A guy in our social group is edging in on my girlfriend. She thinks he's just a nice guy, but you know how that goes; nice guys turn into another option once chemistry kicks in. I can't push my girlfriend away by making it a big deal to her, and this guy is a close friend of a friend so I can't get rid of him.
What this comes down to is man on man. Like the animal kingdom, I need to establish dominance or scare the rival male away to protect my mate. But at the same time I need to respect the law and social customs. Ideas?
Honestly you can't do anything. It's ultimately your girlfriends decision who she wants to be with. Convince her you have better options than her and that your life is amazing without her and she is guaranteed to stay because she will see that you are a real man that isn't boring and has his shit together.
>>593162174 just punch him in the fucking face OP. even if it is unexpected. he wont want to hang out with you again if you just sock him in the jaw. i mean it is easier said than done, but if you want to keep your girlfriend punch him in the fucking face you faggot
You have one civil option. Man to man talk. Do not wait for that moment that I know your waiting for to do it, it will be too late, and too much damage will be done. First chance you get him alone (or better, with her, if that's not too awkward) and lay it on the table. Don't stay silent, that's the first step to being foolish and getting fucked over. Bring it up, talk straight, understand that it can be a big fucking deal if your suspicions are confirmed.
btw, I'm in the same situation now, my talk with the dude in question went over fine. mainly because it wasn't that serious of a situation but still needed to be addressed before it became something serious.
>>593162174 when my GFs friendzoned dog started talking about beating me up and shit i met him put a knife to his throat and told him him to beg for his life :dddddd he did and i slapped him about 6 times before grabbing his head and push it against a street sign.
But i was buffed, 19, he was a 17 years old fag and we did not had any shared friends or anything.
>>593162174 OP do not be a faggot and listen to these gay fucks ... have a party invite him make your gf wear sluty clothing put acid in his drink like 3 tabs he will make a fuck wit of him self in no time at all someone will throw him out for being a dick then you fuck your gf in sluty clothing >pics related
>>593163731 No it works like a charm. Your gf will notice that you are getting hotter and so will other women. Then she will start to feel like she isn't good enough for you anymore and she will work hard to win your approval. The other guy doesn't stand a chance.
And the extra test will make your voice deeper and sexier to your female. And you will emit pheromones that will drive her crazy.
been in this situation before anon and it sucks. flip the roles, if you were him, you'd still wanna bang her because fuck him you want some pussy. the best way is to attack it head on. "if you are ever in the position to prevent further violence, strike first, strike hard." Confront the motherfucker and definitely assert your dominance. Sure it might cause a rift between you and her but that will mend and oh well she's down one male friend boo fucking who she'll get over it.
>>593162340 Honestly OP this seems like the best idea, your only other option is pretty much to just leave it alone. Also > In our social group Fucking kek, are you in middle school? Just don't invite him to social gatherings? Tell your friends you'd rather not hang out with him? It's not fucking difficult
>>593164104 well i think a knife is more threataning than a fist. i could have done it without a knife, iam 210 cm and fucking 120 kilograms, (not fat fuck, either pure muscle) i could have scared him off, but in this way he is scared for a life and satisfied me that i have power :^)
>>593162174 you don't need to stablish that. Just confront him in a chat to talk about the topic. He will most likely pussy out of it and if he doesn't, just make sure your woman doesn't need reasons to use him.
if she really loves you, she won't fuck up. Just don't let her slip from your hands.
>>593164610 Listen, i was in mad love, this faggot talked shit about me, tried to turn my gf against me and told me he would kill me. I had to make it stop by using force, i could have broke his fucking spine, but this way i did not hurt him too much still he would suck my dick if i told him. i handled the situation in the best way with just a little physical violence
OP here. I carefully asked him why he's so into my girlfriend. He did this chuckle nod thing and walked back to our group of friends without saying anything.
I can't give him ammo to alienate me from the group because I know how guys wedge themselves between a boyfriend and the girl he wants. I know cause I've done that and stolen a guy's girlfriend before (inb4 women aren't property can't be stolen feminist).
>>593162174 Op, your girlfriend isnt stupid (for this particular thing anyway) She knows exactly what hes doing, and the fact that she would choose being friends with some random faggot over her boyfriends well being is a big slap in the face to you >take that as you will
>>593165100 He did not told me personally, he told my gf on fb when i was with her and i saw it. I told him to stop it and dont try to fuvk with me, he bitched out told me we are bros he is joking etc after that he countinued.
>>593164895 >I carefully asked him why he's so into my girlfriend
No, no, no. You should have told him to stay away from her. Not ask him why he's "so into her".
You can either 1) dump her now or 2) start spreading ugly rumors about the guy 3) do something awesome for your girl and remind her how awesome you are. don't go full beta and tell her oooh baby I wuv you so much.
OP here. I don't take advice from cuckfags. my girlfriend is oblivious that the guy wants her. she actually thinks that guys can be super nice and constantly social with her and doing her favors without wanting to get in her pants, which is ridiculous, but it's how my girlfriend is.
she thinks the world is a really nice place and is positive about everything, part of what I like about her but it also means she can't see what's going on. that's probably why this guy is trying to wedge himself in so confidently. I just gotta stop him before any chemistry happens because persistence is a hell of a thing and he's trying to grow on her like mold... i know because I've wedged myself in to get a girl before
I don't feel shame. when you see a girl you like and she likes you, you go for it. I didn't say what this guy is doing is immoral or wrong did I? all is fair in love and war. but this is my girlfriend and I know what he's doing, and that's what matters. it's my job to stop his attempts. get it?
how old are you now? you can't pull that shit at parties, clubs, or just wherever in your 20s because eventually what you're gonna find is that some of the biggest pricks out there in the world have guns. getting into fights is the most retarded shit you can do if you value your safety or your freedom.
this isn't a society where people have fist fights anymore. people don't grow up anymore getting into a fight and then getting over that. because of that all these 20-30 yos getting drunk and acting tough don't care about just knocking you around a bit, they'll get their friends and jump you or worse.
you need to chill out and get right with being peaceful bro. I'm the OP btw.
>>593165895 I stole my gf from someone I was friends with for 6 years. We've been together for 5 since then. There have been quite a few people in the past who have tried to get too close, and I've been very quick to shut them down firmly once it crosses a line.
No offense anon, but you do need to grow some balls in this situation. Give her a marathon fucking that leaves her sore and glowing. Stand up fucking straight and carry yourself like a man around this other chucklefuck. If you can't BE a man, you aren't one.
so what? i'm sure i'll keep a few throughout life and anyways they're also networking contacts for my professional life
>since you are clearly one of the 24 year olds.
26 and you're starting to sound like a faux-know it all prick. what do you do for a living?
>sounds like it's time for y'all to wake up anyway
how much do you get paid cause we all have careers?? god you're dumb as shit. you probably don't even know what a professional / contracted blogger is or how people in that field network and hang out a lot. just stop making dumb posts already
im not beating up anyone who i see, but when someones try to fuck with me my adrenalins starts to pump and i lose my temper completly. I can handle myself in a fight, usually when people see how big iam they back off but sometimes there are some dumb fucks who think they are hard and come at me usually it ends by me grabbing their neck and tell them to back off, and in uni most people i meet is a normal person
he didn't make any I just showed myself to be a better option. i can be pretty smooth, but this guy edging in on my gf is hella smooth too. that's why it has to be a man on man thing cause playing defensive when some guy is growing on your gf and gaining her affections is the stupidest thing a guy can do is a relationship
that's probably the mistake my ex's bf made. he didn't see me coming and didn't do shit when I stuck around
>>593166737 last time i got into a bad situation was when a drunk fuck bumped into me i told him to watch out he walked up to me whats gonna happen, i turned arond flexed my muscles told him what should happen and he immadeitly backed off. i handle sutiation like this, but with my gf was another story, love made me mad
> tell him straight up to back the fuck up...not in private, but in front of all your bros. such as: "I'm tellin you man to man, that I'm not cool with how close you've been getting to bitchina...if you keep it up, somethings gonna have to change." friend of a friend doesn't mean shit, you don't cross certain boundaries. now all your boys will be watching his ass, and he will be the pariah if he escalates.
If he tells your bitch and she gets mad...you been sticking your dick and crazy and need to leave the slut behind.
The more you focus on your attachment to her and your fear of losing her, and the more you present that fear to this guy or to her, the more likely it is that you will lose her.
You probably don't have the capability to take a step back and observe your own actions at your age, so this is likely the begining of the end of this one. Notch it up to experience, and when you have finished grieving the loss of the future you saw with her, take a good hard look at how you devalue yourself by connecting your self-worth to how successful you are at "keeping" a woman.
>>593167260 but where i live there are no gangs or shit like this, just hardboy wannabees mostly and very rarely they find me. In clubs or drinking im never alone and they hold me back if my drunk self want to act though
>>593167297 No, you're deflecting and asking for a magical answer where you don't need to get tough. I'm dead serious, give her the D, HARD, and show that you own yourself and your actions. She will fall in line.
That or just give up, if you somehow have convinced yourself that this other guy will inevitably get her.
Talk with your girlfriend, explain to her that the way this guys is approaching her makes you uncomfortable; tell her that YOU'RE NOT OK with the way he speaks with her and that you DO NOT trust his intentions. That's the proper 'adult' way of handling it, by talking. If you have an issue in the relationship you have to talk it out, if you haven't pulled any of this insecure shit before (shit son, you're 26 and still doing this?) she will understand your feelings and she WILL do this for you (unless she's fucking him already).
Dont punch the guy, don't try to 'scare him', talk with your woman and let her know how you feel.
source: being in a relationship for 4 years, same shit happened before, talk with gf, next week the guy wasn't an issue.
>>593168169 Im in the UK, and while I wouldnt be terribly surprised if some keyboard gangster got into trouble for threatening over facebook etc, in the real world (here we go again) that doesnt happen.
>>593164895 you lost he's already fucking her. she probably sucked his dick at the party.
he's also clearly disrespecting you by not even acknowledging what you said. you are probably in your early 20s from the "group" reference you made. call him out in front of your friends. if you feel that would get you alienated from your "group" then you are the beta and none of them respect you.
No, that guy is full of shit. In the UK they actually give citations and arrest people over Facebook and Twitter posts, and not just threats. If you call someone a faggot on Facebook you can get a knock on your door from the police in the UK.
>>593166577 but the whole group bit dies out fast. also bloggers are MAYBE making 35-40k a year. that is not a career. serving tables and cocktails get about 55-60k in a decent steakhouse. get a real job.
Stop being so beta. And by beta, I don't mean that you don't punch him out or whatever, that's not really alpha either.
A true alpha wins his crowd over, he doesn't need to use violence because, really if you are the true top dog there is really no need for you to worry, and turning to violence or threats is just a sign of a weak man losing his grip.
Stop being insecure, if she's right for you this won't be a problem and stop caring about that sort of thing, really, wtf, if your girlfriend does anything then who the fuck cares? She's a slut anyways and would just be a waste of time for you to stay with.
And of course I am not saying that you should let anything fly, but the main thing to obstruct this growth of feelings is your girlfriend, she should handle this, if she ain't well she's a slut as stated previously. However if she feels that he's being troublesome and can't get him to cool down, then it's your time to punch his lights out.
I've had blog entries/articles on 3 of the biggest gaming news sites and have tons of contacts for work so why don't you shut up about what's a career and what isn't. I'm as "in" in my profession as they come. so what if I'm a freelancer. that just means i can write my articles while I'm banging your wife.
either reply to my OP or stop acting like you aren't jealous and being an asshole about my profession k?
The fact that you have gotten work in the past doesn't make what you are doing a career, anon.
ca·reer kəˈrir/ noun 1. an occupation undertaken for a significant period of a person's life and with opportunities for progress. synonyms: profession, occupation, job, vocation, calling, employment, line, line of work, walk of life, métier "a business career"
See that bit about "opportunities for progress"?
You don't have that. More work != progress.
It's not a profession, either. A profession requires specialized education and licensing.
pro·fes·sion prəˈfeSHən/Submit noun 1. a paid occupation, especially one that involves prolonged training and a formal qualification. "his chosen profession of teaching" synonyms: career, occupation, calling, vocation, métier, line (of work), walk of life, job, business, trade, craft; informalracket "his chosen profession of teaching"
>>593162174 If you have to ask, you're already fucked. If she's your girlfriend, you shouldn't be worrying about her cheating or leaving you. If you feel like you legitimately should be worried, you need to dump that loose cunt and find someone else, or reevaluate your personality.
Oh, and that 'animal kingdom' mentality is bullshit, btw
>>593169684 > be 26 > blog on gaming sites that pay shit wages > friends dont respect me > new guy starts flirting with m'lady > *shuffles feet* > (OP) "h-h-hey anon, s-stop hitting on my g-girlfriend." > anon looks at OP > nods head just realizing he grabbed this beta GFs ass and got her number
this is what happens when you are raised by your mom. you lose touch with masculinity. why in the world did you ASK him to stop fucking around with your girlfriend?
blogging isnt a profession. writing is. blogging is the job that allows you to pursue your career in writing.
>>593169638 In the UK its similar, with assault being similar to your battery and grevious bodily harm being more like felony assault, although we have serious assaults too But if you get charged for an assault youre unlikely to go to prison without a history of violence
>>593170141 vice is one of the biggest "blogging" sites out there. they get paid shit. guys at gawker get paid shit. blogging pays shit. youre 26. this is the internet and these comments are anonymous. stop trying to puff out your internet chest. bloggers make shit pay. go get a STEM job in the medical or IT field and start making some real money.
you don't know how romance works huh cuckfaggot. the new always looks more exciting than the old. it's why so many people cheat. there's methodology in wedging yourself into a relationship and gaining a woman's affection so that she has to make a choice
and if she's making a choice, then the boyfriend already dropped the ball
>>593170581 it is now.so is gawker and all those other sites. theyre still one of the biggest firms to write for, though. dudes with 15 - 20 years experience are lucky to have a full time position at 55k a year. writing is a dead profession. youre probably on consignment and kiss ass/ suck dick/ follow and worship some has been journalist with the ego the size of rocco sifrettis dick.
>>593169070 What doesn't she get? I'm guessing you are trying to explain to her that "this guy" has bad intentions, instead of being real and telling her that you are feeling threatened and you are wondering if she could reassure you that she isn't going to do anything with him.
If you aren't brave enough to be that vulnerable with your girlfriend, then you can forget all this other macho shit about confronting him.
>>593170630 Oh, okay. I've been with the same beautiful woman for over 3 years now, but I obviously have no concept of romance. Give me a break. If you were worth it to her, she would have stayed with you. I'm not saying she wasn't a cunt, I don't know, but everyone wants to blame the other person, instead of their own fickle-ass partners
you don't know shit you're just focusing on one aspect in a field of lots of opportunities. ever written game dialog? ever negotiated royalties on indie games for your work? do you even know what that is? nah, you didn't know what contract blogging was so why would you know anything else.
I'm in a growing industry in the pioneer stages of it. you just don't have the vision to see that
>>593170861 and there are some servers in restaurants that can make over 90k but that is a few minority. technical writing? as in writing on slashdot? gizmodo? its a terrible field to work in and pays shit.
>shit pay >beta tendencies >cant keep a gf >26 and still hangs out in a group
depends how you define country. is Russia the same country it was during USSR? what about before that with the czars? how old is Russia really?
Btw why was Babylon condemned by the Jewish holy books and into the bible? They tried to create a universal language and spread the concept of writing and communication. Did they also start some concepts of basic laws which governed everyone?
dude I'm not going to act like an insecure whiny bitch with my girlfriend. you're such a cuck. come up with a better suggestion that doesn't ignore what I asked in the OP or just leave like the cuck you are.
Without serious injury, the highest possible sentence you could get would be 6 months inside, but ive never heard of anyone getting any time for a first time offence, and fighting is rife in the UK (at least where I live)
coun·try ˈkəntrē/Submit noun 1. a nation with its own government, occupying a particular territory. "the country's increasingly precarious economic position" synonyms: nation, (sovereign) state, kingdom, realm, territory, province, principality, palatinate, duchy More
>>593170927 > game dialogue niche job in a single company. majority of game devs in the us are in california. there are about 6 major companies. that puts maybe 20-40 jobs in the entire state for that niche job. >negotiated royalites unless you have a major in law and a minor in writing you wont do this >do you even know what that is? yes i do
>im in a growing industry in the pioneer stages of it. you just dont have the vision to see that >the vision to see that >the vision >vision
aaaaaaaaand there's the delusion everyone.
your industry is growing. its an industry that is on a low to no revenue economy. blogs generate money by ad revenue or clicks. click revenue almost being dead now.
>>593171322 You know what I'm saying is true. You can't man up to your woman about your truth. The idea that she will see you as weak shows exactly how much you know about women. The possessive protector stance is relationship death. At this point you may as well prepare for all the feels you are about to feel when she dumps you. Sorry bro. I hope you learn from the experience.
Go tell him to back the fuck off in private. If he tells your lass and she has a problem with it explain that she can talks to whoever she wants, but he can't talk to her. Because you fucking said so. If she doesn't like that then she isn't worth your time.
OP here. You're all fucking cucks and jealousfags because I posted about my profession. I'm leaving the thread. Thanks for ruining my thread and not giving me usable advice you faggy beta cuck pussies.
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