It's honestly REALLY easy to get a bf as long as you look decent and there's nothing really wrong with you. Not even gonna lie. I haven't been single for years. Haven't gone more than a year without having a bf and that was by choice. I'm 28 now and it's been ten years since my first bf. I've had at least 15 guys fuck me and I didn't even try that hard. Never even went to clubs or anything. If you don't have a boyfriend you either have something wrong with you, are too young, or you are ugly. End of story. Pic related, it's me and my fiance. He buys me pretty much anything I want.
>>556562993 Hi! few things to start off with =] 1. yes I responded to you because you're a female on 4chan, 'tis an awesome thing to see! 2. I'm Brian. 3. Don't be intimidated, but I'm not a stereotypical guy. If anything, I'll be the one in the kitchen.
>>556565486 Actually I was kind of just saying what you were expecting to hear. I didn't think anyone on 4chan deserved to hear how I really feel about my relationship with my fiance. Nor would you fags probably want to hear about it anyway.
>>556565342 well i live in a small country and there arent so many desperate guys (or atleast they dont go clubbing) and ive never seen anyone with fetish for fat women. I only see fat grils make out with really drunk men, but there is still a limit, never seen a true land whale with someone
I had a girlfriend once. In fact, I had a fiancée. She was my everything. I loved her like no one ever did and none ever could. I shared my first kiss with her. I lost my virginity to her. I proposed to her and changed all my hopes, plans, goals, and dreams to fit her. I gave her my everything. We had picked out a townhouse to rent and already knew our kids' names: the son would be after my namesake and the daughter, she'd be Sophia. It means "wisdom" in Greek, a virtue blessing in the hopes that she could be everything we were not.
I spent all my money on her. Every last cent. I pampered her, waited on her, and gave her everything she wanted, or at least tried. I gave her massages whenever she was hurting; I pleasured her before I was pleased, or made sure to do so right afterward; I catered to her every whim and did all I could to bring out that lovely smile upon her angelic face. She was my muse, my purpose. She was all my dreams come to life, my joy personified, the symbol of my happiness. I loved her too much, though, and my life fell apart around me during my dedication to her. As I stood atop the crumbled ruins that was my former life, I hoped to rebuild it with her. But she was nowhere to be found.
>>556566434 HAHAH! It's funny how you think you know everything. There's a variety of reasons why a women would gain weight. It's also funny how you all think you can 'rise above' being a regular person with problems. But yet here you are. On fucking 4chan. Going back to the YLYL threads for a good chuckle now. Have fun being alone and unfulfilled the rest of your life. I'll go back to my soulmate now.
>>556567114 I'm not OP, so I hope you aren't referring to me in that last sentence.
We were together for four years. It was the happiest four years of my life, despite all the pain and problems she brought me. Before her, at least I had me. When I was with her, at least I had her. Now that she's gone, I have nothing, not even myself. I lost that long ago. It's going to take a long time for me to recover from this. And even if I do, I'll never stop loving her. And I hate that I do.
>>556567473 Falling too deep in love with her and losing myself in the process is where I went wrong, not spending money on her. I did that of my own free volition and would do it all over again. But the day I lost myself, I lost her. And now, I have neither.
>>556567075 Actually the science behind why people gain weight is ironclad. You'd have to be eating more than you need everyday for several months. You lack even a modicum of willpower.
Who cares if I go to 4chan, so are you. Anyway, at least i'm not fat. take care of yourself or your bf is going to cheat on you one day. then you'll blame it on men or "i couldn't help being fat! it's genetics!" bullshit excuse
>>556568038 That's where you're wrong. Humans crave intimacy and romance. Even the most corrupt, sociopathic degenerate has the same basic desire to have someone to love, and who loves them. It's a fallacy to believe you don't need someone else. Our entire lives are built around that very goal, whether we believe it or not. You can survive without anyone, but eventually you'll need someone to share your life with, whether that's family, friends, or a lover. In the end, though, we all crave that intimacy and connection only found in the closest of friendships and strongest of loves. To deny this is to deny your very nature.
>>556568447 Right now, I'm working on the latter, substituting "basement" with "my room."
Sex means nothing to me without intimacy and romance. I have no interest in fucking, only making love. I can't even muster the courage or find the moral grounds to have sex with someone unless I have strong feelings for them. This may seem foolish, and sometimes I wish this wasn't the case, but it's true. Unless I love her, I simply can't bring myself to sharing my body with her. Sex means more to me than just carnal entertainment.
>>556568995 to be quite honest I am the same way. sex with out feelings is nothing but a waste of energy.
you know how I forego the issue? I pretend to love them... yes it does sound dumb, but it works. Say u meet a girl off PoF, she's cute, interesting, you focus on her positives. u fuck the shit out of her, telling her how beautiful and tight she is. then, a month or two down the road, the veil falls, and you start seeing her flaws. at that point you move on to the next one. the cycle repeats.
women are cunts bro. they don't love. the more u give, the less they reciprocate. go Goole red pill +reddit. your eyes will be opened up.
and Ffs, at least hit the gym for the endorphins u ugly piece of Shit.
>>556569857 Of course I still have urges. I still sexually crave certain people. I find others attractive and I imagine having sex with them. The actual ACT of sex, however, is important to me. Having sex and imagining it are very distinct activities. When it's in my mind, I'm sharing with only me, myself, and I. When it's with another, it's sharing something intimate and sacred with them, well sacred to me.
Masturbating is just a form of sexual gratification and release, but again I'm not sharing with anyone. Sex with someone is something important to me, though, and the only way for me to do it without feeling shame and self-betrayal afterward is to do it with someone with whom I connect on an emotional level.
Otherwise, I'd just hire prostitutes and have casual sex instead of beating my meat.
>>556570356 You had me until the misogynist shit. Sorry, I don't subscribe to assuming the worst in the nature of females.
take a long time to recover, yep. give it say 2 years. gonna be hell.
do yourself a favour. tomorrow, text your family members you undoubtedly alienated or spent less time seeing because your life revolved around her, say what's up, just wanted to catch up.
THEN, text up a few buddies and check out what they're up to on friday. get out there. because there's nothing in here for you.
at the beginning its gonna feel vapid and stupid, when you go to a club, you'll say wtf is the music so loud, i hate this place. when you go to a bar, you'll drink yourself pissed. when you go to the woods for a hike, you'll feel like squishing every bug. so take it easy, its not gonna be a miracle, like i said, give yourself a year or two man. but you gotta at least make an effort. LIVE man.
>>556572732 People like you make me mad, too. You presume the motives and actions of others based off the fallacious experiences and misgivings in your own pathetic life. Well, like I said, I don't subscribe to the cynical, hateful view of women that you endorse. I'm sorry you've had negative experiences, but I pity you for interpreting these experiences as reasons to hate women. I've had bad experiences myself, but I have LEARNED from them, learned things about myself (and not assumed beliefs of the opposite sex), not utilize them as fuel to support my hatred.
Go back to >>>/pol/ or >>>/r9k/. They'll circlejerk and perpetuate your misogyny as far as you're willing to take it. Just be sure to see a psychiatrist before you decide to shoot up a dormitory, okay?
>>556574889 I should preface that by "funny," I meant "sad and strange," not "comedic." Sorry.
I used to be against alcohol consumption. I didn't mind if other people drink, but I was never interested in it. You see, I always prized my brain above all else. I always wanted to learn, to experience and grow. Feeding my brain was more important to me than feeding body. I was one of those people who "studied for fun." You know, the bookworm autodidact who was always checking out nonfiction in the school library; the guy who was reading philosophy and psychology and history while everyone else was reading about teen vampire romances and urban legends. You get the picture. Anyway, I was against personally drinking alcohol because I knew it is tied to slower cognitive processing, which is an aspect in determining IQ and processing speed. So it was a big no-no for me.
Plus, I secretly knew I would enjoy its effects too much. I was diagnosed with chronic major depression and my parents were heavy drinkers, though not necessarily alcoholics, back in the day. Needless to say, I was prone to alcoholism as a result.
Before I met her, my life revolved around my mind: knowledge, wisdom, and learning and all that. After I met her, my life revolved around her. I neglected my hobbies, my interests... I stopped reading books and started reading her messages. I stopped learning about history and started learning hers. I stopped studying how the mind works and started studying what made her tick. She was my new interest, my muse, my life and joy. Being a cerebral, introverted hermit that I was, this sort of emotional connection and devotion was foreign, but exhilarating to me. It was like a whole new aspect of life I never knew.
>>556576403 What does this have to do with alcohol? Well, she had drank in her past, got a bit drunk at times. She wasn't against it and saw alcohol as lubrication for the tongue and a life-bringer to any social occasion. She was right in a way, and I respected that, but I was never interested in drinking personally. After some convincing, though, I'd try it out, if only for her. I made her promise me, though, to only drink with me and I'll only drink for her. You see, she wasn't the wisest or luckiest person; she frequently made mistakes and poor decisions. She was abused and very insecure, always seeking the attention of others to satiate her own self-doubts. To try and prevent any possible mistakes due to the "liberating" effects of alcohol she so enjoyed, I made her promise to only drink with me. She later broke this promise before we even drank together for the first time, but I trusted her still.
We finally met up and drank together. She was a lightweight; two shots of Bacardi rum and she was near-drunk. As for me, though, I could handle my alcohol quite well (though my bowels couldn't, thanks to IBS). We had a fun time together and though I hate the taste of alcohol—it was light drinking lighter fluid—the effects were peculiarly intriguing. Anyway, I always reveled in new experiences, good or bad.
>>556567075 >"There's a variety of reasons why a women would gain weight" She's right >eating too many burgers >eating too many fries >eating too many tacos >eating too many sandwiches >drinking too many soda >... I can't even list it all up.
>>556577264 She's been gone now for over a month and I've gotten drunk at least once in that time. I knew this would happen, that I'd begin drinking a lot if she ever left me, but I trusted that day would never come. Well, it did, and now all I want to do is drink my sorrows away. In the end, though, all it does is bring back the memories. Yet even that is better comparable to feeling a numbing nothingness inside. So now, with her gone, I drink. I don't care about nurturing my brain, about becoming learned and intelligent and wise... I gave up my reclusive ways for her, tried my best to be an extrovert like her. Now, with my life in tatters and the very person for whom I let it all fall apart long gone, I have nothing, not even myself. I have no friends, hardly any family, and no happiness to boot. I have nothing except a bottle of whiskey (or whatever I could get for the day) and memories that won't stop playing over and over again in my mind.
Long story short, I drink a lot now. And I do it, indirectly, because of her.
>>556577506 Yeah I know, sorry. I kind of lose myself in my memories some times. Rereading what I typed, I said a whole lot of nothing. I apologize for that.
you're putting too much on her. you just ended your story with, "because of her".
i had a similar phase, so i guess i can understand, drinking because bad stuff happened in the past, etc. its easy to put the blame on that. my wake up call was 2 accidents i had - that's when i realised its time to get my shit together, my drinking is not a result of anything aside from my conscious decision to wallow in my own misery and memories.
i guess whatever shit i'll type here's not gonna help much, i know back then any good advice hurled at me, i'd use it to wipe my tears of sorrow and then proceed to shit on it and savour the smell of my shit on good advice and revel in the self pity. you got lots of work ahead of you mate, but take baby steps, the imporant thing is you DO make an effort.
hardly any family -> even more reason to stay in touch, even if its unpleasant at first.
no friends -> sure you do. you just never bothered to keep in touch, just never bothered to put in any effort to keep the relationship going because your life revolved around this one connection you had that felt was all that mattered. if you do reach out to old connections, and be gracious about it, you just may be pleasantly surprised. nothing to lose, right? if you didn't care about them before and now they don't care about you, it shouldn't matter anyway.
take a first baby step and reach out to those around you. since you've started drinking, don't drink alone. good socialising crutch.
think a couple of us on this post have already given you the different viewpoints. now the question is, do you want to do that?
>>556579595 Well in this case, it is indirectly because of her, though I am aware that I'm making a decision to drink and wallow in my own misery. I probably would have started drinking when she left, even if I didn't drink before with her, anyway.
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