>>592054494 Time to set ground rules. Tell her you can't live in a sexless marriage. Maybe she will give some lame excuse about "not feeling attractive anymore" or some shit. My wife did the same thing, so I started waking her up in the middle of the night to fuck. After initiating while she was asleep, it was easy as shit because she'd be horny as hell. Then our sex life became much more about me being dominant, so what I say goes in the bedroom now. Maybe your fiance is craving that, I dunno, but I hope this helps.
>>592054494 Over how long a period are we talking? If it's a week, maybe there is something going on with her and she hasnt figured out how to talk to you about it. If it's longer than that, I guess now that she has security she no longer sees the need to fuck you which demands for conversation.
Either way, talk to her about it and ask whats up.
Communicate with her. Explain what the problem is and what she can do about it. You should also try and get her in the mood with romance etc.
You can try different tactics like saying ok you're going to the toilet for a wank. Usually most women will realise they're not doing their job and feel bad and behave themselves out of guilt and fear of inadequacy. This really works. Try this.
If she doesn't listen or respond dump her. There's only one conceivable reason why you would involve a woman in your life full stop, never mind marry one. And that's sex. If she can't even do that, get rid.
>>592054494 Tell her if it's going to be like that, you're find yourself a woman to fuck or start going to prostitutes. Also - have a distribution of wealth in your marriage, so she can't fuck you over and get your money in case you'll divorce. And from what you say, I predict a divorce.
>>592055148 She claims she is tired from work. I go out of my way for her regularly, try my best at being romantic but have been getting turned down. I've asked her straight up, have I done anything. Are you mad at me? she claims she isn't so wtf is it ?
>>592054494 Got any mutual resentment going on? That's a killer of every relationship.
If you want to really get married and make it work, go to counseling. Chances are she feels the way she does because either she is having second thoughts about the marriage, or is holding back feelings that she isn't sharing with you.
That, or you could just call it off and dump her ass, and save yourself the divorce in 3-10 years.
Then don't get married, because it gets even worse. Matter of fact, tell her you want to put the wedding off for now and need some space. That'll make her get her shit in gear real fucking quick. If you don't take control now, you will forever be a slave to her vagina, up until the part where it's someone else that has their dick in it. Don't be a faggot.
>>592056554 I'm really interested in making this work I really love this woman she has never given me any reason to doubt her other than the lack of sex, I've tried talking to her about it all but it never changes. How can I tell her that marriage is off the table unless something changes, without her having a fucking meltdown about the wedding?
>>592056298 Oh, my. I guess we found out who she's fucking. It's her boss or coworker. Got any coworkers in mind it could be?
Op, as a seasoned vet and vagologist, I suggest you leave her. When she asks why, tell her because you no longer have a sex life. If she doesn't try to rectify it or try hard to get you back, she obviously doesn't want you and you're better off not staying in the relationship. There are plenty of sexier girls out there that would love your dick more than her.
>>592054494 open honest communication with your future wife.. and then some soul searching to decide if being with this girl is more important to you than having sex every single time you want it. sex is a big part of a relationship, however if it's the only part of yours then I have some bad news for you.... if the answer to that previous question is you love her despite her not wanting to put out all the time... then congrats!!!! your already a click away from all the random porn to satisfy your urges till she gets back in the mood.
also if your like right before your wedding, then some girls (or at least in my experience my wife) will decline sex under the idea that it will make the wedding night banging a bit more special... they will also expect you to understand this without it being explained to you.... good luck
>>592057119 Honestly just tell her. Don't B.S. around it with sensitivity, because then she'll say why didn't you just say so when things blow up. Say it LOUD AND CLEAR NOW! Maybe try "why don't you start sucking my pecker more or we aren't going to work out." Pepper in a cunt or bitch to assert dominance.
>>592054494 Then don't marry her op why would you make yourself suffer with a woman who doesn't care to satisfy you even though you would do anything for her without another question asked. How is that fair to yourself? >real advice on /b/
>>592056920 Taking a break is a good idea, because as I said, I believe she is cheating. Take a break, and she will either re-evaluate what shes been doing (if she's been cheating) or she may realise intimacy is a big part of a relationship
>>592057119 just to let you know... she's female... if its not this it will be something else.. she will meltdown about the wedding at some point... just expect it, tell her it will be okay, and shockingly it usually will work itself out and you'll end up hitched... but yeah if your expecting a drama free wedding... good fucking luck
>>592057256 >>592056114 What's pointless? Talking about other women or having distribution of wealth? I for one would never want a bitch to go away with my hard earned money anon. No fucking way. Most of women I met are fucking LAZY. AS. FUCK! Bitches not getting away with my money after a failed marriage.
As for threatening with other women... If she's already cheating herself, that might trully evoke laughter and nothing more...
Jokingly imply a request for a handjob, or Blowjob, even plain-jane sex.
If she declines, jokingly state that you are going to get a hooker, or have an affair with unrealistic person (like a Hollywood actress), or the 10/10 coffee slinger that's 10 years younger, and out of your league.
Use psychology when "joking" around, if she takes it too seriously, then it's on her to step up her game.
Tell her that you need to get laid every now and then. Start jerking off in front of her, start going out with the boys and coming home late. If it comes down to it, tell her that you will get sex somewhere else. I'm dead serious. Insight a little fear, women seem to not understand a mans need for sex.
>>592058004 Oh god. If she's a tester, have fun, because your life is going to be an annoying nightmare. Those bitches are the worst of the worst. Like, you aren't testing love, you're just being a dumb cunt.
>>592057806 You may think your relationship doesn't have to be about sex, but uh yeah sex is actually kind of important. If she isn't fucking you then she's relieving herself another way OP. Unless you are about to marry someone who is asexual, she is either doing the business herself or cheating on you. <- and neither are fair to you.
Regain your foothold as the man in the relationship. Her pussy will get wet if you do. If she really doesn't want it, and found someone she thinks is better than you, you won't deal with this problem anymore. You'll be open to the world of possibilities I mentioned and realize how you've been missing out and how much girls will do to cater to their man.
When a girl lives in a bubble by only dating betas, she fancies herself as a high commodity and doesn't have to deal with competitors, therefore doesn't need to try to please you.
>>592058424 This guy is mad. How old are you guy? If you're in college or let's say less than 35, you should still be pretty fucking horny. Also, your use of incomplete ellipsis, implies you're definitely not the age you're letting on to.
>>592054494 >Write down the most recent great sex you BOTH had >Put down every detail from hours before to hours after >Now write down the last bad sex you BOTH had >Etc put down all the details >cross out similar details and see what makes sex good/bad >do good things avoid bad things >win when ur wife is wet
If you don't put yourself first, and if you don't make your desires a priority, she's going to walk all over you for the duration of your marriage.
Let her have her fucking meltdown. She needs to realized that THIS IS A VERY REAL AND SERIOUS PROBLEM IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP THAT *NEEDS* TO BE ADDRESSED.
You only hear that people are unhappy with marriage because they're the ones spending time whining rather than having sex. NORMAL REGULAR COUPLES HAVE REGULAR SEX. COUPLES THAT HAVE PROBLEMS DO NOT.
1. Talk it out (try to), I doubt it'll work if you haven't dragged "what you did wrong" out of her already.
2. End it. Burn it to the ground and start over.
3. GO TO COUNSELING. Hell, have her arrange it, but you need to demand it. If she balks, or says no, or throws a fucking fit, then she might not be ready for marriage.
TLDR: You have a VERY SERIOUS AND REAL PROBLEM in your relationship and speaking with a qualified counselor will help. Hopefully you can learn to communicate your feelings better so that you won't let resentment destroy your marriage like I did.
Fuck, of course it is. In my last relationship... After 2 years together most of the time we just cuddled, but when one of us felt like it... the other almost never refused... Fuck... Anon, sex isn't the most important thing, but people in a relationship, and foremost those getting married... I think they need it.
>>592058406 i love how the first conclusion insecure fags come to is 'shes cheating'...
you need to look at yourself if thats what you first think because the sex drops off.. way too insecure in yourself if you think the woman you're about to marry is cheating just because you arent getting any.. really quite pathetic
>>592058998 Yeah nigger, relationships aren't 100/0 they are 100/100 not even 50/50 you both need to be happy. You already told us faggots that you aren't happy. Isn't that enough of a reason for you to go and have a talk with your woman dude?
>>592054494 Confront her, she is probably no longer attracted to you. Don't marry her until you found the cause. There is no point in marriage if someone in the relationship no longer feels love for his/her partner.
Also, it's not "what YOU did wrong". This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her. If she can't let go of shit you did, or if she can't communicate her feelings, then she needs to start packing her shit.
Seriously, YOU did NOTHING WRONG, OP. You just want what everyone in a NORMAL, HAPPY, HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP has.
>>592058831 This, stop giving her attention and see how she reacts. If she doesn't react then start going friends and not coming home till late. If not that then straight up tell her your going to fuck other women until she puts out or just end the relationship.
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