even threatened several times to commit suicide if his daughter leaves him for a boyfriend >we chatted about a lot of different topics and she was quite happy every day >we exchanged sex fantasies and pictures and got quite along >she told me she wants a kiss when we meet the first time >believe me guys, this girl made me fell in love so fucking hard and horny at the same time >we met after some days of chatting >invite her to a coffee in a nearby café >she is shy but she slowly opens herself after some minutes >I hold her hand the whole time >suddenly I grab all of my courage and pull her close and kiss her >we kissed a bit more and we went out for a walk >on the way back to her place we stopped so often to kiss >when we were almost at her home we didn't want to let go each other >and then I think I felt real love for the first time in my life
>fast forward >we tried to meet as often as possible >she always came to my place >we had great sex, we talked a lot, we just enjoyed every second we spent together >I wrote her a lot of letters so she always could read how much I lover her >I gave her my shirts to sleep in >I bought her a teddy to cuddle when I couldn't
>but I noticed that something was wrong >her parents probably got curious >her father barely lets her go out and gets more and more depressive whenever she wants to go out >we decide to do a little break from our relationship >we barely talk anymore... she doesn't want to talk about the things that happen at home >there are no more "I love you" or "Good morning sweetheart" or "Good night my love" >she doesn't want to see me because she is afraid she could whine in front of me >she prefers to stay alone >yesterday she went out to a friend although I offered her to come to me so we could talk
Guys, I don't know what to do anymore. I love this girl so fucking much. She is perfect. But her parents are a huge problem. They manipulate her... I offered her so much help. But she always denies it and says she lives that way since years and that she is used to that. I get depressive more and more. My friends told me to break it off since this relationship makes me suffer. But I can't and don't want to let her go... She is my world
Girls and more importantly serious relationships are not worth it. Try to forget about how much you love her and try to wait to see what happens. If it over with her go ahead and live your life you are too young to care that much about serious relationships
Also, you cannot really solve other people's problems. If, and only if, they decide to do something about it, then sometimes you can help, but even then it usually only works if the other person asks for it, and it is not you who are trying to steer her life. The best you can do is being there for her, not creating even more problems (see above about doing the same as her father), and becoming a better person yourself.
>>695029017 she saw you were a beta and used her dad as an excuse to break up... "oh, it's my dad's fault. I love you but he just won't understand" Are you so beta that you don't get this? Go get a hooker and grow up. She just doesn't want to hurt your baby soft sensitive beta feelings.
>>695029233 >>695029663 I know what you mean. I try not to push her in any way. The fact that suddenly she is so distant makes it so hard for me. Although I know she needs to deal with her problems at home first
Relationships at the end of the day are worth it to some and not others. Being someone who didn't lose his virginity until his lower 20s, I can tell you this: It largely isn't worth it at that point. If you're alone and haven't gotten into a relationship at all by the time you're in your mid or later 20s, and I'm talking never been kissed by another girl, never even been considered for a relationship, etc., you will have built the habits of being alone that you will find it extremely difficult to get into as well as maintain a relationship. In fact you'll basically have been alone so long that while in a relationship you'll actually crave being alone. Living a loner life is lonely, but it does grant some perks you really wouldn't be able to find otherwise. You'll essentially become the human equivalent of a lone wolf. The only way to fix everything at this point is to do something fairly extreme, such as join the pickup community for a while, etc.
That being said, I'm sure you're thinking that a relationship will make you feel better about your life, and the truth is it may make you feel better but your need for validation will never completely go away. It's like a fat person who loses all their weight. Even if they become skinny and fit, for some reason they will still always think they're fat or unhealthy looking. The self-image persists, and it's the same thing with being relationshipless. I'm married now, but I still feel alone. Getting into this relationship made me feel better for a while, but it didn't fix me. It was just putting a bandaid on a gunshot wound.
Confront the parents. Tell that dad "I love your daughter and I want to be with her. I am not asking for approval but I am simply telling you how things are going to be." Don't be a pussy. You might shake while you're talking to them because of being nervous. But trust me, they will respect you. I speak from experience and her dad doesn't question me anymore.
You really think that a girl wants a sweet letter from a little boy whose balls haven't dropped? Re-read your post and you will see exactly why she dumped you. You are beta! Girls don't want the good boy. They want the bad boy. She probably thought you had balls, and you killed that by acting like a gay. Have you ever wondered why stupid niggers get girls when they treat them like shit? It is because girls want strength. Doesn't mean you have to be abusive. It means you just have to be strong. Stop talking in a high sweet voice around her. Stop all the sweet chocolate bs and grow up. sheesh what a pleb
>>695029006 You just learned a valuable lesson about girls with problems at home. Never fall in love with them, ever. Always pursue normal girls. Also, you made almost cringeworthy amount of love gestures and gave way too much attention and love. You overdosed her with your love and her tolerance, so to speak, grew higher and higher. In the end man who gives too much love looks in the her eyes as weak and unmasculine, which is auto turnoff romantically and especially sexually.
Too bad, sometimes shit goes down like this. Just move on to the next target, you can be friends but thats about it. I had similar experience with my ex, and it was exactly that I wasn't manly enough to spare my love little and make her wait and deserve it, instead just let all out every day. She had problems home too, while I didn't.
Plenty of fish in the sea. First relationships always fail anyway. First "real" relationships are for practice.
>>695030610 how funny. You just want to hear all the pats on the back. "Ahhhh love is so sweet. You just gotta talk to them. Bring her flowers. Get down on one knee. Show them what a pussy you can be..." You just want to be burped like a baby and put to bed crying. Grow some hair on your nuts already. How old are you?... ok, all that said, I wasn't different when I was a kid. I thought girls wanted that. I couldn't understand why girls liked bad boys. Society feeds us this shit. Women tell us they want chocolates and teddy bears, and to an extent they do. But they also want a man, not a boy. Men are supposed to be strong and you exude wimpiness. Dad didn't separate you, she dumped your dumb ass. If you don't figure out why then it will happen again and again. If you want any chance with her you better toughen up.
This is a double-edged weapon. If her dad were an emotionally healthy person, then he might very much appreciate seeing that her daughter is dating an upstanding guy who isn't afraid to speak openly about their relationship. If, however, her dad were an insecure guy, trying to hold on to her daughter even as she is growing up and trying to become independent, then he might react irrationally. And from what OP said, the latter seems more likely.
How the fuck do you meet someone on facebook? You just saw her under people you may know and decided to msg her? Holy fuck thats so creepy and beta. I bet your first message was something like i just had to message you youre the most beautiful girl ive ever seen. Kys before you rape somebody.
>>695031310 excellent idea. Girls love that. She liked the gay ass teddybear and laughed heartily at your kindergarten letter, but she would really love if you roll her over, kicking and screaming, and stick your 2 inches in her flappy hole. It might be a little wet still from her daddy, but go with it. Use it as lube.
Think on the positive side. You HAD fun and you had sex and all this nice stuff in the relationship. They don't last forever, death is the ultimate end who will separate you. You had like tons of XP in your real life rpg and you can use thos levelup points to increase your perks even more. You know yourself better now.
>>695031181 That's yalls problem, you care too much about pleasing the dad as well. You have to give that man a reality check. If you appease him like a pussy ofcourse it won't work. Just do what is right and if he doesn't like it, he can fuck off. The girl is 20 thus by law independent of her parents and free to make her own choices.
>>695029006 Tbh I think she`s just using you to get out of this mess. When she`s free she might reward you with a little sex and make you think you`re "the one", then she`ll dump you for a bad guy. Because bad gays would never even consider helping a psyko-girl out of a psyko-family, it`s just a waste of time they could be fucking other girls.
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