Hey /b/, I've been having problems with a recent break-up... Can we get a good feels thread going?
Here's my story:
>Be me >22 >fortunate to have a 9/10 girlfriend >been dating smoothly for almost a year >textmessage.jpg >from one of her friends >anon, she doesn't want to see you anymore >ask her why >it's complicated...
>>685048452 Well if you really love this girl don't give up that easy, keep trying. Obviously don't go and make her get a restraining order but just keep trying though social media or tell one of her friends if she is really going to end it at least give you the decency of having a face to face talk about it. If you don't give up their is still a chance you will get her back good luck /b/rother. I will be lurking this thread
Does anyway have the little comic (I guess) of a female sniper daydreaming that she is reading a book under a tree with a butterfly then a male sniper starts to daydreaming and gets killed? Sorry I'm bad at describing things.
>>685047493 Ok 3 days ago I lost my best friend. His name is bigglesworth. It's a black cat. Every night he would climb up on my bed and sleep on my back , for 2 years. Every time he saw me he would greet me with some kind of little sound and or a meow. He was nice to everyone , always running against anyone's legs. He was my best friend , never did me wrong unlike other people. I've looked for him for 3 days. I put out flyers, asked neighbors , looked in shelters. Nothing. I hope he comes home. Pic related ; him staring at me though a broken piece of window blinds. Come home soon man
>>685047493 >Iron Rule of Tomassi #1 Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of who’s frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.
>Iron Rule of Tomassi # 2 NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.
>Iron Rule of Tomassi #3 Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.
>Iron Rule of Tomassi #4 NEVER under any circumstance live with a woman you aren’t married to or are not planning to marry in within 6 months.
>Iron Rule of Tomassi #5 NEVER allow a woman to be in control of the birth. Always have protection.
>Iron Rule of Tomassi #6 Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved.
In its simplicity this speaks volumes about about the condition of Men. It accurately expresses a pervasive nihilism that Men must either confront and accept, or be driven insane in denial for the rest of their lives when they fail to come to terms with the disillusionment.
Women are incapable of loving men in a way that a man idealizes is possible, in a way he thinks she should be capable of.
>Iron Rule of Tomassi #7 It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.
>Iron Rule of Tomassi #8 Always let a woman figure out why she wont ƒuck you, never do it for her.
>>685051308 >Iron Rule of Tomassi #9 Never Self-Deprecate under any circumstance. This is a Kiss of Death that you self-initiate and is the antithesis of the Prize Mentality. Once you’ve accepted yourself and presented yourself as a “complete douche” there’s no going back to confidence with a woman. Never appeal to a woman’s sympathies. Her sympathies are given by her own volition, never when they are begged for – women despise the obligation of sympathy. Nothing kills arousal like pity. Even if you don’t seriously consider yourself pathetic, it never serves your best interest to paint yourself as pathetic. Self-Depreciation is a misguided tool for the AFC, and not something that would even occur to an Alpha.
>Iron Rule of Tomassi #10 ONEitis is paralysis. You cease to mature, you cease to move, you cease to be you. There is no ONE. This is the soulmate myth. There are some good Ones and some bad Ones, but there is no ONE. Anyone telling you anything else is selling you something. There are LOTS of ‘special someones’ out there for you, just ask the divorced/widowed person who’s remarried after their “soulmate” has died or moved on. This is what trips people up about the soul-mate myth, it is this fantasy that we all at least in some way share an idealization of – that there is ONE perfect mate for each of us, and as soon as the planets align and fate takes it’s course we’ll know that we’re ‘intended’ for each other. And while this may make for a gratifying romantic comedy plot, it’s hardly a realistic way to plan your life. In fact it’s usually paralyzing.
Be a loner. Focus on yourself. Money, toys, travel, get ripped. Make every single day about making yourself happy and improving yourself. Then, fuck women if the opportunity presents itself. See them as objects that you can use and discard. Forget relationships and feels.
>>685051628 Do this for the next 10 years and at some point you'll accidentally find the woman of your dreams that just so happens wants to spend the rest of her life with you. And you didn't even have to try. You want to feel alive, give your life meaning, don't wait for someone to "complete" you.
You're better off alone for now. Not having to worry about her feelings, not having to spend huge amounts of money in gifts and shit, less pressure, and way more free time Also you can fully be yourself, since you don't have to act to please her
>>685047493 She may be pregnant, and just not wanting to talk to you about it or let you get close enough to see. One of my friends had this happen to him, although both of them were super religious and she thought he would be pissed.
First piece of advice is start moving on. I know it's hard, but it's unhealthy to cling to anything, girls included. Maybe she's hot af, but if she can't even be the one to tell you you're breaking up, that's fucked up and that's on her. You're better than that.
Second piece of advice, it's okay to feel like you've been walked all over. She handled that shit massively fucking poorly. Why she's ignoring you isn't a question anyone can answer but her, and even though you deserve an answer and you deserve to be treated better, it's unfortunately just not going to happen. Start picking yourself up, and in time maybe you'll get some answers. But your life can't be put on hold over her, you don't owe her anything.
>>685047493 Me and my old man got an apartment together since he came back to the country after a while away, its been good we split the rent, i went back to highschool since I never finished and got on welfare to pay my share. My dad is disabled and cant work, he ended up knocking up a bitch last year and now he's got a kid running around that he has to take care of, and his money is running out. Im opting to ditch morning class and get a 9 to 5 and go to nightschool to finish so i can pay for rent and my own groceries e.t.c. thing is I've had issues holding down jobs cuz of some conditions of mine, lets just say I'm explosive, but I've been in therapy for a year now and im confident that ive matured and can move past this shit, but i cant help but feel fucking afraid that ill get nervous and fuck up once again, just disappoint myself and end up doing something stupid. I know its fucking silly to feel defeated already but ive fucked up alot and cant help but feel like a failure sometimes. I just dont know how to get over this anxiety and go through this calm and collected.
>>685048452 That's shitty anon, I know what it's like to have a bitch just pull a 180 on you and fuck with you feels like that, but if it's been a year and she just won't face you about it then buck the fuck up brotha, theres plenty of fish out there and I'm fucking positive that you're young, so you got plenty of time to find the right one.
My point is, don't let this fuck with your life too hard, you'll get over it and find something better along the way, trust me on that one.
>>685056228 Awe fuck,.. this and It was all my fault I just wasn't good enough I mean I would look in the mirror and think "nah not you look at you your nobody" she made me feel like someone. I hate myself.
Anything you read on here won't make you happy, it won't fix anything. Only you can make yourself happy, only you can put the pieces of your life together to create something wonderful for yourself. One thing you can do is think about how worse things could be. Imagine yourself in a concentration camp, or as a slave. Imaging yourself as one of the brave souls who stormed Normandy only to be cut down by bullets after taking two steps onto the beach. You have so much anon you have the most important gift you could ever have, you have your life. A life filled with endless potential and possible growth. Use it to help others and better yourself. Just smile and laugh like normal until the day comes when you are truly happy. Pretend your fine until you are.
>>685060881 This anon is right about everything except for one thing, pretending to be happy. Don't EVER bottle in your feelings and deny them, it will seriously fuck you up. If you're sad, acknowledge that you're sad, and it will dissipate, if you're angry, acknowledge it. This goes for any negative feeling, don't ever deny that you aren't content, because if you just store it away and keep it hidden, one day it will all come out at once and then you may not know how to deal with it.
Be real to yourself anon, don't tell yourself lies to get by in life, it's destructive in the long run.
>>685062001 That's why I'm here anon, I learned to vent this shit early on because it goes off like a bomb otherwise. I appreciate what everyone is saying, thank you everyone. It's hard to get through this, as I'm sure many of you can agree with. It seems impossible to adjust to being on your own again when you have spent so much time with someone, but it's something you just have to do...
>>685062001 I see your point I really do. What I have to say to that is that by letting your "feelings" control you you give them power over you. It is best in my opinion to be mindful of your thoughts and feelings and to choose to be happy and ignore anything else so in a sense pretend like your fine until you are. If you make a big deal about being "low" your not going to go anywhere.
This is why I pity God. I did a lot of thinking in only my twenty years. And in that time of thinking, I became lost into fantasy. The real world left me behind as I stayed in my own. I absorbed other realities through cartoons, games, movies, etc. Soon enough I created my own universes, my own stories. At first they were simple wish fulfilment, I was the hero and I always won. But those bored me at some point. I soon began creating other "characters", though each had a piece of me in them. Any time I made a self insert, which I still do for some reason, I soon grew to know myself more and more. Same as with these other characters. Soon I realized they weren't "other", they were each myself. A different version in a different timeline. But each had at least one core aspect of their personalities that linked back to me. It was in this cycle of creation, having random ideas and expanding on them, was when I noticed something. Each universe had a rabbit hole that kept going. One that went as far as millennia into the past to explain the events of the present. No matter how deep I went though, no matter how many times I created circumstances or wars or supernatural entities like literal gods and trans-universeal beings to explain events and situations, there was still always a little bit deeper I could go. That was when it hit me. The rabbit hole kept going. It was infinite. There was no fundamental, there was no end explanation. There wasn't a base. Nothing was fundamental. Even if there is a god, or some higher power, even if there is life after death, there has to be something "before" that, then before that, then before that. Forever. Nothing is fundamental. Everything is circumstance. That is why I know God, and I pity him. Because I created, like him. I searched for the truth. I found it. Nothing is fundamental.
>>685062605 You'll be alright friendo, just be true to yourself, as corny as that sounds. Don't bs your way through life.
>>685062775 Being mindful, definitely, ignoring everything else, not so much for me. You wouldn't just ignore your dead dog rotting in the living room, so why would you ignore rotten feelings fucking with your head? Gotta deal with those things man.
>>685047493 Does anyone have that 4chan sreencap about 2 a.m. feels? I don't really remember what it said, ti's something about how you convince yourself you're OK, until you find yourself alone in your room at 2 a.m. and suddenly the self-hatred and loneliness comes back
>>685063911 Whatever you say newfag. There has always been an elevated amount of respect in feel threads compared to others because...guess what? Everyone is fucking miserable and it shows in these threads.
>>685062775 Yes, and no. You have to acknowledge how something affects you so that you can better understand the choice you have to make when dealing with it.
You can't help the kneejerk reaction to a situation, that is how you feel about it. But you have to choose positivity or negativity.
>Totaled my car on lunch break a few years ago in the middle of a double. I had to walk back in the rain, drinking a mixture of latte and rainwater while soaked wet. >When I got back to work, my feet hurt, and I was thirty minutes late. Service was in 30-45 minutes respectively and I was now incredibly behind. >I had a smile that never left my face, and I never stopped joking that shift. As I recall, the shift itself was fun and memorable...
I remember acknowledging that I no longer had a vehicle to transport me to work, and would have to come up with a few thousand dollars pretty fast because I worked far away. That shit is upsetting, but I did remind myself that I was unhurt, and OK.
>>685064635 shes too busy following society's protocol, most likely. >gotta be sexy >gotta find a man >he gotta have money/prestige >he gotta be handsome >i gotta put up with whatever he does to get by >more bullshit >bullshit, bullshit, bullshit
or maybe you're just an asshole who couldnt sweet talk the princess
If a girl cuts it off with you, the best thing you can do is steel yourself for what is ahead of you because that ship sailed. If she calls you back and says she made a mistake, guess what? You don't get back with her because you should have self respect, and she will do it again.
Lemme guess, you're a teenager who thinks this and that is hard, and that you wish for this and that. And that /b/ is some sort of solace for the damned, which it isn't. Its a cesspool or porn and crap, a very shitty board.
>grandma lives in china and has a dog and a cat >don't worry she doesn't plan to eat them >dog and cat gets along together >grandma loves them >grandma lets them roam the town >they usually come back >one day they don't come back for dinner >her son and 2 daughters go looking >can't find them >next morning one of the daughters found some dog eating chink roasting a dog and a cat >dog and cat looks suspiciously like theirs >turns out faggot caught them yesterday afternoon >turns out this faggot dog eating chinaman was about to eat their dog and cat >the brother kicks his ass and takes the cooked remains and buries them >rip dog and cat with non english name
>be human >feel things >got nobody to tell >find a feels thread >spill soul on the internet to a bunch of strangers >find a surprising amount of relief in doing so >be even more surprised that people respond with support and not "fag" >recognize the humanity in others >feelsgoodman
fast forward to now >post in feels thread about shitlife >angry cucks call you a beta faggot >you know they're just chads or brads who peaked in high school/undergrad >maximum kek at their dead end careers at the local bar >feel better >carry on being human >see chad/brad in a restaurant someday >mfw he's in drive thru window
OP here, again, thank you all for your advice, support, and kindness, I wish all of you anons out there the best of luck. I need to get some rest, been awake for 24 hours straight... Good night everyone.
Hey /b my friend died last night... OD on heroin, was 20 couldn't even drink. Fucking hell I knew him since second grade. I can't even eat right now why did he have to be such a idoit god damn fucking idiot
>>685068577 extinction induced deviance. let me guess, > you two came from a poor area, or at the very least had little to do. >girls didn't pay much attention or they would rather be with the rich fellas. >vidya lost its appeal around 18. >drinking lost its edge after pot. >pills lost their worth when you were too broke. > H got him high when everything else sucked >everything kept sucking.
>>685068164 currently still trying to get through life bottle to bottle because the girl i dated all through college broke up with me. thought i would marry this girl, loved her with everything. fuck it man, life sucks
>>685069865 yeah, last time i tried to talk to mine was two weeks ago. tried to make a joke through text and she just said whatever. tried to call but she didn't answer. look on fb and find out she has a new boyfriend. "I still love you I just need some time" her breaking up with me. shit like her wanting to still talk to me but thinking that would make our time apart harder. now what? fuck her, wish i could get her out of my head but it seems impossible unless i'm doing something really intense or drunk as hell
>>685069297 unfortunately your wrong. We both live/lived in a middle class town. Hey was a hit with girls. Amazing at sports was on almost every team in high school, got a sports scholarship to collage, and he had no history of doing drugs no one knew he did not his family or me. It sucks, his wake is Sunday I don't even know what to do they want me to talk about him at it
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