>>563368092 How do you deal with insecurities in a perfectly fine relationship? I only get them when i'm not with her and when I am with her I realize that I was just being stupid but I want to know how to not get them when we're not together.
>>563368092 Well, do you think there is a true SELF or the self is a constant searching. I fell like i need to get rid of my needs if a want to be peaceful, but I can't do that in a society that espects me to have a job, family and happiness... How does one find its own self? Can I learn it based on Kieekergard and Nietzsche's teachings?
Been seeing a shrink for two years now, mainly because of low libido and, consequently, ED. My antipdepressives make my libido even worse...
Also, what's your opinion on porn and ED?
Also, I feel confortable and relaxed while talking to people. But after I'm alone I think my whole experiences where cringeworthy, I get paranoid and want to see them one last time to make things right. Paranoid loop... What's your insight on that?
>>563369307 >Also, I feel confortable and relaxed while talking to people. But after I'm alone I think my whole experiences where cringeworthy, I get paranoid and want to see them one last time to make things right. Paranoid loop... What's your insight on that?
>>563369274 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to retrain your brain from negative thinking to positive rational alternative thoughts
>>563369307 You find your true self by filling your life with activities that make you lose track of time and you are so self absorbed into it. You should look into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. The best way to deal with paranoia is to write down what you think people are thinking of you and then ask them what they are thinking to disprove your paranoid thinking patterns
>>563370187 Well, my dad died of leukemia when I was 13, and I blamed myself for it. Been depressed for the last 7 years of my life, tried suicide twice, and the nightmares never stop. The nightmares include me murdering my dad, my dad murdering me, and then me hanging my self (not all in one dream of course), and I don't sleep very often because of the nightmares. I don't know how to forgive myself, even if it actually isn't my fault. Halp pls
>>563370375 Yes, tell your shrink you would like to start CBT right away and ask him for all his resources on it and ask to be referred to a specialist who deals in it. Also, you could get a self help book on it too while you wait.
>>563370490 It is only worth it if you really enjoy talking to people, helping them, can deal with emotional problems, and really want to help people
>>563368092 I will be talking to my doctor next monday about my anxiety problems. They keep me from doing a lot of things. They affect me every single day and substantially reduce my quality of life. What is the best med for me? benzos or ssri's?
>>563368092 i seem to get along with everyone and have good social group going .. but i basically hate all people anyway i can start to like people again it started when i was extremely young far back as i can remember i do like animals and stuff though and i am non violent
>>563370945 Awesome, I think Im gonna go for it. Thanks! Last one, do you get the opportunity to actually see your impact on these people? Or is it more of a "come sit down, unload, explain to you xyz, see you next week" kind of deal?`
>>563368092 how do i get rid of neurosis? i dont think i have any sort of fears, at least i dont feel like imma die any moment. however all this shit started with me coughing for like two years. i think i already got rid of that problem, but i still feel... tense. not every day, but often. is ssri really the only way?
>>563370928 That is quite the long history and a very serious problem. You should seek professional help right away. You would need to start with Image rehearsal therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy right away. The negative thinking pattern of you blaming yourself for your father's death is causing your turmoil and once you learn to accept that him dying is not your fault the insomnia should get better.
>>563368092 Not sure if this is your domain or a psychiatrist, but you'd know. I had close encounter in May, third-kind, I was maybe ~50 feet from them. I have never been more terrified in my life, I remember it so vividly and the beings' image seems like it's burned in my mind. I saw their spacecraft too, almost tambourine like in appearance but seemingly covered in a horrible, lurid, orange light. I haven't told anyone about it, I'm afraid they will commit me or criticize me for believing this. I've never been diagnosed with any mental disorder, I've never had any hallucination other than one night-terror years ago, but I've never had any experience like this before and I can't wrap my head around it; I'm 31 so this isn't schizo starting and I don't use drugs besides caffeine, nicotine and alcohol (I didn't even drink the day [or the few days before] this happened.) Am I losing it?
>>563368092 I'm too shy to ask people if i can come with them if they go out and i often say thoughtless things, that actually can piss people off, are they properties that i should be worried about and how can i fix it?
>>563370187 Wait, are you based near philly? there was a guy who would drive around in a black sedan and basically blow big pickles all day. He is kind of an urban legend around here but he is absolutely real.
>>563368092 why cant i be happy? i have a decent life/ job,a good family and friends and theres no reason for me to be unhappy. And i want to be happy for some damn reason i cant so i just always feel like shit
>>563371901 >negative thinking cycles they say things like, watch your back, they're looking at you! AHHHHHH! it really varies. and they're not a constant thing.
My experiences with people since I was a child have always seemed odd, i'm always excluded and feel distant. But other times i'm the man of the show, yet at the same time i'm shy and anti-social for the most part of my highschool years. but I think i should mention i've also fantasized about murdering my friends(usually through blunt trauma) and I also have fantasized about gay experiences about the same friends. I've always been a odd cookie i guess to sum up my relationships. i'm very violent, and I always win typically.
>>563368092 Fuck it, I've had this in my head for a couple of days so tell me what you think. It was my father's bday a couple of days ago, there was some dinner with a couple of relatives that I didn't want to see so I just shut myself in my room and didn't come out until the evening. So, I go to the living room and see my dad watching the tv and go behind the couch and just fucking stand there for like 3 minutes, I'm trying to wish him a happy birthday and shit, but I just froze, I stood there and have no idea why, finally after what seemed like an eternity I said to myself, wtf are you doing just fucking do it. So then I go up to my dad and say happy birthday dad and give him a hug, then go to my room fucking disappointed in myself for not knowing wtf just went down. So, what in the fuck happened, I swear to god I just stood there looking at the back of my dads head scared of opening my mouth.
>>563371901 But I've tried it, which is why I've tried suicide. I tried professional help but it didn't really do anything for my situation. I've tried the things that people have told me to try, and nothing works. Incidentally, me blaming myself for my father's death has also left me feeling like a piece of shit, i.e I have no self esteem. and since I lived in Denmark for a large chunk of my life where I was bullied for being a fat cunt, no one has ever loved me 'cept for of course "oh ur famili luvs u" and shit like that. (not really fat anymore, took up exercise at around 4am 'cause nothing better to do). Anyone got any protips on an heroing, or fixing my problems?
>>563371097 Why do you feel empty inside? What are your thoughts? Write them down.
>>563371183 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the best treatment for anxiety not meds. The best way to deal with anxiety is to face your fears head on first by starting with small baby steps. First try to just do one thing a day such as a small task as doing the dishes and write down how you thought you could not do it and then after doing it the thoughts of how you can do it.
>>563371245 Were you left alone a lot when you were a child?
I grew up in a home with one parent who was neglectful and another who was never there. My mother was always away getting impregnated by other men, some very dangerous (I witnessed her being sexually abused etc,). Most of the time, I was left with her crazy family who abused and mentally tormented me as well as physically harmed me.
In my teens, I was struck down with sudden crushing religious fear which came through my OCD which also got so bad I developed severe hypochondria and became a hermit trying to avoid death and worrying about hell so much I became mentally and physically sick to the point of crying at random.
Anyway, after years of mental rape by religious fear, Hypochondria, alienation and generally missing out on my entire childhood and teenage years, I feel fucked. Depressed and broken.
Would I be forgiven for being full of rage? I can;t shake these feelings and while my ocd and hypochondria has calmed, I still have pretty bad anxiety at times.
Is there any hope? Also, I used to be a destructive child (stealing, destroying peoples stuff for no reason etc,) and I didn't stop pissing the bed until 13. Why is this?
I developed anxiety issues when I joined the army, had panic attacks some 5 times during training, but was able to calm myself down/hide it. There's never a particular reason for the onset of my extreme feelings of stress, it just happens, and sometimes leads into panic attacks. What do?
>>563373559 Should include that I had a weird childhood, parents would steal things from empty houses. Never had a stable home, moving all the time. Parents split, basically weird childhood. didn't learn how to ride a bike till i was like 13
>>563373559 What do you know about Fetzima? I was diagnosed with dysthymia and major depression at a young age (somewhere around the age of 12). I've been on and off of various anti-depressents since then, and the only one that has worked to any degree is Prozac. I stopped taking that because I started to feel like a zombie after a few months. I recently saw my psychiatrist, and she gave me a stack Fetzima boxes (I thought it was odd that she gave me a stack of samples rather than write a prescription. I've been on 20mg for three days now.
>>563368092 Why do I have an obsession with self help books? But I will collect hundreds but only read a few. I think I have massive ADhD and can't focus to finally read them all? SHould I even read them all? I'm thinking about getting rid of them all. What should I do? My life's a mess.
>>563374445 yhe i keep looking at that dick and i can confirm that : 1st its a compromised penis 2nd not your picture 3rd not your picture because you don't know the fucking difference between uncut and cut ...
Why am I more attracted to emotionally damaged girls than normal women. Its happened all the way from highschool through uni. I literally met a crack whore like three weeks ago and I wanted her more than any other girl.
>>563373559 Nope i had parents and maids plenty of attention i always just assumed im introverted but .. its a genuine disgust when people sit next me and such like there gross im also bit narcissistic
>>563368092 I think I might have anxiety is there any way to tell? I have trouble looking people in the eye when I first meet them and i am usually too nervous to strike up a conversation with someone I just met. I don't have these problems when it is in a sitting where I am forced to interact with others like work or in class so I am not really sure what the cause of it is.
>>563373323 You have to try many different treatments and different therapists and try your hardest and never give up. The more you put in to get better the better the results will be >>563374252 To feel secure with family. What is your relationship with your cousin and other people
>>563374146 Yes, you are forgiven son. Get into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. You should also start hypnosis therapy for your bed wetting and should seek professional help immediately.
See, its very rarely an opinion. Most of the time, psychologists just plug your "symptoms" into the big ol book of psychology (which has an entire community revolving around it) to determine certain things. Of course, some of the higher paid psychs add in their own little flair and such.
For example, Im still early in the program but as an example, you have to match 4/7 of the criteria to be labled with a "mental illness"
Ill go ahead and give you a free consoltation.
>Do you suck dicks? >Do you enjoy sucking dicks? >Do you often think about sucking dicks? >Are girls icky? >Were you touched in the bum as a child? >Do you often wish you were born a girl? >Do you want to kill yourself?
If you answered yes to five of those, which im sure you did, then I can diagnose you as a screaming faggot! See, isnt psychology fun?
I don't think anything is wrong with me, but I can vent. I trust people to easily. I used to bottle shit in, but since my best friend tried to kill himself I decided tat it may happen to me since my entire family, and everyone I surround myself its depressed. So I began to open up, and I feel like I trust people too easily. I can't explain why I feel unmotivated and depressed. It seems like I care about everyone but myself. And I feel like this is too normal to make a fuss over so I ignore it.
>>563374685 Now that I think about it... meditation and psychedelics have helped my symptoms far more than therapy and medication ever have. Should I buy a bunch of AL-LAD and devote myself to meditation?
>>563377006not really i have a decent amount of hobbys/ videogames when i can, i golf here and there but nothing i would consider a passion. i should look into some stuff maybe a really good hobby will keep me distracted
>>563368092 I'm going to hang myself on Saturday. What would say to me if you were here with me? What is the most effective way to talk someone out of suicide? How do think of just the right thing to say that will stop it? Is there some principle/ tactic that will get a person to stop? Like getting them to be self conscious or activating a certain part of the brain with a certain kind of statement? Like making them math problems or something?
>>563377929 Go to the doctors and tell him all of this and you would like to see a psychologist and research all of those things on your own too the more you know about your illness the better you can become. It all varies and depends on the psychologist and doctor because they all have different techniques. You will not be locked up if you are not violent
>>563374469 >>563377006 Ok, so my anxiety started out when i was a kid with me getting frustrated and not expressing it until i blew up. It soon progressed in a wierd way. I started to freak out if i saw the tire swing move, especially in a circular or oval type movement. It later progressed rather rapidly because i knew that vibrations can cause things like the tire swing, chandeliers, strings, bodies of water, and the stick on blinds or curtains to move. I cant enjoy music now. I cant go to church. It keeps me from doing many things i love.
I have also isolated myself over the past couple of years. When i am home, i am me (i can be more social and comfortable). But, when i am at work which is nearly 200 miles away, i am a complete introvert.
I have seen the chandelier and all of the other things move quite a bit, but facing my fears has done nothing for me at all.
>>563378341 I met a girl online, we were just looking for no commitment webcam (no faces) masturbation. Did this for a few months. I made the mistake of talking with her outside of the sex part and I fell in love with her and she told me the other day she loves me too. We are both happily married with kids, we did not intend for this to happen. We were just looking for simple porn. What should we do?
>>563368092 Do nootropics really enhance your social skills or is that just how it feels? I know that some drugs can make it difficult to gauge your own performance. Maybe a psychiatrist would be a more appropriate person to ask...
Im 26 thinking about killing myself all the time, worthless life and work, no sexual life, feel uncomfortable around other ppl, I keep feeling lonely and deeply depress, always avoid crowded places. What is my problem? Im the problem? idk doc, should i an hero? so many questions, im sorry.
>>563378723 Nothing you have said is a true passion and you did not seem excited about any of those things. Your problem is you are missing a part of you which is you have not discovered your real passion which you truly lose track of time and are so self absorbed you forget about everything else
>>563379034 Stop isolating yourself and start being more social by starting with small steps such as saying hi to a stranger and then working your way up to having a small talk
>>563378341 Thank you. I have had a few tough years. Don't really have any friends, no job at the moment, make a decent living playing poker, and have social anxiety. But the funny thing, I had mostly sales jobs my whole life.
But when I would come home after a regular work day, I would be exhausted, just from talking to people. Physically but mostly mentally, the anxiety would take such a huge toll on me, I could feel it. I always feel tense around people, in social settings, I feel like I have to "perform."
I finally mentioned this to a doctor for the first time last month and have the go ahead to get on some meds and I'm reading muscle relaxants are a good source. Do you think I should do that?
And besides that, I'd notice when I would hang out with my ex gf's friends and stuff, I'd be exhausted from the anxiety after 5 6 hours, and I'd just want to be alone. Or if I would be with her, I'd shut down stop talking to her, and just brood in my own thoughts. Do I have bad anxiety, or is it other issues too? Am a some sort of wild mix of introvert and introvert? This has been getting worse since I have been about 13 to 15, but very much so since high school. But I can even see roots of it forming when I was a child 7 to 10 years old.
Please answer this. I never told anyone this, it would help me a lot.
>>563379465 It is a good treatment for some people and you should explore it
>>563379536 Look into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy it will restructure your negative thinking patterns to rational alternatives and then after your mind is taken care of you will restructure how you behave by facing your fears slowly starting with small interactions of just saying hi to a stranger to having a small chat and then going to places with few people and then mild amount of people
>>563379745 Practice by social interaction improves your social skills
>>563379840 Start first by writing down small achievable goals and working on them. Afterwards look into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to change your negative thinking cycles. Make an activity schedule and fill it up with things you will work on for your life that you wish to change
I have no friends, I have no desire to meet up randomly with other people. I am not good with making friends, I could be the most uplifting person, and thankful, everything. But no one cares. It's like I'm just a ghost.
I've tried doing things for myself, but right now, I'm a bit sick. I apparently have 'prostatitis", and I've been taking pills to apparently help it.. Even though it doesn't feel like they are, at all. I haven't been getting much sleep(side effect of the pill, ciprofloxacin).
>>563368092 Hey OP, I seem to have a problem when speaking out in groups, not with my friends though, but when it comes to 1 on 1 with anyone, i'm like a social butterfly, is there a description for this?
A) Tumblr gives the same release 4chan does, they all revel in the same opinion (they found a community they cant be booted out of) and throw shit at those that disagree. They just found something considerably more retarded to believe in.
B) freuds a fucking faggot.
C) Dreams dont mean anything. Even when it looks like they do.
E) Free will is real, but limited. A neonazi doesnt have the free will to just decide one day that "jews aint that bad", but he can decide what to eat for breakfast.
>>563380876 I hate the way my mind works. I hate the way I look. I have no self awareness. I say shitty things. Everything about me works against me at making friends or being successful. I actively try not to hate anyone, but if I met myself, I'd still hate me. I'm just a shitty person and even I can barely comprehend how shitty I am.
>>563378341 and then when I was making decent changes to myself and making myself better...I started balding! at 18! And that's when I started mildly smoking for about 2 years, it helped me with anxiety....and I started losing confidence. My girlfriend left me after 3 years and I've been single for 3 years since she's left me. I'm terrified to go outside without my hat on. I think no one will like me :( and no girl would like me with my stupid balding hair....and I've never had someone try to make friends with me, my whole life, so I already feel like an outcast. And now with my hair like this, and my teeth not being completely straight, I just feel like a freak sometimes. I feel like I'm made to live on the outskirts of society. I hate myself a lot. I notice I don't like myself at all. Even when I'm good at a lot of things, or so some of my teachers said. And now I think it was empty encouragement, not them actually seeing something special in me.
>>563380876 Well I ask because after being hospitalized a few years back and being medicated, I stopped and started meditating. I was diagnosed as having type 2 bipolar, schizoid and severe social anxiety and meditation fixed all of them, and I'm curious as to this is some sort of placebo effect or if it's typical for this extreme of a recovery
>>563368092 I am a pedophile and I know I would never hurt any child and that it's just a fetish. I don't feel guilty about fapping to cp. What are the chances that I would just snap and go on a child abuse rampage?
>>563380468 Yes there is a point to make you happy, healthy, and to make it better for you. Have you had any dramatic experiences with swings?
>>563380594 You seem to have depression and anxiety mixed together and I would suggest starting Cognitive Behavioral Therapy right away to deal with both of them. They both have different methods to treat them.
>>563378341 i know im flawed or i wouldn't of asked you for your opinion and if you think people are ok then wake up your entire job is fixing how broken people are thanks for your time and advice though Best of luck in your practice
>>563382474 my parents dropped me in the lake when i was a baby for a minute or so, and i was stuck on a boat that rocked up and down in the middle of the ocean. I think maybe that might have something to do with it. The anxiety saw a part of me that was weak and festered. Also, I like being alone versus pleasing the people here. i dont fit in with them.
>>563381480 The first step to changing is admitting you have the problem which you did. Now the first thing to do is take action no matter how big or small on self improvement and you will change all those things gradually
>>563381763 You have no evidence of any of that. Collect evidence to disprove your negative thoughts and there are many bald people and it okay to be bald it does not matter.
>>563381809 You are welcome try as many different things as possible
>>563383309 >The first step to changing is admitting you have the problem which you did. Now the first thing to do is take action no matter how big or small on self improvement and you will change all those things gradually I do that. I work out 5 days a week and study everyday. But nothing can fix my personality or thought process, it was ingrained into me from a young age. This is only somewhat related, but I'm a believer that our actions and life events reflect in our face, and that isn't a good look for me.
>>563382474 And one last thing. I was brought up by religious parents (christian) and I had clear signs of adhd as a child of 12 through 14 and further on, but they don't believe in that kind of stuff. The mind fixes itself and jesus, is what they believe.....and I feel like it kind of ruined my life, if not completely ruined it. Because I was very capable, I would do good at math without studying much at all up to 10th grade....and I would do really good in school, but in 10th and 11th grade, skipping class due to anxiety and not studying due to massive adhd I would not get anything done. BUT I WOULD TRY god I WOULD TRY.
I would sit down with a book for half an hour, but reread the same page or two, and I would read it, but it wouldn't "register" so I would read it again....again...then I would start thinking about school work, my shcool, future, get distracted, and the cycle would repeat, almost in OCD like fashion.
I wish my parents were normal people who would put me on focus kids like all the other normal kids, fuck man. And now I feel like my adult life is a huge mess because I wouldn't have much guidance from my parents besides "do good in school" and "go to church" and "love jesus" and that's the extent of it. My parents wouldn't do much else with me besides that...they never pushed me to do sports.....and if I tried to do sports they would never be willing to buy me the uniform or pick me up from practice, so I never got to do anything extracarricular or whatever...and I was really good at soccer too.
But I don't blame them. I just wanna be normal. How do I escape my childhood? Last question...thank you
I guess I'm not really good socially. Awkward, inexperienced, but somewhat functional.
Over a year ago, I met a girl. Made a big mistake. I was really naive (as in there was smart thinking I could have done to prevent what was an emotional shitfest) and I get that, but I feel like I was taken advantage of. Lured in further. Fast. And then bam, dropped like a rock. It used to be pretty hard for me, but it got better. I'm just worried that it may have had an affect on how I act towards new people now: a little anxious, a little afraid, a little unable to make relationships as much as i want to.
A few months after this, school had started already but my work ethic slipped. I'm unmotivated and I hate the system. Failed a semester so far because of it all but I fear more may come. I feel like my passions for math and science have been lost. But I feel like that's also partly due to video games and media becoming such a big part of my life. But maybe that's just I just use them to cope with my shitty ability to live as a competent human.
Truth is, I'm not really sure what to do. Maybe I should give up and school and my time/money will be better placed elsewhere. I could take online classes, I could self educate. But I don't know if my motivation has been completely lost or not. Same goes for my passions.
I think I fear change. It's very difficult for me to open up to people about my problems or to help myself. My mother has been no help in that regard. My father. I just don't get him really. Like my relationship with him hasn't been deep enough. I don't know how he'd respond.
I think thats it. i'm just so unmotivated other than to play games or videos. I'm not very good socially either, but i feel like it's less of a problem. These problems, i think about them a lot and become emotionally up and down a significant amount. And i still see/think of her. i hate it (pic's really cliche but i find it funny how the date on it makes me confused on how long ive felt shit)
>>563383002 If someone important it is okay because it does not mean all future relationships will end up the same. You will not die and think to yourself of evidence against those beliefs
>>563383284 That is exactly why you feel that you cannot trust anyone from your parents doing that to you and the rocking up and down of things are your triggers relating to that. You have to realize not every important person to you will leave you because it is not true and you have evidence against such negative thoughts
>>563383541 >>563383582 You are both welcome and this is my tribute to /b/ for all the fun good times and threads I have had on this site
>>563383309 At night, at least 2 or 3 days a week, I see horror movie type monsters in the dark at the edges of my eyes. When I get nervous or feel I am looked at, or generally when I think about it, I am always cracking every single joint in my body. I can't talk to everyone as openly as I'd like to, its almost as if I have to gage if a person is safe enough to let loose what I would say to them if I hadn't had to gage their safeness.
my dad has always been a dick to me and my brother as long as i have known him, he is a dead beat,cheap,selfloving, piece of shit. no wonder my mom divorced him, anyways i still have hung around him pretty much all my life (few times every few weeks or so) he knows i smoke weed and even bought it for me several times and smoked it with me and bought me alcohol at the age of 16 (18 now) and recently we had a conversation , it went like this ("why don't you take anon to the gym?" "i have no gas" (lie,he has money)"you wanna give me gas money?(sarcasm) "you want to get a job?" "oh, i forgot. if you where a real father you would pay for your kid's things.,send out the child support and i will give you the gas money" (hasn't payed in 16 months) "i stopped sending out the child support when you started spending it on weed" "what's worse,you buying cigarettes and 4 beers a nite you fucking alcoholic or me buying weed" (house income is $4000 with my mom so i didn't need his money for weed) :silence: >walk out of the house. he always mistreated and used us as kids and all in all i am done with him, thinking of sending him a letter. someone tell me if i should or write one for me. >also his current fornication buddy sucked my cock and told him because she felt guilty. >be sure to use that in a letter if you write one for me anon.
>>563383002 I was in that spot. Pills only helped bring me back to normal. By that I mean it wasn't a fix, just a temp rescue to talk to a psychologist (vice psychiatrist).
>what if my friends leave me? because you display "weakness"? because you recognized it and saw someone for help? Mine didn't reject me for it. I don't go around sharing how bad it really was. I don't want special treatment and I don't want them feeling the least bit responsible. But I told them I stressed the fuck out and didn't want to live.
>>563384440 I really don't feel like i have issues with relationships. I am happily engaged and have a couple of really awesome friends back home. I could count on those guys for just about anything. It is the swinging crap (idk what the actual name for it would be) that really messes with me.
I also recognize what my parents did was an accident, i dont blame them for it at all. Stuff happens sometimes, and I thought it was kinda funny after i found out.
I have voices in my head. For as long as I could remember, the earliest I can trace them back to is when I was 3.
I'm not a schizophrenic, I don't think. The voices aren't external forces, like, I know they are all me... If that makes any sense.
Like I am posting this right now, and there's a voice in my head trying to figure out classes starting next week, and another thinking about how much fun I had during a trip I took last month, and another wondering if my friend misunderstood something I said last night.
Imagine sitting in front of 5 TVs simultaneously. And having to sort out which thoughts are from where, and which thought connects to your current situation.
It gets really loud, and it hurts.
My family dropped a huge load on me recently. I'm not going into specifics, but my parents divorced when I was a child, and my dad got custody. I'm an adult now, and talk to my mom. I discover that my dad has been lying to me my entire life. Taking half truths from our daily occurrences, and fabricating false memories from them. I have memories that I now realize could not have happened, that my dad was lying, but I still feel like my thoughts are right, and everyone else is wrong.
Trying to figure out what actually happened has been filling up my mind. I can't sleep, cause there is too much noise and loudness from inside my head. And sometimes, when I blink, I open my eyes to find that hours have passed, and that I am somewhere else or doing something else entirely.
Last Friday I blacked out at the bus stop, I found myself on the wrong bus two hours later, in a completely different direction than my intention. This morning after breakfast, I set out to do yard work. I came to hours ago looking at Ebola threads on /Pol. I can't remember how I got on the bus, and I can't recall giving up on my yard work.
I'm losing track of time, and have terrible headaches. Nothing bad has happened yet, but I'm freaking out.
I want to see a therapist (I have access to one), but I have no idea how that conversation would even start. Any advice?
CBT differs from many other psychotherapies because it is:
pragmatic – it helps identify specific problems and tries to solve them highly structured – rather than talking freely about your life, you and your therapist will discuss specific problems and set goals for you to achieve focused on current problems – it is mainly concerned with how you think and act now rather than attempting to resolve past issues collaborative – your therapist will not tell you what to do; they will work with you to find solutions to your current difficulties
CBT is based on the concept of these five areas being interconnected and affecting each other. For example, your thoughts about a certain situation can often affect how you feel both physically and emotionally, as well as how you act in response.
There are helpful and unhelpful ways of reacting to a situation, often determined by how you think about them.
For example, if your marriage has ended in divorce, you might think you have failed and that you are not capable of having another meaningful relationship.
This could lead to you feeling hopeless, lonely, depressed and tired, so you stop going out and meeting new people. You become trapped in a negative cycle, sitting at home alone and feeling bad about yourself.
But rather than accepting this way of thinking you could accept that many marriages end, learn from your mistakes and move on, and feel optimistic about the future.
This optimism could result in you becoming more socially active and you may start evening classes and develop a new circle of friends.
This is a simplified example, but it illustrates how certain thoughts, feelings, physical sensations and actions can trap you in a negative cycle and even create new situations that make you feel worse about yourself.
Hello, I'm in my last year of high school and going to university soon. I'm in a relationship and have a fair number of friends, but suddenly I've started feeling really lonely. For the last few days I've been spending hours thinking about getting a pet. I know it would be pointless now since I'm leaving so soon and they're not allowed at university, but any idea what's causing this? I'm female if that makes a difference.
How do you convince your patients that they have a problem when the world is a total mess ? How do you explain that most psychopaths are successfull and will go throught life without seeing any psychologist ?
You still here op? So, I would consider myself fairly aware of the various conditions people find themselves in, however, there is one concept I have yet to rationalize. What would be a potential cause for a sexual fetish? I have heard two conflicting theories. That one may develop a fetish to fill a void or that one may develop a fetish to recreate a form of love. Your thoughts?
If I decide to go for Therapy (Councelling here in UK), do I get to ask the Therapist questions to see if I feel they are good people intending to help me, or motivated to work hard by a quota and a big paycheck? I don't want some rich snob judging me because I have genuine problems.
>>563387949 1. if religious, desire to fulfill Church and parents' objective of breeding 2. last year of high school, prepping hormones to get fucked in college while testing the gene pool for an alpha mate. Especially probable if current relationship is with a financial supporter. 3. various environment factors like (a) feminist country (b) competitive, backstabbing classmates (c) family you can't relate to
>>563388827 Well it is quite easy just save what you typed and show it to the therapist and he can tell you the rest. I am assuming he will probably start you on a form of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy mixed with Image Rehearsal Therapy for your father thing and quite possibly some meds.
>>563388575 Yes, you are allowed to ask them questions of your own and you get to tell them things
1. Yes, this always goes on. Sometimes it isn't as bad, I've learned to deal with it. I didn't know that this wasn't "normal" until a little over a year ago when one of my professors asked me something regarding what I was thinking, and he said my reply was strange.
I thought this was the norm for everyone, that you always had some sort of a headache. So, still getting over the shock of "Holy carp I'm not normal in the head".
But yeah, it's always there, but it's usually a mild discomfort unless I'm stressed or something really big happens (argument, getting in trouble, hear an especially sad/happy story, trying to remember something I forgot, freaking out about finals, etc.
2. Yes I do go through manic-depressive episodes. I'm bipolar (not diagnosed, but pretty sure). Imagine always having negative thinking. You always remember (that time you embarassed yourself in front of friends, that time your parents got in big argument, that night you ran away from home only to be brought back kicking and screaming).
Now add all your good memories. That one single time your dad was a bro and you accidentally referred to him as your friend on accident, that first trip to disneyland, the time your first girlfriend kissed you.
It's not all at the same time, but one or more of these thoughts are always floating around.
Good and bad, happy and sad, taking place in my head. I'm still there. I don't feel like the moment ended, I feel like I'm still living it (whenever it crosses my mind).
And that affects my mood. When I'm happy, I am extremely super happy. When I am sad, I am a whole lot of sadness, all going on at once. ...any chance you have a throwaway email I can contact you at?
did you not read beyond the first page? There is no hope for you if you read one sentence you disagree with and toss everything away as nonsense.
I agree the the "7th sense" comment is retarded. Regardless there seems to be a degree of legitimacy to it.
Dude studied it for 20 years, and was a runner up for nobel laureat. He has also had success using it with patients.
One incident he was talking about in particular: one of his clients was talking to him about being depressed. He reversed the speech and got "need more sun", talked to the patient about it, and she spends time in the sun and came back thanking him saying she wasn't depressed.
although i'm not here to sway you this information is for those who are willing to give something a chance that may sound stupid at first.
>>563388575 Not many people become emotional punchballs in a not-very-good-paying career to slack around and judge people. Don't worry too much about a therapist being judgemental - whatever you have, he's seen worse.
You keep saying CBT to everything. Is there nothing else that works.. im depressed and have social anxiety. I have to find a job and constantly get asked what kind of job specifically im looking for. I have no college education and don't know what I want to do. Actually, I Want to do nothing. I just want to stay home, talk with the people i talk to every day in chat rooms and program and play games.. im not fit for "regular" life and I.. wishi was dead
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