Been together for about 8 months with this incredible girl.
She's lived a very adventureous lifestyle for the past 10 years or so, living and working all over the world.
I might not live in my hometown anymore either but it's not compareable at all.
Anyways, when I met her, "I'm home now too stay" was the idea atleast, but she's had some problems finding a job here: her skills just aren't usefull here.
So she contacted one of her ex-employers in Spain
>"just to see if I could maybe get some freelance work (most of her work can be done from home)
Well, she was instantly offered her old position back over there.
At first she was gonna decline, "I wanted to settle down at home now" but now after 2 weeks of thinking about it this has turned into a discussion of: "what if I accept the offer? You can come with and we can live there for a year or something just to try it out?"
Well, I am open towards doing it, but on the other hand, we're only 8 months deep and our relationship hasn't been truly tested yet, and this feels like a pretty hard test to begin with.
I really don't want to loose her but I worry that this is a bad idea.
What do?
>>18526557
Dump her ass. Or let her go, keep the relationship. Don't go exclusive (she sure won't) and when she returns, maybe it will work.
Are you fucking crazy? Never move for a girl. Think about it. If you had a job offer elsewhere you know what she'd do.
Don't be a pussy.
Give it a shot, if you're renting, and you can on sell your lease, then you lose nothing.
If you own a house, you can rent it out to pay for part of the mortgage and reduce your financial costs.
Only issue is if you have a decent career, this will be a black mark on your resume if you leave a decent position for a year abroad.
If you work a dead end job, why the fuck not?
>>18526739
I own an apt, won't be a problem to lease it out.
I have a job that I am in the planning stage of changing anyways, so if I do something like this the timing isn't fucked wrong.
>>18526797
So, perfect timing.
Just keep a kitty, enough to fly back home and live for a few weeks.
That's your fuck off fund.
Worst case scenario it doesn't work out and you're no worse off than when you started, with the experience of living abroad.
So what will you be doing in Spain? Do you have a life planned there, or are you just jumping along with her. That seems very little thought through. Do you speak Spanish? Are there easy to get jobs there for you? Is it worth it to turn your life around just to not "loose" her?
>>18526948
I have no idea, I work within a field that has an international standard so my education and experience should be considered equal to their own.
However I don't speak Spanish so that might get in the way of getting a job down there, but I can try.
Depending on how big of a living cost we'd have but if similiar to current (wich I find unlikely, probobly cheaper I have an expensive fucking apartment) I could probobly surivive for 3-4 months on savings alone add to that the money I'd make for renting the apt out.. I could probobly drag it out for pretty a long time.
But Idk we're still only in a discussion state of this, no guarantees.
But yes, I don't want to loose her.
Anything else?
stop posting this shit and go with her for the ride and experience.