Tell her you need time for yourself, tell her both of you need to stay away from dating for a while, be the best man and be her friend, don't get her over your head and start looking for girls when you feel better.
>>683064423 its up to you you'll probably be hearing about all the dick she's been getting if that doesnt bother you then by all means be best friends iwth her otherwise focus on school or hobbies and let that heal your wounds then one day you'll be out with friends and wont be thinking what she's doing you'll look back later at night in bed >"oh wow i didnt think about her tonight" then you can start dating again you'll probably see her again if you two have mutual friends she wouldve had slept with a few guys since you she'll have her heart broken by one of the guys she'll then ask you to give it another try thats when you remember how shitty she treated you while you gave her everything you remember how the other girls you went out with were infinitely better than your ex how the other girls never used you or walked all over you how the other girls didnt treat their friends better than they treated you you realize you didnt lose much you realize you actually came out ahead of the break up you found someone better someone who not only has an amazing body but personality someone who called your ex out on her bullshit to her face someone who defended you to your ex and then tore her down someone who then gave you a blowjob later that night but all you wanted to do was eat her out because of how incredible she is
anyways you'll be fine op at times you'll feel like total shit but then realize how much better you are without her
>>683065293 You can be normal friends with her just dont text her every day. Also talk to other chicks and date, it'll drive her crazy and if not then you still get to bang the other girl. Just don't act like you care because you'll get fucked
>>683064423 Fuck off her life for a bit, get over her completely, then you can think about being friends again. Don't orbit around her if you still love her, she has nothing to lose but you can get badly hurt over and over again.
Not this, this guy's basically still an orbiter in my book.
OP, here's what you:
> Cut off contact > Delete her number > Unfriend her on Facebook > However, explain in a civil manner that you cannot just be friends and it would be best to cease all contact. Be straight about this.
I had an ex pull this same line on me. Do you really want to pretend you're all friends as you meet her with her new guy? She'll get a thrill out of that, knowing you secretly want her. If you cut off all contact it doesn't matter if you see her in public; you have effectively said "If you don't care for me, then I don't care for you".
That was the emotionally difficult part. Now it is time to focus on yourself:
> To be comfortable in your next relationship, you have to enjoy being single. > Have sex with who you want, go where you want (because, as fun as a gf can be, you have no dates to make, or anything to commit to)
Protip: > Start hitting the gym - 5X5 routine > Take zinc supplements > This will do you a world of good > More testosterone produced - you'll feel healthier and more energetic > Builds muscle (when you're eating the correct diet - research) > You will, in time, begin to get a hotter calibre of girl. You won't be scoring lingerie models 6 months after lifting, but it does work. > And finally that girl who dumped you, the one who thinks so little of you that she expects you to be her orbiter whilst she fucks someone else, will see you with a much higher tier girl on your arm in the future; What a sweeter way of saying "Fuck you"
>>683074251 >She said that I was messing up too much or some shit like that.
I don't believe it. tell me more. either you're lying about this for attention, you're keeping it secret it from your fam, she's a cunt and just wanted to be done with you, or you're half-a-tard and probably shouldn't be in a relationship.
>>683074483 I dunno if you were in the thread yesterday I made about making a joke and she got mad, apparently that was just the tip of the ice-berg. She had a pretty huge argument with me last night and said stuff like me being insensitive and stuff like that
>>683074636 nah man, i wasn't there. this is my first time on 4chins in months. I was on my exes fb, got feels and decided to get on here and found this.
How you should approach this depends on how old you are. if you're < 25 then she's probably a selfish cunt. if you're >25 then she's still probably a selfish cunt. it's a lose-lose situation. if you can provide more insight into your relationship we may be able to help. Things like age, duration of relationship, race, background, etc
you know what op if you still have feeling for her just know that she dumped you in order to be able to get other guys in her and making you feel worthless because she knows you still want to be with her
instead, man up cease to exist from her life by cutting off cantact and moving on to other things or even find a new girl
>>683076301 yeah, let that girl go man. you need to get a lot more pussy, and she's bound go take a lot of dick. they're either on track for school, or bangin' all the time. Either way, you should get new pussy.
>>683077084 I was in the same boat, and it was y best friend. Gave that bitch a whole 'nother year from the date. Before the break-up was official she was walkin' around with some guy smelling like his cologne. fucking sluts. Even whores make money doing what these bitches do.
Also OP, if she got upset by saying you weren't going to talk to her no more, just explain, in a calm manner, that it is for the best.
You've basically defied what she was wanting; a platonic friend, an orbiter. You've showed her you're better than that. No go enjoy your life without her, you'll remember these days fondly when you have a prettier, more loyal girlfriend.
Make yourself a better man improve yourself that's the best kind of revenge. Put away the negativity in your life and do positive things. She just wants you around as a crutch. Don't be used by people like that and only surround yourself with positive people op
>>683078352 Take time to heal. We all go through a period where we think we won't love again (unless the relationship prior was fucked up in some way). Just dedicate life to yourself for a while, don't think about getting with someone if you don't want to. There's no need to.
>>683078163 OP The only real decison nis to dissapear from her life. Its the action that will most likely allow you to heal or alternatively send her back to you. Condensing all advice in this thread that is the clear answer. It's always the answer. Emotions will often irrationally tell you that there may be a chance that if you stick she'll come back. This is a lie. I've done both and its the better decision. Both courses of action are painful but at least the one is on a path to less feels and even thicker skin against the feels. Do the right thing son. Don't be a cunt.
>>683064423 Ask yourself some questions. >Do YOU still care about her? She does not about you, this "best friends" bullshit is just to feed her ego. >Can you manage being "best friends" with someone who just ripped your heart out(considering you cared about her) >How deep are your feelings? >Do you want to get back with her? If yes, then no, fuck her, DO NOT GET BACK WITH HER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. She'll dump you again. Unless she's begging you, like realy serious and actually WORKS for getting you back. Words do not mean SHIT. >Can you handle her new relationship considering her breaking up with you? There will be one sooner than you think
I am in your place right now...i did the exact oposite of what I told you and now I kinda feel like shit about me. Don't repeat my mistakes /b/ro
>>683064423 In my homecountry we have a word for people like you OP. The word is ''Tøffel'' and means slipper. Why do i call you a slipper, well thats because that girl wears you everywhere, steps on you, treats you like shit and you can't do shit about it. leave her OP, or else you will forever be a beta faggot. Also, leaving her makes life better, and if she were to find a new boyfriend, you wouldn't have to watch her make out with that guy, and thinking about the thought that she is fucking another dude
>>683067753 Immediately go out and have a blast with your mates and plaster it all over facebook - she'll find it through friends as you've unfriended her. Nothing is less appealing to a woman than a simpering man waiting for her to look his way. Make the bitch wonder what she lost. When she comes crawling back tell her you're having a blast and you'll call her when you're done.
>>683078971 >>683079387 Good you're doing Gods work. But it's gonna get so much harder trust. Think that pang of pain you felt looking at her facebook was intense? Wait my son. Fucking delicious waves of near unbearableness are coming your way. Put a playist of adele and linkin park on repeat and sadly masturbate to the fading memories of the good times you had. Don't worry though it will get better and the sad state you're in will eventually disgust you so you wont go back. I hope I dono I'm still waiting for my next tasty soul crush I'm fucking excited to degenerate.
>>683079699 I'm going to add, OP, that you make sure this ends as amicably as possible. It's nice and all to fuck her over for breaking up with you, maybe making her hate you, but the long-term consequence of that can sometimes blow up in your face, and sometimes in unexpected ways.
>>683078135 I just watched this movie last night - she was a fucking disaster. Her and the joking nigger ruined a great franchise. Plus the terrible plot, which was basically the originally movie. So glad I torrented it
OP, once upon a time I was presented with the same spot you are now. Me ex left me high and dry, I got no say on it, I got to say nothing to her, nothing. I was devastated. The next few weeks were batshit crazy for me. I Neely died in a nasty car wreck, I lost a family member, and then she came crawling back. I took her back, and then everything repeated. I noticed every little thing she did and quite frankly they made me angry. We split again because I woke up and realized that things just weren't as good as I thought they were. This time I'm at peace, I just wish I had taken time to evaluate my situation beforehand. It's time man, assess where things are and make that call, don't let anyone else make you act in any way until you're certain.
>>683080955 I fucking hate this y'know? Like the girls have all the say in the relationship. I mean I don't even know why she was like that. She just said, we are done. I feel for you though man, hope everythings going okay
>>683081436 Things are fine for me because it ended on my terms. It sucks being just kinda thrown into your spot, but this could be a chance to build something bigger and better. Just let everything you do be on your terms /b/ro.
Definitely not, I had the same thing happen to me and I told her there is no fucking way and she got pissed off and told her how I'm not going to sit there and listen to your shit after just leaving me but then saying hey, I still want a certain amount of control over you along with supervision. It's definitely not worth it
>>683082107 I told her that, I told her being friends would hurt me more than not talking to you and explained all of that but she just got mad. So I said "If we're not going to be more than friends there's no point in talking". I'll always love her though
>>683082330 Well based on how she reacted to you looking out for her then this is definitely for the best. That kinda "fuck you this relationship is about me" attitude is poison. If you ask me, it would've ended on far worse terms at some point. Those kinds of people always run others into the ground.
>>683064423 cut all contact, let her know you can't stay friends because it would fuck things up for you, then wait for either some other chick to come along or for her to change her mind, by cutting contact all her memories of you will be the good kind, you together etc, if you stay friends you allow a version of yourself as only friend to build up in her mind
>>683064423 Listen to everyone who is telling you to tell her to "kick rocks while you eat a bag of dicks"
She's probably just trying to fuck someone else. Either a coworker, classmate, guy friend, whoever... you probably know who he is. She's probably introduced him to you. She's probably at that age where the grass is always greener on the other side and this is how she covers up her selfish bullshit.
Do yourself a huge favor here
Tell her to eat a bag of aids ridden cock and never look back
Don't do it OP. She wants the benefits of your relationship- your time and emotional support without having to put out. You will only grow to resent her for it. If she wants to be single, cut off all contact.
>>683064423 Does she have a sister? Possibly a best friend? Bang one or both of them. Provided you are not a total neckbeard faggot it's not terribly difficult to get a woman into you, with enough effort.
Will cause way more emotional anx, and infringe on everything in your future. Just say "yeah cool, whatever" and never make any effort to talk to her first. If she text you, be polite, ask about her single friends etc. She has dumped you because she feels she can do better. If she doesn't after 1-2 months/ gets fucked around by the guys she thinks are more 'her speed' she will come back, and you being the beta for letting her stay your friend will take her back(Because you've made the choice to still care) and the cycle will repeat in a few months, or after some more of your emotional financial investment etc. And this will continue to repeat until you share a mortgage and she takes half your shit. Move on, I have plenty of girl friends, but would drop all of them in a heart beat because THEY BRING NOTHING BUT EMOTIONAL SHIT, that have no interest in entertaining. And replacements are literally everywhere.
Advice - If you're as beta as you seem to even ask this questions. Get yourself over to /fit, get yourself in a gym. Get yourself a copy of Neil Struass' the Game. Get yourself some self respect. This will change your life.
Have had plenty of ex's who have wanted to stay friends after breaking up. Most have tried to come back, all have kids by dead beat now, and tell me they wish we had worked out. Fuck every one of those cunts.
TL;DR - Move on, there are plenty of other girls out there who will have their shit together, there is plenty of money to be made in the time in takes you to meet a girl. And Plenty of sluts about to fill any spare time.
When you're raised in an environment where everyone tells you you're perfect and beautiful and amazing, you're of course gonna grow up to be a pathetic weakling that has to be on emotional life support most of your sad existence or you'll crumble.
>>683085152 well, technically they are not doing it to fuck you over but to protect themselves and their own interests, as in, they feel they would be happier or their life better if they did something else with it, to suggest that they should forget their dreams because it would hurt your feelings if they were to attempt realizing them.
your life is about you, their life is about them, love and relationships are fantastic when the two interests align but you can't expect or demand it. like you are suggesting one should.
Most likely one of you will end up losing the feelings before the other, why is the person this happens to first somehow evil?
I'm in a very similar situation. Dating girl for about 3 months and she says she thinks we should take it slow and go back to "talking". She said she's ruined every other relationship in the past and feel like she would this one. Sounds like bull shit to me and she said she would like to date me in the future. Should I give up because I really like her but I feel like she's just doing this so we gradually talk less to the point to where we don't at all
Women are perpetually coddled and their precious feelings put on a high pedestal.
When a woman breaks up with a guy, she's no longer able to consume that emotional support she's been getting from him for years.
She doesn't like not being his centre of attention anymore even though she's not interested in him, hence the "friends" proposition - it keeps him in orbit, a shoulder to cry on, exploiting him because she knows she can due to him still having feelings for her.
>>683085533 tell her that if anything is ruining the relationship it is this kind of pussyfooting around
cut contact and tell her you can't picture the two of you in the future if you can't make it work now, tell her something like "I don't want to waste your time or my own, if you are not interested just let me know so I can spend my time and energy elsewhere"
if she want to talk about the future laugh and let her know that the only people that might get to have a say in your future is your current partner and family, a group she does not belong to
You're plan B, anon. If she actually liked you, you'd be dating right now. She's full of shit, wants to try her luck with guys she thinks are superior to you and if that fails, THEN she'll come to you.
Until the next Chad turns up, that is.
Don't ever allow yourself to be someone's second option.
>>683085888 nothing you said there is gender specific though but something that fit the whole generation IMO
it is also something that happened in the past too, just not as commonly, I mean, we have all heard about the dude who kept his ex around for a easy fuck by playing her feelings, same shit. you just think it is gender specific because you have not experienced the other side
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