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If you knew for an absolute fact that you're never going to find a partner and be in a loving relationship, how would you cope?

I've been dealing with this with alcohol but the alcoholism is starting to ruin my life and I need something else. I have friends and family alright but it's not the same as having someone to make coffee for and come home to.

Can I convince some shrink to give me some sort of an anxiety pill cocktail that'd keep me fuzzy 24/7?
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If you figure no woman likes you, just say fuck it and do whatever you fucking want. Just don't be a spineless beta that has to beat themselves up with alcohol and drugs, do stuff you genuinely like and become excellent at it. If you really cannot deal with it for the forseeable future, get a waifu. 2D > 3D anyway.
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Haven't you realised how disingenuous nearly everyone is on this planet? Everyone is just playing some silly little psychological power struggle with one another and having one-upmanship competitions. Being with someone for the rest of your life is no different than that, even having a long term friend of the opposite gender or of the same sex with whom you can truly relate is no different. All relations are a highly strung kind of jealously and bullshittery. Why bother OP? Learn to love yourself and find passion for other things, I often say to myself that it would be nice to cook for someone and cuddle and watch movies but ultimately you just realise how much of a farce their personality is and in reality they are so distant from you within their own little world. Just learn to be alone; it's better that way.
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>>18602137
I'm gay, I don't want women to want me. And I've outgrown the phase of having crushes on fictional characters, just the same as I've forgotten how to disassociate. They've just gone away and never came back.

>>18602144
Not being touched causes me literal physical pain.
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>>18602156
>Not being touched causes me literal physical pain.
Yeah right that's probably alcohol withdrawal, why don't you put down the bottle and read some books. There's more to life than being a slave to carnal desires.
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>>18602165
I'm writing a book. Just that dying alone makes me too depressed to write.

It hurts not being loved, you know. Not just being whiny here, it really does.
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>>18602173
>not being whiny
>whines
Fuck off and come back with real problems
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>>18602156
I don't give a flying fuck if you're gay or not. Do whatever you want aside from booze and enjoy the ride.
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>>18602173
I feel the same and I've recently started attempting to write incidentally but I've felt love, people who have honestly adored me and I felt the same for them but it is overrated. Eventually you just realise is all an ego game of one-upmanship. The booze will make you depressed and you're using it as a tool to overcome and already latent depression. Take my advice and stop.
>>18602179
You are being a bit melodramatic OP and are probably drunk..
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>>18602106
get into philosophy, not even joking.
once you realize how little everything matters, it can help take the pressure off your shoulders
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>>18602179
I tried to kill myself a few days ago, drove drunk, lost my lisence and spent a night at the drunk tank. Is that real enough for you?

>>18602183
Being gay is 50% of the reason why I'll die alone. I'm such an LGBT cocktail that it literally is impossible to find someone who'd love me, that's the fucking problem.

>>18602186
I'm actually sober at night for the first time in a long while. They took my driver's lisence so I didn't have an ID to buy beer with so now it's 1 AM and I have nothing to put me to sleep.
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>>18602204
>sudoku attempt over no bf
Get some real problems and make a tumblr to whine about your imaginary problems there
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>>18602204
I hate that feeling, when you don't have enough to get fucked or you feel like you couldn't sleep but you have already made it very obviousd you need to start doing without. I'm also pretty sure that the whole LGBT thing is pretty popular right now, you shouldn't have any trouble finding someone.
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>>18602213
I'm gay, asexual and transgender living in a country with a population smaller than London, suburbs excluded.

I have literally never met nor I ever will find someone who'd even consider it.
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>>18602224
Where do you live? I live on an island of 150 people.
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>>18602224
>I'm gay, asexual and transgender
What the...
Anon, lack of love is not your main problem. This galloping mental illness is.
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Improve myself, become some kind of writer/philosopher/monk that gets wasted maybe 3 times each month. Find a nice ideal and spread it through art. Whatever except poisoning my body 24/7, I'm currently in the way of cleaning myself of that and every time you get sad faster.
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>>18602228
Finland.

>>18602232
That's nice. Your opinion is cool, edgy and very uneducated. There is no known cure for any of the aforementioned, and before you link me that study of that man with a mental disability of being "cured" of trans feelings, I'll have you known that literally no country, health care system or psychiatrist would ever have given him the gender identity disorder diagnosis in the first place.

I've had this same fucking argument so many times I could recite your lines for you, so please spare your time and the spit in your mouth. This is literally killing me and I wouldn't be here if I had a choice.

>>18602235
I'm writing a book. I've been considering if I could qualify to join a monastery - there are still some in some parts of Europe.

Odds are I'll still drink forever. It killed my father and it killed my grandfather (in that order) and it will kill me too.
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>>18602106
How do I cope?
On willpower alone.

It's shit, but then again - life's shit - so what's new.
I'm used to it.
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>>18602252
Are you having a fucking giggle, Scandinavia is overly acceptive of LGBT movements. Funny that I recently stopped contact with someone there, weird. I still stand by my points, society is an energy game and if you want to find someone you will be able to. Philosophy would help put things into perspective as some Anons mentioned but if you're already inclined that way it would be a good focus other than booze and, I'm sorry but, your self contrived melodrama..
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>>18602290
"acceptive" is not the fucking point. Like I get it I have it easy that nobody literally threatens my life every time I step outside, just like I have it easy being white and able-bodied. The matter is that a person who'd be willing to date me literally does not exist.

And what about philosophy? I've read philosophy and it doesn't help for shit.
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>>18602302
Just learn to be alone, it will come with time
No need to be a drama queen about it
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>>18602309
How long will that take?

I'm 23 and don't want to see another 20 years.
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>>18602302
Acceptive means there's lots of people like you and you will find someone you insufferably melodramatic sob story of a person fuck. And you mentioned about joining a monastery and shit; beyond it being something to focus on and work towards it is an insightful topic that puts better into perspective the nature of humankind.
>How long will it take
Stop crying about things and expecting them and it will just happen, holy shit..
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>>18602318
It depends, it can take a year or ten years. Best way to get over it is to get busy and don't indulge in emotional theatrics you are serving us now. Contrary to what rom coms teach us, not every single person will find a partner and live happily ever after, and yet peoole cope and manage to avoid becoming a tragic needy mess of emotions like yourself. Realise that while your situation is sad, you are not a special snowflake. There's an army of unlovable lonely people and they can deal with life well enough.
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>>18602323
You're only saying that because you've never personally tried it.

>>18602328
I'm not pretending I'm the only one, never claimed that.

Just because my situation isn't unique doesn't mean it's impossible for me to be distressed by it.
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>>18602345
I've never tried what? The girl I was speaking to from Finland would go online and pretend to be a guy because she wasn't very attractive. She was like a 20 yr old virgin and was worried she would never get laid or find anyone. I found her attractive because I like tomboys so I think I'm trying to make a point here about having to find the right people. Despite what you may think you are actually in a decent place to do that.
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>>18602363
You didn't take into consideration the whole trans and asexual thing.

You can find gay guys. You can find asexual guys. You can find someone willing to date a tranny.

Not all three at once.
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.... If I found Someone who could love a piece of shit like me, you can too op.

Keep holding out.
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>>18602387
Just clarify exactly your situation because you said you were a gay, asexual, transgender so does like that mean you have a vagina but identify as a guy and therefore say you're gay because you want to date 'other guys' or are you a male posing as a female?
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>>18602106

improving my self.
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>>18602391
Female-to-male, attracted to men.
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>>18602404
If you still have a vagina I could get on board with that.
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>>18602422
You forgot the asexual part. Sex is nothing but suffering for me.
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>>18602451
>Not being touched causes me literal physical pain.
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Asexual gay dude here who's dated ftms before. Your actual problem is the self loathing, alcoholism, and Tumblr mentality. These are the reasons your going to be alone, but you can fix them
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>>18602453
There are literally so many parts of me that are not genitals.

>>18602456
The self-loathing and alcoholism are kind of a package deal. I'll be getting a new shrink soon.

What do you mean by tumblr mentality?

Also, where did you find your partners?
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>>18602465
I'm being fucking trolled aren't I. What do you mean..
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>>18602106
I don't know what to tell you buddy. I've never given up even against impossible odds. I never really saw the point in convincing myself I couldn't have what I wanted especially when that's never true for anyone.
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>>18602478
I like closure, affection, hugs, cuddles and generally being touched. Not being touched is distressing. But I can't stand being fucked. What part of that is confusing?
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>>18602502
Well that clears things up but how can you be serious, what part of this isn't confusing...
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>>18602507
Remember what it was like when you were a kid and your genitals never did things when you were thinking about people?

It's like that for me all the time.
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>>18602514
I've been dry humping things since I was 4 so no.
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>>18602524
In that case I can't help you.

I can't fathom what it's like to want people to touch your genitals or want to touch other peoples' genitals and you can't fathom what it's like not to, so I guess we're stuck.
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>>18602532
Yeah a real impasse but of course I can imagine what it would be like to have no desire for that sort of thing; it doesn't take a mind blowing epiphany. It doesn't real make much sense though, have you had some disturbing sexual experience that has 'turned you off' so to speak?
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>>18602537
Apparently I accidentally saw porn on TV when I was 4 years old, though I don't remember anything of it. I only know this because my sister told my mom and my mom told me about it 10 years later.

If it's not that, then no idea.
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>>18602543
Your idea of love comes from a childhood glimpse of pornography, well there is no true love just a highly tuned jealously.
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>>18602546
Sit down, Freud.
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>>18602551
>Freud
Try Richey Edwards kek.
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>>18602556
Either way it's 3:30 AM and my bedtime was hours ago.
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how many times did you try being fucked, to use your words?
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>>18602106
>Be me, mid 30s.
>Live in an Asian country where fortune-telling is rife.
>Get told by a number of wizened old dudes using different techniques that marriage and stuff is pretty much off the cards for muh reasons.
>Not too bothered, in fact, downright relieved, if anything.
There was one gentleman who told me to not do anything in that department until mid-40s, then it just *might* be possible, but that it would be a comfy but unexciting marriage, and probably with no kids.
>Oh well...
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>>18602173
A famous writer once told me that he wrote for posterity. Remember that, anon.
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I've known this for most of my life so far, I got lucky and preferred being alone from a young age.

Videogames and weed do a good job, the odd drink sometimes. Saving for a motorcycle so that will be fun.

Also I have dated and have experience, women did a good job making me not want to be with them romantically anymore.
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