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What should I do if I am so fucked by porn watching that when

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What should I do if I am so fucked by porn watching that when I'm with a real woman I take a long-ass time to get hard and even then it's only 70%? Worse still was some slut was willing to give me head but I couldn't get hard. Pretty embarrasing but how do I fix this? I already stopped watching porn 2 weeks ago but even yesterday I took a while to get hard with some girl.
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>>18604288
Your problem sounds like it may be related to performance anxiety. Try connecting with these women on a personal level (I assume you aren't doing this already since you say "some slut" to refer to the women who are willing to have sex with you). Get comfortable with them. Find women who are supportive and caring. You may find that not only will the sex be more enjoyable, but you'll be less nervous too.
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>>18604288

Stop fapping and watching porn. Dedicate 20-30 minutes each day to doing mindfulness exercises, paying special attention to your dick, balls and taint, and performing hundreds of kegels (some much stronger than others... but not so strong that you piss yourself).

Also, ensure that you get an erection every day. Again, no porn or fapping, but do get an erection. If you go too long without arousal, you will experience extreme anhedonia.
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>>18604298
This, the part about emotional connection. I give you a very strong chance that removing any attempt to have casual sex will improve your life. Don't fall for the meme about love being a waste of time or whatever. You made a good move giving up the porn, don't get back on it. Honestly, don't.
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This thread is relevant to me. I survived on casual sex for years, but don't enjoy it at all, and it's been really effecting my confidence in getting back into dating.

My friends are all getting suspicious because apparently I'm supposed to be some catch, and they still credit me with being a ladies man, even though I haven't bothered trying to hook up with anyone in years.

But what if I get to know someone and I still can't perform? I'd feel so much worse for wasting their time.
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>>18604391
Won't know until you try.
Also, even if you do flub it the first time, keep at it. It gets easier.
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Stop watching porn, it desensitizes your dick to actual sexual acts and conditions you into being a spectator of sex rather than a participant

Once I stopped fapping, sex became a hell of a lot more enjoyable and I have no problem keeping it up
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This is reversable, just stop watching porn and you'll get better.
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>>18604402
I tried dating sometime last year. I had been crushing on her for a while, too.

Didn't happen. She got so anxious she nearly had a panic attack. Dumped me a few days later. To be fair, turns out we had very little sexual chemistry. This was the first girl I tried to date in maybe 4 or 5 years.

It's a cycle. I get depressed and defeatist about my dating situation, jerk off, feel worse, jerk off...

I'm stopping, but I keep asking myself why.
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