My gf of 6 years went to to college a few weeks ago. She has gotten a lot of new male friends.
The other day she was in the common room watching a movie with some other people, and she took a pillow, put it up at some other guy and leaned on that (check pic for reference) during the entire movie(s) they saw.
Should i be worried about this or stop being a beta fag and trust my gf and that nothing will happen?
Give advice to an anon who is tired of being jealous..
Also, don't jump to conclusions. Different people have different ideas of what's acceptable, she might have not even thought about it. If your actually worried about something in your relationship though, you should talk about it.
>>684858408 Then you should talk more. If you're angry you've not reached a conclusion. Just remember to talk about it rather than vent, you can be angry afterward if there's a reason to be. Better to be controlled for a little while and know what's going on than jump to conclusions.
>>684859393 You can't be totally sure of anything, but trust is the whole point of a relationship. You won't get past this without taking a bit of a leap of faith.
I'm sure that she doesn't want to be the girl who makes her boyfriend freak out, just like how you don't want to be the guy who controls her life. Just be chill and let what needs to happen, happen. I can't promise it'll end well but I can promise it's better to address stuff like this sooner rather than later.
Listen, people, both men and women(rather dude want to admit it or not) know right away if they want to fuck somebody. This does not change because they are in a relationship, and having a crush feels good, even if you dont act on it. I have been in relationships in the past where i met another girl and just knew i would end up fucking her. I didnt make the effort, nor did i want to, but i just had a feeling. I kept them around for this very reason.
When i was still in the relationship i gave it everything, and had no other thought than it lasting forever. I never even popped a boner over the other chick, or even thought about it. Of course, after the relationship was over, her leaving me for completely unrelated reasons, i fucked the other chick after w cooling off period.
My point is that just because she may have met a suitable dude, and even if she has that same feeling, it doesnt mean she will fuck him, or even entertain the idea while with you. She will, however, fuck the shit out of him after you break it off because of your insecurities.
Being in a relationship does not stop your instincts from working, but a decent person can keep them at bay while attached to someone else. If you think she is a decent person then give her the trust you would want in return that she can do the right thing. Either that or leave now, because not trusting your gf is a poison that will end you anyways.
>>684861252 Or, you know, do it the smart way and just prove you are better than him in a friendly manner. If you can find a way to hang out with them as a group, then you can do things like help him study, or loan him some cash. This may sound dumb on the surface, but it instills a sense of you having your shit together and him not.
>>684855018 Drop her dude. It will save you a lot of lies and bother and you'll regain your manhood.
Do not wait around. Just eject her ina polite and unemotional way.
Bunch of instant male friends means she is putting out signals and accepting replies to them.
Head on lap of dude for an hour and a half while he was certainly popping wood for half of it.
Red flags and you know it, otherwise you wouldn't be here.
Think about it, would you sit cuddling a new female friend while watching a film together?
What would be your girlfriend's reaction?
Would your girlfriend do this in the same room as you?
Get the fuck out. I am taking from experience. It isn't worth it whatsoever. Don't listen to the hippy faggots telling you to relax and take the cuck cock smoothly while she ducks you over progressively.
She is the one doing things to make you jealous. She has no respect or boundaries and it will only become worse.
>>684857704 This is just obvious. Go up to a male friend of yours and lay your head on his lap. Feels wrong, correct? Now do it to your gf. The point is that people dont invade comfort zones unless they want to be close.
Signs of attraction include constant self grooming, like playing with her hair, and pointless contact for no apparent reason. I never figured out why people are so clueless. I can 99% of the time figure out who will fuck. I have always been correct in the past.
I dated my first GF for 5 years. All through high school and then the 1st year of college. The last year was awkward and we each cheated on each other before we finally just realized we weren't meant to be together.
You don't even know who you really are until you are in your mid 20's. Your teen years are just an experimental phase and your mind is clouded with hormones.
Sorry bro but the relationship is over. She is going to meet literally hundreds of new guys. I guarantee one of them is going to be exciting to her and turn her on.
>>684862954 Eh if I were op u wouldn't just drop it like that, keep it as a side piece with your options open if you want to continue having sex. Always seems easier to find a new chick when your still with someone
>>684863329 I have a sort of theory. Unless a person is super vain, they wilk try to improve themselves. Things like sex, dealing with money, and all the other relationship things, will improve with each relationship.
My theory is that people are fucking delusional for thinking they are getting a better sig other each time. They dont realize thqt the one they left has also improved, and if they simply stick together they will continue to be better people. That is why so many people finally find the perfect person when they are like 40+. Thqt person has a lot more experience than their highschool sweetheart, who has since improved as well, and is now somebkdy elses perfect mate.
>>684863499 >be me >go to same college as my high school crush >finally get her number and go out with her a few times >get to fuck her twice >then she hooks up with a Turkish exchange student and gets herpes >talks to me about her herpes because I'm a microbiology major and know about viruses >starts flirting with me again >go insane with rage because some diseased turkish fuckhead ruined by crush's pussy for life
Enjoy college anon! So many fucking sexually transmitted diseases flying around it is insane.
>>684863528 Not sure what that means. I dont claim to be a fucking psychic, but i do claim to have called each one of my friends future wives the day they met. Of course maybe i just influenced them by saying so.
Everyone is being a fag here. Lets just simplify this and say that he should end it because she deserves a chance to make some mistakes just like everyone else. That is what college is for. If she really cares about you she will come back after she figures out whatnshe really wants. But being in a long distance relationship while surrounded by hot college kids sucks ass for everybody.
>>684864333 What a load of shit. Alcoholism and wife beating was extremely common back in the old days. There was just so much stigma around divorce that lots of people didn't even consider it an option.
You are delusional if you think just because people stayed married it meant they were happy.
My girlfriend went 'travelling' and after a few months said she had genital warts, confirmed to be HPV in a hospital. Tried to claim it was from a toilet seat or a swimming pool, said she even knew which one it was from???
Then a few months later said she knew it wasn't from those, and asked me if I had been fucking around.
I read a fair bit about it, no i didn't sleep with her ever again.
>>684864176 Dude, if you are a microbiology major you should know that herpes is common as shit, and aside from child birth and some potential discomfort, it is absolutely harmless. I got that shit because my grandmother used to kiss us on the lips when we left her house and she had it. My lack of knowledge combined with my having cold sores since being a kid ,ed to me not even knowing i had it until i gave it to someone else.
Just saying it isnt all that bad, and a surprisingly large amount of people stay married for years without passing it to eachother.
>>684864937 You could have it. Men can carry HPV and have almost no symptoms. It is by far the most common STD. Other than increasing the risk for cancer and some minor warts that might be almost unoticable it is a pretty minor disease.
That's why people can have it and not even know, especially males. And the warts on a woman can be so deep you would never know unless you were doing a medical exam.
This is sandra shine. Used to be one of my favorite porn stars until I saw this set and realized she has HPV. That red irritation around her cervix is HPV warts... 99% of people would never know.
>>684865640 Exactly. I love the idea of my gf fucking another dude that she doesnt know, but i want it to be for me, not because of me. I would imagine a scenario where we just pick up a rando from the bar and she bangs him in the living room, then he leaves and never returns.
>>684863899 >>684865640 Actually the term 'cuckold' originally applied to men whose wives were unfaithful. The common imagery is a man walking around with antlers on his head: everybody knows about it but him.
A 'cuckold fetishist' is someone who gets off on their partner being unfaithful.
When people use 'cuck' as an insult, they're most likely implying the latter.
>>684865966 Right. If people were less stupid about it then we could fix it. The stigma about these things leads to people just not wanting to mention it at all. I would love to meet a girl that also has it so we can just not worry about it. This will never happen because you nobody will ever tell you until you are qbout to fuck, and some not even then. It is just super humiliating due to the stigma.
Just because you are in a relationship doesnt mean you cant set some ground rules. Just tell her you're not trying to be a controlling prick, but that shit pisses you off. Lay out what you're willing to deal with and what you're not. Whether she meant it or not is irrelevant. It hurt you, and you need to make that clear and that shit wont happen again or you're gone.
P.S. She lay'd with her head near another guys dick, its all but over...she knows it was wrong, NO chick would do that and think its not, unless he's gay. And if he let it happen, he's gonna try for more. That excuse of being "accepted" is just that, a str8 up excuse. Its BS. It was wrong!
>>684855018 I hate to be the one to break it to you, but relationships that start in middle school don't last. She's going to fuck around (as she should) because it's the first time she's meeting people outside your town, and they will be fresh faces and exciting to her. Let it go. Find you're own experiences. The more you try to control her the more she will likely hate you. The best thing is to break it off and after you both get some sexual experience, you'll have a better perspective.
>>684855018 >Just because you are in a relationship doesnt mean you cant set some ground rules. >Just tell her you're not trying to be a controlling prick, but that shit pisses you off. Lay out what you're willing to deal with and what you're not. >Whether she meant it or not is irrelevant. It hurt you, and you need to make that clear and that shit wont happen again or you're gone. >P.S. She lay'd with her head near another guys dick, its all but over...she knows it was wrong, NO chick would do that and think its not, unless he's gay. And if he let it happen, he's gonna try for more. That excuse of being "accepted" is just that, a str8 up excuse. Its BS. It was wrong!
>>684867016 Exactly, it's like a wet bar of soap. The harder you try to squeeze her and control her the faster she is going to shoot out of your grip.
She is going to be surrounded by literally hundreds of new and intelligent and interesting people from all over the world.
OP's best option is just to work on improving himself. It will simultaneously improve his chances of keeping his GF and improve his chances with other girls if it doesn't work out with his GF.
Being a clingy annoying smothering un-trusting boyfriend is the worst thing to do. And torturing himself over her when she is gone is also the worst thing to do. If it doesn't work out just move the fuck on. These are the prime years of your life OP. You will never be this young and have the option to date other young girls again.
Don't fucking waste it crying over some bitch who has already moved on. Trust me I know.
>>684855018 If its a long distance relationship, its def over. Every single guy there will manipulate the shit out of you not being there for any single reason you can imagine. Time to let her go dude. Fuck her on the side and be nice, but drop that emotional shit from your head right away and just consider her a fuck buddy.
>>684858408 Look man women are like monkeys. They don't let go of one branch till they have their hand on another. It's already too late for you. But not too late to dump her first and walk away with your dignity.
>>684866540 If the dude is 'gay', he's usually just looking gr8 some easy sex. Most days are just ultra low self esteem betas who gave up on normal pursuit of females. They play the friend game and end up aidsifying someone's girlfriend.
>>684867568 So that means I should have tried to date a girl infected with an incurable STD who tossed me aside to fuck some exotic brown skinned dick at the first chance she got?
Brilliant plan, fucktard.
It was nearly 10 years ago anyways and I've had several relationships since then and have been in my current one for 4 years now.
I was just sharing my "high school sweetheart fucking another guy while she was in college" story. I don't give a fuck if you cucks would have decided to stick with the diseased slut instead of trying your chances with the few billion other women in the world.
>>684868315 Stop being so damn butthurt. I didnt say anything about the cheating, of course fuck her for that. I was just defending people who have, from some or no faukt of their own, aqcuired herpes. That is not the same as defending sluts who got it by fucking around.
>>684855018 This is common, Im not fucking with you OP, you need to move on. When there are life changes like college and people are in new environments, they adjust to that environment, and that means that they seek new mates. She's meeting new people and moving on to the next phase of her life, you arent in that phase. Do yourself a favor and dont waste your time waiting for her to finally tell you about the new guy she's with. Though maybe this is her way of telling you, because women arent usually stupid enough to let something like this slip unless they mean to. If you ask her, she'll deny it. In a few weeks she'll be with someone else officially. Sorry OP, but its the truth.
>>684868705 Like i give a shit. I have posted that on /fit/ before. I am a guy with no shirt on, and i have not posted anything that could hurt me. If somebody want to try to fuck with me they can go right ahead.
>>684855018 No messing OP, some girls dont know how to end things so they will do stuff like this (seemingly innocent stuff) and hope that you break it off. Either they dont know how to go about it, or dont know how to deal with it. Maybe even afraid to do it themselves. If that doesnt work, they'll eventually drop another "nugget" of something they did or happened until you finally get the hint. ...A lot of times they'll even say "no i love you, I dont want to break up" kind of crap...they really do, but want to make it either your fault, or your decision. Psychologically a lot of women just dont know how to deal with that stuff. The signs are all there. She knows it was wrong but chose to do it anyhow. You dont have to be controlling to tell them that shit isnt acceptable.
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>>684870605 I am not a religitard, but i do know that the bible says women are basically worthless if they have fucked a man and keft, but men can do whatever the fuck they want, as long as it isnt other dudes.
>>684870887 Pretty much. Marriage wasnt about love back then, so men were expected to have affairs. It was actually seen as the most romantic of relationships a man could have. His wife was about child bearing, keeping the home, and combining family resources/status. Sounds good if you ask me.
>>684863737 It's unfortunate that you are so convinced of your retardation that you don't know the difference between an actual word's meaning and what you've derived the meaning to be from threads on 4chan
>>684864770 >alcoholism was extremely common back in the old days Wrong. Most people were far too poor to be alcoholics and had too many responsibilities like making sure the land was properly tilled so they wouldn't die of starvation in the coming winter
>>684871535 This. I now have a gf who is about to go to a different college next semester. I am not going to get too invested because that is just what happens in college. I will use her as a fucktoy for now, and if she makes it through without cheating i may wife her then. I will remain faithful, but i am over 30, and i know how the world works.
>>684871824 Not the same guy, but alcoholism was rampant going way back. When people are poor and work all the time they like to get drunk, and if your wife bitches about it you can kick her ass. That's why alcohol is called 'The Scourg of the Poor', because it destroyed so many of their lives.
>>684871948 Being an alchoholic isnt the same as being a hopeless drunk. Based on the governements definition having a few drinks a week is alchoholism. Unlesw you know the criteria they used it is dishonest to point to the data as fact. You can be a perfectly good person while still drinking every once in a while.
It's what you are comfortable with op. My opinion, she crossed some fucking boundaries. Why would you watch be watching a movie a decide, i want to put my head in some dudes lap. Maybe bothing happened, but its a clear sign she does not have any respect for you. Granted, if you did shit to make her jealous, maybe you deserved it. If not, and you were good to her, than drop that shit. You deserve better.
>>684872227 Every religion started as a cult. Relogions dont just spring out of fucking nowhere and everyone instantly accepts them, they have to start fairly small.
In a sociology class they said that people tend to flock to new and exciting religions, then the religion grows and becomes the norm, then people get bored and flock to a different one. Of course over many generations.
>>684872382 Ya, my family wasnt very well educated on what it was or how to deal with it. They assumed that it wouldnt transfer as long as it wasnt visible. I dont blame her, she is a sweet old lady, but i do wish they had known more.
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