THOSE OF YOU WITH GIRLFRIENDS! Does this happen to any of you guys? I'm beginning to think I'm a piece of shit. This has happened with my last 3 girlfriends
>have sex all the time >during the day before we fuck i'm always nice to them, go places and stuff. Always thinking about fucking them though >we fuck >0.014 nano seconds after i cum i lose all interest in the girl. Just want to go away and do my own shit, almost instantaneous. >Always make an excuse to leave for after we fuck because i just can't deal with their shit after I've fucked them >this leads to them accusing me of just using them for sex >previously thought they were just being retarded and it was obvious i wasn't >third relationship ended today because i was "using them for sex" >begin to think I actually DON'T give a shit about them unless i'm fucking them >Starting to wonder if I have something mentally wrong with me and i can't actually love someone, just want to fuck
Does anyone else get this or is it just me? Would be really helpful as I need to sort my life out and most girls i know know me for being a dick to girls
>>597971528 >>597971794 >>597972147 No it's not really normal, it's what porn creates inside the minds of men/bois I have had a girlfriend of 2 years and 5 months so far (pussy whipped for keeping track of exact time yes I know) and every time I cum inside or on her, I always clean her off, or she cleans, whatever, and then we cuddle in bed for about 30 mins afterwards then we get dressed and go watch a movie afterwards.
>>597972749 For my last 3 girlfriends i honestly was friends with them before we fucked. I'm not sure if i get "having feelings and being friendly" mixed up deep down somewhere with being able to fuck them. It's kinda messed up, I want to have kids eventually and can't imagine actually having to live with a woman constantly.
OP Im the same way with my girlfriend. I think it has to do with porn. Do you watch or have you watched a lot of porn? I have so its natural at this point to lose interest right after fucking. I cant help it since ive done it this way since i was 14. Most the time i feel like damn time to go smoke a play a game of dota but you know, im in a relationship. Its not a love thing
>>597971528 Tbh man, yeah I think you're just in it for sex. I know you probably like lots about the girl but there's a difference. I've had girls where I've fucked them and lost interest straight after. But with the girls ive been with that I actually liked we'd have sex and the rest of the time we'd bullshit. So after the sex drive is satisfied there's still the vibe going where we spend the day with each other and just watch TV or talk or go to the bar or something. It doesn't really matter what it is dude but there was interest afterwards
>>597971528 Biological, i think it's normal. Men are suppossed to pump women full of sperm and move on to the next horny slut.
Societal/ethicallly. No, a girlfriend exist because you think she is a good candidate as your partner (for life). If she is just a fuck doll it'd be a FWB or ONS.
Do you actually think, she is a partner you'd want for life (or a few years/more than just a fuck) then you should lie to her, tell her you love her platonically, it's just that it's something you can't do anything about. (if you, when together, feel love, besides sex, that is).
If she isn't your love, find another bitch to fuck until you find your true love.
OP I always feel the same, but I don't feel like a piece of shit because I know I have more important things to do, I guess it might change some day, you just keep doing your thing brothe, if women want to feel bad let them.
But also take into account I'm not much of a feelings person given how my life has been, so you see, to me it works perfectly fine, yeah they complain, but I get my fuck and they always come back for more, whereas I give them affection or not.
I guess just get good at fucking so they want more and come back
>>597971528 Most anon are correct, OP. You actually are using these girls for sex because you don't really care about them. If you did give a shit about the girl, you would actually be interested in spending time with them. Trust me, I have banged out a lot of bitches, but a girl you can bang out and then hang out with is primo shit.
>>597971528 You're a man, that's what's mentally wrong with you. In a few years your hormones will chill the fuck out and you'll stabilize. Enjoy it while it lasts, when you're in your late 28s you'll wish you had the sex drive you do right now.
>>597971528 Hey OP, femanon here, you're in denial and it makes you seem like a compulsive liar, jonestly you are taking advantage of that and ti isn't an illness its just something a lot of men have, they get sexually frustrated to fuck some girl and after their done their desire is drained from them because they're satisfied.. duh how are you too stupid to realize that?
OP It happens to me, although not to that extreme.
I remember either reading an article or watching a video related to arousal and the brain. It turns out that when men are aroused, they enter a sort-of trance. The part of the brain controlling arousal starts to take over the rest of it, compelling you towards the reward. After you get the reward, everything resets, and the cycle starts over.
"And I love all my bitches But it's like as soon as I cum I come to my senses" -Lil' Wayne
>>597971528 No, it's pretty much sop. It might be like Post-coital tristesse causing general apathy, but you're probably just a normal dood. "Every animal is sad after coitus except the human female and the rooster."
>>597971528 I usually nake them cum first, then blow my load with the force of a thousand suns. I know what you mean, though. I hate showing affection most of the time anyways, let alone after busting a nut. Fuck cuddling.
>>597971528 I'm the exact same way OP, but I don't think I'm at all normal. This person >>597972186 is a fucking retard - it's not that I don't realize that girls are human beings, it's that I wouldn't give a fuck about any human being, male or female, unless I either a) have something genuinely in common with them or b) can use them for something.
The population that (a) applies to is very small, but almost entirely male. The population that (b) applies to is larger, and split about 50/50. But in 90% of circumstances, women have nothing to offer me besides their bodies. Hence, I fuck them and move on.
>during the day before we fuck i'm always nice to them, go places and stuff
...ok, this is typically known as a relationship.
>i just can't deal with their shit after I've fucked them
This is you not actually liking these girls.
>this leads to them accusing me of just using them for sex
Because that's what you're doing. Obviously you a) aren't ready or willing to have a committed, functional, mutual relationship or b) simply have been fucking girls because you're in your mid-20s and that's what guys in that age bracket typically want to do. You need to meet someone with whom you actually have a meaningful connection and genuinely enjoy being around them. Sure you can think about fucking them all the time. Hell I do that with my wife. But I think you've been chasing girls and haven't met a woman yet.
There's nothing wrong with wanting a girl for sex and only sex. Just don't be all pissy when it turns out that they're not into that kind of a relationship.
Hey OP you're in denial and it makes you seem like a compulsive liar, honestly you are taking advantage of that and ti isn't an illness its just something a lot of men have, they get sexually frustrated to fuck some girl and after their done their desire is drained from them because they're satisfied.. duh how are you too stupid to realize that?
OP, this is a totally natural phenomenon. You have to use some serious energy to make this anything above the primitive action that it really is.
1. All you have to do is get up and make some food for the two of you, get some water, clean up, etc. Go DO things, but do things that are nice for the two of you.
2. If you seriously just feel the need to get as far away from her as possible, that's not normal, and it may be that something in your childhood caused such an engrained reaction.
Just try sorting it out for yourself. Don't look at "men in general" to solve this. It is probably a personal issue. Just remember that there is a lot of primitive shit going on in our bodies, leftover from evolution, that we have the brains to overcome.
I'm 95% sure that's instinctual and we all feel that way. But fucking grow up, because womens are the opposite, they aren't done when you're done, and they need you to pretend like you're still into cuddling afterward (the same way you need them to pretend like they enjoy you). It's a mutual trade-off, you can just just fuck and run and expect them to be cool with that.
>>597971528 totally normal. just try and stay aware of the fact your mind works that way. mine does too. don't fight it, acknowledge it let it be and just remind yourself about how when you go about the rest of your day whilst not fucking they are pretty okay to be around. instead of being forthright and telling them you're over them immediately just start tickling her or say something she did that was funny. it'll go back to casual blahblah nonsense in no time and then shortly afterwards you may want to have another go around. works for me ;)
>>597971528 This phenomenon happens because after you ejaculate, your mind is no longer flooded with keeping track of the pheromones pervading the room and you're able to think as if the girl is not in the room. That being said, if your post-sex thoughts are complete disinterest, those are your true feelings and the lass is not for you, OP.
>>597972749 I agree with most of this. I married my best friend but my tolerance for stupid shit takes a big hit after I nutt. I love her and been together for 10y. I just really hate hearing her stories.
>>597977306 Well in porn you get to choose what your preference; like something to math your scenerio. i infer because of this stimulant it makes every other girl you see in real life useless and just something to use to get off of and then abandon them later, just like in porn after the extracurricular activitiy is done its not really anything affectionate just bust a nut and go by your day.. but if u fully read my comment i have another idea of what it may be but thats one of them
OP that means you don't care for the girl at all, if you did you'd stay with them, cuddle, fall asleep with her, or watch something together. Find someone you care for besides sex or forever be an asahole using girls for sex.
>>597972920 this. Also - if you fuck like a champ (which happens to me 20% of a time) girl is so exhausted after orgasming, she falls asleep immediately, so you can fall asleep too or do some shit. The best way to achieve this is to cum together (just hold up until she is ready [I know it's not easy])
>>597978569 >>597978771 >implying they dont rape >implying they dont fuck goats >implying they dont fuck donkeys >implying they dont fuck camels >implying they dont fuck dogs >implying they dont fuck guys 'no homo'
You are just using them for sex. I have never wanted to leave my girl after fucking. You dont actually love your girlfriend. It's kind of embarrassing to be you right now, but even more embarrassing for your gf
>>597971528 normal after you bust a nut. What you're dumb about is you are an emotional retarded douche bag who doesn't think 10 seconds ahead to save his own life. You like the girl but you're not willing to put your arm around her after sex because you don't feel like it? Lol. What are you 8 years old that you let emotion and feelings control you to such a degree? Do your fucken job.
Sorry OP. Has anyone mentioned this is COMPLETELY NORMAL. Surging hormones from being aroused during sex make the person you're with seem like a goddess, when you come and those hormones abate, it's just a weaker, long-haired human being that's in your way.
Perfectly normal. Has to do with oxytocin and dopamine and testosterone levels. You're a different person when you're about to come, coming, and have just come.
That being said, you do grow out of it. I've been with my gf for three years, I'm 30 and legit appreciate her afterwards.
>>597971528 The best way to combat it is have sex at night and then sleep. If you still can't deal with their shit in the day time go downstairs and cook both of you breakfast. Takes 0 extra effort, tell them you're giving them a lie in in bed then watch tv with a coffee. It passes by then for me
>>597971528 As far as your body is concerned biologically, the moment you spill your seed into any woman, you've succeeded and are done - you've passed on your genes to the next in line, potentially. So there's no point for you to stay with her beyond that moment. There's no need to protect her, provide for her, or help her in any way. "Socialize" and "comfort" aren't a mental requirement to fulfill your role as a human being, they're just tools you *can* use to increase the sex you have. You obviously have no problem in obtaining sex, so your body won't do the extra things anymore because it's not necessary.
>>597971528 This honestly happens to me every single time, and it sucks now. I pretty much can't have a gf because I lose all interest after sex and no longer find the girl interesting again until I am horny. I genuinely don't do it to be an asshole, but my lack of emotions take over every time
I have some fatty who ive known for a few years say to me on fb chat she would blow me if i met her at hers or vice versa, I'd like to... but when she started talking about fucking and eating out, i was grossed out, but thankfully she said 'if you want to'... so the blowjob is offered on a silver platter, but I just can't get myself to do it. I know as soon as I cum, I'll instantly want to get out of there to, I said I wouldn't be able to stay for long, but ugh.. I'd rather just hold out and find a nice attractive girl.
>>597982376 It's just that i'm more of a relationships dude. I like to actually not just care about sex and actually make my partner happy. Should i go with "fat" girls even if i'll go full bodybuilder? The fact that i'll build a nice body is a fact, i'm not giving in this time. I did it once and quit because of motivaition/bad confidence, but this isn't happening this time, i'm going /fit/, i'm leaving humanity behind.
I'm too much of a good person in my core to just use a fat girl as a fuck object. I could, and if you give me a good reason, i will, but as of now, i'm aiming higher.
So which is it? Half of you say OP's normal and half are saying he's a douchebag. You can't decide anything. YOU should know seeing as 99% of the people in this thread are men if it's normal behaviour or not. I want to know if this actually happens, it would explain alot
>>597983594 I mean like one night stands. You won't regret it, you'll have sexual experience and it will help when you find a girl you actually like. Girls want guys that can fuck other girls easily, and if you're a champ in bed she'll know you have
/b/ro, you're getting way to worked up over this shit. It's normal, Fuck i still get that feeling and I'll bee marrying the girl I'm with. The difference is that you're not a man about it and you really only do want the sex. Have fun, use bitches for their organs, grow up, may you're best friend, be happy. That's all there is to it.
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