I have had 7 girlfriends. Every single one of my relationship ended because my girlfriend at the time started cheating on me and I caught her.
Here's the thing. I knew they were sluts before I started dating each of them. I recently began analyzing my dating history and I've come to the conclusion that I cannot fall in love with good girls. I've banged plenty of good girls and some of them expressed a desire to be in a relationship with me, but I found each of them very boring. The only women I have ever been romantically interested in all were notorious for being promiscuous before I started dating them and despite this, I fell in love with them anyways.
What the fuck is wrong with me? Why is it that I can't fall in love with good girls and can only fall in love with girls that are not relationship material? >pic semi-related
I'm not gonna try to go super deep into the psycho analysis of your mind or anything, but here is the deal:
There are a ton of men like you, who have the dominating mentality. You fall in love with women who are promiscuous because you want to show the world that you can make these "sluts" calm down and respect the fact that you are in a relationship with them. You're only mental goal during this is to have conquered the unconquerable, or going steady with a slut.
The only way to fix this? Well I'm not sure. Either you find a single girl that hasn't had a large number of sexual partners (hard at the age range of 32) or you simply cut your losses and try to actively avoid getting involved with promiscuous women.
Good things to look out for: >Doesn't talk about relationship history >Doesn't have only guy friends >Either has a kid or wants a family one day >Has hobbies that are relatively anti-social in nature
Bad things to look out for: >Puts out on the first couple dates >Never wants kids >Has hobbies like clubbing or going to bars >Talks about sex on the first date >Sends nudes
I've had three and it's pretty much the same thing.
First one I kind of brought the slut out of her which ended up in me being butthurt because first girlfriend. Second was more of an "i dont give a fuck" type of deal so it ended without me caring.
On the third as of now and I think I'm a bit emotionally invested some how. Dating for about a year now and no real problems as of yet. Your girls cheat on you for certain reasons that you haven't yet noticed.
>>656485235 >Why is it that I can't fall in love with good girls and can only fall in love with girls that are not relationship material? This is your problem: you're looking for a relationship. That's basically handing all the power to the girl. She is flattered at first, then gets bored with it, then fucks someone else.
Don't go looking for a relationship. Just go fuck some girls. Keep doing that. If you end up getting along very well with a couple of them keep seeing them. But act like you don't want a relationship. Over time if one of them wants a relationship with you she'll push for it. Put up a little resistance, but give in over the course of a year or two.
If she feels she had to work to end up in a relationship with you she will treat the relationship with more respect than if you just fell into her lap.
>>656485235 Your problem is that you're trying to fall in love. Love it chemical reaction. Nothing more nothing less. It isn't something you strive for, as it can dissipate as soon as it forms. We aren't a species meant for happiness, we are designed to reproduce. It's really just that simple.
>>656485235 Thats because we select the same kind of girls always, we look for that profile even without noticing, thats why girls who were abused once, end up with another guy who beats them up. I've read about it somewhere. I used to think like you though, but i found one girl that i think its what ive been always looking for, maybe in the future im wrong and she ends up being a slut, but for now, she looks like the perfect one. Just try to not end up with a fucking whore, that kinda helps bro. If you know already they are whores, thats exactly the one you dont have to choose, those girls are just ok for casual sex ONLY.
>>656485235 Women really only cheat or anybody for that matter because the person they're with isn't worth the time and effort to put first a real relationship. Some realize this immediately and dump their partner and others don't. The point is.... MOST people don't cheat for the sake of cheating; they cheat because you're not for them but can't or don't know how to leave their current situation.
Maybe you're boring. Maybe you're an idiot. Or ignorant. Or an asshole. Or all of the above.... Either way you're not what these people are looking for. Try and see it from both sides and look to yourself to see what you're doing on your part to be so off putting. Just because you want a relationship doesn't mean you're capable of having one. If so any have turned you down or cheated then its time to stop blaming others and look at what you're doing wrong.
I suspect your problem can't be fixed. I've known guys like you. Your a great guy and they really do love you and want to be with you, which is why it really sucks that they can't really feel you inside them.
Yeah, I know, it's the motion of the ocean, yada yada yada. But sweetie, we've got to be able to feel the boat.
>>656488555 >Women really only cheat or anybody for that matter because the person they're with isn't worth the time and effort to put first a real relationship. Nice trips, but this is not true. Some women cheat because they're too chicken to end the relationship any other way. But most folks cheat because an opportunity they can't resist presents itself. Those in committed relationships who want to stay loyal learn to avoid situations that present those kind of opportunities. Plenty of other people in relations just manage to cheat discreetly.
I think OP's problem is that he's too obvious about wanting to be in a relationship. Where's the excitement in that for the girl? Where's her incentive to work to try to keep her man happy? He's just made up his mind to be there, and that's boring. She has to feel like she has to work to keep him or he'll be gone if she is going to see his attention as a valuable thing.
>>656490710 If you never use your small dildos, it's because you stretched yourself out with unnaturally sized dildos and ruined your pussy. Now, only 7-8% of men are going to be capable of satisfying you, idiot. You should throw away your big dildos and give your pussy a chance to rebound while your still young enough to have skin with some elasticity.
>>656485235 You're addicted to porn, aren't you? That's why you can probably only feel strongly emotionally about skanks. I was in the same boat, but I fixed it! Wasn't easy though. Here's how I did it. 1. Stop mastturbating to porn. It seriously ruins your brain, and I'd been doing it for most of my life. It makes you get bored with bitches too fast, and trains you to want something new and exciting every time you have sexual experiences. Ruins malt chances at having long term healthy rewarding relationships. 2. Find a good girl. One who is attractive and even religious, if need be. They're sweet, never cheat, and treat you amazingly. Even if you're bored, man the fuck up and deal with it. Think of it as a project. Once the prob addiction is gone, you'll start appreciating her for the littler things. 3. Turn your timid, shy, goody goody GF into a more sexual person. Make her feel comfortable, but slowly as the months and years pass, begin helping her emerge as a sexual butterfly. She'll be madly in love with you, loyal, and eventually also not so awkward and bad when it comes to sex.
>>656491989 >will start to treat girls like bitches >>656492155 >pump and dump is the only smart move You don't have to go that far, but you want her to think you would if she doesn't keep you happy. Once they feel like they have a purpose they behave much better.
>>656491447 You may have a point. However, most of us girls these days have a vast toy collection. I can't think of a single girl from my office who doesn't have at least three. We take turns hosting Adam and Eve parties every 3 months. We all have dildos. All of us. If you only have a 5 inch penis and the girls in your dating pool are all stretching themselves out with their favorite 8 inch toy every other night, then most of your dating options will not be able to feel you when you have sex, which will be a big disappointment for them no matter how much they like you.
Op, the problem is that you're thinking with your dick before thinking about what you actually like and love. Rub one out before meeting one of these girls and see if you'll still fall in love. You're penis driven mate, and there's more important things than that.
>>656492563 >the girls in your dating pool are all stretching themselves out with their favorite 8 inch toy every other night, then most of your dating options will not be able to feel you when you have sex Which basically means in 30 years there are going to be a whole lot of stretched out women hitting menopause alone with closets full of toys because there weren't enough big dick guys to go around for them.
Promiscuous women generally have one thing in common: A low self esteem. They don't like themselves. They are willing to trade sex for flattery as a temporary self esteem booster.
Beyond that, if you are able to convince them that you really like them and you aren't just saying that to get sex out of them, you force them to say the following: >How the fuck can he really like me? Is he an idiot? He must be extremely stupid or desperate to want to be with me.
No girl wants to date a desperate idiot. Especially sluts. If you want to be in a relationship with a slut, you HAVE TO treat her like shit. You have to occasionally reaffirm her negative opinion of herself, that she isn't worthy of you, or you'll never keep her respect.
>>656492563 Most of you girls have zero worth when you hit 30. At that point both you and your stretched out, used goods will receive no more attention from men. So be glad you have your toys, because you're going to need them.
>>656492933 It's true. And they really can't tell whether or not it's an act. As long as you're just callous enough to make them think they have to work to keep your interest you stay in the driver's seat.
>>656494617 >Women>girls This has been true in my experience. Women in their 30's are better in the sack and much less retarded than in their 20's.
But as far as dating goes youth always holds greater appeal. All things being equal why would a 35 year old man date a 35 year old woman if he can have a 25 year old? If things work out with the 25 year old he'll still have her at 35, and if things don't he can just bang another 25 year old.
>>656495407 Not interested in the long haul and hard work for a healthy relationship, eh? Rather find an easy whore and treat her like shit all the time? Good luck ever being happy with that, you retard. Guess what? A slut can (and probably will eventually) still cheat, no matter how badly you treat her. That's not the way to do things. You're going to waste a couple more years in miserable relationships and still feel the way you do today, if not worse.
>>656487913 im actually beyond this point, dated for 6 years, and guess what, she cheated on me the last summer, and well then im seeing now clearer that theres a trends of whores around, but i kept a nice girl around as Best friend... now we are actually pursuing a relationship
>>656493645 fuck she looks like my ex slut GF, she literally said the same thing in a letter after i dumped her ass. if a girl doenst feel like she derserves me then why be with her i told myself. she was really good girl tho i made her cry. i liked it
"i just couldnt see why you would like me" Im not speacial or anything" you made me lower my walls" i saw myself losing you blah blah blah"
she is the girl in the picture where i am wearing a red tshirt.
>>656494310 Whatever dude. If that is true then fuck it. It is time to live the shit out of life however you can. There is a site called workaway that lets you do volunteer work and travel for free or at least extremely cheap. Go to Eastern Europe and build a barn. Get in shape. Hike and explore. Then the women will come. (I did mine in Tibet but hear Eastern Europe is better)
>>656495999 >Guess what? A slut can (and probably will eventually) still cheat, no matter how badly you treat her. You're forgetting that most girls who are very slutty when they're young calm down eventually, usually in their late 20's or early 30's when they realize still being slutty just makes them seem like a pathetic worn out old whore. Only the sluttiest of sluts hang on to it much past 28.
>>656485235 I'm 19 and I've had 3 gfs. One cheated on me and dumped me, one dumped me but didn't cheat on me and the other I dumped. I would say you need to get a better taste in women but I can't say much; the heart wants what the heart wants I guess
>>656485235 you have a fucking shit taste and are a fucking faggot go kill yourself or try some shy-introvert type girls, they are almost always alone and when they are really in love with you they won't leave you cuz heyeyey they have no social life, friends and will stay home all the time, consider that
>>656496600 This is a seriously valid point. My GF is 28, and she's already had her fill of being a drunk club goer back when she was in the early undergrad college phase. Now she's gunning for the marriage thing, and she's insanely committed.
>>656496750 wrong, over the past 5 months 2 mormon girls have been visiting my family, i fucked one of them. she asked god for forgiveness, i never saw her again. i have her number still but i have not texted her, even she admitted that she was only human.
>>656485235 Well think about it this way. Maybe because you are afraid of commitment and know that a slut will always be a slut. So that being said maybe you subcontiously just date them to always have an out.
Maybe you should stop being such a faggot and stop treating women like they are the center of your fragile scared world. If you want to be happy in a relationship all you have to do is find a girl you like fucking and is trustworthy and just treat them like any other girl you cool with. Trust me man it works.
>>656497564 sorry i'm not a native English speaker, but i've been working in swinger clubs and organizing parties for swinger for years and most couple that attends such parties has some kind of rules.
Sometimes it's "no kissing", sometimes it's "we do everything together", sometimes it's other rules.
So i don't know how to call these couples, if it's not an open relationship, but these kind of things works. I know people who have been doing that for decades.
>>656486184 Antisocial hobbies would be things like homebrew surgeries and setting fire to neighborhood cats. I think you mean asocial hobbies, like reading, collecting stamps, things that aren't typically social.
>>656490199 Holy fuck this is the only decent post here. The rest of you are beta women hating children and will remain so. Get a life OP. If she can't get her emotional needs met from one man she'll seek 'enough' men. Why the fuck aren't you doing the same? Have an open relationship. Become the exciting promiscuous person you're attracted to
Books to read- no more mr nice guy ~robert glover Way of the superior man~ david deida My secret garden ~nancy friday (It's bullshit, but hey) the game~ niel strauss
With women, its the nature of the beast. Emotions moment to moment. There is no consistency, except inconsistency. You gotta learn to pimp your ho(s) even if long term. Plus, talk about how you're not in a relationship, but you are with her and she is with you. The moment your bitch starts thinking your not cool or whatever it is that mentally excites the bitch, she starts to look for other dick, or pussy, that can stimulate her emo, mind, etc. Eventually, you become boring, but why the fuck arent you cheating too?
>>656490199 Faggot is mostly right. But your bitch needs to look up to you, even if she claims to be independent or some shit. And look up to you all the time. Find a way to capture her mind, the rest will follow.
>>656485235 Bruh, you love sluts. What's the problem? Just stop dumping them for being who they are and what you love. Outdated sexual mores are the problem. We all love sluts, be honest. It's time we stopped being so conflicted about it.
there's nothing wrong with that, there is always one part of the relationship that's more confident in himself and therefor cheats. I have a really cute gf that loves me and does everything but I cheated on her with a friend of mine that was a real dirty whore. It's just excitement and everything but the thought of her cheating on me destroys me. My last gf cheated on me because I was a depressed faggot with no confidence but now my gf is just so cute and pure but the sex is not what I am used to be so that's that.
>>656491920 >begin helping her emerge as a sexual butterfly Then she'll be a slut just like the rest that wonders why so many girls talk about enjoying sex and wonder why it's boring as fuck with you. Then once again you'll catch her cheating and never once realise that it's your lack of sexual prowess that drives them away NOT their lack of morals. Sorry about that anon, you needed to hear it from someone.
>>656506159 If you cant let go of the ego, it will continue to fuck up the bitches in your life. Faggots cant change themselves. If the same pattern fails, where does the change happen? Its all in your fuckin head.
plus, whys OP not with at least 7 bitches at a time? As they trickle off, chances are at least one might stay.
>>656485235 k they cheated on you but if theyd of been happy they wouldnt of. if they werent sluts theyd leave instead. until you figure out what your doing wrong youll keep doing it and theyll either cheat if theyre sloots or leave if theyre not. theres nothing wrong with sloots per se, my girl is an ex sloot and she doesnt cheat or leave because I keep her happy.
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